275 Shades of Non-Monogamy with Melissa and Wayne LeSane

 This week I am joined by porn performer, filmmaker, and artist Robby Apples. He shares how doing porn and psychedelic medicine helped him to heal his social anxiety. We also talk about what it is really like on set for male performers, overcoming insecurities, empowerment through self love, and why humans struggle with always wanting more, more, more! Also- can an apple a day really make you a porn star?    Ads:  All discounts: https://linktr.ee/slutsandscholars Dipsea: Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/sands Factor: Head to FACTORMEALS.com/sluts50 and use code sluts50 to get 50% off your first box plus 20% off your next box   Robby: https://robbyapples.com/   Ask a Question here   FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: [email protected] Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

 Sarah Tomchesson, C.S.E. (she/her) advocates for sexual liberation through her work as a sex educator, sex toy evangelist and podcast host. Sarah has spent much of her career shaping legendary sex toy brands, including Pleasure Chest, Babeland, and Lovehoney. Currently she holds the position of Director of Marketing for the iconic Magic Wand brand. Sarah firmly believes in the power of pleasure as a healing tool. She is a certified sexuality educator and has been developing, programming, and presenting pleasure-based sex education nationwide since 2007. Sarah co-hosts the F*ck Yeah Podcast, which aims to disrupt harmful ideas about sexuality, intimate relationships, identity, parenthood, and more. She is also a mom and on the Board of Directors of SIECUS – Sex Ed for Social Change (siecus.org), the nation’s leading sex education policy non-profit. We answer some listener questions, talk about the famous Magic Wand, as well as: can you get addicted to your vibrator?    Research Discussed  Article about "Dead Vagina Syndrome"    Episodes talked about:  Asexuality  Erotic Blueprint    Books mentioned:  - Come Together (Nagoski) - Sex When You Don't Feel Like It (Darnell)    Sarah's Podcast: https://fuckyeahpod.com/   Magic Wand: https://hitachimagic.com    Have a question or want to check out our advertiser discount codes?! Click here  FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: [email protected] Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

Lisa Bloom Esquire is an attorney specializing in LGBTQ rights, Civil Rights, sexual harassment and assault cases. Daughter of famous civil rights attorney Gloria Allred, Lisa was raised to help everyday people in their fight for justice. Her firm, The Bloom Firm, continues to focus on fighting for victims of discrimination, harassment and abuse with compassion, as she is a survivor herself. She is also an author and media personality and has successfully represented many high profile celebrity cases, such as many of the brave Trump, Cosby, and Epstein survivors. TW: We will touch on topics related to consent, sexual assault, rape, and the civil court system. As always, please take care however you need to.   Ads:  Dipsea: Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/sands   Lisa Bloom: https://thebloomfirm.com/   FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: [email protected] Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

Rena Martine is a women's intimacy coach, former Sex Crimes Deputy District Attorney for the Los Angeles County D.A.'s Office, and author of The Sex You Want: A Shameless Journey to Deep Intimacy, Honest Pleasure, and a Life You Love. Today we answer some listener Q and A’s about non-monogamy. Then, we have a discussion about force and submission fantasies and how to reconcile these desires with survivorship and empowerment. Ad: OSEA use promo code SCHOLARS10 FOR 10% off at  https://oseamalibu.com/collections/body-care?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=influencer&utm_campaign=032024_EVERGREEN_SLUTS+SCHOLARS   Ask a Q: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1h4zUjetKy6m9OxJO2VQx9hPdFhPcN9UXwVxZ0IWGifM/edit   Rena: https://www.renamartine.com/   FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: [email protected] Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

Caitlin V is a sexologist and researcher who helps people gain confidence and improve sexual performance. For the past decade, Caitlin has empowered thousands of couples from more than 150 countries with her expert knowledge and scientific approach, which no doubt had some role in her YouTube channel reaching more than 450,000 subscribers and 65 million views in just 3 years of production. Caitlin is the creator of the Come When You Want Method for gaining ejaculatory control (without any pills or creams), “Legendary Lover”, a master course in unlocking the female orgasm, and the Female Ejaculation Blueprint. Today we talk about ejaculatory timing and control, erectile flow issues, body tension, “coregasms,” orgasms, and more!     Ads: Factor Meals: Head to FACTORMEALS.com/sluts50 and use code sluts50 to get 50% off Discount from Caitlin V  here! Code is SLUTS15 Caitlin V: www.youtube.com/caitlinv  www.caitlinvneal.com   Ask a Question Here!   FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: [email protected] Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

Lilly Sparks is the Founder & CEO of afterglow, an ethical porn site designed to help women step into their sexual power. She creates porn you can learn from through sexy videos that are educational but still hot enough to masturbate to. Lilly is an entrepreneur addicted to creating positive change in the world, a believer in the power of shame-free pleasure. We talk about porn "addiction," how porn can be good for you, research on porn, what signifies ethical porn, eduporn, and some commonly searched spicy topics!   Ads:  afterglow: Get a free 7 day membership to afterglow with code xoscholars at bit.ly/xoscholars Dipsea: Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/sands     FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: [email protected] Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

