Squirting, Threesomes & the Sex Skills No One Teaches You

Let's talk about why initiating sex in your relationship started feeling like a test… because somewhere along the way, that moment of reaching for your partner stopped feeling like closeness and started feeling like a pass-fail question hanging in the air. Am I about to get rejected? Am I going to disappoint them? And when initiation starts to feel that way, both people stop doing it. In this episode I'm giving you five concrete steps to change the whole dynamic, starting with one reframe that makes everything else possible. We're talking about how to read the room before you even reach for your partner, what to say instead of do you want to have sex, how to bridge the gap when one of you has been thinking about it all day and the other just got done folding laundry, and the one response to a no that either builds or destroys trust over time. If you've ever felt guilty for saying no, talked yourself out of initiating, or noticed that the affection in your relationship quietly disappeared along with the sex, this episode is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ ============================= Chapters: 00:00 When Initiation Starts to Feel Like a Test 01:20 Meet Dr. Emily & Why Initiation Trips Couples Up 02:08 The Mindset Shift: Invitation, Not Contract 02:28 Reframing Initiation as an Invitation 03:40 The Five-Step Overview 03:55 Step 1: Time the Invitation 04:26 Step 2: Make It an Invitation, Not an Audition 05:34 Step 3: Close the Desire Gap 07:18 Step 4: Ditch the Yes-or-No Trap (Try the 1-10 Scale) 08:48 Step 5: Protect the No 09:59 The Bigger Conversation to Have Outside the Bedroom 10:31 Recap: Building Safety So Desire Can Grow Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW: https://www.youtube.com/@sexwithemilyofficial?sub_confirmation=1 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about the sex skills nobody teaches you and why most people are still waiting for their partner to figure it out instead of just saying it out loud… because that's exactly what today's callers are done doing. In this episode I'm taking live calls from people who are done leaving their pleasure up to chance. We've got a 27 year old who wants to learn how to squirt on her own without relying on anyone to do it for her, a couple who wants to bring others into their play but can't figure out how to find the right people, and a woman whose new partner flat out refused to try to make her orgasm. I promise that last one goes somewhere really good. If you have ever felt like you were the only one carrying the weight of your own pleasure, this episode will change that. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 02:19 Call 1: How Do I Learn to Squirt on My Own 04:30 Squirting vs Orgasm: Are They the Same Thing 06:30 What Actually Helps With Squirting 09:00 Teaching Yourself Before You Teach a Partner 11:30 Call 2: We Want to Open Things Up But Can't Find the Right People 14:00 How to Find Partners for Ethical Non-Monogamy 17:00 The Conversations to Have Before You Start 20:00 Call 3: He Refused to Try to Make Me Orgasm 23:00 What That Tells You About Someone Early On 26:00 Why Talking About Sex Early Saves You So Much Time 29:00 If You're Naked With Someone It's Time to Start Talking 31:00 What Sexually Healthy Actually Means Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If anal play sounds like something you'd have to grit your teeth through, I want to change your mind about one thing first: a painful first try isn't your body's final answer. It's usually a sign something was rushed, unprepared, or out of your control, not proof this isn't for you. In this episode, I'm walking through my five-step, comfort-first framework for exploring anal: getting a real yes before anything starts, setting yourself up for success, warming your whole body up first, moving in layers instead of straight to penetration, and learning to actually read your body's feedback. I'm also busting a few myths along the way, including the one that penetration is the goal at all. Pleasure, not performance. Let's get into it. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! ⁠https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast⁠ ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Cold Open / Welcome to Sex with Emily 01:24 Why Your First Time May Have Hurt 02:08 The Five Step Framework (Meet Dr. Emily) 02:56 Anal Isn't All or Nothing 03:44 Your Nervous System Is the Real Sex Organ 04:07 The Two Rings of Muscle, Explained 04:49 Step 1: Start With a Real Yes 05:28 The Receiving Partner Is Always in Charge 06:00 Step 2: Set Yourself Up for Success (Hygiene) 06:41 Lube, Toys, and the Pre-Talk 07:17 Step 3: Warm Up Your Whole Body 08:22 Step 4: Move in Layers, Not Pressure 09:59 Step 5: Listen to Your Body and Talk About It 10:51 Busting the Biggest Anal Myths 11:11 Recap: The Five Steps to Try Anal Comfortably 11:58 Outro & Where to Find More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about what actually happens when real people finally stop holding back in the bedroom… because the best sex education doesn't always come from experts. Sometimes it comes from a husband who spent months asking for something his wife wasn't sure about, or a couple whose 20 year marriage took a very unexpected turn on a dance floor in Anchorage, or a woman who spent years unable to orgasm with a partner and finally got there in the last way she ever expected. In this episode I'm reading three real listener success stories out loud, and I promise you will learn something from every single one of them. