People-Pleasers — If You're Afraid to Stand Up for Yourself, Do THIS to Speak Up Without the Fear of Losing the People You Love With Africa Brooke

Has anyone ever doubted something you were excited about? Have you ever felt judged for trying something different? Today, Jay opens up about one of the most painful yet common experiences: feeling unsupported, unseen, or misunderstood by the people closest to us. He unpacks the psychology behind why others often don’t believe in us, highlighting the “false consensus effect” and the tendency for others to anchor us to who we used to be. But Jay reminds us this isn’t a flaw in our vision, it’s a sign that we’re ahead of the curve.  Jay also dives deep into how true confidence is built—not before we begin, but because we begin. He shares why strangers may become your strongest supporters, how to use resistance as a tool for growth, and why failing in public can be a powerful connector. From the competence-confidence loop to the importance of staying grounded in purpose rather than revenge, Jay outlines seven transformational shifts that can help anyone move from self-doubt to self-trust. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Keep Going When No One Believes in You How to Stop Seeking Approval How to Build Confidence Through Action How to Handle Unsupportive Friends and Family How to Prove Yourself Right Instead of Proving Others Wrong No matter where you are in your journey, whether you’re just starting out, stuck in the middle, or feeling like giving up, remember this: you don’t need everyone to believe in you. You just need to believe in yourself enough to take the next step. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:50 #1: Stop Pitching, Start Proving 06:54 #2: Rejection is Often a Protection 11:59 #3: Use Doubt as a Focus Filter 16:33 #4: Strangers are More Likely to Support You 21:15 #5: Create Before You're Confident 25:20 #6: Make Failure Public Strategically 28:08 #7: Focus on Proving Yourself RightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What makes it hard for you to speak up? Do you ever say “yes” when you really want to say “no”? Today, Jay is joined by Africa Brooke, a globally recognized consultant, speaker, and writer specializing in self-censorship, integrity, and expression. Known for helping individuals and organizations navigate the complexities of honest communication in the digital age, Africa brings a deep, compassionate lens to today’s most pressing cultural dynamics. Together, she and Jay unpack the psychology of cancel culture, which she redefines as “collective sabotage”—a pattern driven by fear, shame, and the pressure to appear morally perfect. Africa challenges the idea of accountability, suggesting it’s often rooted in fear-based conformity, and highlights “self-censorship” as a hidden consequence of the current social climate. As the conversation unfolds, Africa opens up about a turning point in 2020—when she made a choice that didn’t align with her values just to gain social approval. That experience sparked her exploration of a “third perspective”, a path beyond binary thinking, where wisdom replaces performance and nuance replaces judgment. Jay and Africa discuss how social media pushes us to present a polished version of ourselves, and how fear can silence not just what we say, but who we really are. They break down the difference between performing out of fear and choosing your words with intention—reminding us that we’re not limited to staying silent or oversharing. Instead, encouraging us to speak from a place of self-awareness, integrity, and grounded confidence. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Speak Honestly Without the Fear of Judgment  How to Tell the Difference Between Self-Censorship and Intentionality  How to Navigate Conflict Without Abandoning Your Values How to Stop Performing for Social Media and Start Living Authentically How to Set Boundaries in a Respectful Way  How to Let Go of Binary Thinking and Find the Third Perspective Even when it’s uncomfortable, your voice matters, because it’s real. Give yourself permission to step out of fear, show up with grace, and make space for the kind of dialogue that moves us forward.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:36 How Cancel Culture Reflects Modern Day Tribalism 03:29 Is Expressing Your Truth Worth the Risk of Punishment? 06:03 Understanding the Fear of Self-Censorship vs. Careful Thinking 09:48 Letting Go of the Identity Others Expect From You 15:22 Finding Freedom in Honest Expression 18:32 How Empathy Begins With Letting Go of Judgement 21:50 Why We Struggle to Give Ourselves Grace 26:33 The Fear Behind Another Person’s Freedom to Speak 33:57 Do Your Values Match the Life You’re Actually Living? 