Hey slutty scholars. I’m switching things up a bit today and bringing you a preview of a podcast that I think you’ll love. The podcast is called Sex Ed with DB and you may remember DB from a recent episode! So listen up for a little teaser from DB's podcast featuring a clip from one of her shows: The Ultimate Period Episode with Dr. Jen Gunter. In this episode, DB sits down with Dr. Jen Gunter, an OB-GYN and bestselling author, for the ULTIMATE period episode! Dr. Jen shares insights from her trilogy of books, including her latest release, Blood: The Science, Medicine, and Mythology of Menstruation, emphasizing the importance of addressing misinformation and debunking myths surrounding reproductive health. She also highlights the need to challenge stigma and shame associated with menstruation and advocates for gender equality in healthcare.   Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb Twitter : @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB   FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: [email protected] Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

Ally Iseman is the Founder of Passport2Pleasure.com and has been a speaker, community organizer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016. As a certified consent and communication specialist, she uses her proprietary framework The Non-Monogamy Blueprint™ to help curious couples and individuals build the most mutually fulfilling, sustainable relationships with the highest probability of longevity.   Ask an anonymous question that may be featured on the show! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1h4zUjetKy6m9OxJO2VQx9hPdFhPcN9UXwVxZ0IWGifM/edit Ally: https://www.passport2pleasure.com/   FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: [email protected] Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

Tune in for a deep chat about psychedelic research, psychedelic assisted therapies, trauma healing, and more! Our guest Elowyn Samadhi, PhD (she/they) is a licensed clinical psychologist who specializes in the treatment of PTSD and other trauma-related disorders. She works in private practice and at Sage Integrative Health, a holistic psychedelic clinic in the Bay Area. Elowyn served as an independent rater for the Phase II and III MAPS MDMA trials for 4 years and began providing post-IV ketamine integration in 2015 at Mass General Hospital. She completed ketamine-assisted psychotherapy training with Polaris Insight Center and the MAPS MDMA-Assisted Therapy training. She also completed the UC-Berkeley Psilocybin Advanced Facilitator Training under the mentorship of Dr. Susana Bustos and is qualified to provide legal psilocybin services in Oregon. Dr. Samadhi serves as lead psilocybin therapist for the UCSD phantom limb pain clinical trial and has trained several of the co-therapists. She has guest lectured for Alchemy Community Therapy Center in Oakland and Beckley Academy, and supervises and mentors several psychedelic therapists-in-training. Elowyn is in her final year of the 3-year Somatic Experiencing training. Dr. Samadhi has a passion for teaching somatic therapy, safe and reparative touch work, as well as the ritual and spiritual praxis of guiding. Elowyn is biracial and bisexual and the bedrock of her spiritual path is non-dual, tantric, animistic, and pagan. We talk about psychedelic assisted healing modalities, the current research on psychedelics, MAPs, neuroplasticity, trauma healing,   Elowyn: https://www.elowynsamadhiphd.com/ https://tetheredhealing.com/   Past episode mentioned: https://slutsscholars.libsyn.com/198-the-war-on-drugs-with-ifetayo-harvey-of-thepoc-psychedelic-collective     FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: [email protected] Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show. 

Melissa and Wayne have been non-monogamous since day one of their 20 year relationship. They are married and doing life in Los Angeles with their five children & together they are the Creator & Co-Creator of Shades of Non-Monogamy- a supportive resource for folks who are curious about, exploring or actively navigating non-monogamy. Shades is also a curator of non-monogamous & BIPOC-centered community spaces and events. Their vision is for everyone to experience and keep pleasurable, joyful and fulfilling relationships of ALL types, including with self, with others and in community; encouraging emotional, relational and sexual freedom.      Ads Dipsea: For listeners of the show, Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to DipseaStories.com/sands Factor Meals: Head to FACTORMEALS.com/sluts50 and use code sluts50 to get 50% off   Shades: https://www.shadesofnonmonogamy.com/   FOLLOW US  Twitter Instagram Facebook Send questions, comments, stories, rants to: [email protected] Sluts And Scholars is a production of sluts and scholars media.   Loving disclaimer:  Sluts and Scholars is a podcast produced by Sluts & Scholars Media, LLC. It is a shame free educational podcast made for your entertainment and informational desires only. The podcast, any opinions we share, and any resources including social media and emails from us are not therapy, medical care or professional advice and do not create a patient-client relationship. None of the information, opinions, suggestions, resources or exercises mentioned in this podcast should be used without clearance from your health care provider. All opinions, information and ideas expressed by the guests are solely their own. If you need emergency mental health or medical help, please call 911 or 988 or go to your nearest emergency center. We hope you enjoy the show.