When One Partner Isn't Future Focused

We finally made it back into the laundry room! No, we aren't relaunching the show, but we thought it would be fun to update our listeners and say a quick hello! Sending love to our FFP Family and hoping 2022 is off to a great start. - Kira and Deana

In today's final episode of Raising Adults, we remind you that you have all the tools you need to crush parenting and enjoy the journey as an FFP!   "We want you to know that you have all the tools you need to move forward without us!" - Kira Dorrian   "Intentionality comes from a strong why. If you know why you're doing what you're doing, it does make it easier to make those strong decisions that are best, rather than the ones that might be expedient or get the behavior you don’t like to stop. " - Deana Thayer   Today's final discussion includes:  Three Pillars of Future Focused Parenting Philosophy (2:25) FFP Discipline Philosophy (6:24) Importance of communication and collaboration as a team (7:29) Demonstrating responsibility and gaining more privileges (11:47) Kira shares final thoughts on working with Deana and what the podcast has meant to her (14:44) Deana shares her final thoughts on working with Kira and what the podcast has meant to her (16:12) New email address and reminder that the podcast and all 150 episodes will remain live for you to listen to anytime (20:02)   Thanks for joining us today on our final episode of Raising Adults. We have truly enjoyed being with you each week for the past 150+ episodes and are thankful for every one of you.    Just remember, you have all the tools you need.    Much love FFPs, Kira and Deana     Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Don’t forget our Blowout Sale happening now until 12/25! All our programs are $5 with the exception of the Flagship program that is $10. 

Kira and Deana share their decision to close Raising Adults Podcast and Future Focused Parenting. The final episode will air on Monday, December 13th. They also share details for the Future Focused Patrons and how to reach out for parent coaching in the future.

Sometimes after a recording has finished or an episode has aired, Kira and Deana realize that they have something they wish they had said. In today’s episode, they share those tidbits including a few extra ideas for talking about sex with kids, extra thoughts on peer pressure and more.   Today's discussion includes:  A few extra birds and the bees guidelines (3:12) The power of voting with your dollar and the power of boycotting (8:06) An extra tool for combating peer pressure (9:59) The story behind Kira's tattoo (13:25) Imposter syndrome with parenting (16:04) Favorite foods (22:03) If Deana hears this noise, she'll run for the hills (26:36) Kira can eat what in a soup bowl? (27:31)   Thanks for joining us today to look back at previous episodes and what we wished we would have said. Wasn't this a fun episode? Please come and share it with us on our social media and give us a follow! We would love to reach 1k followers on social media before the end of 2021.    Resources Mentioned  Talking With Kids About Sex  Teaching Kids About Social Justice  Kids and Peer Pressure  Tattoos, Piercings and Body Modifications  I Have A Question  What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?    Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.   Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong. 

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira break down the three types of consequences, how to use them, and when to use them. If you find yourself asking what's an appropriate consequence, this episode is for you.    "The design isn't to be punitive. The design is to help the world make sense because we are our children's teachers for how to navigate the world later on." - Deana Thayer   Today's discussion includes:  The importance of follow-through and meaning what you say (6:36) Empty threats lose power over time (7:36) First type: A Natural Consequence (9:52) Second type: A Logical Consequence (14:38) Third type: A Currency Consequence (19:24) Why experiencing these consequences in childhood help prepare kids for adulthood (26:04)   Thanks for joining us today for this great conversation about the three types of consequences. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media and give us a follow! We would love to reach 1k followers on social media before the end of 2021.    Resources Mentioned  Coaching Call - Beyond Video Games and Later Bedtimes - Thinking Outside the Box When Offering Age Appropriate Privileges    Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   We are doing a blowout sale before the end of the year. So if you have been wanting to get any of our online programs, we have many. This is the time to do it, because everything is on sale for $5, except our flagship program, which normally retails at $57, is on sale for 10. And everything else is five bucks.   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.   Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong. 

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira have the pleasure of chatting with Heather Chauvin, a leadership coach who helps overwhelmed, ambitious women become leaders at work and home while conquering their fears. She's also the host of the Mom Is In Control Podcast, where she reveals her most vulnerable truths about womanhood, marriage, parenting, living through stage four cancer, and running a successful business without burning out.   "Women walk around this earth pretending that they are robots, pretending that they don't matter. When you think about it, we probably take better care of our house plants than we do our bodies. We water the plants and we can't remember the last time we drank water." - Heather Chauvin   Today's discussion includes:  Why Heather does this work (2:37) How Heather had to recalibrate after her diagnosis (8:02) When our behavior is really about feeling in control (15:12) Noticing our resistance, fear and guilt (21:10) The importance of remembering that we are our child’s teacher (27:59)   Thanks for joining us today for this great conversation with Heather. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media!   Connect with Heather Chauvin Instagram  Facebook  Mom Is In Control Podcast  Website  Dying To Be A Good Mother Dying To Be A Good Mother's Action-Plan Workbook    Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.   Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong. 

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira dive into how we as parents handle and cope with our kids being different from us.    "We don't need a melting pot in this country, folks. We need a salad bowl. In a salad bowl, you put in the different things. You want the vegetables, the lettuce, the cucumbers, the onions, the green peppers to maintain their identity. You appreciate differences." - Jane Elliot   Today's discussion includes:  Why we're talking about this (5:35) What this looks like in Deana's home (7:17) Coping with differences in Kira's home (11:35) Something not being handled well vs. a different way of doing something (14:00) Leaning into the differences (16:45) Unpacking where the issue is actually our own (19:06) What are we modeling for our kids (25:19)   Thanks for joining us today for another important topic. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media!   Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.   Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong. 

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira are back with an important topic: teaching kids about social justice. Because she is not a DEI educator, Kira shares who she is learning from and what the application looks like in her home.   "We cannot help the next generation to dismantle racism, challenge racial inequality, and imagine an America of inclusion, if we, as white parents, do not openly discuss the oppression and injustices that are inherent in the very design of our country, which was established by white men who believed that they were the superior race." - Elisabeth Lepine   Today's discussion includes:  Appropriate vs. inappropriate resources (6:22) Apron Education and Read Like a Rock Star Teaching (7:46) The Conscious Kid, Little Justice Leaders and Brownicity (10:01) The framework Kira uses in her house (11:56) Modeling action and helping kids learn to take action (19:34) How to talk about the complexities and when we get it wrong (23:11) Accept the discomfort - if we're not educating ourselves, we're not doing the work (25:36) Gracefully receiving feedback so we can do better (29:09)   Thanks for joining us today for this important topic. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media!   Resources Mentioned  Read Like a Rock Star Teaching Website  Read Like a Rock Star Instagram   Apron Education Website   Apron Education Instagram Unpack Your Impact    We Need Diverse Books Website   We Need Diverse Books Instagram      The Conscious Kid Website   The Conscious Kid Instagram    Little Justice Leaders Website   Little Justice Leaders Instagram    Brownicity Website  Brownicity Instagram      Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.   Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong. 

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira tackle a listener question: What do you do if you are in a parenting team and your partner isn't future focused or doesn't want to be?    "It is important that everybody feels seen and heard, but that also that we feel satisfied with the job that we're doing as parents." - Kira Dorrian.   "It's not saying that the way the other parent is doing it is wrong. It's just saying, 'Hey, this happens to be important to me, so I'll put those systems in place and help make sure they happen.'" - Deana Thayer   Today's discussion includes:  The need for foundational tools (5:54) You can parent together even if you don't agree (8:21) Deciding that you both want to parent well (11:59) Making sure we are not undermining our partner or other households (17:15) A practical example of how this might look (18:14) The flip side of that example (19:13) Takeaways from today's episode (20:13)   Thanks for joining us today as we tackled this fantastic listener question. What was your biggest takeaway? Please come and share it with us on our social media!   Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.   Our show cannot run without listeners like you! Join us over on Patreon to become a Future Focused Patron. Just $5 a month keeps Raising Adults going strong.   

In today's episode of Raising Adults, Deana and Kira dive into the three pillars of the Future Focused Parenting Philosophy and how it can be applied to all of your parenting journey.   "Be proactive wherever you can be because we want those curveballs to be the exception and not the rule ." - Kira Dorrian.   "If you have a strong enough why, you can tolerate almost any how." - Jillian Michaels   Today's discussion includes:  Pillar 1: Figure Out Your Why (5:44) Pillar 2: Uphold Your Family Values (10:23) Should children be involved in the conversation about family values? (13:51) Pillar 3: Take a Proactive Approach (16:56) How to be proactive (19:23) Proactive discussions on discipline (26:13) Thanks for joining us today as we shared the three pillars of the Future Focused Parenting philosophy. What was your biggest takeaway? Share it with us on our social media!   Huge thanks to our sponsor: The Cozi App!   Cozi is the #1 organizing app that families use to juggle school schedules, practices, meetings, doctor's appointments and even a work out or date night. The shared grocery list lets the whole family add items in real time, and you'll never find yourself at the store without the list - it's always on your phone and up to date. The best part? It's all FREE in Cozi. Just download Cozi from the app store to get the free app today!   Resources Mentioned The Importance of a Strong Why episode  Figuring Out Your Family's Value episode Newsletter sign-up  Webinar    Thanks for joining us on today's episode of Raising Adults! If you enjoyed today's episode, please head over to iTunes, give us 5 stars, and leave a review to help us reach even more Future Focused Parents. Don't forget to check out our website, visit us on Facebook, or hang out with us on Instagram, to stay up-to-date on what's in store for you.