Jay & Radhi Talk About Icks vs. Red Flags (How to ACTUALLY Know the Difference)

In this fun and unfiltered episode, Jay and Radhi dive into the world of “icks,” those oddly specific little turn-offs that make us cringe for reasons we can’t quite explain. From baby voices and socks with sandals to the blurry line between confidence and cockiness, they laugh their way through the most random dating deal-breakers and what they secretly reveal about us. Amid the jokes, they slip in a few truth bombs too, like how we sometimes use icks to avoid real vulnerability. It’s light, hilarious, and uncomfortably relatable, because honestly, we’ve all had an ick… and we’ve definitely been someone else’s. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Tell the Difference Between an Ick and a Red Flag How to Communicate Honestly About What Bothers You How to Recognize When You’re Using an Ick as an Excuse How to Appreciate Imperfections in the People You Love It’s easy to get caught up in small things that bother us, but true connection isn’t built on perfection, it’s built on patience, humor, and understanding. Everyone has quirks, and sometimes those quirks are what make relationships real. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:19 What is an Ick? 03:07 The Funniest Icks 05:21 How Seriously Should People Take Icks? 09:39 Can You Get Over an Ick? 12:55 Personal Hygiene is Important 14:26 Arrogance Versus Confidence 15:40 Childishness and Immaturity  17:25 Is It Just Poor Communication? 21:43 Top 5 Icks Men have About Women 23:38 The Guy with a List (@wyszkay) Episode Resources: Radhi Devlukia | Website Radhi Devlukia | YouTube Radhi Devlukia | Instagram Radhi Devlukia | Facebook Radhi Devlukia | TikTok Joyfull A Really Good CrySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What’s one thing you wish you learned earlier in life? What do you think would’ve changed for you if you learned it sooner? Today, Jay reflects on the lessons he wishes he’d learned in his twenties and thirties, wisdom shaped by mistakes, growth, and years of inner work. He opens up about how easy it is to get swept up in chasing outcomes or living for other people’s expectations, and how those patterns can quietly pull us away from our true path. Jay also explains why success and happiness are completely different skill sets, and how understanding that early on can save you years of unnecessary frustration. Jay also talks honestly about what healing really feels like, the side no one prepares you for. He explains that growth doesn’t always look inspiring; sometimes it shows up as exhaustion, confusion, or feeling like everything is falling apart. But that discomfort is often just old patterns breaking down so new ones can take shape. Through empathy, personal stories, and practical insights, Jay walks us through the “decade of firsts,” from first jobs to first heartbreaks, and reminds us that feeling lost isn’t failure. It’s a natural part of becoming someone stronger, clearer, and more aligned with who you’re meant to be. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Hear Your Inner Voice Again How to Define Success on Your Own Terms How to Build Confidence Through Self-Trust How to Turn Rejection Into Insight How to Break Free From Others’ Expectations How to Heal Even When It Feels Messy You’re not behind, you’re growing at the pace your life is asking you to grow. Keep showing up with curiosity, patience, and compassion for yourself. You’re building something meaningful, even on the days it doesn’t feel like it. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:42 #1: Results Are Overrated 04:54 #2: Tune Out The Noise 07:44 #3: Success Doesn’t Equal Happiness 10:30 #4: Confidence Comes From Self-Trust 12:47 Four Habits That Will Transform Your Life 14:10 #5: Rejection Isn’t Personal 17:20 How to Handle Rejection Better 22:32 Four Signs You’re Healing 24:51 Confusion in Your 20s Isn’t Failure 25:29 How to Protect Your Peace 26:07 #6: Anchor to Values, Not ValidationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What’s one habit that’s helped you succeed lately? What made you decide to stick with that habit? In this special live conversation, at The Theater at Bill Graham Civic Auditorium in San Francisco, Jay sits down with entrepreneur and industry leader Emma Grede for a conversation every builder, creator, and business-minded thinker needs to hear. Together, Jay and Emma unpack a challenge that holds so many talented people back, caring too much about what others think. Emma shares the early moments in her career when she stayed quiet in rooms where she deserved to speak, the times she underestimated her own value, and the double standards she had to navigate as a woman in business. This episode is a powerful reminder that confidence isn’t something you wait to feel, it’s something