What If Positive Thinking Doesn't Work?

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Do you struggle with people getting under your skin? Are you easily triggered by certain comments or topics? Hoping to create positive change? In this episode sponsored by Better Help, Dr. John explores how to stop letting people get under your skin. You’ll hear about the story of Austin, a young man who lost his temper on a train. Discover approaches to counseling including EMDR and Internal Family Systems (parts therapy) as part of healing past wounds. Do you have an internal protector, deep inside, trying to keep you from the source of your hurts? If trauma and pain are part of your past, you’ll want to listen to this episode. Important Links Use this link to get a special offer for listeners of the podcast with Better Help. Visit Good Therapy to learn about EMDR Link to episode 38 on how Karma wants your dreams to come true. Learn about Internal Family Systems (parts therapy). Helpful articles from one of the best anxiety therapist websites. Follow Dr. John on Social Media Guy Counseling on Instagram Guy Counseling on Facebook John's website and newsletter sign up

Are you trying to change an unhealthy behavior? Do you drink too much, eat too much or smoke too much? Is there a part of you who has come to realize your relationship with gambling, porn or shopping is toxic? In this episode of the Men’s Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John explores the process of change and how using the REST technique may be helpful. REST is the acronym for RELAX, EXAMINE, SET YOUR INTENTION, and TAKE ACTION and it comes from the world of DBT or Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Learn how using REST may offer a powerful brain hack by allowing you to ease into creating change in your brain’s pleasure center. Important Links Better Help – Show Sponsor To learn about the special offer for listeners of the Men’s Self-Help Podcast, use this link Learn about DBT and a technique to help control anger. Listen to episode 33 to learn more about DBT. Help Guide on Addiction: A Harvard Health Article with a discussion about the brain’s pleasure center and information about the nucleus accumbens as mentioned in the podcast. Click here to read the article Learn about positive psychology and how it can be used as part of counseling and coaching to help a person create change. Visit the Positive Psychology podcast. DBT Skills Workbook This workbook was mentioned in the pod. Visiting this link will brink you to Amazon. If you buy this book with this link, the podcast receives an affiliate commission. Click to go to Amazon. Follow Us on Social Media Click here to follow on Facebook Click here to follow on Instagram Click here to follow on Twitter  

Trying to discover your life purpose? Does it feel like your life lacks meaning? In this episode, Dr. John goes over five specific strategies to help you find yourself and your life purpose. Using a combination of story telling with insights from Carl Jung, you can find out new things about yourself and train your brain to stimulate your Reticular Activating System, the part of the brain that is concerned with awareness.  As part of the show, you'll also learn about a men's resource for generating inner-happiness and awareness around your purpose.  Finally, learn about the special guide Dr. John has put together as part of your self-care routine - for guys.   Important Links Click here for a special skin care guide for men, created by Dr. John Top 7 reasons men seek out therapy - Episode 37 Free personality assessment from 16 personalities. The Reticular Activating System from University of Minnesota The Daily Gratitude Journal for Men (Click here for Amazon) Other Links Guy Counseling on Instagram Guy Counseling on Facebook Dr. John's website and newsletter sign up

Do you feel your mind is wired for anxiety? Do you constantly worry about failing? Are you looking for concrete ways to create positive change? In this episode, Dr. John explores the relationship between your thoughts, your brain and anxiety. Discover why fight, flight or freeze can be so powerful. Learn several easy-to-use coping techniques for creating calm as part of reprograming your anxious mind. Resources Mentioned in Podcast Health Line Article on how some form of anxiety can be traced to a chemical imbalance.  Link To Episode 31: Comat Negative Self-Talk Link To Episode 35: How To Quickly Get Out of a Funk Link to Medical News Daily: Four Squared Breathing Book Suggestion Re-Wire Your Anxious Brain: How to Use the Neuroscience of Fear to End Anxiety, Panic and Worry. Visit Amazon Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Sponsor: - Better Help: www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1

What is karma was working behind the scenes to make you happy? In this episode, Dr. John looks at the concept of pronoia, which is the opposite of paranoia and asks you to imagine what your life would be like if the universe was conspiring to make your dreams come true.  Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Sponsor: - Better Help: www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1

Have you ever wondered why some men seek out therapy? Are you in counseling now and curious to know if other guys are struggling with the same issues are? In this episode, Dr. John reveals the top 7 reasons men go into counseling. As part of the show, he also answers a listener email from a man who has become dependent on using alcohol to become socially lubricated before going out on a date. Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Sponsor: - Better Help: www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1

Do you ever wonder what women say about men in therapy? What are some of the common themes that come up when it comes to men? Can knowing about some of these topics help you in your relationships? In this episode, Dr. John walks you through seven common themes that women touch on about men in the counseling office. Some of these may seem like common sense. Others may cause you to pause and reflect. You can use these topics to better help you understand the women in your life. This week’s listener email comes to us from a man who is struggling with dating app fatigue and is tired of being rejected whenever he puts himself out there. Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Men's Skin Care Guide: Men’s Skincare Guide Made Simple Best Smelling Colognes for Men Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1

At some point, all of us fall into a funk. In this episode, I'm going to give you 7 of my tips for pulling yourself out of a funk BEFORE it turns into a rut! Learn how to help boost your mood quickly and create positive change. Episode infused with some of the teaching of Dr. William Glasser, the Father of Reality Therapy and Choice Theory. Show Notes on the www.guycounseling.com blog.  William Glasser Choice Theory  https://wglasser.com/what-is-choice-theory/ Loving Kindness Meditation Study https://guycounseling.com/positive-thoughts-happiness-study/ Follow us on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1/ Follow us on Facebook at: https://www.facebook.com/guycounseling/     

Everyone knows positive thinking can be helpful, but what happens when it doesn't work? Can you make yourself feel worse by forcing happy talk? In this episode, Dr. John explores the downside to positive thinking and how trying to deny your feelings can be harmful. Learn about an alternative called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Also, you’ll hear from a listener who describes himself as overweight and can’t experience intimacy unless he’s wearing a shirt. Important Links: Show Notes – Guy Counseling Blog: www.guycounseling.com Sponsor: - Better Help: www.betterhelp.com/guycounseling Follow Us On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/guycounseling1