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Get in touch with us! We’d appreciate your feedback and comments. “Protecting your time isn’t selfish — it’s self-respect in action.”Do you ever say yes when every part of you wants to say no — and walk away wondering why you agreed in the first place?Learn how to say no without guilt or apology. In this solo episode, Jason Lim explores the psychology of boundaries, how over-agreeing drains our energy, and how clear, values-based decisions protect focus, time, and peace of mind.Key Takeaway Insights & ToolsEvery “No” Protects a “Yes” (03:19)Clarity about what truly matters is the foundation of boundaries. Every time you say no to what’s meaningless, you’re actually saying yes to what’s essential — your family, focus, or health.Tool: Write down your top three priorities for the week and use them as a filter for new requests.Do a Time Audit (05:03)We underestimate how much time “just one call” or “just a few minutes” consumes. Learn to ask not “Can I fit this in?” but “What will I have to give up to make room for it?”Tool: Track your week to see where attention leaks occur and replace “I’m sorry” with “I don’t have the bandwidth to give this the attention it deserves.”Assertive Communication (06:52)Boundaries falter not from lack of words, but lack of permission. Say what you mean, stop over-explaining, and let silence reinforce your certainty.Practice: Record yourself saying, “Thanks for thinking of me, but I can’t take that on right now.” Play it back until it sounds calm and grounded.Boundaries Build Trust (08:03)Boundaries aren’t walls — they’re agreements about respect. When you set limits early and consistently, you become more predictable, reliable, and respected.Example: “I’ve started keeping my mornings clear for deeper work, so I’m not available before nine.”Delegate to Empower, Not Escape (10:45)Saying no doesn’t mean shutting people out. It means redirecting requests to where they belong and letting others grow.Tool: For one request this week that doesn’t require you, delegate it. Notice that the world doesn’t fall apart — it expands.Saying “No” Is a Practice (11:26)The discomfort and guilt you feel when you start saying no isn’t a signal of wrongdoing — it’s a sign of change. Over time, this habit sharpens focus and gives your “yes” real weight.Reflection: When a new request arrives, pause and ask:Does this align with what matters?Do I have time and energy for it?What will it replace if I agree?If this episode helped you reclaim a bit of peace or perspective, share it with someone who struggles to say no. Subscribe to It’s an Inside Job on your favorite podcast platform, and keep building resilience — one boundary at a time.Host BioJason Birkevold Liem is a resilience coach, leadership consultant, and host of It’s an Inside Job, a podcast exploring the science and psychology behind resilience, well-being, and self-leadership. Through practical strategies and candid storytelling, Jason helps leaders and professionals strengthen their mental and emotional fitness.Support the showSign up for the weekly IT'S AN INSIDE JOB NEWSLETTER takes 5 seconds to fill out receive a fresh update every Wednesday

Get in touch with us! We’d appreciate your feedback and comments. “Resilient people don’t let past investment dictate future choices. They measure value by direction, not duration.”What would you walk away from today if you weren’t busy trying to justify the time, money, and effort you’ve already spent?In this solo episode of Seeing Sideways, I unpack the Sunk Cost fallacy and how it quietly sabotages decisions in your work, relationships, and goals. You’ll learn practical ways to let go of draining commitments so you can choose more clearly, protect your energy, and build resilient self-leadership in a noisy world.Key Takeaway Insights and Tools (Bullet Points with Timestamps)[00:01:07] Decision-making in a noisy worldI introduce Part Three of Seeing Sideways, exploring how cognitive biases distort our judgment in an information-heavy, opinion-saturated world and why awareness is the first step toward clearer decisions.[00:03:38] What the sunk cost fallacy actually isI explain how the sunk cost fallacy keeps us clinging to plans, projects, and relationships purely because we’ve already invested time, money, or effort—even when walking away would serve us better.[00:04:58] Everyday examples: concerts, relationships, and leadershipThrough real-life illustrations—from staying at a bad concert to remaining in draining relationships or funding failing projects—I show how this bias leads us to “throw good energy after bad” instead of cutting our losses.[00:06:02] Why the sunk cost fallacy once helped us surviveI explore the evolutionary roots of this bias: in resource-scarce environments, sticking with hard-won investments made sense, but in modern life it often deepens financial, emotional, and mental losses instead of protecting us.[00:08:24] The real cost: stagnation and missed growthI break down how the sunk cost fallacy creates stagnation, locking us into regret and frustration, and how it stops us from reassessing, learning, and moving toward better opportunities.Share this episode with one person who you know is struggling to walk away from a draining project, role, or relationship—they may need to hear that letting go can be a strategic move, not a failure.Support the showSign up for the weekly IT'S AN INSIDE JOB NEWSLETTER takes 5 seconds to fill out receive a fresh update every Wednesday

