Ep. 196: It's Not You, It's Your Brain: How Thoughts Impact Arousal (and How to Shift Them)

The Unicorn, the famous multiorgasmic woman - sound out of reach? Think again, mastering multiple orgasms may be way easier than you think. Becoming multiorgasmic involves cultivating an awareness of your body, mind, and energy to experience that next level of pleasure, again, and again and again.Discover the science, tips, and techniques to unlock the potential for more pleasure and fulfillment in your intimate experiences.Episode Highlights:Learn 6 practical ways to cultivate the safety and mindset needed to experience multiple orgasmsUnderstand the importance of focusing on pleasure rather than just the orgasm itselfExplore the "pleasure scale" and how to extend your arousal for longer, more satisfying experiencesDiscover the power of "spreading and softening" sensations throughout your bodyLeverage your breath to enhance your multi-orgasmic potentialMentioned in the Episode:Please subscribe to my YouTube Chanel - It’s starting from scratch and I would love to get some subscribers. Can you help me out? https://youtube.com/@itsmypleasurepodInterested in taking things to the next level, with my personalized support? Check out my group coaching program "Tangled"Contact Danielle at [email protected] or on Instagram @thepracticeofpleasure

The idea of a lifetime of love and passion is something we have been fed over and over again. Growing old with one another, staying close and of course keeping that intimacy. But HOW do we actually do that? How do you continue to find vulnerability and intimacy with someone that you have spent more than half your life with? Amy Green Smith is here to help. An expert in relationships and what it really takes to stay close for the long haul, Amy and I dive deep into the art of cultivating vulnerability, setting boundaries, and navigating difficult conversations - all in service of fostering greater intimacy in long-term relationships. Prepare to be inspired, empowered, and equipped with practical tools to strengthen the connections that matter most.Episode Highlights:The power of vulnerability and why it's the key to depth in relationshipsStrategies for having tough talks without escalating into conflictThe importance of understanding surface issues vs. root issues in disagreementsCreating "conversational consent" to set the stage for productive dialoguesBalancing individual needs and desires with the health of the partnershipReframing sexuality and pleasure as a source of personal empowermentMentioned in this Episode:Grab Amy's FREE-SOURCES at:Connect with Amy on Social Media:The book "Fair Play" by Eve RodskyThe book "Come As You Are" by Emily NagoskiGottman Institute's research on "turning towards" in relationshipsReady to take your first step to clearing the way for more pleasure? Make sure to check out my new program, The Pleasure Plan + Creating Orgasmic Energy Masterclass daniellesavory.com/pleasureplan

In this engaging conversation, dating coach Evan Katz shares his insights on navigating the tricky balance between settling and compromising in relationships. Evan draws on his 20+ years of experience helping smart, successful women find love, offering practical advice on spotting red flags, setting boundaries, and cultivating the right kind of chemistry. Whether you're tired of swiping or wondering if your partner is "the one," this episode is packed with wisdom that will transform the way you approach dating and relationships.Highlights:The key differences between settling and compromising in a relationshipWhy character and compatibility matter more than physical attractionHow to identify the signs that a man is truly interested in you (and not just looking for a hookup)The surprising ways gender norms impact our approach to love and sexWhy emotional safety and vulnerability are essential for a fulfilling partnershipMentioned in this Episode:Evan Katz's website: EvanMarkKatz.comEvan's free ebook: 7 Massive Mistakes You're Making in Dating (available at EvanMarkKatz.com/mypleasure)The books Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb and The All-or-Nothing Marriage by Eli Finkel

It’s getting HOT in here! Summer is happening folks and with that comes a myriad of challenges to keeping the intimacy alive and well. Now, don’t get me wrong I LOVE so many things about summer, including the sultry and sensuous nature of it all. BUT real-life realities oftentimes can pose barriers to pleasure, connection and the sex itself. In this episode we discuss some of the top obstacles that get in the way of you getting it on and WHAT you can do about it.Highlights:Fam vacations, kids home, sweaty body odor - lets talk about it ALL because the reality is, lots of summer experiences are not a turn-onLearn how safety plays into your summer intimacyThe importance in focusing on pleasure as inevitableWhat to do for date nightsThe mindset shift needed to see how summer challenges might actually work towards your motivation system and the opportunity it offers for noveltyMentioned in this episode:Please help to support this podcast by sharing with a friend, rating and write a reviewIf you are ready to put what you have learned from this podcast into practice then make sure to get the new program The Pleasure Plan + Creating Orgasmic Energy. This revolutionary program is only $33 and will set you up with the framework, the mindset and the how to of opening your schedule, your heart and your body to more pleasure and orgasmic experiences: https://www.daniellesavory.com/offers/6pB3TpF9/checkout

