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Do you panic at the thought of blushing in public? That rising heat in your chest… the burning in your ears… the shame of knowing people see it? I used to live in fear of that exact moment. In this episode... I share my personal story of dealing with chronic, uncontrollable blushing in social situations, where it started, how it became tied to my social anxiety, and what I tried (unsuccessfully) for years to stop it. Eventually, I discovered a way to release the shame, the fear, and the obsessive thoughts. It wasn’t willpower. It wasn’t exposure therapy. It was acceptance, combined with a powerful technique called EFT tapping. You’ll learn: Why blushing becomes an obsession and what fuels it How past experiences create emotional triggers in the body Why most solutions don’t work (and what finally did) How I released the deep self-judgment and stopped caring… and then, the blushing stopped too What I now use with my clients to help them overcome blushing and social anxiety for good This is a vulnerable, honest episode that can shift how you see yourself and give you hope that change is possible. 👉 Want to start your own journey to social confidence? Get the free mini-course: The 7 Secrets To Social Confidence 🎬  Watch John F’s transformation  🎬 Watch John’s journey to social ease  🎬 See how Tapani overcame blushing and anxiety    Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! ●     SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel ●     Facebook ●     Instagram ●     X ●     TikTok ●     LinkedIn All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. 💪 Warm regards,Seb  

In this episode... Most people think they’ll accept themselves after they overcome social anxiety. But what if that mindset is exactly what’s keeping you stuck? In this episode, Sebastiaan and psychologist Steve Wells reveal why self-acceptance is the starting point for true social ease, and how tapping can help you get there gently and effectively. To start reducing your anxiety today and feel more at ease socially, get my free mini-course: The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence  bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast   Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! ●     SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel ●     Facebook ●     Instagram ●     X ●     TikTok ●     LinkedIn All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. 💪 Warm regards,Seb

In this episode...If you grew up hearing “don’t be so sensitive” or “man up,” this might forever change how you see yourself. In this short minisode, Seb and ex-MMA fighter Tom Woodfin get real about what it’s like to grow up hiding your sensitivity—especially in a world that sees it as pathetic or weak. They share how years of inner work helped them shift that shame, own their sensitivity, and transform it into deep confidence and connection. 🎧 In this minisode: • Why sensitive people are more prone to shame and social anxiety—and how to heal it • How society trains us to reject vulnerability (especially in men) • How owning your true nature boosts emotional resilience and social confidence 🎧 This clip is from the full episode: “Loving Your Sensitivity and Feeling Safe Being Vulnerable.” Listen to the full conversation here for more tools and insight. 🔗 Ready to reduce your social anxiety? Start with the free mini-course: The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence   Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! ●     SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel ●     Facebook ●     Instagram ●     X ●     TikTok ●     LinkedIn All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. 💪 Warm regards,Seb

In this episode... "Can you be shy… and still feel confident in social situations?" In this live EFT tapping session, Sebastiaan helps a volunteer release shame and anxiety around being labeled “shy.” Together, they explore how childhood messages shaped her identity—and how tapping can shift self-perception fast. 🎧 You’ll discover: The difference between shyness and social anxiety Why you don’t have to choose between shy or confident How EFT tapping creates emotional freedom Tap along to feel more self-acceptance and ease in social situations. 🎁 Ready to feel confident being your true self—shy parts and all? You’ve likely been conditioned to believe you're just the shy one. But what if that’s only one small part of you? Start undoing those old labels with The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence—a free, powerful mini course where Sebastiaan guides you through his proven A.R.T. approach, with tap-along exercises designed to start creating emotional shifts from the inside out. 👉 Begin now at bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast     Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! ●     SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel ●     Facebook ●     Instagram ●     X ●     TikTok ●     LinkedIn All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. 💪 Warm regards,Seb  

In this episode... If rejection terrifies you, you’re not alone, and you’re not broken.  In this episode, Social Confidence Coach, Sebastiaan van der Schrier, and EFT expert, Rick Wilkes, reveal what’s really behind your fear of rejection… and why it lingers, even after therapy or exposure. You’ll discover how to gently dissolve the emotional charge behind past rejections, and why tapping (EFT) helps you feel safe being yourself, without needing approval from everyone. Get the free “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” mini course here → bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb  