you build through action, decision-making, and showing up for the opportunities in front of you. As the conversation deepens, Emma shares the mindsets that shaped her path, from a kid obsessed with fashion magazines to a visionary leader with a global reach. She breaks down why excellence starts with showing up fully in whatever role you’re in, how competence is the foundation of real confidence, and why chasing “passion” isn’t always the most strategic move. Jay adds powerful reflections on focus, leaning into your strengths, and accepting that you don’t need to be great at everything to succeed. This is an honest and refreshing look at what it really takes to trust yourself, take bigger swings, and grow into the person you’re meant to be. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stop Caring What Others Think How to Build Confidence Through Competence How to Use Fear as Fuel, Not a Setback How to Become Excellent at What You’re Doing Now How to Set Your Own Standards, Not Society’s How to Start Before You Have It All Figured Out You don’t have to wait until you feel fully ready, fully confident, or fully “enough.” Start where you are, use what you have, and trust that focus, effort, and self-belief will do more for your future than fear ever will.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:44 Why Do We Worry About Others’ Opinions? 02:12 Opportunities Lost to Comparison 04:09 The Double Standards for Women in Business 07:19 Why You Must Start With Yourself 09:57 The Three-Word Mantra for Career Growth 11:58 Visualize the Life You Want 14:27 Follow What Gives You Energy 16:47 How Competence Builds Real Confidence 18:23 What’s Actually Distracting Us From True Focus? 20:52 Build a Circle That Complements Your Strengths 24:46 Teaching Kids to Chase Their Own Dreams 28:38 Defining Your Life’s Non-Negotiables 32:25 How to Choose What Truly Matters 37:46 Owning Your Truth Creates New Opportunities 40:59 Start Small: Scale Down and Test Your Idea Episode Resources: Emma Grede | Website Emma Grede | Instagram Emma Grede | Facebook Emma Grede | LinkedIn Emma Grede | TikTok Emma Grede | YouTube Good AmericanSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, Jay sits down with Kris Jenner for a raw and candid conversation about her roots, family, and the incredible lessons she’s learned. Kris was raised by her mother and grandmother, two driven and hardworking women who modeled independence, discipline, and purpose. She shares how those early lessons in responsibility and perseverance laid the foundation for the life she would later build, both as a businesswoman and as the matriarch of a global family brand. Throughout their conversation, Kris speaks about her devotion to family, her faith, and her unshakable sense of gratitude. She reflects on the importance of being present in a fast-paced world that often glorifies busyness and distraction. Jay and Kris explore what it means to slow down and truly feel present in each moment, to look beyond the screens, the schedules, and the noise, and to rediscover joy in the simple things. Kris opens up about motherhood and the unique bond she shares with each of her six children, how she worked intentionally to raise them with structure, compassion, and drive while fostering unity instead of competition. She talks about her daily prayers for guidance and peace, finding meaning even in moments of hardship, and choosing to lead with love, even when met with misunderstanding or pain. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Lead with Gratitude Every Day How to Raise Ambitious but Grounded Kids How to Slow Down and Be Fully Present How to Build a Family Rooted in Love, Not Competition How to Balance Success with Inner Peace How to Protect Your Peace in a Noisy World Life has a way of reminding us that true success isn’t measured by status or possessions, it’s found in the quiet moments of gratitude, in the love we give, and in the peace we choose to protect. Each challenge we face holds a lesson, each chapter an invitation to grow with grace and faith.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:15 Welcome Kris Jenner 02:38 Growing Up with Strong Women 08:49 Doing Your Best in Every Role 11:24 Family Traditions and Christmas Joy 12:51 Lessons from Humble Beginnings 16:24 The Power of Slowing Down 20:42 The Trap of Instant Gratification 24:19 Embracing Life at 70 26:47 Raising Passionate, Independent Children 32:37 Timeless Parenting Lessons 35:10 Learn to Forgive Those Who Hurt You 40:25 Mental Health Has Become a Silent Pandemic 44:38 Are You a Disney Fan? 45:36 How Do You Forgive Someone Who Hurt You? 50:44 Finding Peace Through Prayer 53:01 Finding Growth in Every Challenge 54:28 The “Rule of 12” for Letting Go 58:48 Protecting Your Inner Peace  01:00:35 Respecting Time and Commitment 01:01:48 Showing Up Fully