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 02:46 Story 1: The Pegging Journey 06:00 Why Receiving Changes Everything for Men 08:30 What Happened After She Said Yes 10:15 How One Conversation Transformed Their Whole Relationship 14:45 Story 2: The Threesome That Started on a Dance Floor 19:00 What Made It Work and What They Learned 22:00 Story 3: Her First Penetrative Orgasm 24:00 How She Finally Got There 25:18 What All Three Stories Have in Common Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about why you don't want sex with your husband anymore… and why the answer probably has nothing to do with your libido. If you've been lying next to him quietly hoping he doesn't reach for you, and then hating yourself for feeling that way, this episode is going to change the way you see what's actually happening in your body and your relationship. Because the story most women tell themselves at this moment is the wrong one entirely. I'm walking you through a four part desire check in that will help you stop asking the question that keeps you stuck and start asking the one that can actually lead you somewhere. If desire has gone quiet in your marriage, this one is for you. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events  Shop With Emily: https://shop.sexwithemily.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily  WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast  Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 01:23 You Are Not Broken 02:24 The Four Part Desire Check In 02:53 Step 1: Is Your Body Pulling Away From Everyone or Just Him 03:51 What the Pattern Is Actually Telling You 04:26 Step 2: What Is Your Body Protecting You From 04:42 Emotional Safety and Unresolved Conflict 05:37 Burnout and the Mental Load 06:25 Unresolved Hurt and Resentment 08:12 Step 3: Rule Out Physical and Mental Health Factors 08:31 Hormones, Medications, and Your Nervous System 09:13 Step 4: Rebuild Safety Before You Rebuild Desire 09:34 Affection Without Expectation 10:56 The One Sentence to Start the Conversation 11:37 What Your Body Has Been Trying to Tell You Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can you love one person and still want someone else? Are you and your partner actually on the same page about your relationship rules, or just assuming you are? And is porn really the problem it gets blamed for? In this episode, we’re getting into the conversations couples rarely have out loud, because there’s no single “right” way to do a relationship. The goal is getting honest about your desires, your boundaries, and what you’ve actually agreed to together. If you’ve been assuming your partner agrees with you on things you’ve never actually talked about, or wondering whether porn is really the issue in your relationship, this one’s for you. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #Monogamy #RelationshipAdvice #Relationships ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 00:24 Why Non-Monogamy Is Everywhere Right Now 02:30 How Normal Is Non-Monogamy 04:15 I Crave Sex With Other Women When I Travel for Work 06:30 We've Been Together 20 Years and Want to Open Up 08:45 What to Talk About Before You Open Your Relationship 10:30 First Time Having Sex With a Woman 13:00 Go Slow, Stay Curious, Let Her Teach You 15:00 Why Do Women Get Mad When Men Watch Porn 17:30 When Porn Becomes a Relationship Problem 19:45 What Porn Really Brings Up and How to Talk About It 21:00 The Conversation You've Been Meaning to Have Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about the five lies about men and sex that might be quietly destroying your marriage… because most couples aren't fighting about sex. They're fighting about connection, rejection, and feeling unseen, and nobody ever gave them the language to say that out loud. In this episode I'm breaking down the five most harmful myths about male sexuality that I see playing out in long term relationships over and over again, from "he just wants sex" to "men don't take rejection personally." Once you see these lies for what they are, the dynamic between you can start to shift. I'm also giving you one conversation to have this week that can completely change how you and your partner understand each other. And the best part? You don't have to do a single thing you don't want to do to get there. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 01:21 Lie 1: His Whole Agenda Is Sex 02:45 Lie 2: Men Don't Need Emotional Intimacy 04:10 Lie 3: Men Are Always Ready for Sex 05:20 Lie 4: Sex Is Just Physical for Men 06:15 Lie 5: Men Don't Take Rejection Personally 07:45 The Cycle Nobody Talks About 08:30 Two Different Languages of Connection 09:00 Try This: Notice How He Reaches for Connection 10:05 Responsive Desire Explained 12:00 The One Conversation to Have This Week 13:30 Questions to Ask Each Other 14:30 What Couples Are Really Fighting About Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Chicago and Philadelphia showed up big for the Best Sex Ever tour, and I couldn't get to every question live. So here's the rest. We're getting into the real first move before opening up a marriage, what alcohol actually does to your libido, and why your body tightening up mid-sex is information, not a red flag. Plus how to ask for foreplay in a way that actually lands, the cuddle trap where touch always seems to lead to sex whether you want it to or not, and a low-pressure way into kink and BDSM if you're curious but nervous. Save sex with me, one city at a time. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #SexQuestions #LiveShow #Relationships Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@sexwithemilyofficial?sub_confirmation=1⁠ ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠ X: ⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠ TikTok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily⁠ Threads: ⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily⁠ WANT MORE? Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/guides/⁠ Text With Me: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text⁠ Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe⁠ Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply! This episode is sponsored by: Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Tour promo + coming up preview 00:54 Welcome back + tour recap 03:15 Opening up a marriage: where to start 07:38 Alcohol as an aphrodisiac 10:08 When your body tightens up during sex 12:18 Cuddling without it leading to sex 14:10 Building confidence to approach someone 16:57 How to actually ask for foreplay 19:17 Perineum & prostate pleasure explained 21:17 Getting into kink & BDSM safely 24:04 Closing + Nashville tour date I Answered 13 Pages of Your Sex Questions | Sex With Emily ⁠https://www.youtube.com/sexwithemily⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let's talk about what actually happens when desire disappears in a long term relationship… because most people assume their libido is just gone, or something is broken in their relationship, when the truth is usually something completely different. In this episode I'm breaking down how desire actually works, why spontaneous desire is mostly a myth for couples past the honeymoon phase, and the one simple 20 minute practice you can try this week to start feeling connected again without forcing anything. I'm also getting into the difference between duty sex and responsive desire, because those are not the same thing and confusing them is making a lot of people miserable. If you've ever thought something is wrong with you because you don't want sex the way you used to, this episode is for you. Spoiler: nothing is wrong with you. Your desire just works differently now. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #Cheating #Wisdom #Desire Don't miss a video! Subscribe NOW:  https://www.youtube.com/@SexWithEmilyOfficial?sub_confirmation=1  ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!    ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Intro 01:06 The Honeymoon Phase & Why It Naturally Fades 02:09 Desire Isn't Gone — It's Changed Shape 03:35 Who This Episode Is For (And Who It's Not For) 04:47 Duty Sex vs. Responsive Desire 06:07 Reading Your Body's Real "Yes" 06:49 How Couples Quietly Drift Into "Roommates" 07:46 What the Research Says About Sex & Satisfaction 10:32 Desire Isn't a Light Switch (The Date Night Example) 12:12 Why Responsive Desire Isn't "Lesser" Desire 12:53 What's Actually Blocking Your Desire 15:15 The 20-Minute No-Sex Connection Challenge 16:16 The Makeout Challenge & Closing Thoughts (TITLE) | Sex With Emily https://www.youtube.com/sexwithemily Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For 20 years, people have asked me the same questions: what's the best position, how do I get better oral sex, is anal sex supposed to hurt. And honestly? I still love answering those. But after two decades of doing this podcast, I've realized something. People rarely come to me with the real problem. Underneath the sex question, there's almost always shame, rejection, resentment, or the big one: "am I normal?" In this episode, I'm doing something I've never done before going back through 20 years of advice and telling you what I'd change. I'm a Doctor of Human Sexuality and I've talked to millions of people about their sex lives, and here's what I know now that I didn't then: "just communicate" isn't enough, "spice it up" doesn't fix resentment, spontaneous desire is mostly a myth for people in long-term relationships, and sleep and stress matter more than any toy in your nightstand. I'm breaking down the five pillars of sexual intelligence, why I think we're all obsessed with the wrong metrics, and what actually predicts great sex (hint: it's not technique). If you've ever wondered whether you're normal, this one's for you. You are. #SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #SexAdvice #SexualIntelligence #Relationships ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!    ============================= Chapters: 00:00 Intro 00:50 20 years of sex advice, updated 03:03 What's really underneath people's sex questions 05:46 Why "just communicate" isn't enough 07:18 "Spice it up" won't fix resentment 08:03 Rethinking "schedule sex" 08:18 Spontaneous desire vs. responsive desire 11:04 Sleep, stress, and your libido 14:16 You are not broken 14:58 The permission problem 15:38 Why perfect sex doesn't exist 20:01 Mastering yourself, not just technique Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices