CNLP 791 | Why Church Dating Advice No Longer Works: JJ and Kait Tomlin on the Realities Single Christians Face

Jennie Allen reflects on a year like no other she's had: an ephocal global event followed by a terribly difficult sabbatical, health scares, and discouragement. Jennie talks about wanting to quit, suffering and spiritual warfare, lies leaders believe, and not giving up. 🔗   Show Notes 📩 On The Rise Newsletter 🗣️ Preaching Cheat Sheet 🧠 The Art of Leadership Academy 🎥 Watch on YouTube Follow @careynieuwhof Follow @theartofleadershipnetwork ❗️Connect with other podcast listeners about each episode of my podcast, including me. You'll get exclusive insights by asking questions, sharing insights, and learning how others are applying the content in real life.  Join for free: https://careynieuwhof.com/shownotes FUND THE FUTURE MASTERCLASS If you're tired of feeling awkward about funding your mission and are ready to lead boldly into the future, check out my course, Fund the Future Masterclass. Learn more at careynieuwhof.com/fundthefuture SWITCHER STUDIO Want to take your church's live stream to the next level, especially as you head into Easter? Switcher lets you grab your iPhones, iPads, and cameras, sync them together, and switch between angles live without complicated gear.  Add scripture, lyrics, and graphics on screen to keep your congregation engaged and stream to your website and all the major social media platforms at once. Get an additional $5 off at checkout when you use the code "carey5".  Visit switcherstudio.com/carey to learn more. COMPASSION In partnership with global churches, Compassion International has been serving children for more than 70 years. Download free resources and learn more about how compassion changes everything at compassion.com/carey.   Brought to you by The Art of Leadership Network  

JJ and Kait Tomlin join the podcast to give candid advice to church leaders who, um, haven't dated in a while. It's different out there than it used to be. They cover outdated dating advice, what pastors should say, and the real challenges of being a Christian and single today. 🔗   Show Notes 📩 On The Rise Newsletter 🗣️ Preaching Cheat Sheet 🧠 The Art of Leadership Academy 🎥 Watch on YouTube Follow @careynieuwhof Follow @theartofleadershipnetwork ❗️Connect with other podcast listeners about each episode of my podcast, including me. You'll get exclusive insights by asking questions, sharing insights, and learning how others are applying the content in real life.  Join for free: https://careynieuwhof.com/shownotes FUND THE FUTURE MASTERCLASS If you're tired of feeling awkward about funding your mission and are ready to lead boldly into the future, check out my course, Fund the Future Masterclass. Learn more at careynieuwhof.com/fundthefuture CHURCH SALARY ChurchSalary 3.0 helps pastors and leaders answer things like: Am I being paid fairly? Are we paying our team fairly? How should cost of living, education, and experience affect compensation? It uses real, ministry-specific data to give you clarity and confidence. Visit ChurchSalary.com/carey and start for free today.   Brought to you by The Art of Leadership Network  

Recent data shows that while young men are coming to church in record numbers, women are leaving. Why? Kadi Cole shares the #1 reason women are leaving church (lack of trust) and outlines numerous other red flags that are alienating women. Plus, she discusses how to address them and how to create an engaging environment for women, whether you lead a complementarian or egalitarian church. 🔗   Show Notes 📩 On The Rise Newsletter 🗣️ Preaching Cheat Sheet 🧠 The Art of Leadership Academy 🎥 Watch on YouTube Follow @careynieuwhof Follow @theartofleadershipnetwork ❗️Connect with other podcast listeners about each episode of my podcast, including me. You'll get exclusive insights by asking questions, sharing insights, and learning how others are applying the content in real life.  Join for free: https://careynieuwhof.com/shownotes ART OF LEADERSHIP LIVE If you're leading a church and you know there's more in you—and more ahead for your team—I want to personally invite you to something special. September 21–23, 2026, I'm hosting The Art of Leadership LIVE in Nashville, Tennessee. Visit theartofleadershiplive.com to secure the best pricing. COMPASSION In partnership with global churches, Compassion International has been serving children for more than 70 years. Download free resources and learn more about how compassion changes everything at compassion.com/carey. GLOO With solutions like Gloo Workspace, where ministry leaders get work done, and partners like Igniter Media, Barna, VisitorReach, and Outreach, Gloo is providing the digital backbone for the faith ecosystem, equipping your church, ministry, and individuals to thrive in a digital age. Learn more about how Gloo can help you do more of what you're called to do by texting CAREY to 46816. That's C-A-R-E-Y to 46816   Brought to you by The Art of Leadership Network  