as a Parent 01:04:52 Starting Over After Motherhood 01:07:41 Making Sure No One’s Left Behind 01:08:16 What Motherhood Has Taught Me 01:13:42 Healing from Miscarriage and Loss 01:15:41 Compassion for Those Facing Infertility 01:17:43 Leading with Love and Kindness 01:19:26 Choosing Where to Invest Your Energy 01:20:27 Seeing Yourself Through Others’ Eyes 01:22:16 Kris on Final Five Episode Resources: Kris Jenner | TikTok Kris Jenner | Instagram Kris Jenner | Facebook Kris Jenner | XSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, Jay and Radhi explore the delicate balance between sharing and oversharing, both online and in everyday life. They talk about what it really means to be authentic, how to protect your energy when opening up, and why not every moment needs to be shared to be meaningful. Together, they reflect on the intention behind vulnerability and the peace that comes from keeping certain parts of life sacred. How much do we share to feel seen? And when does sharing start to take more than it gives? This conversation invites us to slow down, listen to ourselves, and choose connection over performance. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Protect Your Energy When Sharing How to Be Vulnerable with Intention How to Keep Private Goals Sacred How to Find the Right People to Confide In How to Balance Openness with Privacy True connection begins when we honor what feels right to keep close and what feels right to release. Whether through words, art, or quiet reflection, choose to share from a place of peace, not pressure. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:01 Are You Sharing Too Much? 04:07 The Real Reason Behind Your Vulnerability 09:21 Create in Private Before You Share Publicly 13:45 Oversharing Looks Different on Every Platform 16:01 Be Intentional About What You Share and With Whom 18:24 Does Holding Back Make You Feel Alone? 23:52 Why We Make Big Judgments from Small Details 26:51 When Sharing Becomes Healing, Not Draining 32:06 Choosing Who Deserves to Hear Your Story Episode Resources: Radhi Devlukia | Website Radhi Devlukia | YouTube Radhi Devlukia | Instagram Radhi Devlukia | Facebook Radhi Devlukia | TikTok Joyfull A Really Good CrySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What truth about the relationship have you been ignoring? What makes that truth hard for you to accept? Today, Jay opens up about one of the hardest things we go through, trying to get over someone we once loved. He reminds us that healing isn’t about pretending we’re okay or trying to move on too quickly. It’s about realizing that what we often miss isn’t the person themselves, but how we felt when we were with them: seen, loved, and alive. Jay gently walks us through why breakups hurt so deeply, how our minds are built for connection, and why finding closure really starts with reconnecting to ourselves. Jay also shares how to stop replaying the past and start finding your rhythm again. He reminds us that healing isn’t about erasing the love, it’s about learning from it. You don’t need to have it all figured out today, you just need to take one small step back toward yourself. Because the real journey after a breakup isn’t about getting over someone else, it’s about remembering who you were before them, and discovering who you’re becoming next. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Stop Romanticizing the Past How to Let Go When You Still Miss Them How to Rebuild Your Life After a Breakup How to Move On Without Losing Yourself How to Remember You Were Enough All Along You are not broken for still feeling; you are human for still caring. One day, the memories that hurt will simply remind you of how far you’ve come. Keep showing up for yourself, because the love you’re searching for begins with you. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast   What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:53 The Heartbreak After the Breakup 01:24 What to Do When You Can't Get Over Your Ex 05:07 Why Do Breakups Hurt So Bad? 07:52 The Stories You Replay Are Keeping You Stuck 08:39 Myth #1: Time Doesn’t Heal Everything 10:16 Myth #2: Why Closure Isn’t the Answer 13:12 Myth #3: Moving On Doesn’t Mean You Didn’t Care 15:12 Myth #4: Why Getting Back Together Won’t Fix It 17:26 Step #1: The First Step to Real Healing 19:12 Step #2: It’s Okay Not to Be Okay! 20:05 Step #3: Rebuild the Rituals That Ground You 21:14 Step #4: Ask Better Questions to Help You Grow 22:37 Step #5: Turn Your Pain Into Purpose 24:02 What to Do When You Fall BackSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you been feeling anxious lately? Do you notice when your mind starts to spiral? Jay welcomes back his good friend and New York Times bestselling author Gabrielle Bernstein for a deep and inspiring conversation about true inner healing. Together, they