Ep 254 How to Communicate Better in Relationships with Jason VanRuler

In this episode, Tyler sits down with Dr. Sheila Gujrathi, entrepreneur, physician, board director, co-founder of the Biotech CEO Sisterhood, and author of The Mirror Effect.Sheila has built an extraordinary career across medicine, biotech, executive leadership, and board service. But even with the accomplishments, credentials, and success, she realized there were deeper patterns shaping how she showed up.This conversation explores fear, insecurity, doubt, shame, belonging, self-compassion, leadership, and the internal glass ceilings that high performers often carry without realizing it.In this episode, you’ll learn: Why success does not always make people feel like they belong How limiting beliefs show up in leadership. Why fear can quietly drive high achievement What the “inner glass ceiling” is How self-compassion helps leaders break old patterns Why community and psychological safety matter How to build a personal board of directors Why leaders need to understand both their inner and outer environment How to stop internalizing toxic work experiences What authentic leadership looks like in high-stakes rooms Tyler and Sheila also discuss loneliness in leadership, the pressure to prove yourself, the role of supportive networks, and why doing inner work helps people lead with greater clarity, confidence, and impact.If you are a leader, executive, entrepreneur, or high performer who has ever felt successful on the outside but uncertain on the inside, this episode will speak directly to you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Tyler sits down with Jason VanRuler, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of Discovering Your Communication Type and Get Past Your Past. Jason has spent years helping people understand relationships, attachment, communication, emotional health, and human connection. In this conversation, he and Tyler talk about why so many people repeat patterns from their past, how communication breaks down, and what it takes to build healthier relationships. They also explore the difference between empathy and compassion, why self-awareness matters, how leaders and parents can communicate better, and why knowing how you show up changes the way people experience you. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why your past affects how you communicate today How attachment wounds shape relationships Why empathy is not always what people think it is The difference between compassion and empathy How communication styles influence connection Why avoiding conflict can keep people stuck How to recognize your communication type Why leaders need self-awareness to build trust How to stop repeating unhealthy relationship patterns Why real connection starts with honesty Jason also shares his P.A.T.H.S. communication framework, which includes the Peacemaker, Advocate, Thinker, Harbor, and Spark styles. If you want to communicate more clearly, strengthen your relationships, understand yourself better, and create deeper connection with the people around you, this episode is for you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most leaders are trying to solve burnout by pushing harder. That approach eventually breaks down. In this episode, Tyler sits down with Nicole Ward, Senior Vice President of Sales at Aon, executive coach, biohacker, podcast host, and author of Biohacking for the Sales Athlete. Nicole shares how years of high-pressure sales, nonstop travel, stress, brain fog, poor recovery, and unhealthy habits eventually forced her to confront the way she was living and performing. This conversation explores what happens when high performers prioritize results while ignoring recovery, health, emotional regulation, and self-awareness. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why burnout is so common among leaders and sales professionals How stress impacts performance, leadership, and decision making Why sleep is one of the most important performance tools The connection between recovery and sustainable success How to improve focus, cognition, and emotional regulation Why high performers struggle to slow down Practical biohacking strategies for leaders and entrepreneurs The difference between external success and internal alignment Why small habits create long-term transformation How healthier leaders create healthier organizations If you are an entrepreneur, executive, manager, sales professional, or high performer trying to succeed without losing yourself in the process, this episode will challenge how you think about leadership, health, and performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve been taught that being hard on ourselves is what drives improvement. But what if that’s the very thing holding you back? In this episode, Tyler sits down with David Robson to unpack one of the most common patterns in personal growth, leadership, and performance: self-criticism. It feels productive. It sounds like discipline. But it’s often the reason people stay stuck. In this conversation, you’ll learn: Why self-criticism actually leads to more procrastination and less progress The difference between self-awareness and self-criticism (and why it matters) How negative self-talk impacts your performance, relationships, and leadership Why self-compassion does not lower your standards, but improves results A better way to respond to failure, mistakes, and setbacks This episode will challenge how you think about growth and give you a more effective way to move forward. If you’ve ever felt stuck, frustrated with yourself, or like you’re repeating the same patterns, this conversation will shift your perspective. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the right relationship could change the course of your life? In this episode, Tyler talks with Blue Stiley, speaker, author of The Sum of Four, and host of the Blue Stiley Podcast, about the power of mentorship, the importance of belonging, and how meaningful relationships shape who we become. Blue shares how being bullied as a kid led him into martial arts, where one mentor gave him something he had never experienced before: a sense of belonging, purpose, and connection. That experience became the foundation for how he thinks about relationships, trust, leadership, empathy, and the kind of impact one person can have on another. Together, Tyler and Blue explore why real influence is built through connection, why significance matters more than status, and how curiosity, kindness, and intentionality can transform both leadership and life. In this episode: Blue’s story of bullying, belonging, and finding martial arts How one mentor changed his life Why trust is the foundation of strong relationships What empathy actually looks like in practice The difference between success and significance How leaders can create deeper connection and impact Why curiosity and kindness still matter How to build the kind of relationships that move people forward Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does it actually take to become a strong, authentic leader? In this episode, Tyler talks with Dr. Matt Paden, president and managing partner of Great Days Leadership and co-author of The Core: Eight Principles for Building Strong Authentic Leadership, about why