Neurodivergent Friends and Fcks

This week on Come Curious, Reed is joined by neurodivergent coach, breathwork practitioner and somatic therapist Hannah for a powerful, eye-opening conversation about how ADHD, autism and PMDD shape the way we experience friendship, sex, and relationships. We dive into what neurodivergence actually feels like - from dopamine-seeking, impulsivity and sensory overwhelm, to the quiet burnout that comes from masking and constantly apologising for who you are. Hannah shares how somatic practices and breathwork can help regulate the nervous system, release trauma, and reconnect you to your body - not just in everyday life, but in intimacy too. We also explore: – Why “body doubling” can be a total game-changer – How neurodivergence impacts communication, conflict, and processing emotions – The reality of delayed reactions and emotional overwhelm – Why kink spaces can feel safer and more structured for neurodivergent people – The difference between equality vs equity in relationships This episode is honest, validating, and full of practical tools — whether you’re neurodivergent yourself or love someone who is. Come get curious 💫 and follow Hannah on IG @hannahfinds_ and over on @exhalethenoise Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠Patreon ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠@comecurious⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠@florencebark⁠ Follow Reed ⁠@reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Come Curious, we asked you to send us your most shameless confessions… and you absolutely delivered. From secret kinks and unexpected encounters to moments that made us gasp, laugh, and occasionally say “oh my god you did WHAT?”, Florence and Reed dive into the wild, weird and wonderfully honest stories from the Come Curious community. We hear about secret fetishes, train journeys that got a little too exciting, complicated situationships, and the kinds of confessions people rarely say out loud. Along the way, Florence and Reed share their thoughts, advice, and a few of their own experiences too. You’ll also hear:• Reed’s latest update with the now-infamous German tickle fetish guy• Florence opening up about the surprising body changes she’s experienced during pregnancy• Listener questions about introducing BDSM to a long-term partner• The kinks and curiosities people are finally brave enough to admit This is a watershed episode, which means you’ll get the juicy confessions from our community here… but the really naughty stories from Florence and Reed themselves are saved for our Patreon subscribers. If you want the full unfiltered episode — including the hosts’ own shameless confessions — you can unlock the second half on Patreon at our $15 tier. Come get curious… and maybe a little bit scandalised. Follow us on Instagram: ⁠@comecurious⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠@florencebark⁠ Follow Reed ⁠@reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Come Curious, Florence is joined by fertility writer, speaker and advocate Seetal Savla for a deeply honest conversation about the side of fertility journeys we rarely hear about. At 34 weeks pregnant herself, Florence sits down with Seetal to talk through the reality of trying to conceive — from early loss and years of IVF, to the emotional rollercoaster of hope, grief, and the pressure to keep going when your body and heart are exhausted. Seetal shares her experience of five rounds of IVF, navigating clinics that sometimes made her feel more like a “walking credit card” than a patient, and the stigma surrounding fertility struggles, particularly within South Asian communities where conversations about loss and infertility are often hidden behind silence. The conversation also moves into pregnancy, birth and postpartum life, including the difficult physical and emotional realities after a C-section, how reproductive trauma can resurface after birth, and why planning support in the early weeks of motherhood can make all the difference. In a surprising twist after years of IVF, Seetal also shares how she conceived naturally after deciding to step away from treatment. A reminder that fertility journeys rarely follow a predictable path. This episode is compassionate, vulnerable and full of wisdom for anyone navigating fertility, pregnancy, loss, or supporting someone who is. Follow Seetal’s work and advocacy: Instagram: @seetalsavla Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on ⁠Patreon ⁠ Follow us on Instagram: ⁠@comecurious⁠ and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence ⁠@florencebark⁠ Follow Reed ⁠@reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is your sex drive "too high"? "Too low"? Has it disappeared completely? Or is it all over the place? This week on Come Curious, Florence and Reed tackle one of the most asked (and most anxiety-inducing) questions in sex: is my libido normal? From pregnancy libido shifts and ADHD hyperfocus highs, to widow’s fire, medication side effects, birth control changes, and relationship mismatches — we unpack what actually influences desire… and why “normal” might be the wrong question altogether. We also answer your listener questions about: – Mismatched libidos in relationships – Losing your sex drive on the pill or antidepressants – ADHD peaks and troughs – Low libido from stress and parenthood – High libido when you’re trying to stay single – Thyroid issues and chronic pain Plus we recommend Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski — and dive into “brakes and accelerators” when it comes to desire. Tune in and share your thoughts via our DMs Watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast over on Patreon Follow us on Instagram: @comecurious and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence @florencebark Follow Reed @reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What actually happens at a queer kinky rave? 👀🔥  This week, Reed is joined by Lily Eff - co-founder of Quench, one of London's hottest queer kinky raves and play party communities.  Tune in for wild sex party stories (including a 21-person orgy…) and how Lily is building inclusive, intentional kink spaces that feel like HOME. They dive deep into the emotional reality of exploring fantasies IRL, boundaries, consent, and what to do when things don’t go to plan.  Plus, Lily shares her BEST advice for anyone curious about going to a kinky or queer party for the first time. From nerves to outfits to aftercare, we’ve got you covered.  