60: Must Haves

Parent Driven Development Episode 067: Goodbye, for now. 1:00 Parent Driven Development reflects on what it’s like being a panelist on the podcast Imposter syndrome Multiple purposes to be an effective parent Expanding perspectives, ideas, and parenting techniques Ability to relate with one another 8:40 What we hope to our listeners take away from the podcast There is no one way to parent You’ll continue to grow as a parent You are not alone - every parent, kid, family, circumstances are different 13:30 What would we have done differently? Earlier sponsorship Episode format 16:15 Parting words for listeners Thank you!! You’re doing a great job. 17:17 Final genius and fail moments Chris Sexton’s daughter uses the word arithmetic with her peers, but no one knows the word leading her to question whether her parents played a prank on her. Allison calms down her family with deep breathing after her daughter has a potty accident. KWu’s 3-year-old son feels super proud after helping shovel the snow, and he helped! Chris Arcand finds the perfect snow sled for his son to be towed around in the deep Minnesota snow. How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at [email protected] (mailto:[email protected]). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p)

Parent Driven Development 66: Finding a new job during the pandemic. Welcome, Jean Hsu! Jean Hsu (https://twitter.com/jyhsu) is a writer, coach, and software engineer turned leadership coach after working for a decade in Silicon Valley. She is the VP of engineering at Range Labs (https://www.range.co/) and Co-founder of Co Leadership (https://coleadership.com/), which focuses on filling the gaps in leadership development in the tech industry. Jean doesn’t miss writing code, but she does miss deleting it. 0:53 Finding a new job during the pandemic Desire strikes for leadership The hiring process 5:20 How did the pandemic change your thought process Intentionality of specific desires - management, leadership, flexibility Enjoying the journey rather than letting comparison or stress take over 7:30 What would Jean do differently now? Finding ways to lean into async communication with a remote team in different time zones, while keeping the team engaged and connected with each other Hybrid mix of in-person and remote is the future for companies 13:13 Pre-pandemic commute tales Feels like a different lifetime 15:40 New expectations for Range during the pandemic Getting rid of the 9-5; windowed work with colored labels Core hours for team meetings Setting boundaries 19:40 Genius and fail moments KWu closed her son’s fingers between a door hinge… #fail Allison’s daughter turns 3 and shines at her yearly doctor's appointment. #genius Jean downloaded TikTok and discovered the best parenting hack to tell your kids to do a task, rather than ask. #genius Chris brings back his daughter's love of Star Wars. #genius How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at [email protected] (mailto:[email protected]). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Chris Sexton (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Special Guest: Jean Hsu.

Parent Driven Development Episode 065: Teaching Programming to Kids with Felienne Welcome, Felienne! Felienne (https://twitter.com/Felienne) is the creator of the Hedy programming language, and was one of the founders of the Joy of Coding conference. Since 2016, she has been a host at SE radio, one of the most popular software engineering podcasts on the web. Felienne is the author of “The Programmer’s Brain (https://www.felienne.com/book)” a book that helps programmers understand how their brains work and how to use it more effectively. In 2021, Felienne was awarded the Dutch Prize for ICT research. 0:50 How does Felienne become interested in programming education? Research field towards programming education Love of kids 3:33 Methods and strategies to help kids understand Relevant for professionals Full concentration disables full memory, so she lowers the cognitive load After time, memory starts to build and functioning increases 6:02 Maximizing different learning styles in kids Learn their preferences Challenges their default learning style 9:57 Felienne’s new book How people learn programming The more information you know about your brain can help you understand how you learn 11:40 Interesting findings Cognitive load 14:00 Top tips related to programming Refactoring for personal comprehension Let go of one golden standard that code is suppose to look like 17:29 Specific differences between professionals and kids Motivation Concrete vs open ended expression 20:50 - 1 take away Take the kids hands, and guide them 22:20 Allison and her husband score a few days each solo as they transition back into their home #genius Felienne’s students fuss over the different symbols of division in coding #fail How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at [email protected] (mailto:[email protected]). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Special Guest: Felienne Hermans.

Parent Driven Development Episode 064: Moving and Renovating 0:30 Moving and renting realities KWu moves Allison’s home renovations Preparation before the kids 4:30 Toys Ethical parenting of getting rid of toys Hiding and cleaning out old toys from the kids (out of sight out of mind) 10:05 Establishing new house rules Setting realistic expectations on new floors, new rooms, new finishes Furniture socks (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SD38SGV/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1&pldnSite=1) Furniture caster cups (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07RQMYMKW/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1&pldnSite=1) Respect and Take Care of Things (https://www.amazon.com/Respect-Take-Things-Learning-Along%C2%AE/dp/1575421607) Learning to get along book series (https://www.freespirit.com/series/learning-to-get-along/) 18:35 Caution police in new house Acceptance is key Roommates with no impulse control.. your kids. ;) 22:40 Genius and fail moments KWu’s kids got into some old and slimy carrots meant for the compost.. But at least they’re eating vegetables! Allison’s son gets shut down from her parenting synchronicity with her husband. How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at [email protected] (mailto:[email protected]). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p)

