I Choose ME

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  How many of you have heard someone say to you “It’s not your job to save them”?  Although this statement pertains to any relationship, in this episode, I’ll be referring to romantic relationships.So exactly how do we end up in these relationships where we find ourselves trying to “save” someone?  

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  So I have a question for you:  Have you ever been in a relationship and the thought of losing it finds its way across your thoughts?  Whether the relationship is good or not, the thought of losing it brings up FEAR.  So, what IS it that you’re actually afraid losing?  That’s what I want to explore today.

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  I know I’ve spoken before in one of my previous episodes (I believe it was #76) about the difference between Attention and Affection but today I want to delve further into how easy it is to mistake Attention for Love (which is something I’ve done myself).I think as human beings (both men and women), having someone give you their attention can be one the best feelings in the world.  When it becomes problematic is when the emphasis is SO high on that one component that we find ourselves settling on other behaviors within the relationship.

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  In this world of self help and self healing, the words I Choose Me, especially for women, hold a different meaning than they may have in previous years (or decades).As women, we have been conditioned over the years to be sacrificial, especially when it comes to taking care of others.  We do it for our kids, spouses, partners, family members, friends, jobs.  You fill in the blank.  We always place ourselves last, just like the caboose on a train. 

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  So today, I want to talk about Boundaries….Healthy Boundaries. Healthy Boundaries are important in ALL aspects of our life, not just romantic relationships.  They are important in the work place, within families and friends, and even in our hobbies.  Without them, it gives people “free reign” into your time, energy and your general well-being.  In other words, there are no limits and trust me, toxic people LOVE that!

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  Today what I want to talk about is Attention is not Affection.  What a statement.  Do you misinterpret attention for affection?  I know I did and it never turned out well.  As a matter of fact, it attracts toxic, low vibration energy people.  If this is something you think you do too, stick with me here as we talk about what attention looks like vs. what affection looks like in relationships.

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  Today I want to talk about seeing the “Potential” in someone especially when it comes to relationships.  This is a topic that is very near and dear to my own heart because it’s something I’ve been guilty of in the past.  This mindset can be very dangerous and I don’t want you to get caught in it the way I did.

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  Today I want to talk about Love Bombing.  This is a topic I’m pretty passionate about because I’ve lived it and I want others to be aware of it.  In my opinion, it is nothing short of destruction to your Soul.I like to call it “The Game of Seduction” or better yet a wicked web of toxic manipulation.  Identifying and understanding it will require you to trust your Intuition so you don’t take the bait.

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  Today I want to talk about Waiting.  Ugh.Waiting is Hard.  It doesn’t matter if you are waiting on finding your special person or the right job or the right home or even healing with a health issue, Waiting is Hard.  For the purpose of this podcast though, I’m going to focus on Waiting when it comes to relationships, however, some of what I’m going to share here may apply to other situations as well.

Hey Everyone, welcome to the Dontbeacrumqueen podcast.  Having Self Respect is what I want to talk about today.  Why is it so important especially when it comes to relationships?Some will say it will protect you from toxic encounters or settling for less than you actually deserve.  While both of those thoughts may be true, how does one “arrive” to a place where they have respect for themselves first?