40:34 You Don’t Have to Heal Everything at Once 45:17 How Negativity Bias Shapes Our Perception of the World 49:02 How Ego Blocks Curiosity in Everyday Moments 53:46 Why You’re Not Entitled to Silence Others 01:07:30 Blame and Shame Don’t Lead to Real Change 01:11:36 How to Truly Understand People You Disagree With 01:14:37 From Cancel Culture to Collective Sabotage 01:19:19 How Constant Apologies Undermine Your Voice 01:21:07 Why We Must Let Everyday Moments Breathe 01:25:15 Self-Expression Should Not Be a Performance for the Internet 01:29:33 Don’t Build an Audience That Won’t Let You Evolve 01:37:54 Are You Living a Truth You Never Chose? 01:42:51 Does One Narrative Define Your Whole Reality? 01:44:41 Is It Ever Justified to Cancel Someone? 01:48:00 How to Give Grace Without Losing Your Boundaries 01:52:43 Most of What Feels Urgent Today Won’t Matter Tomorrow 01:55:55 Africa on Final Five Episode Resources: Africa Brooke | Website Africa Brooke | Instagram Africa Brooke | LinkedIn Beyond the Self with Africa Brooke The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in the Age of IntoleranceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you drink water from plastic bottles every day? Have you ever thought about how many chemicals you’re exposed to daily? Today, Jay welcomes back renowned longevity expert, board-certified surgeon, and founder of Next Health, Dr. Darshan Shah. Known for making complex health topics accessible, Dr. Shah returns with an urgent message about the hidden threats silently affecting our health every single day: environmental toxins. With over 25 years of experience in medicine and wellness innovation, Dr. Shah breaks down how over 150,000 manmade chemicals—many of which didn’t exist just decades ago—have entered modern life through the air we breathe, the water we drink, the food we eat, and even the products we apply to our skin. These toxins, including microplastics, heavy metals, and hormone-disrupting compounds, are contributing to chronic disease, inflammation, and accelerated aging. But rather than incite fear, this conversation delivers hope. Dr. Shah shares a practical roadmap for detoxing daily life—simple, affordable steps that can be taken immediately. He emphasizes the power of the body’s natural detox systems, particularly the liver, and how small changes made consistently can lead to transformative results over time. Together, Jay and Dr. Shah explore the deep connections between physical and mental health, the importance of tracking key biomarkers, and the role of lifestyle over genetics in preventing conditions like Alzheimer’s, heart disease, and cancer.  In this interview, you'll learn: How to Spot Early Signs of Toxin Buildup in Your Body How to Track the 10 Key Biomarkers That Predict Long-Term Health How to Strengthen Your Brain and Prevent Alzheimer’s with Simple Daily Habits How to Avoid Microplastics in Your Kitchen and Clothing How to Reduce Toxin Exposure in Your Air at Home How to Filter Your Drinking Water Safely and Affordably This episode serves as both a wake-up call and a guide, empowering audiences to live with greater awareness, vitality, and intention. It’s a masterclass in preventative health and conscious living, reminding everyone that the path to long-term wellness starts with simple, purposeful choices made today. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:18 Why So Many People Are Getting Sick Today 02:14 The Hidden Toxins in Your Everyday Life 03:24 Are You Breathing in Dirty Air Without Knowing It? 08:22 Your Indoor Air Could Be More Toxic Than Outside 08:51 Why You Need to Filter Your Water (Now) 10:38 Stop Drinking Water from Plastic Bottles 13:21 Where Microplastics Are Hiding in Plain Sight 15:31 Heating Plastic? Here's What It's Doing to Your Food 16:40 Why Microplastics Are Still Unregulated 16:50 The Surprising Truth About Paper Coffee Cups 18:24 Is Organic Food Really Worth It? 20:32 How Convenience Culture Is Making You Sick 21:36 Why Eating Slowly Can Transform Your Health 23:16 Rethinking What Self-Care Really Means 24:13 How Toxins Enter Through Your Skin Every Day 27:46 How Often Should You Actually Wash Your Hair? 29:26 Is Your Environment Aging You Faster Than Your DNA? 30:25 Subtle Signs Your Body Is Full of Toxins 31:26 Your Body Already Knows How to Detox—Here’s How to Help It 32:21 Simplify Your Cleaning Routine and Avoid Harsh Chemicals 34:04 The Top 3 Causes of Death—and How to Avoid Them 36:17 Why Heart Disease Is Still the #1 Killer 37:59 The 4 Real Causes of Heart Disease (It’s Not Just Cholesterol) 38:53 What You Need to Know About Metabolic Disease 42:22 The Silent Damage of High Blood Pressure 45:53 How to Lower Blood Pressure Naturally and Easily 47:07 What Inflammation Is Really Doing to Your Body 48:24 Is Your Immune System Too Weak—or Too Busy? 49:42 How Antibiotics Could Be Hurting Your Gut and Immunity 52:21 The Cholesterol Numbers That Actually Matter 53:35 Why Healthy People Are Still Having Heart Attacks 54:23 How Much Do Genetics Really Influence Your Health? 