Carol Look has a distinguished background in traditional psychotherapy, was trained as a Clinical Social Worker and earned her Doctoral Degree in Clinical Hypnotherapy.  This was before she became one of the only 29 EFT Masters in the world. Carol is known for combining her background in traditional psychotherapy with “energy medicine” and she appears as a practitioner and energy therapy expert in the DVD documentary “The Tapping Solution” as well as in the documentary focusing on helping veterans suffering from PTSD, “Operation: Emotional Freedom.”  She has extensive experience helping people overcome perfectionism and shares how to overcome social perfectionism once and for all.  QUOTE: ""This technique hands down has been the best thing for anxiety and has not let me down for 18 years." Carol's show notes page My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here): www.social-anxiety-solutions.com Contact me directly:  www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/ Warm regards, Sebastiaan van der Schrier _________________________________________________________________ Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. Warm regards, Seb  

Have you ever been teased, humiliated, or bullied... and felt like you should be over it by now, but it still haunts you? In this episode, Seb shares how bullying in his own past triggered years of social anxiety, and why those early experiences can quietly shape how safe you feel in the world today. You’ll hear a short but powerful conversation with EFT Master Tania Prince.  She explains how bullying memories get stuck in your nervous system, why they still affect you today, and what you can do to finally break free. • Why some painful moments still feel so fresh • What bullying does to your sense of identity and safety • How EFT tapping helps release those emotional charges • A surprising truth about the beliefs that make us more vulnerable to being bullied If you’re ready to let go of the past and finally feel safe being yourself... 💥 Start now with my free mini course: The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence 👉 bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast   Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! ●     SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel ●     Facebook ●     Instagram ●     X ●     TikTok ●     LinkedIn All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. 💪 Warm regards,Seb

In this episode... Tiffany shares her powerful journey of healing social anxiety after decades of sadness, isolation, and self-judgment. She talks openly about the trauma that shaped her, how she discovered what was really driving her anxiety, and how she gently found freedom through deep inner work. We worked together for 17 sessions using the best of psychology, EFT tapping, and energy psychology. And what unfolded was a quiet but profound transformation. 🎯 In this conversation, you’ll hear: What social anxiety really felt like for Tiffany The root cause behind her fear of people Her relationship with sadness, and how it changed How she went from dreading groups… to leading healing retreats The tools that helped her rebuild self-trust and calm If you’ve been struggling with social anxiety and nothing has worked, this story will give you hope. ➡️ If Tiffany’s story resonates with you and you're serious about fully overcoming social anxiety, I’ll be opening new private coaching spots later this year. To be considered, just go to bit.ly/socialconfidencecoach, read the details, watch the testimonials, and fill in your application. Or visit www.social-anxiety-solutions.com and click on “VIP Coaching.” We’ll keep your info on file, and Sebastiaan will personally reach out when the next spots open.     Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! ●     SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel ●     Facebook ●     Instagram ●     X ●     TikTok ●     LinkedIn All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. 💪 Warm regards,Seb  

In this episode... “If I feel confident… I’ll be humiliated.” This is a fear many people with social anxiety carry, but almost no one talks about. In this live coaching session, you’ll hear a Social Confidence Club member gently unpack that exact fear. What unfolds in under 15 minutes is a calm, respectful release of what’s been blocking her from feeling confident. No pressure.No pushing through fear.Just a powerful example of what happens when your system feels safe enough to let go. This is part of what I call the ART approach: Allowing acceptance, Releasing resistance, and Terminating triggers And it’s also the kind of work I do with VIP clients, people who are serious about overcoming their social anxiety once and for all. 🌿 I’ll be opening up a few new spots soon. For now, start here: 👉 bit.ly/socialconfidencenow Get the free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence Learn to calm your system and begin letting go of what’s underneath your social anxiety.     Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! ●     SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel ●     Facebook ●     Instagram ●     X ●     TikTok ●     LinkedIn All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. 💪 Warm regards,Seb  

In this episode... Do you feel like you have to be perfect just to be accepted? Or to avoid criticism or rejection? This unconscious belief can quietly fuel social anxiety, burnout, and relentless self-pressure In this short minisode, EFT Founding Master and psychotherapist Carol Look shares a powerful insight to help uncover where this pressure really comes from and how to begin letting it go 🎧 In this minisode: • The surprising childhood fear behind the need to be perfect • How perfectionism feeds anxiety, burnout, and low self-worth • A simple question that can help start breaking the pattern 🎧 This clip is from the full episode: “Releasing the Need to Be Perfect”. Listen to the full conversation here. 🔗 Free mini course to start easing social anxiety here: The 7 Secrets to Social Confidence. Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself? You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too. Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it. It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears. Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence? Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes! 2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course. 3.) Let’s connect! ● SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel ● Facebook ● Instagram ● X ● TikTok ● LinkedIn All the best on your journey to effortless social ease. 💪 Warm regards, Seb