781: How to Stop Fear of Failure From Holding You Back

What would you do today if you weren't afraid to fail? Fear of failure can keep us from applying for the opportunity, speaking up, starting something new, or having the difficult conversation. But failure doesn't define who you are. It's an event that can give you feedback, information, and a chance to grow. In this episode, Dr. Cindra Kamphoff explains why confident people still experience fear and how to keep that fear from making your decisions. She shares how redefining success around what you can control can take power away from failure and help you move forward with more courage. You'll also learn Cindra's Learn, Burn, Return strategy for responding when things don't go your way: learn from the experience, let go of what isn't serving you, and return to your previous level of confidence. This week, ask yourself: How am I defining failure? What does success look like if I define it by what I can control? What would I do today if I wasn't afraid to fail? Then take one action. Confidence doesn't come from knowing you'll succeed. It comes from knowing you can handle whatever happens. Power Phrase: "Fear doesn't make my decisions."   To buy Cindra's new book: confidencetools.com To download our full study report, visit: confidencestudy.com To request a Free Breakthrough Call with a Mentally Strong Coach, visit: freementalbreakthroughcall.com To learn more about the Mentally Strong Institute, visit: mentallystronginstitute.com To learn about Dr. Cindra Kamphoff's speaking and coaching, visit: cindrakamphoff.com To follow Dr. Cindra on Instagram, visit: @cindrakamphoff

What if the voice telling you that you're not ready, not good enough, or not capable is actually trying to keep you safe? In this episode of the High Performance Mindset, Cindra Kamphoff talks with Jenn Donahue, Ph.D., a retired U.S. Navy Captain, international keynote speaker, business coach, and author of Becoming the Warrior: Harnessing Your Inner Strength to Silence Self-Doubt. Jenn shares how a difficult leadership experience in the military shattered her confidence and ultimately led her to develop the Warrior Framework: Perceive, Assess, Ready, and Act. She explains how to recognize your inner critic, understand where self-doubt comes from, retrain your brain toward more positive thinking, and take action before you feel completely confident. You'll also learn why writing down one win each day can help shift your brain's attention toward what is going well, how to use a "battle buddy" when self-doubt creeps in, and why your next step should be so small that it feels almost impossible not to take it. In this episode, you'll learn: Why self-doubt and imposter syndrome can affect even highly accomplished people The four steps of Jenn's Warrior Framework How to recognize and challenge your inner critic Why taking action before you feel confident matters How to use a one-win-per-day tracker to build confidence The difference between a failure and a setback How a "battle buddy" can help you stay accountable and keep moving forward Jenn's website: https://www.jenndonahue.com/ Buy Jenn's book "Becoming the Warrior" Mentally Strong Institute: https://mentallystronginstitute.com/ Request a Free Mental Breakthrough Call: https://freementalbreakthroughcall.com/ Download the National Confidence Research Study: https://confidencestudy.com/ Order Cindra's new Book: https://www.confidencetools.com/

Fear has a way of making future events feel like they're happening right now. What if I fail? What if I embarrass myself? What if people judge me? In this episode, Dr. Cindra Kamphoff shares a simple reminder: future events aren't reality. She explains how fear can influence our decisions, why confidence doesn't require being fearless, and three ways to keep fear from controlling your next move. You'll learn how to catch the "what ifs," return your attention to the present, and "do it afraid" by taking courageous action even when fear is still there. Power phrase: "I can feel fear and still move forward." To buy Cindra's new book: confidencetools.com To download our full study report, visit: confidencestudy.com To request a Free Breakthrough Call with a Mentally Strong Coach, visit: freementalbreakthroughcall.com To learn more about the Mentally Strong Institute, visit: mentallystronginstitute.com To learn about Dr. Cindra Kamphoff's speaking and coaching, visit: cindrakamphoff.com To follow Dr. Cindra on Instagram, visit: @cindrakamphoff

What happens when your performance becomes tied to your identity? Coach Quinn Harwood knows that struggle firsthand. After a professional basketball career marked by injuries, setbacks, and broken goals, Quinn learned that his performance could not be the foundation of his self-worth. Today, he helps leaders and professionals navigate personal growth, limiting beliefs, fear, and the pressure to constantly perform. In this episode, Quinn and Cindra talk about why separating your identity from your performance matters, how to recognize the beliefs that keep you stuck, and what it really means to create a growth mindset. Quinn also shares his Midnight Mirror practice, a simple end-of-day reflection built around four questions: What am I most proud of? What do I need to resolve? What do I need to reframe? What do I need to release? They also explore why "fear hates light," how exposing your fears can take away their power, and how leaders can create environments where people are encouraged to grow. If you've been feeling stuck, questioning your direction, or struggling with fear and self-doubt, this conversation offers practical ways to start moving forward. In this episode: Why your performance shouldn't define your identity How to create identity anchors that remain steady when performance changes The six growth zones Quinn uses in personal growth and leadership The Midnight Mirror practice for reflection and self-management How to identify and expose the fears holding you back Fixed mindset vs. growth mindset Why falling in love with the "voice of growth" can change how you approach personal development How leaders can use coaching to help people grow and perform at their best   Quinn's website: https://coachqharwood.com/ Mentally Strong Institute: https://mentallystronginstitute.com/ Request a Free Mental Breakthrough Call: https://freementalbreakthroughcall.com/ Download the National Confidence Research Study: https://confidencestudy.com/ Order Cindra's new Book: https://www.confidencetools.com/

