174. The Moment I Decided to Stop Putting My Life on Hold

The second cookie isn’t the problem. The story you tell yourself about the second cookie is. Let’s talk about why “one” feels like success, why “two” feels like failure, and how to step out of that exhausting math game with food. 🎥 The video I'm talking about!!    TIMESTAMPS  0:00 – Why “just one cookie” feels like the ultimate test of control 4:45 – The story I picked up from my mom 7:00 – Why stopping at one cookie feels safe (and why it backfires) 9:00 – Susan vs. Sarah 12:45 – How the second cookie becomes “failure” instead of just food 15:00 – Food morality and identity 19:00 – Coffee chat (life updates, book announcement, and mom life)   BEYOND BINGE EATING The last program you’ll need to stop binge eating. Enroll here!   THE PERSPECTIVE SHIFT NEWSLETTER 14k+ read my free newsletter The Perspective Shift: a weekly(ish) newsletter that challenges ideas on what it means to live a simply full life. Subscribe here!   SOCIALS 📸 Instagram 🎵 TikTok 🎥 Youtube   ABOUT RYANN I’m Ryann Nicole, a licensed therapist and certified nutritionist. I help people transform their relationship with food and break free from binge eating. My mission is to empower others to find mental peace, embrace balance, and live life unchained from food noise.   Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice.

FREE Live Workshop: Design Your Life Beyond Binge Eating → Register here. I think I might have the healthiest relationship with exercise I've EVER had?!! Let me share with you how I think about working out now, what I am doing for workouts now, and how I got here!!    TIMESTAMPS _*]:min-w-0 !gap-3.5"> 0:00 - Why I'm Sharing My Exercise Story Now 0:30 - Growing Up Swimming 18+ Hours a Week 2:00 - When Exercise Became My Safety Net (And Punishment) 4:00 -  Hours of Cardio Machine Hopping 5:00 - Jackson Hole: When Everyone's an Extreme Athlete 6:30 - My Orange Theory Coach Era 7:30 - Choosing the Gym Over My Relationship 10:00 - Surgery Forced Me to Stop 12:00 - COVID Proof 14:00 - Fear vs. Intention 15:00 - Discovering Pilates 17:30 - Pregnancy 19:00 - Why I Stopped Thinking "On Track" vs. "Off Track" 20:00 - Can You See Yourself Doing This Long-Term? 21:00 - My Current Routine 23:00 - The New Mindset 23:30 - Key Takeaways   BINGE EATING UNCHAINED  The last program you’ll need to stop binge eating. Enroll here!   THE PERSPECTIVE SHIFT NEWSLETTER 14k+ read my free newsletter The Perspective Shift: a weekly(ish) newsletter that challenges ideas on what it means to live a simply full life. Subscribe here!   SOCIALS 📸 Instagram 🎵 TikTok 🎥 Youtube   ABOUT RYANN I’m Ryann Nicole, a licensed therapist and certified nutritionist. I help people transform their relationship with food and break free from binge eating. My mission is to empower others to find mental peace, embrace balance, and live life unchained from food noise.   Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice.

Tired of trying to control your eating with more willpower? In this video, we break down why willpower isn't the long-term solution and what actually leads to peace, ease, and effortless eating. If you're still thinking about food all the time, this conversation will shift everything.   ⭐️ FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: August 14, 21, and 28 https://itsryannnicole.com/workshop   TIMESTAMPS 0:00 – Why Willpower Isn't Working for You 1:10 – What Willpower Really Feels Like 2:55 – Understanding Why You Feel Out of Control 4:05 – Let’s Rethink the Willpower Narrative 5:50 – A Story About Fruit Snacks That Might Shift Everything 8:10 – Why It’s Not About Discipline 9:55 – The “It’s Because of My Weight” Belief 12:50 – What Actually Makes Food Feel Easy 15:10 – The Difference Between Control and Freedom 16:20 – Why Just Knowing Better Doesn’t Work 18:40 – What Happens When the Goal Becomes Safety 20:25 – Questions to Help You Understand What’s Really Going On 22:10 – Why You Might Still Be Clinging to Control 23:55 – You’re Allowed to Want More Than This 25:40 – Free Workshop: Designing Your Life Beyond Binge Eating   BINGE EATING UNCHAINED  The last program you’ll need to stop binge eating. Enroll here!   THE PERSPECTIVE SHIFT NEWSLETTER 14k+ read my free newsletter The Perspective Shift: a weekly(ish) newsletter that challenges ideas on what it means to live a simply full life. Subscribe here!   SOCIALS 📸 Instagram 🎵 TikTok 🎥 Youtube   ABOUT RYANN I’m Ryann Nicole, a licensed therapist and certified nutritionist. I help people transform their relationship with food and break free from binge eating. My mission is to empower others to find mental peace, embrace balance, and live life unchained from food noise.   Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice.

If you’ve ever made the perfect plan and still ended up spiraling by Wednesday… this one’s for you. In this episode, we’re unpacking why your food plans, workout schedules, morning routines (and every other “reset”) keep falling apart and what you’re actually chasing when you make them.   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Why this might be the first plan you actually stick to 02:22 – I built the perfect plan… and it fell apart by Thursday 04:08 – What we think the plan will fix 05:17 – What we’re really asking the plan to prove 06:37 – Wanting change isn’t the problem 07:07 – What are you secretly trying to prove with your plan? 08:10 – Why it feels logical to burn it all down after one slip 10:11 – The messy, unsexy middle 11:15 – This quote by Brianna Wiest wrecked me (in a good way) 12:08 – If peace only comes when you're perfect… is it peace? 13:05 – The 9-word mantra that stopped my all-or-nothing spiral 14:41 – How to build a plan that actually holds you 16:07 – A real-life moment where I didn’t burn it down 17:27 – What might happen if you just… kept going?   BINGE EATING UNCHAINED  The last program you’ll need to stop binge eating. Enroll here!   THE PERSPECTIVE SHIFT NEWSLETTER 14k+ read my free newsletter The Perspective Shift: a weekly(ish) newsletter that challenges ideas on what it means to live a simply full life. Subscribe here!   SOCIALS 📸 Instagram 🎵 TikTok 🎥 Youtube   ABOUT RYANN I’m Ryann Nicole, a licensed therapist and certified nutritionist. I help people transform their relationship with food and break free from binge eating. My mission is to empower others to find mental peace, embrace balance, and live life unchained from food noise.   Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice.

How many versions of joy are you holding hostage until your life looks different? Once I’m pregnant… I’ll relax. Once I lose the weight… I’ll book the trip. Once I make the money… I’ll stop feeling behind. This isn’t just about pregnancy. It’s about every quiet way we convince ourselves we’re not allowed to live yet. In this episode, I’m talking about the trip I didn’t book, the clothes I didn’t buy, the version of myself I kept waiting to become… and what finally made me stop.   Action Steps: Ask: Where am I putting my life on hold? Let yourself live a little more this week!   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – I’m Not Pregnant (And I Really Thought I Would Be) 02:55 – It’s Not About Pregnancy. It’s About Postponed Joy. 05:08 – The Trap of “Once I…” and the Life You’re Not Living Yet 07:48 – Why I Wasn’t Letting Myself Have It (and What Changed) 09:46 – It Felt Responsible to Wait. It Wasn’t. 11:11 – The Sneaky Ways We Justify Putting Life on Hold 12:03 – “I’m Just Being Cautious” (But Am I?) 12:58 – What If the One Thing You’re Avoiding Is the One Thing You Need? 14:01 – The Quiet Places You Might Be Pausing Your Life 15:14 – My Real-Life Approach to Gently Challenging the Pause 18:44 – The Cheesiest Line That’s Also Completely True 19:21 – Claiming Joy + Play Before You’ve Earned It   BINGE EATING UNCHAINED  The last program you’ll need to stop binge eating. Enroll here!   THE PERSPECTIVE SHIFT NEWSLETTER 14k+ read my free newsletter The Perspective Shift: a weekly(ish) newsletter that challenges ideas on what it means to live a simply full life. Subscribe here!   SOCIALS 📸 Instagram 🎵 TikTok 🎥 Youtube   ABOUT RYANN I’m Ryann Nicole, a licensed therapist and certified nutritionist. I help people transform their relationship with food and break free from binge eating. My mission is to empower others to find mental peace, embrace balance, and live life unchained from food noise.   Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice.

