Raising Confident, Resourceful, and Resilient Kids

We all want our kids to be confident, resourceful, and to know what they’re good at. The trouble is that we make two big mistakes as parents: We either don’t give them enough challenge, or we burn them out with too much. Do your kids know that they have what it takes to overcome struggle? Do they feel confident in knowing what to do when it comes to life skills and everyday tasks like cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, or taking care of animals? Do they know what they’re good at and have a healthy sense of what to do with things they’re not good at? We call this resourcefulness, and it’s one of the most important traits to cultivate in our kids. What is resourcefulness? How do we offer a healthy dose of both support and challenge to help our kids build resilience? What do you do when you see things in your kids they don’t see in themselves? These are the questions we tackle in this episode. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction1:24 What resourcefulness is and the two extremes we tend to take as parents7:40 The good and hard of giving children responsibility12:03 Giving kids support while offering challenge19:38 How to know if you’ve over-supported or over-challenged24:15 When you see things in your kids they don’t see in themselves30:00 When you push beyond what you think you’re capable of Show Notes:Get 10 Days of the Easter Story: A Family Experience Through the Feelings of Holy Weekhttps://amzn.to/4lpPGQf Join our KidsRQ Community: www.kidsrq.com Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download the Famous at Home app from Apple, click here. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/famous-at-home/id6502221394 Download the Famous at Home app from Google Play, click here. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2147486660.app2&hl=en_US Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Get ready for the early episode pivot in this one, folks. Talking about their marriage a few minutes into recording, Josh and Christi had a moment that sent them spiraling into laughter. The atmosphere shifted, so they shifted with it. And the result? A conversation about joy! In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about why joy can be so difficult to feel. “We’re actually scared of joy,” Christi says. “It is such an intense emotion that our bodies feel under threat.” Christi goes on to say, “The feeling of joy is so big that you can’t start at 95%, you have to begin by micro-dosing it at about 5%.”But feel it we must. The Bible says that the joy of the Lord is our strength (Nehemiah 8:10). If it strengthens us, it must be dangerous for darkness. No wonder it takes courage to feel it. Like anything else, joy is caught, not taught. Josh and Christi talk about how to overcome the fear, shift the atmosphere, and pass joy onto our kids. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction1:24 10 Days of the Easter Story2:53 Josh & Christi’s wedding story5:55 The unexpected pivot into joy7:30 Shifting the spiritual atmosphere for joy13:10 Left brain knowledge of versus right brain experience of joy17:52 How joy is birthed within us21:16 God is a joyful God28:14 Why we’re afraid of joy31:30 How to micro-dose moments of joy in your life34:01 Practical ways to experience joy and pass it onto your kids42:55 Ways to make joy not feel threatening Show Notes:Get 10 Days of the Easter Story: A Family Experience Through the Feelings of Holy Weekhttps://amzn.to/4lpPGQf Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download the Famous at Home app from Apple, click here. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/famous-at-home/id6502221394 Download the Famous at Home app from Google Play, click here. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2147486660.app2&hl=en_US Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Have you felt yourself revert back to a child in the way you react to your kids, or a particular situation?Watching from the sideline, Josh recently had a moment where his inner child wounds collided with the reality of the his son’s experience on the soccer field. When we come face-to-face with the dissonance between the way we REACT, and the way we want to ACT, something deeper is often at play. Becoming mindful of those moments, and how we respond to them, influences what we pass onto our kids. In this episode, Josh & Christi talk about how to identify an unhealed inner child “part” of yourself, give examples of redeemed and unhealed epigenetic transmission, and provide a beautiful example of how Jesus meets us right where we are. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction1:15 The messages we picked up in childhood in order to fit in6:15 How to identify an unhealed inner child “part” of yourself9:13 Examples of epigenetic transmission of unresolved inner child pain17:37 The motivation of our parental decisions20:30 Disappointment, condemnation, and the feelings of Holy Week28:56 How Jesus’ restoration of Peter is for all of us Show Notes:Easter is coming up! Get 10 Days of the Easter Story: A Family Experience Through the Feelings of Holy Weekhttps://amzn.to/4lpPGQf Interested in our Spring Love Your Marriage Cohort? Apply now. Starts March 30. https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

In this episode, we lay the foundation for what really matters most when it comes to raising Gen Alpha kids—emotional safety. It’s also the beginning of how we got started with Famous at Home — discovering the power of, and talking about how to cultivate, a posture of emotional safety in our homes for our kids.As we continue season 8 on Parenting Gen Alpha, we define what emotional safety is and why it matters for getting every outcome we desire in our kids. We also talk about the four walls of parenting, the importance of reparenting our own inner child, and why emotional safety is so important to who our kids are becoming. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction and insight into Josh and Christi’s current day-to-day as parents3:20 Setting the stage for today's topic 7:21 What emotional safety is and why it matters11:13 Being able to bring the fullness of who you are to the relationship13:50 Support and challenge in parenting16:55 Reparenting our own inner child21:02 Leading in grace and following in truth25:49 Emotional safety and the need for communityShow Notes:Get Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well:https://amzn.to/4rc52c9 Ladies, sign up here for Spring Tender & Fierce Cohort! https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Interested in our Spring Love Your Marriage Cohort? Apply now. Starts March 30. https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

