117. Why I Avoid Saying "You Can't" To My Kids

Bust out that basket of laundry and prepare to be leveled up in your motherhood while getting all the clothes folded and sorted. Com on- you know you have some to get done. This episode breaks down the four biggest reasons why I avoid saying "you can't" to my kids. You'll be able to shift your language once the WHY to do it is there. Keep up with me on IG @tessaromero_ I'm the mindset coach for moms that teaches you how to use a pen and piece of paper to create the mindset that you want- no matter the circumstances.

Motherhood is an endless teacher and there are four lessons I have learned now that I have four children, that would have helped me tremendously to understand when I had my first. This show is diving into the perspectives that can give you freedom to be the mom you want to be early on. Follow along for daily mindset on my IG @tessaromero_ Get started in my journaling course to change the pattern of your daily thoughts.

Do you love hearing positive birth stories and all of the highs and lows that can accompany a birth experience? This episode is for you. Marcus and Tessa Romero team up to share the home birth story and all of the fun little details and perspectives while welcoming their fourth son while answering some commonly asked questions along the way. This is an emotional one and we are hopeful it reignites your fire for raising babies and being the mom you want to be. Here is Tessas birth playlist. Follow Tessa on IG Grab the Alignment Journaling Course for step-by-step "how to journal" your way to a stronger mindset.

Just know that my water broke as I wrote the fifth perspective into the notes of my phone! I've got the birth story of my fourth sweet baby coming soon! Use these five perspectives if you are nearing or go over your "due date" or guess date! Baby is coming soon either way, let's make sure you feel your best with a great mindset and vision. Learn to write a better mindset following the Alignment Journaling Course with me.

When you choose to view all that is happening as something that you need, you start learning A LOT very quickly. I completely thought I was in labor and called our family 2.5 hours away so they could be there for it, only to have every contraction stop by 11:00 pm! I felt so disappointed and like I had let everyone down or wasted their time... which is NOT how I want to spend the last bit of my pregnancy. Fortunately, I have more tools and landed on three refreshing perspectives that lifted me up by the very next morning. I'm opening up and sharing those with you here so that people pleasing tendencies are something you can actively work on overcoming too! Let's stay connected on Instagram and start your journaling practice with me following my proven method!

You're feeling tired, hormonal, uncomfortable and excited. There's a lot going on during the last bit of pregnancy before welcoming your baby! Let's make sure your mindset is in a strong place to be of service to you and your family! This one question will invite a whole new perspective into the mix that increases your intentionality and accountability- even in the last bit of pregnancy! Let's connect on Instagram :) Completely overhaul your mindset in motherhood here.

I don't want my first thoughts to be negative and swimming in the "happening to me..." mentality. Yet, sometimes they are. Here's a question I ask myself that lifts me up and out of that victim mentality and sets me on the high road of being who I WANT to be, no matter where I go or who I am with. This one might feel challenging to take in so know 1. I LOVE YOU and all people in your life and mine. 2. We are meant to be challenged. 3. If it feels hard it's probably because you need to do it. Give this a try and reach out to us at [email protected] for personal coaching options and episode requests! Tessa ✨

It seems a bit odd to me that when I share about serving seamlessly, the biggest objections that come up against it are fear based thoughts around "doing too much." Doing too much for our kids, spouse and others. Seamless service is not about doing everything for someone else. It is taking opportunities to serve others well when and how you can. To see a need and fill it with the same attitude you want your kids to have when they see a need to fill. We need the right attitude married to our behaviors! Enjoy this episode to nudge your perspective into new open territory that breathes life and change into your attitude. For additional resources, start the 24 Days To A Renewed Mind video coaching guide I created for YOU to have a better overall mindset as you begin this work with me. All my best, Tessa Romero

How will I get my kids to listen.  How will I get them to get along with each other.  How will they be okay in the world we have today?  How will I know I did right by them? Trying to control "how" and "when" will leave you swimming against a raging current of negative thoughts. It's completely hopeless and exhausting. Today we are unpacking the faithful thought "Trust that it will rain." As well as what it would look like as a journaling prompt with several examples. Truly, this fresh perspective has been shedding layers of fear and anxiety for me and I know this sweet relief is too good to keep to myself. Let me know where you're at and what you need so I can create episodes just for YOU. Reach out with what you'd love to hear next at [email protected] You're a treasure in my life, Tessa Romero

Is your mind ranting and raving about how "disrespectful" and "selfish" or "anxious" your kids are? Time to change that with this podcast episode! You can find the MOMMY Mindset Course mentioned in this episode! This is incredibly sustainable work to do and I have it all prepared for you to thrive with in that course. Calm your mind and feel renewed when you implement these four simple ways to speak life over your kids- no matter their behavior or the circumstances. Follow along with Tessa on Instagram Reach out for personal and small group coaching to [email protected]