Get in touch with us! We’d appreciate your feedback and comments. “What veterans need more than anything is a new mission. We’re built to serve others, to protect. Give us purpose again and incredible things happen.” - Lee James HannaIn this episode, I sit down with Army veteran and Western Regional Veterans Program Manager, Lee James Hanna, to unpack the hidden struggles of transitioning from military to civilian life—addiction, PTSD, moral injury—and the practical tools of purpose, community, and self-compassion that support real recovery and resilience for veterans.BioLee James Hanna is the Western Regional Veterans Program Manager for New Dawn Treatment Centers, where he advocates for Veterans struggling with substance use disorders and the lingering impact of trauma. A 100% disabled U.S. Army Veteran and former Airborne Infantryman who served in OEF X–XII, Lee’s understanding of resilience is grounded in lived experience—both in combat and in the long road of recovery afterward.Lee has navigated the lasting effects of PTSD and a traumatic brain injury caused by IED blasts, along with the difficult transition many Veterans face when returning to civilian life. For years, he felt unsupported by the very systems meant to help. Those challenges shaped his passion for ensuring Veterans are treated with urgency, dignity, and cultural understanding.Today, Lee works closely with VA facilities across California and Nevada to break down barriers to care and make sure Veterans receive timely, appropriate treatment. He is known for his candid communication style, his deep grasp of military culture, and his commitment to helping Veterans rebuild stability and purpose.Website: https://www.newdawntreatmentcenters.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lee-james-hanna-b031b3154/Content WarningThis episode includes discussion of combat trauma, PTSD, traumatic brain injury, addiction, and a suicide attempt. If this conversation made you think of a veteran—or anyone—who might be carrying more than they can say, share this episode with them or simply check in and ask how they’re really doing. And if you’d like more episodes on resilience, purpose, and the psychology of real change, follow or subscribe.Support the showSign up for the weekly IT'S AN INSIDE JOB NEWSLETTER takes 5 seconds to fill out receive a fresh update every Wednesday

Get in touch with us! We’d appreciate your feedback and comments. "One honest detail added can shift the entire meaning and make your story more real and not just more comfortable."Is the story you tell about your past actually the truth, or is it just the most comfortable version?Understand the Narrative Fallacy, the cognitive bias that makes your brain rewrite the past into a neat, consistent story. Learn how to spot this mental shortcut to embrace life's complexity and build authentic resilience and clarity.Key Takeaway Insights and Tools The Narrative Fallacy is the brain's tendency to simplify complexity, fill in gaps, and distort details to make the past appear more coherent and meaningful than it was. (1:02)By oversimplifying the past, we lose sight of the random factors, coincidence, and unpredictability that shaped our lives, leading us to believe we are always in control. (2:45)Clinging to a rigid, tidy narrative reduces resilience because it makes us resistant to change and adaptation, and we stop questioning the path we've set. (4:39)The Contrarian Move is to consciously embrace life's complexity and unpredictability instead of forcing events into overly neat stories. (5:27)Genuine resilience arises not from crafting perfect stories, but from navigating uncertainty, contradiction, and randomness with adaptability and openness. (7:52)If today's episode offered you a new perspective, please share it with someone who might benefit and subscribe to the podcast for more insights on cognitive biases!Jason White Birkevold Liem is the host of It’s an Inside Job and author of Seeing Sideways. He helps leaders and coaches turn psychological insight into everyday practice—so they can think clearly, choose wisely, and lead with intent.Support the showSign up for the weekly IT'S AN INSIDE JOB NEWSLETTER takes 5 seconds to fill out receive a fresh update every Wednesday

Get in touch with us! We’d appreciate your feedback and comments. “Combat mode can lead you through war; it cannot lead you through life.” — Clay RojasU.S. Marine veteran and counsellor Clay Rojas joins me to unpack the hard transition from combat to civilian life—covering post-traumatic stress (drop the “D”), dialling down “combat mode” at home, and how families and communities can become real rally points for veterans. Practical steps, plain language, and resources from The Forge Initiative and Clay’s book, Rally Point.Key Takeaway Insights & Tools “Combat mode” must be turned off on purpose. Hypervigilance saves lives in theater; it wrecks home life if left on. [12:26–16:15]Drop the “D” from PTSD. Framing it as post-traumatic stress removes the stigma of “disorder” and restores hope. [18:36–21:47]The first step to victory is surrender—to love. Admitting “I can’t recover alone” is strength, not defeat. [22:24–24:22]Rebuild belonging on purpose. Replace lost unit cohesion with peer groups and service—meaning needs a place to live. [27:45–29:09]Civilians can be rally points. Learn the terrain, handle with care, and line up veteran-specific help. [49:00–52:22]BioClay Rojas is a USMC veteran (2001–2005) with three combat deployments who has lived many lives—teenage dad, police officer, convict, pastor—and is now a counsellor and Regional Director at The Forge in Tulsa, OK. He specializes in post-traumatic stress management for military veterans and first responders, drawing on extensive research and frontline experience. During his service, he led an infantry squad with 1st Battalion, 7th Marines, and served as a squad leader with 2nd FAST Company. His awards include the Navy and Marine Corps Achievement Medal with Gold Star and Combat “V” distinguishing device.LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/in/clay-rojas-8b2590a6/The Forge:  https://theforge.org/veterans-support/Content WarningThis episode discusses suicide and suicidal ideation. Listener discretion advised.Support the showSign up for the weekly IT'S AN INSIDE JOB NEWSLETTER takes 5 seconds to fill out receive a fresh update every Wednesday

Get in touch with us! We’d appreciate your feedback and comments. What changes when you stop assuming people “get it” and start checking what they actually heard?In this chapter of Seeing Sideways, I break down egocentric bias—why we think others see what we see—and show simple ways to improve clarity, perspective-taking, and leadership communication. Walk away with practical prompts and routines that cut misunderstandings and build trust.Key Takeaway Insights & Tools Egocentric bias defined—“why we think others see what we see.” It tricks us into believing our intentions are obvious, our logic is universal, and our tone is clear. — 00:01:05The trap: brevity reads as cold, sarcasm lands as insult, “one pass” explanations don’t align teams. We blame their interpretation instead of our clarity. — 00:02:11The twist: this bias once saved effort in homogenous groups, but today diversity of contexts makes the shortcut unreliable. Projection ≠ connection. — 00:02:57–00:04:25The cost: trust erodes when we assume understanding. Vague instructions, misaligned teams, and conflicts that mistake “my reality” for the reality. — 00:04:25–00:05:46The contrarian move: perspective-taking, clarity checks, and reflective empathy. Ask, “What might they be seeing that I’m missing?” and make understanding a routine, not an accident. — 00:05:46–00:07:32Support the showSign up for the weekly IT'S AN INSIDE JOB NEWSLETTER takes 5 seconds to fill out receive a fresh update every Wednesday

Get in touch with us! We’d appreciate your feedback and comments. “Burnout doesn’t book a slot in your calendar. It just shows up and takes what it’s owed.” Are you living on resilience credit—spending today’s energy while expecting tomorrow’s self to pay the bill?In this solo episode of It’s an Inside Job, I explore the idea of resilience debt—how constantly borrowing against our well-being leads to burnout, illness, and disconnection. I share practical strategies and tools to help you build buffers, protect your energy, and turn resilience into a renewable resource.Key Takeaway Insights and ToolsResilience Debt as Allostatic Load (00:34 – 02:27)Resilience debt builds when we keep borrowing from our well-being without recovery. Science calls this “allostatic load”—the cumulative wear and tear from chronic stress.The Interest Rate on Stress (03:07 – 06:26)Stress compounds like financial debt: it shows up as decision fatigue, emotional reactivity, health breakdowns, and flatness. Burnout and illness don’t wait until it’s convenient.Why We Keep Borrowing (06:26 – 08:13)Present bias, hustle culture, and a false sense of invincibility trick us into ignoring the long-term costs of overextension.Four Buffers to Protect Energy (09:02 – 11:45)Recovery budget: Treat sleep, nutrition, and connection as non-negotiable.Micro-recovery habits: Small daily practices build compound interest over time.Energy tracking: Notice what charges or drains you.Boundaries as investments: Every thoughtful “no” is a deposit that protects your energy.Resilience as a Renewable Resource (11:45 – 12:49)Real resilience isn’t endless toughness—it’s renewal. Like solar energy, it regenerates daily when you maintain the system.Practical Exercise: The Credit/Debit Ledger (12:49 – 13:36)Draw a line down the center of a page. On one side, list credits (what restores you); on the other, debits (what drains you). Then ask: Where am I borrowing? Commit to making one deposit this week.If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might be running on resilience credit. And don’t forget to subscribe to It’s an Inside Job for weekly insights on resilience, leadership, and well-being.Host BioJason White Birkevold Liem is a resilience coach, author of Seeing Sideways, and host of It’s an Inside Job. He helps leaders, coaches, and professionals strengthen resilience, improve communication, and build clarity from the inside out. Connect with Jason at www.mindtalk.no or follow him on LinkedIn.Support the showSign up for the weekly IT'S AN INSIDE JOB NEWSLETTER takes 5 seconds to fill out receive a fresh update every Wednesday