Dating "Shape Shifters" - MTP477

Co-Host Cyndi Olin (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/cyndiolin) My long-time friend and erstwhile co-host for Dogs And Cats On Clubhouse is back, this time talking about a topic in one of her newsletters that caught my attention. She started talking about "shape shifters" in the dating world. Now, I realized up front she wasn't talking about "deer ladies" or something out there. This had to be figurative. So I had to have her on the show to unpack all of this. Well, for starters, things begin to go awry when we try to be someone we're not specifically to try to impress someone in particular. Then, we get generic dating or relationship advice that's allegedly "one size fits all" and we try to shoehorn it into what may be a rather unique situation...yet we're surprised when we get nowhere with it. So what's the deal here? Is it that we all have pretty much gotten really good at being politicians? And what's more, how are we supposed to make a woman feel safe and secure (and therefore attracted) if she can't even decipher who we really are? And the real fun starts when we talk about "shape shifting shadow dancing". What mental tricks do we play on ourselves when we believe all women must have impeccable social skills? And why is shape shifting actually harder and more complicated than going about dating and relating the right way? In the end, shape shifting is just another fear-based habit based on a fear-based mindset. So how do you escape it and approach radial authenticity instead? Get in on the free newsletter, check out my Substack and more at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Remember last week I offered you every advantage over me when it comes to attracting women...except ONE. ICYMI, that led to the conclusion that the third pillar of the Big Four traits that universally attract women needed some adjustment. Well, after giving it some serious thought, the truth is times have changed and the NEW third pillar reflects the evolution of society over the past couple of decades since I first formulated the Big Four. On the surface, it's SO obvious you might be left shaking your head at first. But the hard truth is if you actually exhibit it nowadays, you have a MASSIVE advantage over most guys. https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

Co-Host Melissa Schipke (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/pitchafriend) By now, you know I'm on record with my firm belief that dating sites and apps are dead. About a month and a half ago I ran a Masterclass For Men detailing 40 different ways to use your smartphone and computer to meet women in IRL...NONE of which are dating sites and apps. Well, wouldn't you know it? There's a 41st. My new friend and first time guest Melissa Schipke stumbled upon a strange but fun idea for getting single people together while hanging out at an open mic night with BAD comedians! She told the owner of the venue it would be more entertaining if she and her friend just got up there and pitched their single friends to these guys. A few years later, Pitch-A-Friend is in dozens of cities spanning 22 countries...and growing. So what's the deal? Let's just say it's basically online dating in REVERSE. Instead of putting up a profile and hoping someone likes it, all the single people are ALREADY THERE in the room, and THEN your friend basically "wings" for you with a PowerPoint presentation. Now, I actually did my homework here and went to the most recent event here in San Antonio. At first I planned to be a "fly on the wall", but my waitress turned out to be pretty cute and VERY single...so I pitched her! Tune in for more on how THAT went, as well as all the details about Pitch-A-Friend...including why it's EXACTLY in line with what the "new normal" for meeting women is gonna look like. Obviously, GenZ is eating this stuff up. But wait a minute...what about Pitch-A-Friend in The Villages or Sun City, AZ. Ha! And by the way, there was room for a relevant Dead Milkmen reference in there, too. Nice. Gentlemen, download your free book Sticking Points Solved and much more (including that infamous Masterclass from last month) at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Let's have some fun today. Years ago, famous copywriter Gary Halbert challenged an entire audience, saying, "You and I are starting hamburger stands. I'll grant you every advantage over me except one, and I'll have a more successful business than yours." Well, since attracting women isn't too far off from marketing in a sense, I'll challenge you the same way. Grant me just ONE advantage over you, and you can have all the rest. Most of the time, I'll still get the girl. The good news, however, is when YOU co-opt that advantage for yourself, it lets YOU get the girl over EVERY other guy out there. https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on 

Co-Host Frank Kermit (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/franktalks) He's Frank because he has to be. After years and years, I finally have my long-time friend Frank Kermit back on the show. He has always been about straight talk when it comes to women, men, sex, dating and relationships...which is probably why he and I made friends immediately and that friendship has endured. In this long-overdue episode, we talk about the strange rise in bitter, hurt, resentful people--both men and women--and how so many of us got this way. Resentment is the quiet poison that eats men alive. It wrecks your masculine presence, makes you unattractive to women, and slowly destroys your edge in life. Naturally, we kick off the conversation with a searing discourse on self-imposed limiting beliefs, and how the media actually reinforces them. And then, what's with all those long checklists women schlep with them on dates? And on the other hand, why is it that the less success with women a guy has had, the "pickier" he might become? And what's up really going on when we play "Whack-A-Mole" with one excuse after another for not succeeding with women, to the point where we just get angry rather than actually doing something about it? Why is it so true that 'hurt people hurt people'? And what if 'Mr. Nice Guy' really has something pent up under the surface? As it turns out, getting over any resentment that's built up within us--especially toward our family and women--has to come from a place of genuine desire, not to mention raw, masculine courage. Does that mean actually confronting those who have hurt you? That's for you to decide. If you've been into men's dating and relationship stuff for years, you might wonder why you haven't heard from Frank in a few years. Well, as it turns on he was on one hell of a personal journey...losing 260 pounds (!) You'll get the lowdown on that as well. Have you checked out the new Substack channel yet? https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Okay, so first off I'm not about to go off on a rant about how women can't be trusted. Far from it. Instead, this is about human nature in general. There are lots of areas of life where we'll keep allowing ourselves to get lied to rather than facing cognitive dissonance for what it is. Obviously, this can mess things up for us in this life. Nowhere is this phenomenon more dangerous than when it comes to our relationships with women. How does "hot girl privilege" leave us "clouded by beauty vision"? Even if we gain the wisdom and maturity to stop making lame excuses for being lied to, how do we 'trust and verify' with due diligence without descending into total cynicism? https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on.

Co-Host Cassie Leigh (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/cassie) You asked for this, gentlemen. And fair warning...you're getting what you asked for. In this episode, I welcome Cassie Leigh who's a journalist, author and Instagram chick. And yes, you're about to get a real woman's opinion on what it's like to be single and dating out there nowadays. Just make sure you fasten your seat belts, because it's a wild ride. Some of you are going to love what she has to say, while others of you will probably get super angry over it. Most of us will feel a little bit of both at some point or another in the conversation, and rightly so no matter what. Well, for starters, Cassie tells a dating nightmare story where a guy knew one of her exes and said exactly what it took to blow his chances. What does Cassie have to say about today's disturbing trend toward transactional relationships? Next, we find out (surprise, surprise) that Cassie's a true 'Daddy's girl', which contributed to many of her old-school values about men and masculinity, and women and femininity. Speaking of which, despite so many men complaining that women want to be lazy and not contribute anything to the relationship, Cassie reports men openly announcing they're 'sassy' and want women to do everything for them and pay their own way. What's up with all of that? Next, we move on to discussing how Cassie has to 'man up' because most guys simply don't know how to. And THAT is when the bomb gets dropped...(drum roll)...Cassie has a boyfriend. And no, she's not happy. Why is she still in that relationship? Well...that's where you're just going to have to listen in to get all the gory details of that one. Gentlemen...the bottom line here is you can get an amazing woman who really wants a great relationship if you're willing just to bring SOMETHING to the table. Yes...contrary to what we think women are 'demanding' of us out there, it really has become that simple and easy. Get in on all the free goodies and more at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Most men want to find a great girlfriend and live the dream with her. But somehow, in this world of constant media and an overwhelming onslaught of marketing messages, we often let 'shiny objects' distract us. The end result is we end up chasing after dating and relationship goals we actually don't even care about, let alone actually want. In this brief episode, discover the #1 rule to staying focused on the real-world results you actually want in your personal life...and in the process dramatically improve your chances of being the man who naturally attracts both the lifestyle AND the women you really want. https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

Co-Host Dr. Craig B. Wiener (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/wiener) My first time guest, Dr. Craig B. Wiener is a licensed psychologist and best selling author on a variety of topics. Central to today's episode, much of Dr. Wiener's important work has snowballed since he first questioned the growing tendency to make behavioral problems medical disabilities...especially for boys. His groundbreaking work with ADHD shows that the behaviors included in the ADHD diagnosis can become frequent due to reinforcement. This "medicalization of the social" is a topic of interest for all of us as men, for sure...and for a variety of reasons, actually. What would Craig tell men who have been told there's something wrong with them by the medical field, when it might actually be a social thing? Could we simply need some self-work on our social skills. Or worse, could we have been told something is wrong with us when we're really just fine?  What about when parents project medical diagnoses upon their kids? (e.g. Health Anxiety By Proxy or Munchausen Syndrome) How would Craig explain the rise in later-life diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder? And what about when people manipulate the medicalization of the social for their own apparent benefit, like "I’m on the spectrum, not a narcissist"? What happens when little boys act like, well...little boys, but are rushed to the principal's office or even to therapy for it? On the other hand, there's also a pattern where people seek help, then resist it and offload the blame onto others. Why would anyone want to stay locked into their pattern of failure? Check out the new Substack channel at https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Many men are doing great in their careers, either ascending the corporate ladder or building a great business. But meanwhile, their success with women isn't quite where they know it deserves to be. Did you know there's an alarming similarity between what causes you to be successful at work AND with women? That's a huge reason why I coach men on BOTH areas of their lives. So this all adds up to the simple fact that if you're doing well at one, you should be crushing it in the other as well. If you're not, there's usually a simple mindset fix to get you on track. Discover what that looks like in this brief episode. https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!