Parent Driven Development Episode 063: Fear in Parenting 0:40 Fear and stress of parenting From independent… to having dependents Trends of becoming more conservative once a parent 2:50 Decision making process High alert, more burden than non-parents Different decisions and problems at different stages of the kids Background buzz of constant anxiety 6:40 Different stresses Physical dangers for smaller kids, choking hazards Trying to avoid helicopter parenting Screen interest, programming, and patience 10:55 Big anxieties Screen time !! Constant worry and stress for modern parents with kids Augmenting reality through screens - stress for middle school aged parents How to foster new sibling relationships Siblings Without Rivalry (https://www.amazon.com/Siblings-Without-Rivalry-Children-Together/dp/0393342212) - book How to avoid middle child syndrome with three kids, carve out alone time with each child Feeling guilty to tell kids to play by themselves.. But it’s also important to learn 21:35 Genius and fail moments from the last week KWu moves to a new house and her son is waking every night from terrors or feeling too cold as she’s been keeping the thermostat down real low. #fail Jess’s son is a pretty adventurous eater and recently discovered balsamic vinegar which is now a new favorite! #genius Chris makes biscuits and conjures a family night which turned into a great family time. #genius How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at [email protected] (mailto:[email protected]). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Jess (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl)

Parent Driven Development 062: Celebrating Our Favorite Episodes from the past 3 Years! Episode Highlights KWu, Chris, Josh, and Allison reflect on the past 3-years of podcasting. They touch on their favorite episodes and guests over the years, as well as some favorite parenting genius and fail moments! 1:30 Episode 43 - Managing parents on your team with Nick Means 3:10 Episode 19 - Being Adults, Live from Ruby Conf with Jonan Scheffler 7:25 Episode 11 - Being a Trans-Parent with Jess Szmajda 10:35 Episode 26 - Breastfeeding with Allison, Mandy, and KWu 13:06 Episode 13 - Babies at Work Program with Leah Silber 14:38 Episode 39 - Parenting Roles and Gender Equity with Richard Schneeman 15:50 Episode 34 - Extracurricular Activities with Barrett Clark 18:18 Episode 20 - Fertility Struggles with Adam Cuppy 19:55 Josh's rememberable genuis and fail moments 22:40 Genius / fails Allison questions herself as a parent due to a Hanukkah gift gone wrong Josh bans Elf on Shelf and his daughter starts to question Santa Claus Chris nails the Christmas lights on his son’s bed.. But then begins to question everything when he begins to struggle getting his son out of the car to go to school. KWu and her son enjoy a fresh snowfall! How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at [email protected] (mailto:[email protected]). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Josh (https://twitter.com/joshpuetz) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton)

Ep 61 : DHH on being Internet Famous with Kids 1:48 Welcome, DHH (https://twitter.com/dhh) David (https://dhh.dk/) is the creator of Ruby on Rails, cofounder & CTO at Basecamp, best-selling author, Le Mans class-winning racing driver, frequent podcast guest, and family man. 2:50 Security concerns Social Media COVID times Parenting boundaries 13:45 Privacy Picture surplus Authenticity 16:45 Engagement with parenting on the web The highlight parenting reel Avoid the humble brag as a parent Internet jousts DHH recommended books: The Myth of the Spoiled Child (https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Spoiled-Child-Challenging-Conventional/dp/0738217247/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1609190913&sr=8-1) - Alfie Kohn Punished by Rewards (https://www.amazon.com/Punished-Rewards-Trouble-Incentive-Praise/dp/0618001816) - Alfie Kohn * The Self-Driven Child (https://www.amazon.com/Self-Driven-Child-Science-Giving-Control/dp/0735222517) - Ned Johnson 26:30 Introducing privileges to his kids Capitalism Against artificial constraints placed on by parents A life not centered around materialism The Road To Wigan Pier (https://www.amazon.com/Road-Wigan-Pier-George-Orwell/dp/0156767503) - George Orwell 38:38 Genius / Fails Arit makes a crib boundary with a creative new upcycle KWu wrestles with a photo book for her kids Chris fails on fail this week DHH is off by an hour as his kids come home right as this podcast starts Allison’s daughter challenges her patience during bed time How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at [email protected] (mailto:[email protected]). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton) Arit (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Special Guest: David Heinemeier Hansson .