One of the most intriguing, humbling, and challenging aspects of being a parent is how our kids mirror who WE are. And what’s really difficult are the societal — or cultural — norms shaping who we are as humans. Who are we becoming as adults?How are the decisions we make shaping our kids?Do our unrealized emotions influence how resilient our kids are becoming? As we continue our series on Raising Gen Alpha Kids, these are questions Dr. Josh and Christi address. Some highlights include: What it means to “choose your hard”How loneliness becomes a byproduct of self-protectionHow silence plays itself out in marriage and the cost it has on our kidsWhat if you’re exhausted and can’t choose the hard thing?The joy and “hard” of helping our kids build resilienceTime Stamps:0:00 Introduction1:28 Ways to go deeper7:30 Choosing your hard11:40 Loneliness and the environment of the home16:19 How loneliness becomes a byproduct of our self-protection20:03 How silence plays itself out in marriage and the cost it has on our kids23:10 What if you’re exhausted and can’t choose the hard thing?27:48 Choosing a different kind of “hard”32:41 The joy and “hard” of helping our kids build resilience Show Notes:Ladies, sign up here for Spring Tender & Fierce Cohort! https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Interested in our Spring Love Your Marriage Cohort? Apply now. Starts March 30. https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoaching Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download the Famous at Home app from Apple, click here. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/famous-at-home/id6502221394 Download the Famous at Home app from Google Play, click here. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2147486660.app2&hl=en_US Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

The stats of anxiety, depression, and stress on Gen Z (ages 14-28) are scary and higher than ever before. That’s not hyperbole. What have been the cultural, familial, and individual influences at work, and what can parents of Gen Alpha (ages 0-13) learn from where we find ourselves? We believe that parents hold the keys to influencing the next generation. And there is much more hope than might appear at the surface. But the way through is by first addressing what may be our greatest adversary: Our own parental fears. In this episode, we ask the question, “Why are we doing what we’re doing as families?” We address issues like the self-fulfilling prophecy, the role of epigenetics in child outcomes, and the spiritual laws that influence our decisions. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction1:03 Christi and Josh introduce a NEW season5:40 The mental health of Gen Z9:57 Parenting and mental health16:20 The effects of the decisions we make as parents and addressing parental fears25:30 Spiritual laws that influence our parenting31:00 Running into our fears and the hope of being a parent today35:25 Conscious and unconscious choices we make as parents40:00 How fear-based narratives influence our parenting44:34 What is God’s role in how you parent? Show Notes:Ladies, sign up here for Spring Tender & Fierce Cohort! https://www.famousathome.com/tenderandfierce Interested in our Spring Love Your Marriage Cohort? Apply now. https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Men, sign up for the Living Legacy Cohort:https://www.famousathome.com/menscoachingSubscribe to Dr. Josh's Substack: https://substack.com/@drjoshuastraub Download the Famous at Home app from Apple, click here. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/famous-at-home/id6502221394 Download the Famous at Home app from Google Play, click here. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2147486660.app2&hl=en_US Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Marriage is arguably the most sanctifying relationship on the planet. Just consider the following questions:Why is it that we tend to think our spouse is out to get us? Why do we assume the worst about him / her? What causes us to get so defensive? Why do we get so offensive in our reactions? Are the offenses we carry worth it? Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, best-selling author of Love and Respect, joins us to talk about the lightbulb moments he discovered in 20 years of helping men and women stop living in their crazy cycle. What is the crazy cycle? Consider this: “Without love she reacts without respect. Without respect he reacts without love.” But what’s more, Dr. Eggerichs discovered that “without love, defensively she reacts offensively without respect. And without respect, defensively he reacts offensively without love.” In this episode, Dr. Eggerichs shares the way out of the cycle through principles like “80/20” and “Seeing God over your spouse’s shoulder.” With many incredible convicting and encouraging insights, this is an episode we hope brings your marriage closer together. Time Stamps:0:00 Dr. Emerson Eggerichs joins the show2:31 Where Love and Respect and the crazy cycle began8:21 How to interpret the crazy cycle in your relationship19:40 The ah-ha moment of 80/20 and the lens from which we view our spouse27:08 Looking at God over the spouse of your shoulder29:32 Your marriage within the Kingdom of God34:45 Victimhood, offense, and finding freedom in Christ44:44 Being offended by God and the power of a forgiving spirit48:55 The 2 degree shift that can change your marriage52:45 How to get your husband to pray with you Show Notes:Get Light Bulb Moments in Marriage by Emerson Eggerichshttps://amzn.to/4t9WAfP Get Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichshttps://amzn.to/4kiuAmg Interested in our 8-week Love Your Marriage Cohort? Apply now. https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Looking for a marriage intensive with Famous at Home? Apply now.  https://www.famousathome.com/coaching Download the Famous at Home app from Apple, click here. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/famous-at-home/id6502221394 Download the Famous at Home app from Google Play, click here. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2147486660.app2&hl=en_US Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Epigenetics is real. In other words, there’s a trickle down effect onto our kids based on our beliefs, feelings, and the environment in which we raise them. In this episode, Pastor Max Lucado joins the show to talk about helping parents meet children in their anxious thoughts. Having written multiple books on anxiety, Pastor Lucado has a new 90-day devotional called Calm Thoughts for Kids, and joins the show to talk about what he’s seeing as a grandparent and how parents today can help their kids with their anxious days. Having just become a grandparent for the sixth time, and about to be the seventh time, Pastor Lucado also talks about how grandparents can come alongside their adult children in raising their grandchildren. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction3:51 Max Lucado talks about fear and kids9:50 How raising kids has changed13:40 How grandparents can support their adult kids in raising their grandkids19:00 How parents can disciple their kids and meet them in fear23:45 The power of story to help kids grow28:07 What is your strategy?Show Notes:Get Calm Thoughts for Kids: 90 Devotions for Anxious Days by Pastor Max Lucado by clicking here: https://amzn.to/3Maf13l Get Traveling Light: Releasing the Burdens You Were Never Intended to Bear by Pastor Lucado: https://amzn.to/49YHtgp Get What Do I Do With Worry by Dr. Josh and Christi: https://amzn.to/4k3UGJD Download the Famous at Home app from Apple, click here. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/famous-at-home/id6502221394 Download the Famous at Home app from Google Play, click here. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2147486660.app2&hl=en_US Sign up for our email list: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