56:29 Yes, You Can Now Test Early for Alzheimer’s 57:44 Simple Habits to Keep Your Brain Young and Sharp 01:01:30 Is Alzheimer’s Preventable? Here’s What the Science Says 01:02:55 How to Lower Your Risk of Cancer Starting Today 01:06:22 Why Being Proactive with Your Health Can Save Your Life 01:07:49 10 Biomarkers Everyone Should Be Tracking 01:12:00 The Hidden Link Between Mental and Physical Health Episode Resources: Darshan Sha | Website Darshan Sha | TikTok Darshan Sha | Instagram Darshan Sha | YouTube Darshan Sha | LinkedIn Darshan Sha | Facebook Extend Podcast with Darshan Shah, MD Next Health https://www.drshah.com/biomarkers  https://www.drshah.com/toxinsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever felt like you were meant for more? What would you do if money wasn’t a factor? Today, Jay joins The Pivot Podcast for a conversation that explores the beauty, discomfort, and transformation found in life’s biggest pivots. Sitting down with hosts Fred Taylor, Channing Crowder, and Ryan Clark, Jay opens up about the fear of being seen starting from zero, the discipline forged through solitude, and the inner strength that comes from committing to a life of purpose. Throughout the episode, Jay and the hosts dive into the difference between passion and purpose, the value of consistency over talent, and why the most meaningful success often starts small. With candor and warmth, Jay also shares insights on love, authenticity, and mindfulness, reminding listeners that who we become is shaped not by how the world sees us, but by how we see ourselves. The conversation is raw, reflective, and often humorous, touching on everything from identity and appearance to relationships and emotional maturity. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Start from Zero Without Fear How to Build Confidence Through Solitude How to Stay Grounded in a World of Noise How to Know If It’s Time to Pivot How to Let Go Without Calling It a Failure How to Make Stillness Your Superpower How to Discover Purpose by Collecting, Then Connecting Whether you're rebuilding, realigning, or simply reflecting, this episode offers the grounded wisdom and practical tools to navigate it all. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:26 The Power of Practicing Public Speaking for 10 Years 03:10 Why People Seek Inspiration from Others 05:41 Discovering the Purpose That Fuels Motivation 08:52 Ways to Integrate Mindfulness Into Daily Life 12:43 A Glimpse Into the Discipline of Monk Life 14:16 How Deep Connection Leads to Greater Learning 18:23 Understanding Why Similar Actions Have Different Intentions 24:46 Exploring Whether Appearance Really Matters 28:38 Learning to Be Alone Without Feeling Lonely 34:16 Embracing Stillness and the Strength of Solitude 37:16 The Impact of Meeting the Right Person at the Right Time 41:08 What It Takes to Practice Celibacy 44:43 Unpacking the Biggest Misconception About Love 48:33 The Most Challenging Part of Loving Someone 51:46 Why Choosing the Right Leaders Truly Matters 54:37 How Failure Can Lead to Growth and Insight 56:41 Can Real Love Be Found on Dating Apps? 01:01:16 Taking the First Step Toward Finding Purpose 01:04:16 Why Consistency and Practice Outshine Talent 01:06:48 Defining the Moments That Mark a Major Life Pivot 01:11:32 Reframing Failure as a Simple Pivot 01:15:06 What to Expect in the Live Tour Episode Resources: The Pivot Podcast | YouTube The Pivot Podcast | X The Pivot Podcast | Instagram The Pivot PodcastSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you ever struggle with your self-worth? What helps you get through your darkest days? Today, in the first-ever live episode of On Purpose with Jay Shetty— not in a studio, but live on stage in front of thousands. To kick things off, Jay sits down with actress, author, and cultural disruptor Julia Fox for a raw, unfiltered conversation about pain, transformation, and purpose. What begins as an unlikely pairing unfolds into something profoundly human. Julia takes us deep into her story, one marked by emotional neglect, addiction, survival, and self-erasure, but with that also comes incredible grit, self-awareness, and resilience. Julia speaks about living with the trauma of not feeling worthy, and the long, complex journey of unlearning that narrative.  Together, they explore what it means to numb emotions through substance or toxic relationships, the role of compartmentalization as a survival mechanism, and the beauty of reclaiming identity through motherhood, celibacy, and sobriety. Julia shares how prayer, manifestation, and divine timing helped shift her path and how writing her memoir became the therapy she needed. Through tears, laughter, and confessions, this episode reminds us that healing doesn’t always look linear. Sometimes it looks like chaos, courage, and the difficult choice to keep going. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Break the Cycle of Feeling Unworthy How to Set Boundaries That Protect Your Peace How to Reclaim Control After Addiction How to Be Okay With Being Seen How to Heal Without Needing Closure How to Build a Life Without Numbing Yourself How to Accept What You Can’t Change Your truth is not too much. Your past does not define your future. And you are worthy, always.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:01 Owning Your Main Character Energy 03:15 Finding Beauty in Everyday Moments 04:29 The Art of People Watching 05:04 How Childhood Trauma Shapes Self-Worth 08:15 Growing Up in Emotional Isolation 09:42 Coping by Shutting Down 14:21 Entering a World of Survival & Power 18:21 The Power of Setting Boundaries 19:36 How Prayer Became a Path to Change 23:13 Escaping Her Darkest Moments 25:30 A Friendship That Changed Everything 26:34 How Motherhood Became Her Lifeline 28:31 The Freedom of Living Your Truth 31:12 Why Parental Support Matters 33:30 Navigating a Difficult Parental Relationship 34:50 Accepting What You Can’t Control 35:59 The Lasting Impact of Emotionally Unavailable Parents 36:53 Surviving Near-Death Experiences 38:38 Finding the Will to Live 39:31 What the Adult Industry Taught Her About Power 40:56 The Pressure to Prove Yourself 42:00 Letting Go of People’s Opinions 44:22 The Fear of Being Truly Seen 45:37 Reflecting on Past, Present, and Future 57:10 Processing a Traumatic Miscarriage 58:37 Finding Purpose in Helping Others 01:01:26 Julia on Final Five Episode Resources: Julia Fox | TikTok Julia Fox | InstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you often forget things or lose track of time? Do you find it hard to stay focused on everyday tasks? Today, Jay reunites with the ever-popular Dr. Daniel Amen, a pioneering psychiatrist and clinical neuroscientist, to unravel one of the most misunderstood mental health topics today: ADHD. With society bombarded by endless distractions, overstimulation, and information overload, many are left questioning whether they truly have ADHD or are simply overwhelmed by the modern world. Dr. Amen cuts through the confusion by drawing from over three decades of clinical experience and brain imaging research. He clarifies that real ADHD is not a trend or a convenient label—it’s a genetic, neurological condition that can be identified through consistent behavioral patterns and even brain scans. What makes this conversation especially transformative is its focus on practical solutions and healing. Rather than defaulting to medication, Dr. Amen emphasizes a whole-brain, whole-body approach—starting with sleep, nutrition, and screen time. He cites compelling evidence showing how dietary changes and digital detoxes can significantly reduce symptoms in children. Jay and Dr. Amen also explore the emotional toll of untreated ADHD, including its links to addiction, depression, academic failure, and fractured relationships. Together, they challenge the stigma, revealing that ADHD is often both overdiagnosed and underdiagnosed, particularly in women and individuals without hyperactivity. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Naturally Improve Focus Without Medication How to Use Diet to Reduce ADHD Symptoms How to Identify the 7 Types of ADHD How to Reframe Negative Thoughts with Brain Training How to Create a Brain-Healthy Morning Routine How to Navigate ADHD in Romantic Relationships How to Advocate for ADHD Support in Schools and Work Your brain is not broken. By learning more about how your mind works, making intentional lifestyle shifts, and seeking the right tools, you can begin to show up in life with greater clarity, connection, and confidence.   With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  What We Discuss: 01:15 Why Is ADD Becoming So Common Today? 03:45 Is ADHD Overdiagnosed or Underdiagnosed? 05:37 Key Behavior Patterns That Signal ADHD 09:40 Are You Born with ADHD or Can It Develop Later? 12:18 Why Some People Only Perform Well Under Stress 15:33 How Adult ADD Shows Up as Conflict-Seeking Behavior 21:43 What Really Causes ADHD? Genetics or Environment? 28:47 Can You Learn to Regulate Emotions with ADHD? 30:23 The Long-Term Impact of Untreated ADHD in Children 31:25 Should Alcohol Advertisements Be Banned? 35:07 How an Elimination Diet and Digital Detox Can Help Kids 37:16 Why Nutrition Plays a Critical Role in Managing ADHD 38:58 How ADHD Leads to Learned Helplessness 42:10 Can You Break the Cycle and Prevent Passing ADHD to Your Kids? 44:05 Why ADHD Is More Common in Men 46:40 How ADHD Affects the People Around You 48:20 How Proper Treatment Can Transform Your Life 54:45 Start with Simple Lifestyle Changes 56:03 What to Know About Dating Someone with ADHD 01:00:10 How Untreated ADD and Chronic Stress Can Lead to Illness 01:07:40 Why Winning an Argument with Your Partner Is Still Losing 01:10:35 The Power of Active Listening in Relationships 01:12:28 How to Navigate Life with a Parent Who Has ADD 01:15:12 Is ADHD Curable or Just Manageable? 