You want to be someone who can rest without guilt. Someone who can be present, have fun, enjoy the moment, but it feels hard. Like another thing on your to-do list. In this episode, we unpack why things like rest, play, and downtime feel so exhausting when they’re supposed to feel good. I walk you through why it’s not about laziness or being “too Type A”… it’s about safety. Nervous system safety. And if you’ve ever thought, “I know I’m allowed to relax… but I just can’t let myself,” this one’s for you!! Instagram Post Referenced   Action Steps: Name the thing you wish you let yourself enjoy more. “Something I wish I let myself enjoy more is…” Notice the fear behind it. “What am I afraid will happen if I actually let myself enjoy this?” This could be fear of being lazy, losing control, being judged, or not being good enough. Shift from ‘allowed to’ → ‘letting myself.’ Say it out loud: “I’m not just allowed to enjoy ____. I’m letting myself enjoy it.” This is the difference between knowing something and actually practicing it. Start with five minutes. Choose one low-pressure moment this week to practice letting yourself enjoy that one thin, even for just five minutes.   TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Fun feels exhausting 01:45 – It's not your personality, it’s your nervous system 03:00 – When enjoyment becomes another task 05:00 – You don’t need more hacks, you need safety 06:30 – You’ve Googled how to be more fun + here’s what’s missing 08:00 – You don’t want more, you want less 10:00 – My therapist asked if I had any hobbies 12:20 – What are you afraid will happen if you stop proving yourself? 14:00 – Your body doesn’t speak logic, it speaks survival 15:00 – Rest feels like danger when your worth is tied to doing 16:00 – Allowing vs. letting: the energy difference 18:30 – Why joy and pleasure aren’t wastes of time 19:45 – Escaping your life through food, work, or distraction 21:00 – You don’t need more fixing, you need more understanding 22:00 – The 5-minute challenge 23:00 – Practice now for ease later 24:30 – Let yourself enjoy one thing, just a little more   BINGE EATING UNCHAINED  The last program you’ll need to stop binge eating. Enroll here!   THE PERSPECTIVE SHIFT NEWSLETTER 14k+ read my free newsletter The Perspective Shift: a weekly(ish) newsletter that challenges ideas on what it means to live a simply full life. Subscribe here!   SOCIALS 📸 Instagram 🎵 TikTok 🎥 Youtube   ABOUT RYANN I’m Ryann Nicole, a licensed therapist and certified nutritionist. I help people transform their relationship with food and break free from binge eating. My mission is to empower others to find mental peace, embrace balance, and live life unchained from food noise.   Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice.

Come hear what I have been avoiding saying for months... what losing control really taught me about feelings, fear, and how to start loosening your grip so you can enjoy your life again. Instagram Post Referenced   Action Steps: Control for me right now looks like _____ What am I really trying to protect myself from? Name 3 ways continuing to control like this is robbing me of presence, ease, and joy. What is ONE super tiny specific way I can loosen the grip just a bit this week?   TIMESTAMPS  0:00 Why I avoided making this episode 2:00 – Postpartum struggle + identity crisis 6:00 – Control is really a feeling problem 8:00 – The cycle: how control shape-shifts when you avoid feeling 10:00 – Why we crave control 12:00 – What “I want control” really means 13:00 – How I started to loosen the grip and feel safe without control 14:30 – Fixing v Growing 16:30 – Why slow is hard but necessary 21:00 – The real question: what are you trying to avoid feeling 25:00 – Letting yourself feel, even when it’s uncomfortable 27:00 – Why fun and play are the point 29:00 – The next eight weeks: how we’ll do this together 30:00 – This week’s action steps   BINGE EATING UNCHAINED  The last program you’ll need to stop binge eating. Enroll here!   THE PERSPECTIVE SHIFT NEWSLETTER 14k+ read my free newsletter The Perspective Shift: a weekly(ish) newsletter that challenges ideas on what it means to live a simply full life. Subscribe here!   SOCIALS 📸 Instagram 🎵 TikTok 🎥 Youtube   ABOUT RYANN I’m Ryann Nicole, a licensed therapist and certified nutritionist. I help people transform their relationship with food and break free from binge eating. My mission is to empower others to find mental peace, embrace balance, and live life unchained from food noise.   Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice.