What is the love language that matters most?! That’s the focus of this week’s episode, as our friend, Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, joins us to talk about his new book by the same name, The Love Language That Matters Most.  In this episode, Dr. Chapman drops some serious one-liners to teach us how to practically identify and love our spouse in their own dialect. Sound intriguing to you? The insights are profound. Here are some of the gold nuggets Dr. Chapman shares:Why our agenda takes precedence over our valuesHow to know what your spouse needs to really feel lovedWhy the misbehavior of both children AND adults grows out of an empty love tankHow to be a great listenerThe three ways to help your children feel lovedAnd the most sobering question Dr. Chapman asked of himself while raising his kids As he stated, “The question is not, ‘Do you love your children.’ The question is, ‘Do your children feel loved?’” Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction1:19 What’s coming up with Famous at Home4:02 Dr. Gary Chapman joins the show10:13 What is the love language that matters most?18:30 The dialects of each love language23:02 The emotional love tank27:40 The qualities of being a great listener35:00 How to help your children feel loved42:57 The most sobering question Dr. Chapman would ask of himself raising kids Show Notes:Purchase The Love Language That Matters Most by Dr. Gary Chapman by clicking here: https://amzn.to/4bHmXDy Take the Love Language Premium Assessment: https://5lovelanguages.com/store/premium-assessmentWant a marriage you love? Fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Sign up for our email list and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter To download the Famous at Home app from Apple, click here. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/famous-at-home/id6502221394 To download the Famous at Home app from Google Play, click here. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2147486660.app2&hl=en_USDownload NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome

Quick note: If you haven't yet downloaded the Famous at Home app, see show notes below to download. Be sure to turn notifications on for the latest encouragement from Famous at Home. Welcome to a brand new season called Loving Well!In this episode, Josh and Christi talk about bringing order to all of the things in your home and life that might feel disordered. Why order? Because love gets smothered where chaos reigns. When we're in survival, we have a limited ability to look outward and love well. Josh and Christi share what we need to love well, talk about being victims of parenthood, and discuss very practical ways to move from "survival mode" to order and love. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction to a new season2:43 Calling back to order that which feels disordered9:00 Upcoming guests on Season 7 of “Loving Well”10:11 The foundation of loving well16:56 Are we victims of parenthood?27:42 We are what we focus on33:00 Ways to work through “survival mode” and lead your family into order and love40:45 Ways to love your spouse well Show Notes: To download the Famous at Home app from Apple, click here. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/famous-at-home/id6502221394 To download the Famous at Home app from Google Play, click here. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj2147486660.app2&hl=en_US Want a marriage you love? Fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Sign up for our newsletter and Famous at Home Starter Bundle: https://www.famousathome.com/newsletter Download NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome