Mel Robbins Explains Why You’re Losing Friends + How to Stop Self-Sabotage

This week on Pretty Basic, we’re catching you up on everything—because life lately has been A LOT and we are officially in the thick of Vlogmas.Alisha opens up about some personal health updates, including hormone levels, fertility and recent heart and gut findings, and how it’s all been impacting her day-to-day. She also shares what her family has been going through as her dad deals with ongoing pain and hearing loss—and why Christmas is going to look a little different this year.We also address the Zalisha rumors head-on (yes, that), talk about Zane spending the holidays with Alisha, and dive into some very Vlogmas-coded moments—including Zara Larsson, a surprising Smosh run-in, and of course… the chaos that is H-Mart gate.It’s a cozy, honest catch-up episode filled with real life—physically, emotionally, and everything in between—sprinkled with behind-the-scenes stories and a little holiday chaos. Grab your favorite festive drink and come hang with us 🤍🎄✨SponsorsVIVRELLE: Go to https://www.vivrelle.com and apply for a membership today using code PRETTYBASIC for your first month of membership FREE - the code will also allow you to skip the Vivrelle waitlist.CASAMIGOS: Sign up for Casamigos email updates to join the House of Friends, get hosting inspiration, and enjoy $5 off your first Casamigos order on TheBar.com. Just head to https://Casamigos.com to sign up to join the House of Friends and get $5 off your first Casamigos order on TheBar.com this hollday. AG1: Head to https://www.drinkag1.com/prettybasic you’ll get the welcome kit, a Morning Person hat, a bottle of Vitamin D3+K2, a AG1 Flavor Sampler and you’ll get to try their new sleep supplement AGZ for free. COLUMBIA: Head to https://columbia.com to get your hands on an Amaze Puff jacket—they’re tough on cold, soft on you.SKIMS: Shop our favorite pajamas at https://SKIMS.com and if you’re looking for the perfect gifts for everyone on your list - the SKIMS Holiday Shop is now open at https://SKIMS.com.SHOPIFY: Go to https://shopify.com/basicFACEBOOK: Let's reconnect this holiday season with Facebook. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today on Pretty Basic, we are joined by the ICONIC Mel Robbins — best-selling author, motivational powerhouse, and host of one of the top (and we mean TOP) podcasts in the world.Mel breaks down what the Let Them Theory actually is, how to use it, and how your perception of control might actually be ruling your life. She dives into the million little things you don’t need to hold onto, the daily habits that transform your energy, and the single most valuable insight you NEED to know to become the best version of you.And by the end… you’ll understand exactly why you (and your mother) really need to read this book!The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About by Mel Robbins - https://www.melrobbins.com/book/the-let-them-theory/Follow Mel:https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast/https://www.youtube.com/@melrobbins/videosSponsors::CHASE: Head to Chase.com/holidayscams for tips, tools, and resources to help keep your finances safe.THE REALREAL: Get $25 off your first purchase when you go to TheRealReal.com/basicCASAMIGOS: Sign up for Casamigos email updates to join the House of Friends, get hosting inspiration, and enjoy $5 off your first Casamigos order on TheBar.com. Just head to Casamigos.com to sign up to join the House of Friends and get $5 off your first Casamigos order on TheBar.com this hollday.SHOPIFY: Go to shopify.com/basicGOOGLE SHOPPING: #sponsored Shop the 100 products that made our year by visiting g.co/shop/holiday100FACEBOOK: Let's reconnect this holiday season with Facebook.SQUARE: Right now, you can get up to $200 off Square hardware at square.com/go/prettybasicSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We’re fresh out of the theater and giving our honest thoughts on Wicked Part 2 — the moments we loved, the moments we loathed, and everything in between (because you know we’re not holding back).We’re also spilling on the iconic — and super rare — present we got from the Wicked team that quite literally made us gasp. Plus, Remi shares her full-circle fangirl-turned-friendship moment that proves magic is very real.Grab your broomstick (or your latte) and buckle up — it’s a wickedly good episode. ✨Sponsors: FACEBOOK: Let's reconnect this holiday season with Facebook. SKIMS: Shop our favorite pajamas at SKIMS.com and if you’re looking for the perfect gifts for everyone on your list - the SKIMS Holiday Shop is now open at SKIMS.com.CASAMIGOS: Sign up for Casamigos email updates to join the House of Friends, get hosting inspiration, and enjoy $5 off your first Casamigos order on TheBar.com. Just head to Casamigos.com to sign up to join the House of Friends and get $5 off your first Casamigos order on TheBar.com this holiday.COLUMBIA: Head to columbia.com to get your hands on an Amaze Puff jacket—they’re tough on cold, soft on you.RAKUTEN: Start all your holiday shopping at rakuten.com or get the Rakuten app to start saving today! Join today for a new member welcome bonus after minimum qualifying purchases. Terms and conditions apply. Your Cash Back really adds up!