Ep 60 : Must Haves for Parents Facebook Rabbit Holes for Parents + Kid Toys Subculture for wooden toys The Nugget couch (https://nuggetcomfort.com/products/the-nugget) Parents become hyper focused on specific products Careful what your Google How to choose your Facebook groups The Social Dilemma (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaaC57tcci0) Social media groups are "bad"/addicting, but also useful.. Geo-fencing - creating fairer ways for international purchases The lottery Lucie's List (https://www.lucieslist.com/) Pandemic toys for the New Year More pressure for parents Moms targeted mostly in the Facebook Groups Marketing kids toys with trigger language: “Investment piece” Parents: You are doing a GREAT job. Genius / Fails KWu tries to rotate out toys and clothes for her son, but things aren’t going well. Allison smoothly close out virtual Ruby conf while managing multiple interruptions from her kids How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at [email protected] (mailto:[email protected]). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p)

Parent Driven Development 059: Hiring and Interviewing Jess, Chris S, and Allison discuss the hiring and interviewing process in tech. They share their experience as the interviewee, as well as the interviewer. The team identifies the underlying bias in the process, good signs and bad signs, and why it's important to set up a potential interviewee in the best environment possible. 01:45 Hiring and Interviewing in tech Jess writes a book and gets a new job How to reduce bias in interviewing process 03:33 Tech interviews hinder parents and caregivers Take-home vs pairing session Hiring managers should set up the interviewee in the best possible scenario 6-8 hours for a take-home test, unrealistic for caregivings 09:50 How to access talent Everyway is flawed Take-home - kids constantly interrupting Paired - many engineers are introverted Solutions: Short at-home mixed with pairing, or problem prompt 13:30 Bias How to reduce: rubric for every round, being aware of the bias Allison asks about parental leave, and feels the tone shift drastically Legal protection, but a lot of fuzzy areas 16:45 Good signs for parents interviewing Its a non-event when a child pops into the room while on a call Companies reward evenly Talk with team members outside the interviewing committee Talk with someone you relate to on the team, mom, trans, BIPOC, etc 20:30 Bad signs for parents interviewing The entire tone changes after asking about parental leave.. Judgmental, leadership team of non-parents 22:00 Handing flexibility Ask about parental leave, primary and secondary leave Be honest with needs Workplace flexibility 28:37 Genius / fail Jess deals with her son having accidents constantly Chris and his kids play board games and jam out to all songs names satellite Allison’s daughter sparks chaos when she leaves her room after bedtime… but soon learns to stay in her room to tire herself out. How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at [email protected] (mailto:[email protected]). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Jess (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) Chris S (https://twitter.com/crsexton)

Parent Driven Development Episode 058: Co-parenting with Brandon Hays Welcome Brandon! Brandon Hays (https://twitter.com/tehviking) is a dad and engineering leader based in Austin, TX. His professional mission is to help the tech industry improve by organizing people to accomplish things together in environments that recognize and support their "human-ness". His personal mission is to survive parenthood until the kids are in college. 02:40 Brandon's co-parenting Starting with traditional gender roles Co-parenting was a foriegn concept until remote work.. The invisible work becomes more visible Covid has forced parents to confront the amount of work it takes to raise kids 06:30 Co-parenting during the pandemic Awareness that things changed… kids cannot return to school Brandon becomes the educator during the pandemic The amount of work to parent became too high when everything shut down Reworking the home dynamic when one partner needs help Asking for flexibility in places where he had previous thought was not available before 10:53 Working out responsibility between partners Clear contracts Splitting up tasks and making them known to each partner Alternating cooking dinner and clean up Family clean day Creating activities for kids, even after a long day Check in with your partner, how are you feeling burden? 14:05 Recognize your partner's strengths Being comfortable with how each partner co-parents Recognition of each partner Optimize each parenting style and continue to check in Asking and taking the self-care when it is needed 17:30 Working together 19:10 How has Covid refocused things?! Strengthened the team mentality Hard to sustain the intensity of the pandemic Constant change, the on-call parent 24:40 Prioritization - Do our actions line up with our values? 27:00 Take away: preserve time for planning and reflection 28:35 Genius / fail moments Allison checks in while her son is in virtual school and feels major mom guilt… Chris’s family visits and brings his camper for a huge win! Arit slyly phases out her daughters stuffed animal #genius Jess’s son goes full into minecraft, but it may be too much.. #possiblegenius KWu repurposed geotags for wooden toys for her kids #genius Brandon get creative taking pictures of his kids in their natural habitat How can I support the podcast? Please follow us @parentdrivendev (https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev) on Twitter or email us at [email protected] (mailto:[email protected]). Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com (https://parentdrivendevelopment.com). Chris Arcand (https://twitter.com/chrisarcand) Jess (https://twitter.com/jszmajda) Arit (https://twitter.com/AritAmana) Allison (https://twitter.com/allie_p) KWu (https://twitter.com/kwugirl) Special Guest: Brandon Hays.