What if confidence doesn't come before action, but because of it? In this episode, Dr. Cindra Kamphoff explains why waiting until you feel confident can keep you stuck, and how taking small actions creates the evidence your brain needs to trust yourself. Cindra shares the idea of building a Confidence Bank, where every courageous action, follow-through, recovered mistake, and small win becomes another deposit. Over time, those deposits change the way you see yourself and help you face future challenges with greater confidence. In this episode, you'll learn: Why confidence often follows action rather than comes before it How to make daily deposits into your Confidence Bank Why small wins can build stronger confidence than waiting for one big achievement How your brain tends to remember failures more easily than successes The simple "Capture Your Wins" practice for collecting evidence of your progress Three questions to ask yourself each night to strengthen self-trust Power Phrase: "I can trust myself." You don't need to feel completely confident before you move. Take the action, collect the evidence, and build your confidence one deposit at a time. To buy Cindra's new book: confidencetools.com To download our full study report, visit: confidencestudy.com To request a Free Breakthrough Call with a Mentally Strong Coach, visit: freementalbreakthroughcall.com To learn more about the Mentally Strong Institute, visit: mentallystronginstitute.com To learn about Dr. Cindra Kamphoff's speaking and coaching, visit: cindrakamphoff.com To follow Dr. Cindra on Instagram, visit: @cindrakamphoff

Charisma can seem like something you either have or you don't. But according to Olivia Fox Cabane, charisma is a set of behaviors that can be learned, practiced, and strengthened. Olivia is one of the world's leading authorities on the science of charisma and the bestselling author of The Charisma Myth, which has been translated into 27 languages. She has lectured at Harvard, Yale, MIT, the Marine War College, and the United Nations, and has worked with leaders from organizations including Google, Deloitte, UBS, MGM, and TikTok. In this episode, Olivia joins Dr. Cindra Kamphoff to break down the three core components of charisma: presence, power, and warmth. She explains how each one influences the way others perceive us and shares practical strategies for becoming more confident, influential, and connected. You'll learn why presence may be the most important charisma skill in today's distracted world, how your mindset shapes your body language, and why trying to control every expression can actually make you appear less authentic. Olivia also shares strategies for handling pressure, quieting your inner critic, improving first impressions, and using visualization to shift how you show up before an important conversation, presentation, or performance. In this episode, you'll learn: The three building blocks of charisma: presence, power, and warmth. Why charisma is a skill you can learn and strengthen. Simple strategies to become more present in conversations and high-pressure moments. How visualization and mindset can influence your confidence and body language. Why self-acceptance and warmth are essential for authentic charisma. How to handle mistakes, pressure, and your inner critic with greater composure.   Olivia's website: https://www.oliviafoxcabane.com/ Mentally Strong Institute: https://mentallystronginstitute.com/ Request a Free Mental Breakthrough Call: https://freementalbreakthroughcall.com/ Download the National Confidence Research Study: https://confidencestudy.com/ Order Cindra's new Book: https://www.confidencetools.com/

Even after years of studying confidence, coaching high performers, and writing The Confidence Habit, Dr. Cindra Kamphoff still felt nervous the night before appearing on Good Morning America. In this episode, Cindra shares what that experience reminded her about confidence: feeling nervous doesn't mean you aren't confident. Confidence is a practice. It's learning how to acknowledge your nerves, come back to the present, and take action anyway. In this episode, you'll learn: Why nerves can be a sign that something matters to you How trying to eliminate an emotion can sometimes give it more power Why fear pulls us into the future and confidence brings us back to the present How to focus on what you can control when pressure is high Why confidence is built through recovering from mistakes, not avoiding them How to use Learn, Burn, Return to move forward after setbacks Power Phrase: "I can feel nervous and still be confident." Confidence isn't waiting until you feel completely ready. It's trusting yourself enough to step forward when you don't. Order The Confidence Habit today: https://www.confidencetools.com/