After getting hit with a brutal sickness, I'm back—and with a fresh perspective on health, rest, and how we take care of ourselves. Today, I'm diving into the viral sensation that is Kylie Perkins, her no-BS approach to decluttering, and why her message is actually deeper than just cleaning your house. Let's talk about how excess can be overwhelming, why just starting is the key to getting unstuck, and how small shifts in our space can lead to big shifts in our mindset. Watch This Episode On Youtube  FAIR USE DISCLAIMER: The materials used in this video are adapted and used for educational purposes only. This transformation constitutes a 'fair use' of any such copyrighted material as provided for in Section 107 of the U.S. Copyright Law. Under Section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for FAIR USE for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship and research.   TIMESTAMPS  0:00 Welcome Back! 4:05 Who Is Kylie Perkins? The TikTok creator taking over 7:00 Watching Her Videos What makes her message so powerful 10:30 The Psychology of Clutter Why too much stuff is overwhelming 12:50 The Power of Just Starting How small steps change everything 14:35 Decluttering = Mental Clarity How our environment affects us 16:20 Kylie Perkins Got In My Head And made me clean my house 18:05 Does Yelling Work? My thoughts on her motivational style 19:50 Too Many Toys, Too Many Choices Managing clutter with kids 22:10 Overwhelmed by Options? How excess keeps us stuck 24:30 Perfectionism & Procrastination The real reason we don’t start 26:50 Waiting for Motivation? The truth about getting things done 29:10 What Happens When You Just Start? A challenge for you   SUPPORT Ask Ryann a Question: https://www.itsryannnicole.com/support Free Coaching: https://www.itsryannnicole.com/value Work with me: https://www.itsryannnicole.com/beu   THE PERSPECTIVE SHIFT NEWSLETTER 13,000+ read my free newsletter that shifts your perspective on food. Sign up: https://itsryannnicole.com/newsletter   LISTEN TO THE RYANN NICOLE PODCAST  iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ryann-nicole-podcast/id1537631525 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7pMxyLpURNgHcitXnGVoxb?si=9a05ce6139a34dc0   JOIN MY COMMUNITY 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsryannnicole 🖥️ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/itsryannnicole/ 🎵 TikTok: https://www.instagram.com/@itsryannnicole   ABOUT RYANN I’m Ryann Nicole, a licensed therapist and certified nutritionist. I help people transform their relationship with food and break free from binge eating. My mission is to empower others to find mental peace, embrace balance, and live life unchained from food noise.   Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice.

In today's episode, I am answering the question: Hi Ryann, Through the help of your videos, my therapist, my nutritionist, and my own commitment to healing, I recovered from binge eating throughout 2023-2024 - or so I thought. Lately I have been having “mini” binges, often when I’m particularly tired, stressed, o otherwise triggered. I tend to stop these mini binges in their tracks before they become full-blown binges, but it has me wondering: Why has the urge to binge resurfaced, and why am I finding myself starting to obsess about what I’m eating again? I thought I already “did the work.” Thanks for all you do! Your videos have made me feel so seen and find the strength to commit to healing my relationship with food. Ask Ryann A Question   TIMESTAMPS  0:00 Welcome 1:32 The Fear of Rejection & Social Media Struggles 3:58 Discovering The Let Them Theory 6:11 The Missing Piece: “Let Me” 8:06 Listener Question: Why Are My Binge Urges Coming Back?  9:45 You’re Not Failing—You’re Just Human 12:27 The Sneaky Reason You’re Struggling Again 14:56 Stop Treating Recovery Like a Finish Line 17:48 The Boring Reality of Lasting Change  20:23 The Identity Shift 23:10 When Things Start Slipping, Do This 26:35 The Engine Light Analogy: Are You Paying Attention?    SUPPORT Ask Ryann a Question: https://www.itsryannnicole.com/support Free Coaching: https://www.itsryannnicole.com/value Work with me: https://www.itsryannnicole.com/beu   THE PERSPECTIVE SHIFT NEWSLETTER 13,000+ read my free newsletter that shifts your perspective on food. Sign up: https://itsryannnicole.com/newsletter   LISTEN TO THE RYANN NICOLE PODCAST  iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ryann-nicole-podcast/id1537631525 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7pMxyLpURNgHcitXnGVoxb?si=9a05ce6139a34dc0   JOIN MY COMMUNITY 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsryannnicole 🖥️ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/itsryannnicole/ 🎵 TikTok: https://www.instagram.com/@itsryannnicole   ABOUT RYANN I’m Ryann Nicole, a licensed therapist and certified nutritionist. I help people transform their relationship with food and break free from binge eating. My mission is to empower others to find mental peace, embrace balance, and live life unchained from food noise.   Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice.

Struggling with acne, eczema, or stubborn skin issues? It might not just be your skincare routine—it could be your gut health. In this episode, I sit down with gut health expert Jamie DeLaurentis, a registered dietitian, to break down the gut microbiome and skin connection and uncover hormonal acne solutions that go beyond just topicals. We’re diving into skincare myths, the acne and gut connection, and what you can actually do to heal acne naturally. Whether you're dealing with acne after birth control, curious about the best supplements for acne, or just tired of chasing the next skincare trend, this episode will give you real, science-backed solutions for clearer skin—without unnecessary restrictions. 🎥 Watch the full episode on Youtube here   TIMESTAMPS 0:00 Why We’re Talking About Skin 1:10 My Personal Struggle with Acne After Birth Control 3:00 Introducing Jamie – Gut Health & Skin Expert 5:15 Jamie’s Personal Journey with Psoriasis & Gut Issues 8:00 The Gut-Skin Connection: How Your Microbiome Affects Your Skin 10:45 Where to Start If You’re Struggling with Hormonal Acne 13:30 Key Nutrients for Clear Skin: Vitamin A, E & Potassium 16:50 Does Sugar Really Cause Acne? The Truth About Blood Sugar & Skin 19:15 How Yo-Yo Dieting & Restriction Impact Skin Health 22:40 Skincare Myths: Do You Actually Need a 10-Step Routine? 25:30 How Stress Affects Acne & Skin Conditions 28:10 Does Gluten or Dairy Cause Acne? Breaking Down Food & Skin 31:15 Eczema & Psoriasis: Understanding the Gut-Skin Connection 35:45 Healing Acne Naturally: What Actually Works 38:20 The Best Supplements for Acne & What to Avoid 41:10 How Drinking & Lifestyle Habits Impact Your Skin 44:50 The Role of Minerals in Gut & Skin Health 48:00 Can You Have a Healthy Gut & Still Struggle with Acne? 51:30 When to Consider Testing for Gut & Skin Issues 55:10 The Psychological Side of Skin Struggles: Managing the Mindset 59:00 Final Thoughts – Where to Start if You Want Healthier Skin 1:02:00 Where to Find Jamie & Additional Resources   LINKS Jamie's Instagram Free Mineral Mocktail Guide   SUPPORT Ask Ryann a Question Free Coaching Binge Eating Unchained    THE PERSPECTIVE SHIFT NEWSLETTER 13,000+ read my free newsletter that shifts your perspective on food. Sign up here!    LISTEN TO THE RYANN NICOLE PODCAST iTunes Spotify Youtube   JOIN MY COMMUNITY Instagram  Facebook TikTok    ABOUT RYANN I’m Ryann Nicole, a licensed therapist and certified nutritionist. I help people transform their relationship with food and break free from binge eating. My mission is to empower others to find mental peace, embrace balance, and live life unchained from food noise.   Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only and not a substitute for professional advice.