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We are BACK with Cal for Part 2 of the honeymoon extravaganza — and this week, Remi and Cal take us through their Korean adventures: from Remi fully fangirling over a pop star on their flight to tracking down the legendary street-market vendor Cal discovered years ago on YouTube.Cal shares his absolute dream day at a Korean head spa, finally reveals his color analysis results, and dives into the newest trend: body analysis.We get into Korean mall culture, why Baskin Robbins is elite in Seoul and all the Korean-owned brands they fell in love with. Then Remi and Cal hop on a bullet train to Pocheon, where they ultimately discover… their new favorite Korean city?!Plus: why Remi’s taking progesterone, Alisha calling in from Tokyo with her own travel tea, and of course — their must-try Korean BBQ spot. Sponsors: GOOGLE SHOPPING: #sponsored Shop the 100 products that made our year by visiting g.co/shop/holiday100CHASE: Head to Chase.com/holidayscams for tips, tools, and resources to help keep yourfinances safe.SHOPIFY: Go to shopify.com/basicCOTTON: Learn more at TheFabricOfOurLives.comFACEBOOK: Let's reconnect this holiday season with Facebook.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Guess who’s BACK and more unhinged than ever? We are finally reunited — Remi fresh off her honeymoon and Alisha fresh off the brand trip she was not invited to… so she just crashed it instead. Cal joins the chaos to help recap everything that’s gone down since we were last together, starting with Remi’s honeymoon in Hawaii including where slowing down was harder than expected, We’re talking: unexpected emergencies, the now-legendary pool boy moment, a dramatic room swap, and a good-luck sign that may or may not hint to the future. Meanwhile, Alisha shares the chaotic saga of her self-appointed “brand trip”: starting with a Bentley, to her adventures in Kyoto, wild fog machines, the noodle incident, and her pretty epic inner monologue that kepts us all entertained. . She also opens up about mid-flight scare — and why she’s decided this is officially someone else’s problem.Sponsors: CASAMIGOS: Sign up for Casamigos email updates to join the House of Friends, get hosting inspiration, and enjoy $5 off your first Casamigos order on TheBar.com. Just head to Casamigos.com to sign up to join the House of Friends and get $5 off your first Casamigos order on TheBar.com this Friendsgiving.SKIMS: Shop our favorite pajamas at SKIMS.com and if you’re looking for the perfect gifts for everyone on your list - the SKIMS Holiday Shop is now open at SKIMS.com.CHASE: Head to Chase.com/holidayscams for tips, tools, and resources to help keep your finances safe.THEREALREAL: Get $25 off your first purchase when you go to TheRealReal.com/basicCOLUMBIA: Head to columbia.com to get your hands on an Amaze Puff jacket—they’re tough on cold, soft on you.FACEBOOK: Let's reconnect this holiday season with Facebook. RAKUTEN: Start all your holiday shopping at rakuten.com or get the Rakuten app to start saving today! Join today for a new member welcome bonus after minimum qualifying purchases. Terms and conditions apply. Your Cash Back really adds up!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode includes discussions of domestic violence, addiction, and heavy mental health topics. Please listen with care or feel free to skip if these topics are triggering for you. This week’s guest is a Pretty Basic legend in her own right — Alisha’s mom, Chris! From being told “girls don’t play drums” to booking professional gigs at 15, she’s been proving people wrong since day one. Chris opens up about being adopted and the powerful phrase she’s lived by: “I was selected, not expected.” We get into it all — nature vs. nurture, panic attacks, faith, and the journey that made Mama Marie the powerhouse she is today.This episode is full of those “ohhh that’s where Alisha gets it from” moments. Stay till the end to hear the rockstar Momma Marie in action— with clips of her jamming on the drums.Sponsors: VIVRELLE: Go to vivrelle.com and apply for a membership today using code PRETTYBASIC for your first month of membership FREE - the code will also allow you to skip the Vivrelle waitlist.SHOPIFY: Go to shopify.com/basic.CASAMIGOS: Head to tinyurl.com/margsandmargs for your own Casamigos Margs & Margs Pairing Guide todayTHE REALREAL: -- Get $25 off your first purchase when you go to TheRealReal.com/basicCOLUMBIA: Head to columbia.com to get your hands on an Amaze Puff jacket—they’re tough on cold, soft on you.FACEBOOK: Let's reconnect this holiday season with Facebook.