How you introduce yourself can shape how others see you and how confidently you see yourself. In this episode of the High Performance Mindset Podcast, Dr. Cindra Kamphoff sits down with executive communication coach Dr. Andrea Wojnicki, founder of Talk About Talk and author of one of Harvard Business Review's most downloaded articles, "A Simple Way to Introduce Yourself." Andrea shares her simple Present, Past, Future framework for introducing yourself with confidence and clarity. She explains why your self-introduction is one of the most direct ways to communicate your personal brand and how getting clear on your unique strengths can build confidence from the inside out. You'll learn: The Present, Past, Future framework for a powerful self-introduction How to communicate your strengths without feeling arrogant or overly self-promotional Why "unique is better than better" How to identify the strengths that genuinely distinguish you Why enthusiasm can be a competitive advantage The Four P's of Confidence: Practice, Pep Talk, Proverb, and Pirate How greater clarity about who you are can strengthen your confidence and self-esteem Andrea also shares practical advice for networking, interviews, presentations, and other high-pressure moments when how you communicate matters most. When you stop trying to be everything and start getting clear on what makes you uniquely valuable, confidence becomes easier to communicate and easier to feel. Episode Resources & Links Andrea's website: https://www.talkabouttalk.com/ Mentally Strong Institute: https://mentallystronginstitute.com/ Request a Free Mental Breakthrough Call: https://freementalbreakthroughcall.com/ Download the National Confidence Research Study: https://confidencestudy.com/ Order Cindra's new Book: https://www.confidencetools.com/

Sometimes, you need to borrow someone else's belief in you until you build enough belief in yourself. In this episode, Dr. Cindra Kamphoff shares how the people around us can shape what we believe is possible. She reflects on how her father believed in her interest in sport and performance psychology before she could fully see the path herself, allowing her to "borrow" his confidence. Cindra explains why confidence is social and why building your winning team matters. The people who have your ear can strengthen your belief, remind you what you're capable of, and help quiet your inner critic when you're pursuing something difficult. In this episode, you'll learn how to: • Identify the people who truly believe in you • Borrow their words when your inner critic gets loud • Surround yourself with a winning team that strengthens your confidence • Become a "confidence lender" by telling others what you see in them • Use someone else's belief as a bridge toward believing in yourself Cindra also challenges you to think of someone who believed in you before you believed in yourself. Thank them, then look for someone in your own life who might need to borrow a little confidence from you today. Power Phrase: "I believe in you, and I believe in me."   To order The Confidence Habit, visit: www.confidencetools.com To download our full study report, visit: confidencestudy.com To request a Free Breakthrough Call with a Mentally Strong Coach, visit: freementalbreakthroughcall.com To learn more about the Mentally Strong Institute, visit: mentallystronginstitute.com To learn about Dr. Cindra Kamphoff's speaking and coaching, visit: cindrakamphoff.com To follow Dr. Cindra on Instagram, visit: @cindrakamphoff

In this episode of The High Performance Mindset, Dr. Cindra Kamphoff sits down with Dr. Marshall Goldsmith, one of the world's most influential leadership thinkers, a renowned executive coach, and #1 New York Times bestselling author, to explore what keeps successful people growing. For more than four decades, Marshall has coached many of the world's most accomplished CEOs and leaders. In this conversation, he shares what those experiences have taught him about leadership, confidence, behavior change, achievement, and creating a life that is meaningful on your own terms. Episode Description Success can create one of the biggest obstacles to continued growth: when a behavior has helped us succeed in the past, we assume it must still be serving us. Marshall explains why high performers can become trapped by "winning too much," adding too much value, and needing to prove they are right. He shares a simple question that can change the way we lead and communicate: "Is it worth it?" Cindra and Marshall also explore the relationship between confidence and courage, why we need to stop putting ourselves into limiting identity boxes, and how becoming more influential can be an act of service when your mission is to positively impact others. Marshall also challenges the belief that achievement will eventually create happiness. Instead, he encourages us to define what "enough" means, find meaning in what we do, invest in the people we love, and focus on the action directly in front of us rather than becoming consumed by the outcome. This conversation is packed with practical wisdom for leaders, coaches, athletes, and high performers who want to continue growing while building a life they are proud to live. You'll Learn: Why the best coaching requires courage, humility, and discipline. How past success can reinforce behaviors that eventually hold you back. Why "winning too much" is one of the most common problems among successful people. How asking "Is it worth it?" can make you a better leader and communicator. Why confidence and courage are so closely connected. How the identity you repeatedly give yourself can prevent lasting behavior change. Why your behavior should be guided by your mission rather than your comfort. How to stop tying your identity and happiness to achievement and outcomes. Why focusing on the "next play" helps high performers stay present. Marshall's advice for living a life your 95-year-old self would be proud of. Episode Resources & Links Marshall's website: https://www.marshallgoldsmith.com/ Mentally Strong Institute: https://mentallystronginstitute.com/ Request a Free Mental Breakthrough Call: https://freementalbreakthroughcall.com/ Download the National Confidence Research Study: https://confidencestudy.com/ Order Cindra's new Book: https://www.confidencetools.com/