Beth Moore talks about leaving the SBC a decade ago, how to know when it's time to leave, why so many women are leaving the church, and proof-texting scripture to keep the pulpit and power. 🔗   Show Notes 📩 On The Rise Newsletter 🗣️ Preaching Cheat Sheet 🧠 The Art of Leadership Academy 🎥 Watch on YouTube Follow @careynieuwhof Follow @theartofleadershipnetwork ❗️Connect with other podcast listeners about each episode of my podcast, including me. You'll get exclusive insights by asking questions, sharing insights, and learning how others are applying the content in real life.  Join for free: https://careynieuwhof.com/shownotes ART OF LEADERSHIP LIVE If you're leading a church and you know there's more in you—and more ahead for your team—I want to personally invite you to something special. September 21–23, 2026, I'm hosting The Art of Leadership LIVE in Nashville, Tennessee. Visit theartofleadershiplive.com to secure the best pricing. GLOO FEED We all know how fast things move in ministry—and how hard it can be to keep up. That's exactly what the Gloo Feed is built for. This is a totally free, regular text that delivers the latest research, trending topics, and updates from across the Church. Text CAREY to 46816 to join for free. BELAY BELAY is giving away its resource, The Future of Financial Leadership, for free. It discusses how to manage your church's finances with efficiency and care, how their Financial Experts provide a human touch, and why it matters. https://resources.belaysolutions.com/carey   Brought to you by The Art of Leadership Network  

In this episode, Carey asks the question of whether we're selling church growth and marketing revival on social media. As leaders, our motives are always mixed, and Carey offers a framework for checking our motives before posting on social media. Momentum doesn't need marketing. Don't sell it. Steward it. 🔗   Show Notes 📩 On The Rise Newsletter 🗣️ Preaching Cheat Sheet 🧠 The Art of Leadership Academy 🎥 Watch on YouTube Follow @careynieuwhof Follow @theartofleadershipnetwork ❗️Connect with other podcast listeners about each episode of my podcast, including me. You'll get exclusive insights by asking questions, sharing insights, and learning how others are applying the content in real life.  Join for free: https://careynieuwhof.com/shownotes ART OF LEADERSHIP LIVE If you're leading a church and you know there's more in you—and more ahead for your team—I want to personally invite you to something special. September 21–23, 2026, I'm hosting The Art of Leadership LIVE in Nashville, Tennessee. Visit theartofleadershiplive.com to secure the best pricing. STATE OF THE CHURCH Stay up to date on what's happening in the church. Find current research, data, and other resources at stateofthechurch.com/carey       Brought to you by The Art of Leadership Network  

The cultural moment we're in isn't just tense — it's a full convulsion, and it's landing in your church every Sunday. In this emergency panel episode, Ed Stetzer, Adam Mesa, and Sharon Hodde Miller debate when to speak up, when to be silent, how to deal with fallout, and how to pastor people in a deeply divided age. This is the conversation many pastors are desperate to have but afraid to start. 🔗   Show Notes 📩 On The Rise Newsletter 🗣️ Preaching Cheat Sheet 🧠 The Art of Leadership Academy 🎥 Watch on YouTube Follow @careynieuwhof Follow @theartofleadershipnetwork ❗️Connect with other podcast listeners about each episode of my podcast, including me. You'll get exclusive insights by asking questions, sharing insights, and learning how others are applying the content in real life.  Join for free: https://careynieuwhof.com/shownotes FUND THE FUTURE MASTERCLASS What do you do when your finances feel stuck, and giving doesn't match the mission you see God calling you toward? I helped create Fund the Future masterclass, alongside Craig Groeschel, Ashley Wooldridge, Chris Hodges, and others — a course built to help you move beyond transactional conversations about money and into a transformational culture of generosity.  Learn more at careynieuwhof.com/fundthefuture . SUBSPLASH Subsplash handles the tech you need so your church can lead the mission.  Listeners, you can go to subsplash.com/carey to get $500 when you sign up today. SWITCHER STUDIOS Want to take your church's live stream to the next level, especially as you head into Easter? Switcher lets you grab your iPhones, iPads, and cameras, sync them together, and switch between angles live without complicated gear.  Add scripture, lyrics, and graphics on screen to keep your congregation engaged and stream to your website and all the major social media platforms at once. Get an additional $5 off at checkout when you use the code "carey5".  Want to take your church's live stream to the next level, especially as you head into Easter? Switcher lets you grab your iPhones, iPads, and cameras, sync them together, and switch between angles live without complicated gear.  Add scripture, lyrics, and graphics on screen to keep your congregation engaged and stream to your website and all the major social media platforms at once. Get an additional $5 off at checkout when you use the code "carey5".  Visit switcherstudio.com/carey to learn more.     Brought to you by The Art of Leadership Network  