In this important episode, Adriana McCulloch shares her personal journey with breast cancer and the many things that aren’t discussed openly when one faces cancer treatment. Because the fact is, that there is so much emphasis on the treatment itself and getting through that, but not how to put all the pieces back together once treatment is complete. There is a physical and emotional impact of cancer treatment that is carried on well after the treatment that can bleed into so many areas of life, but especially a woman’s relationship with her body and sexuality, including the challenges of body image, intimacy, and early onset menopause. Adriana sheds light into her own journey navigating these challenges as well as ways that those facing treatment recovery can begin to reclaim their intimate lives and sexuality.We dive into the healing process from grieving to self-love and of course tapping into pleasure.Highlights:Adriana's personal experience with breast cancer diagnosis and treatment, and how it inspired her to become a coach for othersThe profound impact of cancer treatment on Adriana's relationship with her body, including scars, loss of sensation, and feelings of distrustThe importance of grieving and unlearning societal expectations and trauma to build a solid foundation for healingThe journey of rediscovering pleasure, intimacy, and communication after cancer treatmentThe societal perceptions and expectations of breast cancer survivors, and how they can negatively impact one's ability to pursue pleasure and intimacyThe need for more support and resources for cancer survivors, especially in the areas of sexuality and mental healthMentioned in this episode:Adriana’s website www.choicecoaching.orgFollow Adriana on IG @choicecoaching Have someone who has gone through cancer treatment? Please send this episode and let them know they are not alone!Ready to take your first step to clearing the way for more pleasure? Make sure to check out my new program, The Pleasure Plan + Creating Orgasmic Energy Masterclass daniellesavory.com/pleasureplan

In this milestone 200th episode, we're celebrating over five years of conversations around a topic that's long been taboo but is so important for our wellbeing. Tune in as we discuss how societal messages have led us to disconnect from our bodies and desires over time. We'll delve into how limiting beliefs formed and how we can start rewriting our stories to align with self-pleasure and worthiness. I am humbled by how all of you have supported this important work to help bring these discussions into the light. Join us to learn how tapping into your joy, pleasure and empowerment can positively impact your life and be a part of shifting conversations for generations to come. It's time to feel good - don't miss this special episode celebrating over 200 installments of empowerment!Highlights:A look back at over 5 years of conversations and how far we've come in breaking taboosRevealing how societal messages shaped our beliefs about what really matters for our wellbeingFun ways we can start reconnecting with our bodies and what feels goodCelebrating the community that's come together to support these important discussionsMentioned in this episode:Please help to support this podcast by sharing with a friend, rating and write a reviewIf you are ready to put what you have learned from this podcast into practice then make sure to get the new program The Pleasure Plan + Creating Orgasmic Energy. This revolutionary program is only $33 and will set you up with the framework, the mindset and the how to of opening your schedule, your heart and your body to more pleasure and orgasmic experiences: https://www.daniellesavory.com/offers/6pB3TpF9/checkout