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, Alisha sits down with her new roommate (and actress you definitely know), Greer Grammer! 💕 The two spill all about how they met, their first impressions, and what it’s really like living together. From Greer’s ex breaking up with her just two days before Valentine’s Day and her birthday (ouch 😭) to their shared sense of humor and chaotic energy — this one feels like a true girls’ night in.Greer opens up about growing up with a single mom, not meeting her dad until she was 16, and how she found her way into acting long before knowing her Hollywood roots. The girls also chat about Greer’s time on MTV’s Awkward, starring in Netflix’s #1 movie Deadly Illusions, and what she’s working on now — which might surprise you 👀.Follow Greer on Socials! https://www.instagram.com/greer_grammer/?hl=enhttps://www.tiktok.com/@greer_grammer?lang=enSponsorsAG1: Head to DRINKAG1.com/PRETTYBASIC to get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2, when you first subscribe!SKIMS: If you’re looking for the perfect gifts for everyone on your list - the SKIMS Holiday Shop is now open at SKIMS.com/prettybasic and shop favorite pajamas.FACEBOOK: Let's reconnect this holiday season with Facebook.CUROLOGY: Curology is giving Pretty Basic listeners a special link to try DayPrimeRx for FREE when you subscribe, just pay $5.45 shipping and handling! To claim this offer, go to curology.com/prettybasic to take Curology’s skin quiz! In just a few minutes, you’ll share your current skin concerns and a few photos with a Curology dermatology provider who will create a personalized treatment plan tailored to your unique skin goals. This will include DayPrimeRx if it’s right for your unique skin! Go to curology.com/prettybasic to get your first bottle of DayPrimeRx for FREE when you subscribe, all you need to pay is $5.45 shipping and handling. Restrictions apply. See website for full details and important safety information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, we’re joined by the one and only Thuy 🤍 (and today is her birthday!)We get real about everything — from growing up Vietnamese in the Bay Area, navigating family expectations, and learning to be proud of who you are… to becoming the first Vietnamese solo artist to perform at Coachella (!!)We talk about:The rumors that started at Remi's bacheloretteCultural pressures + wanting to make your parents proudFinding confidence when you don’t feel “good enough”That Coachella moment people still talk aboutAnd the very important story of the swallowed tooth gemThis is one of those heart-hug, laugh-til-you-cry, feels-like-family episodes.So grab a matcha and come hang with us! 💗Follow ThuyInstagram: https://instagram.com/thuymusicTikTok: https://tiktok.com/@thuymusicYouTube: https://lnk.thuymusic.com/subscribeYTWebsite: https://www.thuymusic.com/Stream ThuySpotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/3R80OE4RViOWbnuvqh0j8aApple Music: https://music.apple.com/mm/artist/th%E1%BB%A7y/935348123Sponsors:VIVRELLE: Go to https://www.vivrelle.com and apply for a membership today using code PRETTYBASIC for your first month of membership FREE - the code will also allow you to skip the Vivrelle waitlist.OSEA: Get healthy, glowing skin for summer with clean, vegan skin and body care from OSEA. Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code PRETTYBASIC at https://OSEAMalibu.com You’ll get free samples with every order, and free shipping on orders over $50.FACEBOOK: Let's reconnect this holiday season with Facebook.CASAMIGOS: Just head to https://tinyurl.com/margsandmargs for your own Casamigos Margs & Margs Pairing Guide todayCOLUMBIA: Head to https://columbia.com to get your hands on an Amaze Puff jacket—they’re tough on cold, soft on you.CUROLOGY: Curology is giving Pretty Basic listeners a special link to try DayPrimeRx for FREE when you subscribe, just pay $5.45 shipping and handling! To claim this offer, go to https://curology.com/prettybasic to take Curology’s skin quiz! In just a few minutes, you’ll share your current skin concerns and a few photos with a Curology dermatology provider who will create a personalized treatment plan tailored to your unique skin goals. This will include DayPrimeRx if it’s right for your unique skin! Go to https://curology.com/prettybasic to get your first bottle of DayPrimeRx for FREE when you subscribe, all you need to pay is $5.45 shipping and handling. Restrictions apply. See website for full details and important safety information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, Remi’s going solo and getting real about everything she’s been navigating lately — from where she’s at mentally to how she handles negative comments now versus back in the day. She opens up about her ongoing hormonal journey, gives an update from her latest doctor visit (where she got an ultrasound to actually see what’s going on), and breaks down what PCOS really looks like behind the scenes — physically, emotionally, and hormonally.Remi also shares what a pregnancy plan looks like when you have PCOS, what she needs to prep for, her thoughts on when she wants to have babies, and whether she’s still on a GLP-1. Plus, she gets candid about the frustrations of being a woman and how she’s learning to navigate influencer drama and friendship breakups without breeding negativity.It’s honest, raw, and so Remi — you won’t want to miss it.Preorder Remi’s Cookbook, Let’s Get Cooking, by clicking here!Sponsors:SQUARE: Right now, you can get up to $200 off Square hardware at square.com/go/prettybasicFUNCTION HEALTH: Learn more and join using our link. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their membership. Visit www.functionhealth.com/BASIC or use gift code BASIC100 at sign-up to own your health.CASAMIGOS: Hosting your next watch party? Discover the Casamigos Margs & Margs Pairing Guide—packed with margarita recipes and pizza pairings perfect for every game day get-together. Just head to tinyurl.com/margsandmargs for your own Casamigos Margs & Margs Pairing Guide.CUROLOGY: Curology is giving Pretty Basic listeners a special link to try DayPrimeRx for FREE when you subscribe, just pay $5.45 shipping and handling!To claim this offer, go to curology.com/prettybasic to take Curology’s skin quiz!In just a few minutes, you’ll share your current skin concerns and a few photos with a Curology dermatology provider who will create a personalized treatment plan tailored to your unique skin goals. This will include DayPrimeRx if it’s right for your unique skin!Go to curology.com/prettybasic to get your first bottle of DayPrimeRx for FREE when you subscribe, all you need to pay is $5.45 shipping and handling.Restrictions apply. See website for full details and important safety information.COTTON: Learn more at TheFabricOfOurLives.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Straight from New York City, Remi and Cal are catching you up on their recent travels — from their Midwest adventures in Wisconsin (yes, there were cheese curds involved) to the whirlwind reason they’re in NYC right now and their upcoming Honeymoon! It was a Midwest wedding weekend that had it all — think: beer you can only get in Wisconsin, a venue fiasco straight out of a rom-com, and yes… a missing wedding gift. After all, you can take the guy out of Wisconsin, but you can’t take Wisconsin out of the guy!They chat about Cal’s upcoming color analysis in Korea (place your bets on his color palette in the comments 👀), his signature “pink-ness,” and what it’s really like being part of a bridal party when it’s family — versus just being a guest. Plus, Remi opens up about scheduling “chill time” on their honeymoon, loving a fully booked calendar, and what she’s hooked on now that she’s finished Scandal.Sponsors: COLUMBIA: Head to Columbia.com to get your hands on an Amaze Puff jacket — they’retough on cold, soft on you.CASAMIGOS: Hosting your next watch party? Discover the Casamigos Margs & Margs Pairing Guide—packed with margarita recipes and pizza pairings perfect for every game day get-together. Just head to tinyurl.com/margsandmargs for your own Casamigos Margs & Margs Pairing Guide. AUDIBLE: Listen to the new Pride and Prejudice at audible.com/janeausten.FUNCTION: Visit www.functionhealth.com/BASIC or use gift code BASIC100 at sign-up to ownyour health. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their membership.RITUAL: Get 25% off your first month, only at ritual.com/PRETTYBASIC.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.