Life.Church Senior Pastor Craig Groeschel and his therapist, Dr. Wayne Chappelle, join Carey to talk about a wall Craig hit in ministry, that he thought might k*ll him. They discuss what was at stake, how he got through it, what happens to leaders who don't take action, and how Craig recovered fully from what almost took him out.  🔗   Show Notes 📩 On The Rise Newsletter 🗣️ Preaching Cheat Sheet 🧠 The Art of Leadership Academy 🎥 Watch on YouTube Follow @careynieuwhof Follow @theartofleadershipnetwork ❗️Connect with other podcast listeners about each episode of my podcast, including me. You'll get exclusive insights by asking questions, sharing insights, and learning how others are applying the content in real life.  Join for free: https://careynieuwhof.com/shownotes FUND THE FUTURE MASTERCLASS Craig and I created Fund the Future Masterclass — a course built to help you move beyond transactional conversations about money and into a transformational culture of generosity.  If you want to grow in a way that lasts, visit careynieuwhof.com/fundthefuture. CHURCH LAW & TAX Church Law & Tax is a trusted online resource that equips pastors and church leaders with expert guidance on legal, tax, and other compliance issues churches face every day. Sign up for their free weekly newsletter at ChurchLawAndTax.com. ONE ACCORD OneAccord is an AI-based translation platform designed exclusively for the local church. With over 50 languages available, their subscription plans start at $150 a month. Our listeners get a free trial at oneaccord.ai/carey !     Brought to you by The Art of Leadership Network  

Patrick Lencioni opens up about his dark night of the soul and his recent five-month sabbatical. Plus, we discuss how we go to work to heal and the joys and challenges of leading next-gen leaders. 🔗   Show Notes 📩 On The Rise Newsletter 🗣️ Preaching Cheat Sheet 🧠 The Art of Leadership Academy 🎥 Watch on YouTube Follow @careynieuwhof Follow @theartofleadershipnetwork ❗️Connect with other podcast listeners about each episode of my podcast, including me. You'll get exclusive insights by asking questions, sharing insights, and learning how others are applying the content in real life.  Join for free: https://careynieuwhof.com/shownotes HAYSTACK Haystack is an AI-powered search engine for everything you've ever preached. Your congregation can ask real questions like "Why does God allow suffering?" and get answers from their pastor. Book your demo by grabbing a spot on their calendar at thehaystack.ai. Mention this podcast and they'll import your sermon library for free. You'll see how it works with your own content before committing to anything.   THE ART OF LEADERSHIP LIVE September 21–23, 2026, I'm hosting The Art of Leadership LIVE in Nashville, Tennessee. If you've been thinking about applying, now is the time. Once Super Early Bird pricing expires, rates go up for good. Visit theartofleadershiplive.com to secure the best pricing. GLOO CONTENT STUDIO Gloo Content Studio is designed around one simple idea: one message can power a whole week of ministry.  Reclaim your Mondays and extend the impact of your preaching at gloo.com/carey.       Brought to you by The Art of Leadership Network  

Henry Cloud explains why leadership is not lonely, or at least, shouldn't be. Plus, we discuss why founders hang on too long and why leaders have far more control than you think! 🔗   Show Notes 📩 On The Rise Newsletter 🗣️ Preaching Cheat Sheet 🧠 The Art of Leadership Academy 🎥 Watch on YouTube Follow @careynieuwhof Follow @theartofleadershipnetwork ❗️Connect with other podcast listeners about each episode of my podcast, including me. You'll get exclusive insights by asking questions, sharing insights, and learning how others are applying the content in real life.  Join for free: https://careynieuwhof.com/shownotes   THE ART OF LEADERSHIP LIVE September 21–23, 2026, I'm hosting The Art of Leadership LIVE in Nashville, Tennessee. If you've been thinking about applying, now is the time. Once Super Early Bird pricing expires, rates go up for good. Visit theartofleadershiplive.com to secure the best pricing. GLOO CONTENT STUDIO Gloo Content Studio is designed around one simple idea: one message can power a whole week of ministry.  Reclaim your Mondays and extend the impact of your preaching at gloo.com/carey. BELAY Get Belay's, The Future of Financial Leadership, for free. This guide discusses when AI can save you time, when human insight is non-negotiable, and how to balance the two effectively across your financial operations. https://resources.belaysolutions.com/cnlp     Brought to you by The Art of Leadership Network  

Comedian and listener favorite John Crist returns to ask if we're being too critical of the church right now. Has our cynicism gone too far?  Plus, we talk about finding hope and do a detailed breakdown of exactly what it takes to appear on the Tonight Show. 🔗   Show Notes 📩 On The Rise Newsletter 🗣️ Preaching Cheat Sheet 🧠 The Art of Leadership Academy 🎥 Watch on YouTube Follow @careynieuwhof Follow @theartofleadershipnetwork ❗️Connect with other podcast listeners about each episode of my podcast, including me. You'll get exclusive insights by asking questions, sharing insights, and learning how others are applying the content in real life.  Join for free: https://careynieuwhof.com/shownotes   SWITCHER STUDIO Want to take your church's live stream to the next level, especially as you head into Easter? Switcher lets you grab your iPhones, iPads, and cameras, sync them together, and switch between angles live without complicated gear. Get an additional $5 off at checkout when you use the code "carey5". Visit switcherstudio.com/carey to learn more.   GLOO FEED Gloo Feed is the best way to stay informed about what matters, when it matters… without having to sift through the noise. Get all the latest research, updates on AI and the church, access to resources, and much more. Join the Gloo Feed today, for free. Text CAREY to 46816 to join for free.     Brought to you by The Art of Leadership Network