It is time to talk about the ways in which patriarchy operates in society, including historical roots, in order to understand the ongoing effects on women's agency and pleasure. In this enlightening conversation we explore how patriarchy has influenced women's bodies and pleasure throughout history, from biblical and classical texts to modern times. It is time to challenge patriarchy so that we can reclaim our sexuality and pleasure in empowering way. Amy McPhie Allebest is a feminist historian and writer. She has a master's degree from Stanford University and is currently working toward a PhD at the University of Utah in Education, Culture, and Society. Her podcast and YouTube channel, Breaking Down Patriarchy, educate about the history of patriarchy and its intersections with racism and homophobia.Highlights: Discover how ancient texts like the Bible secretly shaped your views on gender without you even knowingLearn the surprising history behind your favorite high school books and how they slyly pushed patriarchal ideasFind out which body part doctors were clueless about for centuries and how it impacted women's love livesHear the hilarious code names women had to use to talk about taboo topics back in the dayGet the real scoop on how the beauty industry has been playing us all along!Mentioned in this episode:YouTube.com/@breakingdownpatriarchy@bdownpatriarchywww.breakingdownpatriarchyPlease share, subscribe and write a review for the podcast!The Pleasure Plan - your 5-step program for making your life filled with more orgasmic pleasure and intimacy: daniellesavory.com/pleasureplanEnjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

Welcome back to It’s My Pleasure. In this week's episode, I'm diving deep into how intention can maximize all the amazing benefits of pursuing pleasure.We all know pleasure is good for us, but did you know the impact it can have depends on your intention behind the pleasure you are pursuing?? I'll be sharing a fascinating study I came across that shows just how powerful our intentions can be. Simply by shifting their focus, pleasurable actions you are already taking, can become more beneficialI'm also giving you all my best tips for finding your "why" - those reasons you're pursuing pleasure that really light you up. Because when you show up with intention, connected to how good it makes you feel, your brain and body are primed to reap all the rewards.So tune in to learn how getting clear on your intentions can supercharge the effects of pleasure on your creativity, focus, stress levels and so much more. It's time to own your pleasure - are you ready to unlock its full potential?Highlights:The power of intent and why its important to get clear about why you are in engaging in pleasure if you want to reap the full benefitsFinding a why that lights you upSupercharge the effects of pleasure on your creativity, focus, stress levels and so much more Mentioned in this episode:The Pleasure Plan - your 5-step program for making your life filled with more orgasmic pleasure and intimacy: daniellesavory.com/pleasureplanEnjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

Hey friends, I have such an insightful conversation for you all from my latest episode with Anna Iovine. If you've ever questioned your sexuality or struggled with feeling believed in your queer identity, you do not want to miss what Anna has to say.Anna dives deep with me on the disbelief bisexual women often face and helps shine a light on why our brains seem to reject the idea of fluid sexuality. I mean, can you believe people still think sexuality is as simple as black and white? Spoiler alert: it's anything but.Happy pride month everyone - you’re going to love this conversation!Highlights:How to reconcile queer and straight identities in relationshipsDebunking common myths and stereotypesWhy we feel lonely even though we are connectedPlus how does a tech writer navigate her own boundaries with tech in terms of intimacy with her partner?Mentioned in this episode:https://www.annaiovine.com/https://disintercourse.substack.com/Please share, subscribe and write a review for the podcast!Ready to take your first step to clearing the way for more pleasure? Make sure to check out my new program, The Pleasure Plan daniellesavory.com/pleasureplanEnjoying the podcast?Make sure you don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, RSS, or follow on Spotify.It would mean so much to me if you could leave a review!Let me know your thoughts on this episode by contacting [email protected]!

Got some of those thoughts running wild in your head during intimate moments? You're not alone. But did you know that particular things occurring between the ears could be impacting what’s happening (or not) below the belt??In this episode we cover some game-changing insights about how our beliefs affect arousal, yes arousal - and more importantly, how to tame those pesky thoughts so you can rewire your brain to create more blood flow to your genitals. This might just be the mind-blowing info that takes your pleasure to the next level.Highlights:Learn the surprising average time it takes for full female arousal (it's more than you think!)Understand how limiting beliefs and distracting thoughts can trigger stress and halt arousal in its tracksDiscover simple strategies for calming the mind and fully engaging the body, like scheduling pleasure timeGet tips for combining hormone therapy with mindset work for optimized arousal and orgasmMentioned in this episode:An upcoming 5-day "Pleasure Plan" course will provide tips for planning pleasurable sex and dropping into the bodyThe course will also help rewire mindsets around sexuality and accessing more pleasure without pressureThe Pleasure Plan - your 5 day guide to helping you find the time, the desire and the passion to get it on: daniellesavory.com/pleasureplan