leadership development often falls short and what leaders need most if they want to keep growing. Matt explains why so many people confuse leadership with power or position, and why that confusion creates weak leadership models across organizations, teams, and culture. Together, he and Tyler unpack the challenges leaders face when moving from individual contribution to leading others, and why ego, defensiveness, and a lack of coachability often keep leaders from embracing the truth about themselves. This conversation also explores mentorship, vulnerability, emotional intelligence, purpose, self-awareness, and the importance of learning how to lead from who you are, not just what you do. In this episode: Why many leaders are not truly improving The danger of confusing leadership with power Why coachability is essential for growth How ego gets in the way of strong leadership Why truth and self-awareness matter so much What sports and mentorship can teach us about leadership How purpose helps leaders stay grounded What authentic leadership looks like in practice Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Relationships are not just valuable. They are everything. In this episode, Tyler sits down with Mo Lidsky and Bob Gould, co-authors of Konnect Better: Unlocking the Power of Your Relationships, for a conversation about why relationships are the real foundation of success, and why so many people still struggle to build them well. Drawing on decades of work with high-achieving individuals, entrepreneurs, and affluent families, Mo and Bob explain why many successful people feel misunderstood, disconnected, or unable to create the kind of intimacy and trust they actually want. They talk about what happens when people build lives around results and respect, but never learn how to lead with care in their closest relationships. This conversation goes deep into the real drivers of connection: commitment, communication, conflict, vulnerability, identity, acceptance, and the ability to listen without trying to fix. Tyler also brings in his own perspective on insecurity, self-worth, and the walls people build to protect themselves. If you’ve ever felt like success in one area of life hasn’t translated into deeper connection in the relationships that matter most, this episode will give language to what’s happening, and a better way forward. In this episode: Why relationships are the most important asset in life Why high performers often feel misunderstood How success can create distance instead of connection The hidden role identity plays in relationships Why many leaders struggle to receive help How to listen without trying to solve everything Why commitment, communication, and conflict matter so much What it takes to build deeper, healthier relationships Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What does startup growth reveal about a founder? In this episode, Tyler talks with Colin Hodge, startup founder, growth strategist, co-owner of the dating app Down, and author of Outrageous Startup Growth, about the highs and lows of building fast-growing companies and what those experiences teach you about leadership, identity, and resilience. Colin shares how early viral traction and massive attention created a misleading definition of success, and how that eventually led to burnout, self-doubt, and what Tyler calls a “mirror-shattering moment.” Together, they unpack the emotional side of entrepreneurship, including founder ego, external validation, sustainable growth, authenticity, empathy, and the internal work required to build something meaningful over the long term. This conversation goes beyond startup tactics. It explores what happens when success becomes part of your identity, why so many founders chase the wrong metrics, and how values, reflection, and user empathy can help leaders grow both healthier companies and healthier lives. In this episode: How Colin built and scaled startup products to millions of users The danger of chasing vanity metrics What happens when founder identity gets tied to success Why resilience matters more than hype How empathy and user psychology drive better growth The difference between fast growth and sustainable growth Why significance matters more than external recognition How founders can keep growing without losing themselves Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What actually causes founders to fail? In this episode, Tyler talks with Rich Hagberg, leadership consultant, CEO advisor, and author of Founders Keepers, about the leadership patterns that separate successful founders from unsuccessful ones. Drawing on research from 122 founders, Rich explains why adaptability is the single greatest differentiator in founder success. Together, he and Tyler unpack what happens when founders stop listening, become reactive, hold too tightly to control, or fail to adjust as their business grows. This conversation goes beyond surface-level leadership advice. Tyler and Rich talk about what scaling really demands from a leader, including self-awareness, emotional regulation, reflection, humility, and the willingness to let go of what worked in an earlier season. They also explore the internal side of founder leadership, including insecurity, fear of failure, bottlenecks, micromanagement, burnout, and why some leaders never make the shift from visionary to healthy, scalable leadership. If you are building something, leading people, or trying to grow without becoming the thing that holds your organization back, this episode will give you a lot to think about. The number one reason founders fail Why adaptability matters more than vision alone How founder ego and defensiveness create blind spots The hidden cost of emotional reactivity in leadership Why self-awareness is essential for scaling a company What healthy reflection looks like after failure How leaders can grow through transition instead of repeating old patterns The number one reason founders fail Why adaptability matters more than vision alone How founder ego and defensiveness create blind spots The hidden cost of emotional reactivity in leadership Why self-awareness is essential for scaling a company What healthy reflection looks like after failure How leaders can grow through transition instead of repeating old patterns In this episode: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What you're hiding is leading you! In this conversation, Tyler sits down with Jackson Lahmeyer to talk about what really drives leadership beneath the surface. They get into the pressure leaders carry, the patterns we develop to protect ourselves, and how those patterns quietly shape our decisions, relationships, and impact. Jackson shares his story of becoming a father at 17, the weight of trying to prove himself, and the moment he realized that hiding parts of his life was costing him more than he thought. They talk about why leaders live divided, how insecurity shows up in ways most people don’t recognize, and what it actually takes to move toward freedom. This isn’t a conversation about theory. It’s about what happens when you stop managing perception and start dealing with what’s real. If you’ve ever felt like something is off in how you’re showing up, this will help you understand why. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices