Tips for Surviving Midlife: What I Wish I Knew Before Turning Fifty-Two, with your host Jennifer Hurvitz

"One person can't fix the relationship alone." Dr. Emily Jamea    In this engaging conversation, Jennifer Hurvitz speaks with Dr. Emily Jamea, a sex and relationship therapist, about the intricacies of intimacy, the importance of planning sexual encounters, and the challenges women face in maintaining desire amidst the demands of modern life. Dr. Jamea shares insights from her new book, 'Anatomy of Desire,' and discusses the concept of flow state in sexual experiences, the impact of technology on intimacy, and the necessity of emotional connection in relationships. The dialogue emphasizes the need for couples to actively cultivate passion and connection, especially in the context of parenting and busy lifestyles. In this conversation, Emily Jamea discusses the significance of pre-marital counseling, the critical role of sexual satisfaction in relationships, and the challenges faced in sex therapy. She emphasizes the importance of communication and adaptability in relationships, and shares insights on enhancing emotional and physical connections between partners. The discussion concludes with a message of hope and encouragement for couples to work on their relationships. Takeaways Therapy can be a second career for many, but not for everyone. Sexuality is a window into the psyche. Flow state is crucial for sexual satisfaction. Women often struggle to disconnect from daily distractions. Planning sex can alleviate pressure and enhance intimacy. Love should be seen as an active verb. Parenting can significantly impact intimacy in relationships. Women carry a mental load that affects their sexual desire. Scheduling sex can be reframed as planning for connection. Emotional connection is essential for fulfilling sexual experiences. Pre-marital counseling can provide crucial tools for couples. Sexual satisfaction is linked to overall relationship happiness. Couples often overlook important questions about intimacy before marriage. Adaptability is crucial in navigating relationship challenges. Physical touch can enhance emotional connection and conflict resolution. Therapy requires participation from both partners for effective results. Many couples struggle with communication about their sexual needs. It's important to address resentments to improve intimacy. Research shows that sexual satisfaction impacts relationship satisfaction significantly. Don't give up; tools for improvement are available.  Find Dr. Emily's NEW Book here! https://www.amazon.com/Anatomy-Desire-Secrets-Connection-Cultivate-ebook/dp/B0CPWSJFML?ref_=ast_author_mpb Doing Relationships Right hits the pages of VOGUE MAGAZINE- check it out!  Please grab a copy of Midlife Priceless wherever you find your books! jenniferhurvitz.com Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!    Where to find me: Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/ Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️ TikTok: CLICK HERE! Pinterest: click here!  You can connect with my editor, Cianna Reider, at https://yourpodcastva.weebly.com/  Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.  

"Life is short; have an affair." ~ Ashely Madison Website    I'm uncertain about this tagline and the concept of a "dating site for married people," but it's important to hear other people's perspectives on Doing Relationships Right! So, here we go! People like you join the Ashley Madison® network daily to find discreet relationships. Married, attached, looking to explore, or just curious to discover what's out there – Ashley Madison is the world's leading discreet, like-minded dating community. In this engaging conversation, Jennifer Hurvitz interviews Paul Keable, the Chief Strategy Officer of Ashley Madison. The discussion explores the complexities of infidelity, discreet affairs, and the dynamics of non-monogamous relationships. It delves into the reasons behind cheating, the importance of security and privacy in online dating, and Ashley Madison's unique business model. Keable shares insights on gender perspectives regarding infidelity and highlights the platform's role in providing a space for individuals seeking discreet connections. The conversation challenges traditional views on relationships and emphasizes the need for open dialogue about desires and needs within partnerships. In this conversation, Jennifer Hurvitz and Paul Keable delve into the complexities of non-monogamous relationships, the dynamics of cheating, and the importance of open communication in defining relationship boundaries. Takeaways Ashley Madison is the world's largest married dating service. The platform also serves as a marriage counseling service. Discretion is a crucial feature for many users seeking affairs. Security and privacy have been significantly improved since past breaches. Many users are honest about their needs and desires on the platform. Women often seek affairs due to unfulfilled sexual needs in their marriages. Men frequently look for emotional validation through affairs. The concept of a 'compassionate affair' exists for caretakers of ill partners. Many people fear discussing their sexual needs with their partners. Sexless marriages can lead to feelings of isolation and frustration. Privacy concerns exist around background checks related to infidelity. Misconceptions about women's sexual desires persist in society. Comprehensive sex education is lacking and necessary for healthy relationships. Non-monogamous relationships can be ethical and fulfilling. Open communication is critical to understanding and meeting partner needs. Doing Relationships Right hits the pages of VOGUE MAGAZINE- check it out!  Please grab a copy of Midlife Priceless wherever you find your books! jenniferhurvitz.com Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!    Where to find me: Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/ Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️ TikTok: CLICK HERE! Pinterest: click here!  You can connect with my editor, Cianna Reider, at https://yourpodcastva.weebly.com/  Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.  

