227. You can't say the wrong thing to the right person, here's why

In this week’s Date Brazen Podcast episode, Flirting 101: My 3-Step Process to Flirt, Know If Someone’s Into You, and Ask Them Out with Ease, I’m breaking down my 3 step process to exactly how to flirt, know if someone’s into you, and ask them out with ease.   Here’s the deal: 💡 Flirting is a learnable skill. 💡 Awkwardness? It’s just a sign you’re human (not a dealbreaker). 💡 With 10 seconds of courage, you can change the course of your dating life.   In this episode, we'll dive into: ✔ What IS flirting? Like, what actually is it and how can you do it YOUR way. ✔ How to become rejection-proof. ✔ A simple 3-step approach to make flirting feel natural. ✔ SOFT practice for tough times   If you’re ready to stop overthinking and start shooting your shot, this episode will be your new dating secret weapon. Let's do this!   This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨   Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE.   Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. 

Today on The Date Brazen Podcast, I'm talking to Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu-- dating and relationship experts and co-hosts of Dateable, one of the top podcasts on modern relationships, featured by The New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily.   Tune into this episode to hear- Understanding your dating archetype can help you navigate relationships better. How to use their quiz in the Dateable book helps identify strengths and weaknesses in dating. How to use the "Sunday test" helps assess compatibility with a partner. What to expect with sexual chemistry in early dating-- can it develop over time, or do you need to expect "The Spark". And more!   Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu are active daters turned dating insiders, and top influential voices of modern dating, relationships, and connection in the digital world. They’re the authors of How To Be Dateable and the co-hosts of the podcast Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more. They’re also the hosts and executive producers of the dating experiment show Exit Interview. Julie brings her background in human-centered design and qualitative research, while Yue shares her experience as a dating coach. Together you can find them at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/ and @dateablepodcast. Their book How to be datable comes out January 28th, 2025- TODAY! Get Julie and Yue's book at howtobedateable.com And learn about their work at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/   This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨   Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE.   Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. 

In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily unpacks her favorite piece of dating advice: You can't say the wrong thing to the right person. This 15 minute episode will free you from so much anxiety and worry in your dating life, so you have more time and energy to shoot your shot with confidence. Takeaways Dating is a microcosm of your hopes and fears. Self-care in dating enhances your quality of life. You cannot say the wrong thing to the right person. The right person will ask for clarification. Focus on a minimum viable audience in dating. You are for the few, not the many. Embrace the messiness of human connection. Your desires matter and are achievable.   This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨   Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE.   Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.   

Enjoy this ep spotlight!  This episode is brought to you by my free, live SHOOT YOUR SHOT CHALLENGE: From "late bloomer" to confident dater in 5 days ✨ Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE.   Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. 

In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily engages with Susan Hyatt, a master certified life coach, bestselling author, and TEDx speaker. They discuss Susan's mission to empower women through her Bear process, which emphasizes self-care, body wisdom, and breaking free from diet culture. The conversation explores the importance of creating a thriving environment, embracing pleasure, setting boundaries, and taking bold actions in midlife. As they approach the New Year, Susan shares insights on goal-setting and the significance of living a pleasure-centered life, encouraging listeners to overcome obstacles and embrace their potential.   You'll learn: Susan Hyatt is a master certified life coach and bestselling author. The Bear process focuses on self-care and body wisdom. Environmental detox is crucial for creating a thriving space. Mindset work helps break free from diet culture. Pleasure is essential for healing and well-being. Setting boundaries is key to listening to your body. Embracing bold actions can lead to personal growth in midlife. New Year energy can be harnessed for goal-setting. Creating a pleasure-centered life enhances overall happiness. Obstacles are not greater than one's potential.   This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training:  3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨   Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE.   Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. 

We're taking a break for the holidays (coming back Jan 7th, 2025) so enjoy this ep spotlight!  This episode is brought to you by my free, on-demand training:  3 Steps to Attract the Right Partner as a “Late Bloomer" - RSVP HERE ✨ Are you feeling like a “late bloomer” in your dating life? In this Episode Spotlight of the Date Brazen Podcast, Lily busts nine myths commonly believed by “late bloomers” and shares practical steps to overcome them. With a focus on self-compassion, Main Character Energy, and the idea that dating is a learnable skill, Lily’s insights will shift your perspective and boost your confidence for joyful AF dating experiences.  Feelings of shame and isolation often accompany those who feel behind in their love lives. This episode aims to help you shed the "late bloomer" identity, provide you with a sense of relief, and galvanize you to take action toward your deepest desires.  You’ll learn how to: Embrace self-compassion and connection Distinguish between thoughts vs. facts Break free from societal (and patriarchal) dating norms and define your dating journey Heal and neutralize "late bloomer" conditioning Let go of those who aren't right for you with grace (bless and release!) Embrace your current stage in life and recognize that you’re whole as you are Redefine what “blooming” means to you Links: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE.   Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. 