01:16:25 The Long-Term Consequences of Untreated ADHD 01:17:42 Rethinking Brain and Mental Health as One 01:19:52 Practical Ways to Become More Organized 01:21:19 You’re Not Stuck with ADHD Episode Resources: Dr. Daniel Amen | TikTok Dr. Daniel Amen | Instagram Dr. Daniel Amen | Twitter Dr. Daniel Amen | LinkedIn Dr. Daniel Amen | Facebook Dr. Daniel Amen | Books Dr. Daniel Amen | Website Amen UniversitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you still think about your ex a lot? What’s been the hardest part of moving on? Today, Jay shares a heartfelt and practical guide for anyone moving through heartbreak. He explains that the pain of a breakup often comes from more than just losing someone, but it’s grieving the life we imagined with them and the version of ourselves we felt when we were loved. Jay walks through seven clear steps to help listeners begin their healing journey. From gaining clarity to quieting the overthinking spiral and finding your own closure, he offers real, actionable tools to help you move forward. Jay reminds listeners that you’re not missing them, you’re missing the idea of them. And that pain doesn’t mean the relationship was meant to be, it means you cared. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Stop Romanticizing the Past How to Stop Blaming Yourself How to Rebuild After a Breakup How to Trust Yourself Again How to Know It Wasn’t Love Healing is possible even if it doesn't feel like it right now. It’s not about getting back to who you were before, it’s about becoming someone stronger, wiser, and more self-aware. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:53 Are You Heartbroken? 03:18 Step #1: Let Go of the Fantasy You Created 07:08 The Three Most Important Things in a Relationship 08:45 Step #2: Stop the Obsession Spiral 13:39 Step #3: Kill the Narrative that It Was Your Fault 17:28 Step #4: Find Closure On Your Own Terms 19:42 Step #5: Feeling Pain Doesn't Mean It Was Meant to Be 21:37 Step #6: Redirect Your Energy  22:18 Step #7: Stop Waiting to Feel ReadySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does “financial freedom” mean to you? What’s one thing you wish you learned about money earlier? In this On Purpose compilation episode, Jay Shetty brings together leading voices in business, money, and mindset—Scott Galloway, Codie Sanchez, Lewis Howes, and Jaspreet Singh—to break down what it really means to build wealth in today’s world. This episode explores the gap between surviving and thriving—and why mindset, habits, and practical skills matter just as much (if not more) than how much you earn. Whether you're in your 20s navigating debt, in your 40s reassessing your financial goals, or simply someone who wants more clarity around money—this conversation is for you. You’ll learn how to: Shift From a Scarcity Mindset to an Abundance Mindset. Use The Skills You Have To Create Financial Freedom. Ditch the Lies You’ve Been Told About Money. Make Smarter, Long-Term Moves With Money—Without Overwhelm. Through personal stories, real strategies, and mindset shifts, Jay and his guests offer a new way to think about wealth—not as a number, but as a lifestyle built on freedom, stability, and purpose. Whether you feel stuck, uncertain, or just ready for a smarter approach to money, this episode will give you the mindset and tools to move forward with confidence. True wealth isn’t about how much you earn—it’s about how well you build. Start building the life you actually want, one smart decision at a time. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty. Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction  01:16 Pursuit Of Wealth Vs Riches 08:08 Rewire Your Relationship With Money 12:04 Be Honest About Your Finances & Save Money 14:56 Transfer the Skills You Have Into Real World Value 15:50 How Bad Do You Want It? 18:28 Want To Quit Your Job But Don't Know What's Next? 21:52 The Mindset Of Financial Abundance 22:29 Shame Surrounding Making Money 26:38 Transform How You Think About Money 28:39 Unlock Wealth With This Mindset Habit 36:47 How To Contribute Without The Credentials 39:15 The Wealth Formula That Actually Works 39:50 The Two Ways To Create Wealth 42:13 The Scarcity Mindset Holding You BackSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you ever feel like you need others to approve of your choices? When was the last time you did something just for yourself? In this heartfelt episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty sits down with award-winning actress and singer Cynthia Erivo for a raw and inspiring conversation. Cynthia opens up about her whirlwind year—filming back to back movies, performing at the Oscars, and pouring her soul into her deeply personal new album, I Forgive You. Even in the busiest seasons of her life, Cynthia is discovering the power of stillness—making space to rest, reset, and care for herself mentally, emotionally, and physically.  Cynthia opens up about the emotional weight she’s carried—the pain of feeling abandoned by her father and the relentless pressure to keep proving herself. She and Jay explore the exhausting chase for external approval—and how it often leads to burnout, disconnection, and a version of success that doesn’t feel like yours. Cynthia’s path has been one of unlearning—releasing fear-based patterns and learning to create from a place of wholeness. Her journey is one of deep self-reflection and healing, which shines through in her new music. Together, Jay and Cynthia unpack what it really means to own your truth, make peace with your past, and finally feel at home in the present. Cynthia’s stories of heartbreak, transformation, and creative rebirth offer powerful insights for anyone navigating change or searching for their purpose. This episode is rich with wisdom, warmth, and a reminder that healing and growth are always possible. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Build Daily Habits That Ground You Anywhere How to Embrace Rest Without Guilt How to Heal from the Need for External Validation How to Let Go of the Pressure to Overachieve How to Share Your True Self Without Fear How to Create from a Place of Love, Not Pain Whether you’re navigating heartbreak, chasing your dreams, or simply learning how to slow down, know this: you are allowed to evolve, to let go, and to begin again. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:39 Have You Had a Moment to Take a Break? 04:34 How Do You Take Care of Yourself? 06:12 Are You Good at Slowing Down? 08:25 Why Your Body Needs to Follow Rituals 12:00 Difference Between Achieving and Overachieving 13:34 What Drives You to be an Overachiever? 16:59 Using Childhood Trauma to Transform Your Life 18:31 The Three Modes to Help You Achieve Your Goals 20:17 Missteps are the Steps We're Meant to Take 23:56 Choose to Live for Yourself First 26:16 Have You Ever Felt Like You Don’t Fit In? 29:23 Focus on Sharing Positive Energy 32:29 The Frequency Illusion 33:44 Empower People to Own Their Confidence 37:50 Teaching Kids About Confidence and Self Love 39:40 How to Show Up as Yourself 45:24 Behind the Glamourous Life of Celebrities 47:55 The Power of Music 51:00 How Do You Share Your Emotional Journey? 55:23 How Do You Live Through Heartbreak? 01:00:26 Can You Peacefully Disconnect Yourself from Someone? 01:05:16 Sometimes, It's Not About You 01:07:35 What is the Right Type of Validation to Crave? 01:14:20 The Core of Being a Good Person 01:21:13 The Experience of Abandonment Isn't Always Your Reality  01:25:10 Which Emotion is the Hardest to Face? Episode Resources: Cynthia Erivo | Website Cynthia Erivo | Instagram  Cynthia Erivo | Facebook Cynthia Erivok | TikTok Cynthia Erivo | YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What part of your life feels off track right now? Have you been listening more to your fear or your intuition? Today, Jay explores what it means to lose control—and why that may be exactly where transformation begins. When plans fall apart and expectations go unmet, the mind defaults to self-blame and shame. But Jay offers a different perspective: perhaps this is not failure, but the unplanned beginning of something better. Guided by his background in monkhood and supported by research from neuroscience and psychology, Jay introduces six transformative practices for navigating life’s plot twists with intention and grace. He explains how to distinguish between the loud voice of the inner critic and the quiet wisdom of intuition, why guilt and shame block growth, and how letting go of the illusion of control can create space for something far greater than imagined. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Quiet Your Inner Critic  How to Reframe Failure as Redirection How to Speak to Yourself with Kindness How to Respond to Setbacks Instead of Resisting Them How to Stay Grounded When the Plan Falls Apart How to Let Curiosity Lead You Forward, Not Fear Control isn’t about perfect plans, it’s about presence. And what seems like an ending might just be the beginning of a more meaningful path. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:43 Is Life Not Going According to Plan? 02:47 Step #1: Learn to Pause Your Active Inner Critic 11:03 Step #2: Let Go of the Control Illusion 20:39 Step #3: Reframe Failure as Redirection 22:19 Step #4: Use the Tiny Wins Framework 24:28 Step #5: Expect the Plot Twists 27:23 Step #6: Let Curiosity Lead You ForwardSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.