Is EGG FREEZING right for you?  In this engaging conversation, Jennifer Hurvitz interviews Beth Gulotta, a licensed mental health counselor and host of the podcast 'Quiet the Clock.' They discuss Beth's journey from finance to mental health, the societal pressures surrounding relationships and parenthood, and the importance of egg freezing. Beth shares her experiences with egg freezing, its emotional weight, and the significance of being ready for major life decisions. The conversation also touches on the changing dynamics of dating, the importance of understanding fertility health, and the need for supportive environments for women navigating these choices. Takeaways:  Beth transitioned from finance to mental health counseling. The podcast 'Quiet the Clock' addresses societal pressures on women. Egg freezing is a personal decision that can alleviate pressure. Time is perceived negatively, but it can be a gift. Readiness for relationships and parenthood is crucial. Women often feel societal pressure to have children by a certain age. Support systems are essential for women making reproductive choices. Understanding fertility health is vital for informed decisions. Parents should support their children's choices regarding family planning. Drowning out external noise is important for personal decision-making. Thank you, Beth, for joining this critical discussion today!  Happy Dating and Relationships!    FIND BETH GULOTTA https://www.nyctherapeuticwellness.com/beth-gulotta/ Doing Relationships Right hits the pages of VOGUE MAGAZINE- check it out!  Please grab a copy of Midlife Priceless wherever you find your books! jenniferhurvitz.com Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!    Where to find me: Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/ Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️ TikTok: CLICK HERE! Pinterest: click here!  You can connect with my editor, Cianna Reider, at https://yourpodcastva.weebly.com/  Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.  

"The greatest legacy is love." ~Dr. Kimberly Harms  We all know the importance of life insurance to make certain our loved ones are financially secure after we pass on, but what can we do to ensure they are emotionally secure without us?  Dr. Kimberly Harms has been around the block in life!  She has served as a Commissioned Officer in the United States Public Health Service, a dental school professor, a grief counselor, a clinical dentist and practice owner with her late husband Jim in Farmington, MN, a death doula, a civil mediator, a school board Chair, President of an international women's organization, the first woman President of the Minnesota Dental Association, co-founder of the 65 Eric Harms Memorial Libraries through Books for Africa in Rwanda, an award-winning bestselling author and an international speaker.  She has also suffered many personal losses, including the suicide deaths of her mother and son and the death from the broken heart of her husband, Jim. Her most important role now is as a mother to her two surviving children and grandmother to six precious grandchildren.  In this episode, Jennifer Hurvitz speaks with Dr. Kimberly Harms, a grief counselor and author, about her journey from being a dentist to navigating profound personal losses, including the suicides of her mother and son. Dr. Harms shares her insights on managing grief, the importance of legacy planning, and how to prepare for death to prevent family conflicts. She emphasizes the need for emotional support and community in the grieving process.  She offers practical advice on creating a legacy binder to ease the burden on loved ones after passing. The conversation is heartfelt and informative, providing listeners with valuable tools for coping with loss and fostering resilience.  Thank you, Kimberly, for sharing your story of strength and vulnerability with us- and reminding us that forgiveness and reconciliation are vital in healing. Legacy planning is a gift of LOVE to your family.  Grief affects everyone around you, not just the individual. Fighting through grief is essential for healing. Creating a legacy binder can ease family burdens after death. Community support is crucial during times of loss. It's critical to prepare for death to avoid family conflicts. Emotional life insurance is as important as financial planning. Grief is a long process that requires time and effort. 00:00 Introduction to Dr. Kim Harms 01:13 Journey from Dentistry to Grief Counseling 04:48 The Impact of Personal Loss 07:40 Fighting Through Grief 10:41 Lessons from Rwanda 14:31 Preparing for Death and Legacy Planning 18:20 Navigating Family Dynamics After Loss 22:23 The Importance of Support and Community 26:21 Emotional Life Insurance and Legacy Binder 30:55 Conclusion and Call to Action   FIND DR. HARMS BOOK, Are You Ready? How to Build a Legacy to Die For HERE  Reach out to Dr. Kim for more information Also, check out her website to see all of her books and resources: https://www.drkimberlyharms.com/   Doing Relationships Right hits the pages of VOGUE MAGAZINE- check it out!  Please grab a copy of Midlife Priceless wherever you find your books! jenniferhurvitz.com Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!    Where to find me: Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/ Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️ TikTok: CLICK HERE! Pinterest: click here!  You can connect with my editor, Cianna Reider, at https://yourpodcastva.weebly.com/  Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

In this episode, Jennifer Hurvitz reflects on her life as she turns 52, sharing valuable lessons she wishes she had known earlier. From self-care tips like wearing sunscreen and using Retin-A to the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing mental health, Jennifer emphasizes the significance of personal growth and self-love. She also discusses the impact of alcohol on health, the necessity of dental care, and the value of travel and experiences in shaping one's identity. The episode concludes with a heartfelt birthday wish and a call to action for listeners to support her work. Chapters 00:00 Celebrating Life and Birthdays 03:53 The Importance of Boundaries and Saying No 07:16 Mental Health Awareness and Support 09:44 Understanding Alcohol and Its Effects 12:08 Finding Your Authentic Self 14:29 The Value of Travel and Experiences   Doing Relationships Right hits the pages of VOGUE MAGAZINE- check it out!  Please grab a copy of Midlife Priceless wherever you find your books! jenniferhurvitz.com Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!    Where to find me: Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/ Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️ TikTok: CLICK HERE! Pinterest: click here!  You can connect with my editor, Cianna Reider, at https://yourpodcastva.weebly.com/  Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.  

Looking for Coconu? Here you go! Just use my code MS15 to get 15% off your first order! https://discovercoconu.com/shop.php In this episode, Jennifer and Jim discuss the complexities of menopause and its impact on relationships. They explore various symptoms of menopause, such as hot flashes and mood swings, and emphasize the importance of communication and support between partners. The conversation highlights the emotional and physical changes during menopause and offers practical advice for maintaining intimacy and understanding. They also touch on the mental health aspects of menopause and the need for patience and open dialogue in relationships. Takeaways Menopause can significantly affect relationships and intimacy. Communication is critical to supporting a partner through menopause. Hot flashes and night sweats are common symptoms that should be acknowledged. It's essential not to take a partner's lack of interest in sex personally. Menopause can lead to increased anxiety and depression. Support can come in many forms, including emotional reassurance and practical help. Understanding that menopause affects everyone differently is crucial for partners. Maintaining intimacy may require adjustments and open discussions about desires. Seeking professional help, such as couples therapy, can be beneficial. Humor and fun can help you navigate the challenges of menopause.    Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Menopause and Relationships 02:15 Understanding Menopausal Symptoms 05:06 Supporting Your Partner Through Menopause 10:02 Communication and Emotional Support 15:03 Navigating Changes in Intimacy 20:15 The Impact of Menopause on Mental Health 23:09 Conclusion and Future Topics Doing Relationships Right hits the pages of VOGUE MAGAZINE- check it out!  Please grab a copy of Midlife Priceless wherever you find your books! jenniferhurvitz.com Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!    Where to find me: Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/ Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️ TikTok: CLICK HERE! Pinterest: click here!  You can connect with my editor, Cianna Reider, at https://yourpodcastva.weebly.com/  Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.    

"We have to go in there and find out what the core wounds are associated with the trauma and recondition those ideas about ourselves." ~Thais Gibson  In this conversation, Jennifer Hurvitz interviews Thais Gibson, a counselor and co-founder of The Personal Development School. They discuss topics such as shadow work and attachment styles. Shadow work explores and integrates the parts of ourselves that we try to deny or hide. It involves identifying triggers and examining the root causes of our reactions. In this conversation, Thais Gibson discusses the importance of reconditioning core wounds and beliefs about oneself to heal from trauma and develop a secure attachment style. She emphasizes the need to move beyond simply blaming others for our problems and instead focus on understanding and changing our beliefs. Thais also explains the five key pillars of becoming securely attached: reconditioning core wounds, knowing and communicating our needs, setting boundaries, regulating our nervous system, and positively reinforcing good behavior. She provides practical tips for effective communication and suggests setting a timeline for personal growth and relationship change. Takeaways Core wounds are subconscious beliefs about ourselves that often stem from past experiences. Healing core wounds involves reconditioning the subconscious through repetition, emotion, and imagery. The three-step process for healing core wounds includes finding the opposite of the core wound, identifying ten memories of feeling the opposite, and recording and listening to those memories for 21 days. Reconditioning core wounds and beliefs about oneself is essential for healing from trauma and developing a secure attachment style. Blaming others for our problems is not productive; instead, we should focus on understanding and changing our beliefs. The five key pillars of becoming securely attached are reconditioning core wounds, knowing and communicating our needs, setting boundaries, regulating our nervous system, and positively reinforcing good behavior. Effective communication involves positive framing, clearly showing what we need, seeing our needs through, and positively reinforcing good behavior. Setting a timeline for personal growth and relationship change can help determine if the other person is willing to do the work and make a positive difference. 00:00 Introduction of Thais Gibson 08:26 Exploring Shadow Work 19:09 Understanding and Healing Core Wounds 23:23 Reconditioning the Subconscious Mind 29:22 The Five Key Pillars of Becoming Securely Attached 36:59 Knowing and Communicating Our Needs 39:27 Setting a Timeline for Personal Growth and Change   Find Thais Gibson here: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/quiz?utm_source=google-search&utm_medium=cpc-lead&utm_campaign=18002521894&utm_term=&gc_id=18002521894&h_ad_id=627022430545&utm_content=thais%20gibson&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwmOm3BhC8ARIsAOSbapVXHyvN9RJxNmNtZEIzdKCU-ep6KM8Mum1CvfK7kL7XvGK1kGRfSqYaAirBEALw_wcB Doing Relationships Right hits the pages of VOGUE MAGAZINE- check it out!  Please grab a copy of Midlife Priceless wherever you find your books! jenniferhurvitz.com Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!    Where to find me: Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/ Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️ TikTok: CLICK HERE! Pinterest: click here!  You can connect with my editor, Cianna Reider, at https://yourpodcastva.weebly.com/  Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.      

 "You need to know if you like the human being. How you feel with them, if they are good, you can work on the rest later. If you don't like the human being, I don't care how they feel. It means nothing." ~ Aleeza Ben Shalom  Aleeza Ben Shalom is a renowned matchmaker, dating coach, speaker, and soulmate clarity expert who empowers marriage-minded singles to find The One. As a dating coach, Aleeza works with people of all backgrounds. Her impressive track record has earned her the title of “Jewish Dating Guru,” as she has successfully coached hundreds of people, regardless of age, affiliation, or life stage. As an entrepreneur and the founder of Marriage Minded Mentor, she connects singles globally with skilled professionals, having trained over 350 dating coaches and matchmakers worldwide. Aleeza has been featured across various media platforms, including The Cut, NBC News Daily, Men’s Health, NPR, Rolling Stone, Good Day NY, Time Out, The Guardian, and Insider. She lives in Israel. If you watched the first season of Jewish Matchmaking on Netflix, you’ve met the incomparable Aleeza Ben Shalom. You’ve seen her guide clients with her tried-and-true practices, such as “date ‘em ‘til you hate ‘em” and “no touching for the first five dates.” She’s bringing that wisdom to everyone, backed by real-world examples. In her paradigm-shifting book, Aleeza will guide readers through her highly original perspective on dating, revealing the surprising ways in which a person’s dating habits directly influence their chances of finding lasting love.   00:00 Introduction and Recommendation of Aleeza Ben Shalom 02:32 Aleeza's Background and Move to Israel 07:28 How Aleeza Got into Dating and Matchmaking 11:07 Discussion of Aleeza's New Book 13:04 The Five-Date Rule: Testing Compatibility Through Patience 15:14 Getting to Know Someone 17:23 The Five-Date Rule 21:45 The Evolution of Attraction   Grab Aleeza’s NEW BOOK, Matchmaker, Matchmaker Find Me A Love That Lasts here   Doing Relationships Right hits the pages of VOGUE MAGAZINE- check it out!  Please grab a copy of Midlife Priceless wherever you find your books! jenniferhurvitz.com Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!    Where to find me: Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/ Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️ TikTok: CLICK HERE! Pinterest: click here!  You can connect with my editor, Cianna Reider, at https://yourpodcastva.weebly.com/  Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.    

In this episode, Jennifer Hurvitz discusses dating during midlife and provides tips for navigating the modern dating scene. She emphasizes the importance of being authentic, confident, and patient while dating. Jennifer also encourages daters to be open-minded and to use technology effectively. She reminds listeners to stay positive and not settle for perfection. Overall, she highlights the rewards and challenges of dating over 50 and offers her services as a dating coach. Takeaways Dating during midlife differs from dating in your 20s or 30s and comes with challenges. Be authentic to yourself when dating. Embrace your unique qualities and be honest about your interests, values, and goals. Prioritize your health and well-being, both physically and emotionally, and be confident in yourself. Be open-minded and date outside of your usual type or criteria. Focus on deep connections and broadening your horizons. Learn to use technology effectively for online dating and be mindful of your online presence. Be patient and trust that the right person will come along. Don't rush into anything, and stay positive throughout the dating process. Use your words and communicate your intentions and desires. Don't waste time with someone who doesn't share your needs. Don't search for perfection, and enjoy the company of others. Keep an open mind and be true to yourself. Consider hiring a dating coach to help you navigate the dating scene and find the love and companionship you seek.   Happy Dating and Healthy Relationships!  xo j   Doing Relationships Right hits the pages of VOGUE MAGAZINE- check it out!  Please grab a copy of Midlife Priceless wherever you find your books! jenniferhurvitz.com Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!    Where to find me: Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/ Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️ TikTok: CLICK HERE! Pinterest: click here!  You can connect with my editor, Cianna Reider, at https://yourpodcastva.weebly.com/  Get a copy of Jen's book, "Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married" here.

If a financial counselor and a personal organizer decided to create the perfect "lab love child," it would be Nikki Tucker! She's a mom and financial professional who firmly believes all women deserve financial security. Going through a separation or divorce is hard enough. When a woman’s economic security is threatened, the stress can become overwhelming. Nikki’s goal is to help women feel confident, inspired, and ready to take control of their financial futures during one of the most challenging times of their lives. In this conversation, Jennifer Hurvitz interviews Nikki Tucker, a financial professional and mom, about the importance of financial security in relationships. They discuss the impact of money stories on individuals and relationships, the need for financial compatibility, and how to approach money conversations in relationships. They also touch on red flags in money-related relationships and the importance of teaching children about money from a young age. In this conversation, Jennifer and Nikki discuss the importance of financial conversations in relationships, including the role of upbringing and prenuptial agreements. They also touch on the benefits of keeping finances separate and the need for financial education before marriage. Nikki shares information about her programs for those considering divorce and for post-divorce financial support. Takeaways: Money stories, shaped by our experiences and emotions about money, have a direct impact on our daily lives and relationships. Financial compatibility is crucial in relationships and should be discussed early on. Regular money conversations in relationships help create a safe space for discussing finances and building financial intimacy. Red flags related to money in relationships should be taken seriously, especially if they involve character issues. Teaching children about money from a young age, including giving them structure and teaching them about budgeting, can set them up for financial success in the future. Financial conversations are crucial in relationships and can be influenced by upbringing. Prenuptial agreements can help reduce money fights and make divorces easier. Separate finances can provide autonomy and protection in a relationship. Financial education before marriage is essential to avoid future financial issues. Nikki offers programs for those considering divorce and for post-divorce financial support.   Chapters  00:00 Introduction and Guest Bio 02:05 Understanding Money Stories 06:00 Starting Money Conversations in Relationships 09:07 Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships 12:33 The Importance of Financial Compatibility 14:21 Teaching Children About Money 17:00 The Influence of Upbringing on Financial Conversations 19:12 The Role of Separate Finances in Relationships 21:35 The Need for Financial Education Before Marriage   Find Nikki here: https://thefiirmapproach.com/ Doing Relationships Right hits the pages of VOGUE MAGAZINE- check it out!  If you enjoy our content and want to support the show, consider sponsoring!  Here's the link to my Online Dating Course: DOING DATING RIGHT!    FIND JENNIFER:  Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/ Youtube: CLICK HERE ♥️ TikTok: CLICK HERE! Pinterest: click here!  You can connect with my editor, Cianna Reider, at https://yourpodcastva.weebly.com/