Mum guilt - urgh, it’s still here!

Motherhood is quite literally the biggest rollercoaster in the world. The best and hardest of times. Here’s a bit of mush as a reminder why we do it 💛

Being a working mum feels like continuous compromise. Just when you think you’ve got it right, something shifts and you’re left questioning (yet again) the balance (or lack of). Will it ever be perfect? I guess not. I guess it’s a constant learning curve. I guess it’s in the title of the podcast right, it’s learning to mum…20 months in!

That is the question…well, not really for us. Forever sharing our reality. It’s a no from us, but let me share why.

Ophelia turned 18 months on the 10th Feb so this is a little delayed but hopefully you get the gig. Forever juggling 🤹🏼‍♀️ over here. Anyone else relate 🙋🏼‍♀️

I’ve spoken about mum guilt before and I raise it again in episode one of series three. Amongst other topics such as how the heck your parenting solidly over the Christmas holidays 🤯

As women, we don’t operate in 24 hour cycles. Throughout the month our hormone levels rise and fall and whilst this is nothing but normal, it can be hard to navigate while parenting. This episode acknowledges how tricky it can be.

Early motherhood felt like a test. It was one I thought I had failed. I look back now and realise it was not a test, it was a period of adjustment to this brand new life. New life I had brought into the world and the inevitable new life it created for me. I look back now and want to say with love, you did the best you could and that was enough. To anyone who needs to hear this, this is for you.

Learning to mum for me has been about compromise. Constant adjustment to new routines. Relinquishing control. Leaning into the process of motherhood and all its beauty and challenge. I have however, lusted over more time to myself as the weeks and months have passed and encouraging Ophelia to play independently has always been part of that makeup. In this episode I’m sharing some of my thoughts on this. Independence is one of the skills I am personally so proud to have in abundance, if I can help Ophelia have this by teaching her from a young age that time yourself is not only enjoyable but necessary and vital then I’m all for it. Enjoy my thoughts!

In this episode I share how I believe time has allowed me to mature into motherhood. As Ophelia grows, so too does my confidence and, honestly, my passion to parent. The joy in seeing her grow, being able to do more and more with her and fundamentally, have a little pal has been EVERYTHING. I can’t wait to see what the future brings. Well I can, time - slow down!

Ophelia turns one next week, so a 12 month update felt timely. Also, taking time to find me again. Enjoy!