Whether you’re kinky, curious, or just nosy (we see you), this episode is honest, funny, vulnerable, and seriously eye-opening.  👇 Tell us in the comments:  Would you ever go to a sex party? What would you want to know first?  This episode is sponsored by Erika Lust - mastermind behind ethical, cinematic adult films. Use our spicy discount code SPICY45 to get 45% off their platform - erikalust.com Follow Lily: IG: @lilyeff.uncensored and @quench.hq  Grab you ticket for their upcoming event: 20th March You can join us over on Patreon to WATCH the full episode and see ALL the juicy moments ⁠⁠available for members only⁠⁠. Follow up on IG @comecurious Follow @reedamberx Follow @florencebark Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Come Curious, Florence and Reed are joined by Matty Hennessy - sex toy designer, transmasc educator, and the brilliant mind behind Eversense Toys and the chaotic internet phenomenon Dildo Nightmares.  We dive into Matty’s journey creating toys for bodies that are often overlooked by mainstream sex tech including his upcoming designs specifically supporting transmasc pleasure, bottom growth, and accessibility needs. From the story behind his first prototype to the emotional reality of relearning pleasure in a changing body, this conversation is honest, educational, and deeply affirming.  Of course, we also explore the absolute madness of the sex toy industry, including some of the most cursed designs ever created (yes… including a demon-looking toy Reed received 👀).  Matty answers your listener questions too: how to introduce toys after bad experiences, navigating intimacy with a transitioning partner, and the best ways to stimulate nipples safely and effectively.  This episode is sponsored by Erika Lust - pioneers of ethical, cinematic adult films. Use our spicy discount code SPICY45 to get 45% off their platform - erikalust.com Follow Matty: IG: @dildonightmares and @eversensetoys  YT:  @eversensetoys  TT: @eversensetoys Brand: Eversense Toys - eversensetoys.com Support their fundraiser here You can email them on [email protected] Follow us: @comecurious 💕 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Come Curious, Florence goes over some fun pregnancy sex facts, what breeding kinks are all about and gets into the updates you've been missing when it comes to being 30 weeks pregnant! AND you sent in some GREAT pregnancy sex related stories and questions! PLUS Florence shares the juicy deets about her upcoming erotic film for Erika Lust and rates the pregnancy porn that you can watch over on the Lust website. Use our spicy discount code SPICY45 to get 45% off (we know… it’s a CRAZY discount) on their website here ✨ We LOVE hearing your thoughts about what you want us to discuss so send us your burning questions, spill the beans and we’ll share all on the podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Come Curious XXXtra Kinky Episode, Florence and Reed unpack whether “red flags” are actually warnings… or just wildly subjective vibes that depend on who’s holding the binoculars. They get honest about bras, pleasure doms, consent in long-term relationships, “high value men”, performative feminism, and whether bad sex actually exists… or if it’s all just incompatibility. And just when things get extra juicy, they cross the dirty watershed and head into the explicit Patreon-only half (dating chaos, DDLG discomfort, and why stability can feel suspicious). This is for our subscribers only so if you want to get the REAL goss, then become an XXXtra Kinky Curious Fcker and tune in . PLUS we rate our FAVE Erika Lust films and this month it's all about outdoor erotic cinema! Use our spicy discount code SPICY45 to get 45% off (we know… it’s a CRAZY discount) on their website here ✨ We LOVE hearing your thoughts about what you want us to discuss so send us your burning questions, spill the beans and we’ll share all on the podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this fabulous, no BS episode, Reed is joined by infamous Australian sex worker, advocate, and content creator Jade Blair to talk about the reality of getting paid for p***y without shame, shock tactics, or fantasy. Jade shares what in-person sex work actually looks like: the conversations, the boundaries, the safety routines, the money talks, and the emotional labour that most people never consider. Together, Reed and Jade unpack why society is so comfortable with unpaid, disappointing sex, but will lose its mind the moment money enters the room. They talk about pleasure at work (yes, it exists), the myth of “selling your body,” the difference between sex work and trafficking, why certain terms are harmful, and how laws can either protect or endanger sex workers. This episode is all about understanding the power of SW, autonomy, consent, and asking better questions about sex, money, and power. Get to know Jade Blair on IG @jadeblairxox To watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast join our Patreon! www.patreon.com/comecurious Follow us on Instagram @comecurious and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence @florencebark Follow Reed @reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Come Curious, we’re joined by award-winning porn performer and creator Axel Reigns for one of our most powerful conversations yet.  Axel pulls back the curtain on the porn industry to talk about what really needs to change - from male accountability and consent culture, to calling out abuse, complicity, and silence in spaces that are meant to be safe.  We get honest about power, responsibility, and why “not all men” simply isn’t good enough anymore. Axel doesn’t just critique - they offer a vision of what better could look like, both inside the industry and far beyond it.  If you care about sex, safety, ethics, and doing better (without shame spirals), this one’s essential listening.  Get to know Axel's work on IG @axel.reigns Plus, this episode is sponsored by the iconic Erika Lust - home for all things er0tic cinema. Use our code SPICY45 to get 45% off your Erika Lust subscription today! To watch the full video, see exclusive content and support the podcast join our Patreon! www.patreon.com/comecurious Follow us on Instagram @comecurious and DM us your questions, stories and voicenotes! Follow Florence @florencebark Follow Reed @reedamberx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices