#114 Play, Power, And Healing In Bed

What if the fastest path to honest intimacy starts with a character, a costume, and permission to play? We sit down with clinical sexologist and author Dr. Stephanie Hunter Jones to unpack how role play, cosplay, and power dynamics can help couples move beyond shame, reconnect with desire, and build durable trust. You’ll hear how stepping into a role creates enough distance from self-judgment to try new scripts, feel new sensations, and communicate needs without flinching.We talk through the nuts and bolts of power dynamics in long-term relationships and how they quietly shape arousal, initiation, and resentment. From sexual anorexia as a form of control to erectile dysfunction’s emotional roots, we explore the biology-psychology-relationship triad and offer practical next steps: assessment, slow experimentation, grounding exercises, and gentle, pressure-free touch. For listeners exploring open relationships, Stephanie outlines how to pace the transition with boundaries, check-ins, and a clear sense of why now. Along the way, we return to a core truth: penetration and orgasm are a small slice of intimacy. Play, curiosity, and self-worth do the heavy lifting. Connect with Stephanie’s work, including Beyond the Costume and resources at StephanieHunterJones.com, and remember—authenticity often starts with a little make-believe.Enjoyed the conversation? Follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a quick review so more people can find frank, stigma-free sex and dating education.Send us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

We dig into why dating feels so hard, especially in LA, and how personal clarity can change the outcome. Anna Yoo shares how journaling turned bad dates into insight, community, and a healthy relationship grounded in clear values.• LA dating culture, trust gaps, and vulnerability • Journaling as a tool for patterns and clarity • Men’s commitment mindset as a relationship stabilizer • Women’s need for safety to access vulnerability • Shifting from looks to character and values • Faith, shared priorities, and compatibility tools • Practical reflection after dates to spot red flags • Taking a break to reset habits and standards • Building community to voice hard truthsIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSend us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

We explore how Argentine Tango turns relationship theory into something you can feel, using roles, consent, and feedback to rebuild trust and restore harmony. Linda Sutton shares why following can be more empowering than leading and how couples can sense alignment in the body before words.• Tango as a working model for partnership• Roles as equal in value, different in function• Following as permission, amplification, creativity• Trust and doubt as physical sensations• Lead, then follow your lead feedback loop• Pure following to expose and fix unclear leads• Real‑time repair through body signals and breath• Power struggles reframed as role confusion• Practical ways to practice connection at home• Access to workshops, coaching, and virtual optionsIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as well. Send us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

We explore how the body stores shame and trauma, and how cycle awareness, somatics, and microdosing create a kinder path to healing. Leslie Draffin shares personal stories on PCOS, PMS, herpes stigma, and practical tools that restore safety, desire, and self-trust.• defining womb mysticism as science plus the sacred• PMS as feedback and pain relief through small changes• working with grief and shame after hysterectomy or menopause• microdosing to soften the default mode network• somatic practices that start with sensation, not thoughts• cervical dearmoring as advanced fascia release• recommended reads for accessible somatic healing• the SHIFT method: journal, breathe, move• moving through sexual shame and herpes stigma• speaking truth when safe and readyIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellhttps://lesliedraffin.myflodesk.com/microguideSend us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

We look at how self-love turns adversity into fuel for authentic connection, and why heart-centered honesty is the antidote to dating fatigue. Jonathan Aslay shares practical tools for midlife relationships, slow-burn chemistry, and redefining rejection as misalignment.• divorce, job loss, identity collapse and recovery through therapy and spirituality• choosing love over fear as a daily practice• self-love as boundaries, truth with kindness and inner child care• reframing rejection as misalignment and sovereignty in dating• intuition, early red flags and avoiding victim mindset• midlife challenges of blending lives beyond the parenting blueprint• radical honesty, pre-qualifying compatibility and better questions• slow-burn chemistry versus instant spark and app-driven impatience• coaching programs, YouTube and the What Would Love Do? podcastIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSend us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