unpack Gabby’s latest book, Self-Help, which reimagines Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) as a practice anyone can bring into their daily life. Gabby shares how the parts of us we often judge, the anxious part, the perfectionist, the people-pleaser, the one who needs control, aren’t our enemies. They’re parts that have been trying to protect us, even if they sometimes get in the way. As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Gabby unpack why so many of us get caught in cycles of burnout, self-criticism, and emotional disconnection. Gabby shares her simple four-step “check-in” practice, a way to pause, look inward, and start building a kinder relationship with ourselves. Through this process, she explains, we can start to recognize our patterns, meet them with compassion and find peace even in the midst of life’s noise. Together, they unpack powerful questions we can all relate to: Why is it easier to comfort others than ourselves? Could our inner critic actually be trying to protect us? And how can we set boundaries without losing our empathy or warmth? In this interview, you'll learn: How to Befriend Every Part of Yourself How to Recognize Your Inner Protectors How to Heal Through Compassion, Not Control How to Calm Your Inner Critic How to Create Boundaries Without Guilt How to Self-Soothe When You Feel Triggered Healing doesn’t mean fixing what’s broken, it means learning to see every part of yourself with compassion and curiosity. The parts of you that once felt heavy or hard to love are often the same ones that carried you through the toughest moments.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:29 What is Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy? 06:00 Healing Deep Trauma Through IFS 08:38 Where Real Healing From Trauma Begins 10:17 Blending Therapy with Spiritual Connection 13:38 Strengthen Your Own Spiritual Foundation 16:57 The Four-Step Self Check-In Practice 20:32 The Journey Toward Feeling Truly Great 25:39 Finding Peace Without External Validation 26:46 We All Have An Inner Spiritual Power 31:00 Seeing Self-Judgment as a Form of Protection 33:40 Stop Being So Hard on Yourself 36:24 Connecting with the Parts That Protect You 41:45 Why Facing Yourself Feels So Hard 47:33 Healing Starts When You Do the Work 49:54 The Power of Forgiving Yourself  55:57 Every Part of You Serves a Purpose 57:46 What Changes When You Befriend Your Inner Parts 59:00 The Truth About High Performers and Inner Peace 01:01:45 How to Set Boundaries with Love and Clarity 01:08:47 Gabby on Final Five  Episode Resources: Gabrielle Bernstein | Website Gabrielle Bernstein | TikTok Gabrielle Bernstein | Instagram Gabrielle Bernstein | Facebook Gabrielle Bernstein | YouTube Dear Gabby Self Help: This Is Your Chance to Change Your Life Gabby's 21-day Manifesting ChallengeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you believe the universe sends us signs? Have you ever noticed a pattern that felt meaningful? Today, Jay welcomes back psychic medium and bestselling author Laura Lynne Jackson for another heartfelt and eye-opening conversation about what it really means to live a guided life. Laura introduces the idea of a “team of light,” a loving energy made up of God, spirit guides, and loved ones who’ve passed on, all working together behind the scenes to help us find clarity and purpose. Laura reminds us that those small signs and coincidences we tend to overlook are actually gentle messages of love, nudging us toward peace, meaning, and connection. Together, Jay and Laura explore how to tell the difference between the loud voice of fear and the quiet, steady voice of intuition. They talk about how fear can sometimes sound logical, how doubt sneaks in when we’re trying to trust ourselves, and why tuning in to that deeper inner knowing can transform the way we move through life. Jay opens up about moments when he’s felt guided and protected, sharing powerful examples of how trusting what we can’t always see can lead to the most meaningful outcomes. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Tell the Difference Between Fear and Intuition How to Trust the Guidance You Receive How to Quiet the Monkey Mind How to Strengthen Your Spiritual Connection Every Day How to Turn Coincidences into Clarity How to Use Intuition to Make Better Decisions Life often speaks in whispers before we’re ready to listen. The signs, the coincidences, those gentle nudges, they’re all reminders that we’re never really walking alone. When we slow down, take a breath, and learn to trust that quiet pull within, the path ahead starts to reveal itself with more ease, clarity, and purpose. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:23 Trust the Signs That Guide You 03:24 Meet Your Team of Light 06:15 The Energy You Bring into the World 10:47 How to Open Up to Guidance 15:13 When You Feel Lost, Ask to Be Led 22:36 Telling the Difference Between Thoughts and Intuition 25:41 Learning to Trust Your Inner Voice 28:09 Calming the Noise of Negative Thoughts 35:16 Finding Your State of Connection 39:44 Receiving Sudden Downloads of Insight 45:19 Signs Are Not Answers, They’re Reassurance 51:04 You’re Only in Competition with Yourself 59:23 How Connection Helps Us Heal from Grief 01:03:08 Why Self-Belief Matters More Than Validation 01:05:24 Understanding the Language of Signs vs. Living Guided 01:08:15 The Power of Simple Acts of Kindness 01:15:51 Why Guidance Doesn’t Always Arrive Right Away 01:18:28 Creating Space to Reflect and Realign Episode Resources: Laura Lynne Jackson | Website Laura Lynne Jackson | TikTok Laura Lynne Jackson | Instagram Laura Lynne Jackson | Facebook Guided: The Secret Path to an Illuminated Life (The Path of Light Series)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, Jay and Radhi explore why it feels like so many men are losing touch with real friendships, and the quiet epidemic of loneliness that often goes unnoticed. Jay shares surprising research showing that more men than ever report having few or no close friends and opens up about his own journey of maintaining meaningful male friendships across continents. Together, he and Radhi explore how cultural conditioning and social expectations have shaped the way men connect, often through shared activities rather than emotional honesty, and why vulnerability can still feel risky for so many. Through humor and genuine reflection, Jay and Radhi invite us to rethink what friendship really means, how we can create spaces of emotional safety, and build communities that feel like home. Jay reminds us that friendship isn’t innate; it’s something we grow into through practice, vulnerability, and care. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Build Real Male Friendships How to Be Vulnerable Without Fear How to Recognize When You’re Lonely How to Find Friends Who Match Your Energy How to Open Up Emotionally in Conversations Friendships don’t just happen; they grow through intention and care. If you’ve been feeling disconnected, take one step today, send that message, plan that coffee, open up a little more than usual. The courage to reach out might be exactly what someone else has been waiting for too. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:52 Why Do So Many Men Feel Lonely? 03:41 The Power of Male Vulnerability 06:58 Rethinking the Alpha Male Mindset 12:06 There’s No Growth Without Vulnerability 16:06 Men Need Friendship Dates Too! 21:35 Do You Truly Feel Seen? 25:33 How Loneliness Impacts Your Health 28:22 Why Women Often Build Stronger Social Circles 31:35 Learning How to Be a Better Friend Episode Resources: Radhi Devlukia | Website Radhi Devlukia | YouTube Radhi Devlukia | Instagram Radhi Devlukia | Facebook Radhi Devlukia | TikTok Joyfull A Really Good CrySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What’s one small step you can take right now to break the cycle you’re stuck in?   Today, Jay shares a simple, science-backed method to help you overcome laziness, distraction, and burnout by focusing on consistency instead of motivation. Rather than waiting for the perfect moment or a burst of inspiration, Jay explains how lowering the bar, creating rituals, and going on a dopamine detox can help you rebuild discipline and self-trust, one small action at a time.   It’s not about working harder or chasing perfection, but about starting smaller and showing up consistently. Jay explains how to protect your focus, rewire your reward system, and break the patterns that keep you stuck. Over time, these tiny shifts compound into real transformation, helping you feel more grounded, confident, and in control.   In this episode, you’ll learn:  How to Start When You Feel Stuck How to Build Rituals That Replace Willpower How to Break Free from the Dopamine Addiction Cycle How to Embrace Boredom and Reclaim Focus How to End Each Day with Progress, Not Pressure   Change doesn’t come from motivation. It comes from momentum. When you choose to start small, stay consistent, and keep your promises to yourself, discipline becomes second nature.   With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty.    Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here.   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast     What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 0:57 Lower Your Expectations  05:36 Build A Ritual, Not A Routine 07:42 24 Hour Dopamine Detox  10:58 Make Bad Habits Hard To Do 13:13 Be Bored For 10 Minutes A Day 15:10 Reward Effort, Not Results 17:24 Turn Your Phone Off For 60 Minutes  18:14 You Can Do Anything for 5 Minutes! 21:15 End Your Day With the 3 Minute ReviewSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.