In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily outlines a comprehensive seven-step dating plan for 2025, aimed at helping listeners create a joyful and fulfilling dating life. The plan emphasizes the importance of claiming desires, understanding essence-based preferences, and utilizing qualifying questions to find the right partner. Lily also discusses the significance of in-person dating, building a unique dating profile, and fostering community support to enhance the dating experience. The episode encourages listeners to take control of their dating lives and believe in the possibility of finding the right relationship. You’ll learn: Create a 2025 dating plan to make the right relationship inevitable. Claim what you want unapologetically in your dating life. Essence-based preferences help you define how you want to feel in a relationship. Qualifying and disqualifying questions are essential for vetting potential partners. In-person dating is still alive and can reduce reliance on dating apps. Build a dating profile that reflects your true self and essence-based preferences. The Thank You More Please challenge helps you recognize evidence of what you want in your love life. Community and support are crucial for a joyful dating experience. You are worthy of care and support in your dating journey. What you desire in love is possible, no matter your past experiences. This episode is brought to you by my free training: The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season. If you feel behind in your dating life in ANY way, my live, free training - The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season - will help you build a boundary plan for nosy relative's questions AND create a 2025 dating plan so you can BLOOM in your love life and attract the right partner with ease next year.   Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE. Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok. Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.

In this episode, Lily addresses the feelings of loneliness that can arise during the holiday season, especially for singles. She provides a three-step framework to help listeners navigate their emotions, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and acknowledging feelings, finding comfort and belonging, and choosing accessible positive thoughts. The conversation encourages self-compassion and resilience, offering practical advice for managing loneliness and fostering emotional well-being. You’ll learn: Recognize that loneliness is a hard moment and allow yourself to feel it. Emotional granularity helps in understanding and processing feelings. Self-soothing is essential for immediate comfort during loneliness. Reaching out to friends for support is crucial, even if they can't always respond. Creating a joy-building plan can help combat feelings of loneliness. Choosing accessible positive thoughts can shift your mindset. It's normal to feel lonely, especially during the holidays. Building resilience helps in managing future feelings of loneliness. You are worthy of love and support, regardless of your current situation. Your desire for connection is valid and can guide you towards it.   This episode is brought to you by my free training: The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season. If you feel behind in your dating life in ANY way, my live, free training - The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season - will help you build a boundary plan for nosy relative's questions AND create a 2025 dating plan so you can BLOOM in your love life and attract the right partner with ease next year. Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE.   Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE. 

Stressed about your dating life (and nosy questions) during the holidays? This episode is for you.  Yes, it’s that time of year—when relatives turn the holiday dinner table into a Q&A about your dating life. Lily is sharing how to respond to every nosy question from relatives - that you don’t want to answer!  This is your guide to handling intrusive questions with confidence while staying grounded and true to yourself. Tune in for the best strategies for setting boundaries, saying “pass the peas” to nosy questions, and finding joy in the season without letting holiday stress or stress about your dating life get in the way. You’ll learn: How to spot the self-judgment trap  Why self-compassion is the antidote to self-judgement Boundaries that slay: “You don’t owe them your story” becomes your mantra for keeping nosy questions in check Active self-care strategies that keep you thriving  How to build a joy plan that sticks  Links: ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Dr. Kristin Neff - SelfCompassion.orgSelf-care Activities for Women, Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite  

Ready to stop emotional outsourcing and start owning your worth in dating and beyond? If you’ve ever struggled with perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the exhausting cycle of codependency, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Lily invites her brilliant friend and colleague, Victoria Albina, to explore what it takes to recognize the patterns that no longer serve you and break free from them—so you can finally show up as the main character in your life. Through an intersectional feminist lens, Victoria redefines the trope of codependency as “emotional outsourcing,” helping us see how it impacts not just our relationships but how we exist in the world. Together, they explore how our nervous system shapes our sense of safety and belonging, offering practical tools for reconnecting with self-love and grounding in our voice and intentions. We get into: How emotional outsourcing holds you back from being your authentic self The three essential emotional needs: safety, belonging, and worth An in-depth look at the nervous system and its role in fight, flight, fawn, and freeze responses Grounding techniques to help you reconnect with self-love and intention How to expand your capacity for feeling good, seen, and safe Links:  ✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season Victoria’s website Victoria on Instagram  Feminist Wellness Free meditations from Victoria for Date Brazen Listeners: VictoriaAlbina.com/lily Show notes: http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-from-codependency-with-victoria-albina