We sit down with sex therapist Skyblu Cutchie to explore how to let pleasure lead, drop pressure, and build desire you can actually feel. We share practical tools for communication, emotional connection, and making good sex start long before the bedroom.• common complaints couples bring to sex therapy• person‑centered and developmental lenses in practice• training the “what do I want” muscle outside the bedroom• modeling touch and solo exploration as education• spontaneous vs responsive desire and why scheduling helps• pleasure without pressure and handling no with grace• removing orgasm and penetration as goals• linking emotional intimacy to sexual desire• daily pleasure rituals to fill your cup• clear, kind communication for better sexIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSend us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Dating doesn’t need more tricks—it needs better fundamentals. We sit down with Sharp Game, the creator behind Love Can’t Wait, to pull apart the universal relationship principles he learned while traveling the world in the Navy and coaching millions online. Across cultures and personalities, three forces keep showing up: grounded leadership, mutual respect, and a felt sense of safety that lets people be themselves. When those are present, dates are lighter, conversations are clearer, and attraction grows without posturing.Sharp Game also breaks down the myths that hold men back. Assuming an attractive woman has it “all figured out” keeps too many guys from saying hello. The “nice guy” problem isn’t kindness—it’s manipulation disguised as generosity, with early gifts and performative sweetness that don’t match real character. We cover why many men benefit from marrying after 35. Finally, we explore why you should take words with a grain of salt and read consistency over declarations—people often soften truths to spare feelings, and interest shows up in behavior.If you found this conversation useful, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a quick review to help more listeners find the show.Send us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

We dive into how soul contracts, energy healing, and the Akashic Records shape dating, sex, and self-worth, anchored by Kanika’s moving story of loss and awakening. Practical tools help you break toxic patterns, calm inner critics, and choose partners from alignment, not fear.• co-creation with the universe vs control• grief as a portal to purpose and truth• spotting signs, synchronicity and energetic nudges• soul contracts and lessons in key relationships• breaking cycles of toxic partners by healing patterns• root and sacral chakras for safety, desire and creativity• working with inner critics and archetypes, not against them• a short guided yes/no practice for clear next steps• resources to continue healing with meditations and coachingBe sure to check out her website and her social media handlesIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSend us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Breakups can turn smart people into amateur time travelers—looping through the past, bargaining with memories, and mistaking longing for a plan. We sit down with author and podcaster Paul Bauer to unpack that spiral and chart a way out. Paul shares how a rough divorce and a second hard breakup pushed him to confront the real constant—himself—and why inner game, not tricks, determines whether attraction lasts.We dig into the difference between being a good man and a “nice guy,” exploring covert contracts, boundary setting, and why approval-seeking reads as instability. Paul breaks down the painful math of chasing an ex: fixed narratives, harder tests, and the near-inevitability of relapse into old patterns. Instead of looping back, he lays out a clean framework for moving forward—no-contact done right, grief without bargaining, rebuilding routines that restore purpose, and practicing selection with intent. The goal isn’t to win her back; it’s to get yourself back so you can date from strength.From there, we shift into practical tools for attraction and long-term desire. Paul explains how leadership, playful tension, and everyday physicality revive intimacy—especially in “dead bedroom” dynamics—and why waiting until bedtime to ask for connection sets everyone up to fail. We talk about the captain–first officer model, how to lead without steamrolling, and how to keep relationships fun without slipping into complacency. Whether you’re wrestling with one-itis, navigating divorce, or trying to bring spark back to a long-term bond, you’ll leave with clear steps and a steadier frame.If this conversation helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a quick review. Your support helps more people find the show and start moving forward with confidence.Send us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Your “stress” might have a name—betrayal—and a roadmap out. We sit down with Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT Institute, to unpack why betrayal is unlike any other trauma and how a clear, five-stage process can move you from shock to a stronger, wiser self. Debi shares the research behind post-betrayal syndrome—those stubborn triggers, sleep issues, gut problems, and trust wounds that linger for years—and explains why time alone doesn’t close this chapter. You’ll hear the stats that stop you in your tracks and the mindset shifts that get you moving again.We trace the journey from discovery day to survival mode, then through the crucial pivot into a “new normal” where you start setting boundaries, dropping what no longer fits, and choosing relationships that match your standards. Debi makes the trap of Stage Three unmistakable: it feels better than chaos, so you camp there, collecting sympathy and repeating your story. The way out is willingness. When you choose progress over familiarity, you turn down the stress response and open space for real change. By Stage Five, your body has energy for self-care, your mind runs on healthier rules, and trust in yourself becomes the foundation for trusting others wisely.Debi also details support at The PBT Institute for betrayed partners, betrayers ready to change, and practitioners seeking certification to guide clients through predictable transformation. If you’ve wondered why you still feel stuck—why triggers hijack your day or why walls won’t drop—this conversation gives you language, structure, and hope you can use today. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to help more people find their way from survival to renewal.Send us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic