For Black Women Love Isn't Enough - When to Stop Fixing a Dead Relationship

Let's talk a little about when you are in a season that requires you to un-labor a bit and stop grinding. I believe that Black women deserve more ease and to receive income and abundance with ease, myself included, so there will be times that we are required to un-labor and allow God to step in and provide miracles. This is counterintuitive to the lessons we learned that told us that in order to be successful, wealthy, even safe, we must labor in all ways and all the time. Hit "play" on this episode and lt's unpack things a little bit.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Valentine's Day was just a few days ago, but today we’re talking about the side of love we rarely discuss: the grace of letting go. Inspired by a surprising lesson from Mr. Rogers, this episode explores why we often keep pouring our "salt"—our energy, labor, and essence—into relationships that are no longer viable.Let's talk about the "Fixer" trap, the difference between a rough patch and a dead one, and how to reclaim your sweetness by choosing to stop performing CPR on a "dead fish". Ways to support me and the podcast:Buy me a coffee or even a book. Cashapp and Venmo are @browngirlselfcare (thank you!!)Leave a message on Spotify or rating and review on iTunes (thank you!!)Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Late in 2025 one of my distractions, one that I wasn't aware of for a while, was fear. I was afraid that If I didn't earn income or receive it in a certain way, I wasn't doing things "right." This ended up putting me into a bit of freeze mode and if you've ever experienced freeze mode you know how much that feels like being stuck in time.In todays episode, let's talk a bit about distractions and how they might show up in your life and put a halt on living the life you deserve.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Hey, hey!Got a great question for you today straight from the community. How can we practice self-care during this time of civil unrest, ICE and fascism. This episode is not all inclusive. My hope is that it allows room for you to reflect on what is important to you.As mentioned in the episode, know your rights. ICE AGENTS ARE NOT POLICE OFFICERS though Police Officers may or may not accompany them. Here are some helpful links. Please do your due diligence:https://naacp.org/resources/know-your-rights-immigrationhttps://www.reddit.com/r/TwinCities/comments/1qb84vt/what_to_do_if_ice_stops_you_an_attorney_answers/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode I’m talking about something that’s deeply personal yet universally human: the courage to share your truth. Sometimes the weight we carry, like shame, fear, embarrassment, or unspoken experiences, can hold us back from living fully. Sharing your truth doesn’t have to be dramatic or performative, it is about creating space to release, reflect, and heal.We’re talking about:Why holding onto your truth can feel like survival but may also block your growthThe importance of having a supportive inner circle and trustworthy alliesWays to safely share your truth including journaling, therapy, creative expression, or just showing up authenticallyHow black women, historically and culturally, have had to mask their truths and why reclaiming space to be fully human is an act of self-careNavigating the highs and lows, the valleys and peaks, of life while honoring your own journeyThis episode is an invitation to let go of the pressure to be perfect, to stop bottling things up for survival, and to explore ways to express yourself safely and honestly.Reflection PromptsWhat truth have you been holding onto that needs space to be expressedWho in your life can you trust to honor your truth without judgmentWhat small, safe step can you take this week to release or express what’s been bottled upSoul-Care Circle Invitation✨ Soul-Care Circle: Intentional Vision Board Creating ✨If you’d like to explore your intentions for 2026 in community, I’m hosting a virtual Soul-Care Circle where we’ll gather to reflect, connect, and create vision/intention boards that go beyond goals—including joy, safety, support, movement, healing, and alignment.Date and Time: January 31, 2026 (9am-11am Central)Where: ZoomCost: Donation-based (any amount)This is a cozy, judgment-free space to slow down, check in with yourself, and intentionally call in the energy you want to carry this year.How to JoinSend your donation via:Cash App: @browngirlselfcareVenmo: @browngirlselfcare👉 Important:Please include your email address and “for Soul-Care Circle” in the note so I can send you the Zoom link.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this first episode of the year, I’m sharing something that may not matter to anyone else on the planet and how it reminded me that self-care isn’t always loud, aesthetic, or dramatic.Sometimes self-care looks like claiming space. Sometimes it looks like taking one small step toward a vision you don’t need to explain to anyone else.We’re talking about:Why small beginnings matter (especially in January)Creating physical, emotional, and energetic space as a form of self-careLetting intentions unfold without rushing or pressureHow honoring what feels meaningful to you is an act of self-loveThis episode is an invitation to start the year gently, intentionally, and on your own terms.Reflection PromptsWhat’s one small step you can take this year that feels big for you?What kind of space do you want to claim or protect in 2026?Where can you move with intention instead of urgency?Soul-Care Circle Invitation✨ Soul-Care Circle: Intentional Vision Board Creating ✨If you’d like to explore your intentions for 2026 in community, I’m hosting a virtual Soul-Care Circle where we’ll gather to reflect, connect, and create vision/intention boards that go beyond goals—including joy, safety, support, movement, healing, and alignment. Date: January 31, 2026 Where: Zoom Cost: Donation-based (any amount)This is a cozy, judgment-free space to slow down, check in with yourself, and intentionally call in the energy you want to carry this year.How to JoinSend your donation via:Cash App: @browngirlselfcareVenmo: @browngirlselfcare👉 Important: Please include your email address and “for Soul-Care Circle” in the note so I can send you the Zoom link.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The B.E.I.N.G. Space reopens January 3rd, 2026Welcome to the final episode of our end-of-year series! I am wrapping up our conversation on self-recovery and boundaries by offering a framework for leaving 2025 behind and crafting a intentional, liberated blueprint for 2026.The steps are:Honor the release that needs to happenYour goals don't need to be about fixing your perceived flaws or being hypercritical of yourself. Think about setting intentions insteadBe sure to include community building in your plans for 2026I'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode as well as some of your intentions for 2026. If you share this episode or your intentions on social, be sure to tag me.If you are listening on iTunes or Spotify please leave a rating and review pretty please :)Also, if you are making some changes in 2026 and need clarity and support as you boldly bloom, book some time on my calenedar here: The B.E.I.N.G. Space I will be back "in office" January 3rd.See you in 2026!!!!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Following last week’s episode on being your authentic self, today we are diving into the challenging but essential work of communicating new, radical boundaries. This is all about preparing yourself for a truly authentic 2026 where you are free to be yourself. In this episode i'll be sharing:how boundaries are liberationthe importance of staying as cool as a cucumber when expressing your boundariesthe necessity of not only expressing the. boundary but having a consequenceResources/Links:In case you missed it, here is last weeks episode - December Is The Best Month To Release The "Fake" and Find Your Real SelfNeed clarity in your journey of blooming? Book a BEING Session with me here!Join me on Zoom on December 17th right here - BGSC Soul-Care CircleSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The work discussed in this episode, as we enter the final days of 2025, is not just about ending the year on a high. What I feel it is, is an opportunity to see 2026 as the year your authentic self is non-negotiable. In this episode we are talking about self-care through the lens of transition, a fresh start, into the new year. In this episode let's explore: Winter as the Shedding Season: Using the end of 2025 as a time to identify and release the societal expectations and masks that stifle our authentic selves.Decolonizing Your Worth: Challenging narratives of strength and productivity to embrace softness, vulnerability, and rest.Returning to Your Roots: The importance of reconnecting with hobbies, creativity, and ancestral wisdom that spark your mind, heart, and spirit.Resources and links:Join me on December 17th for Soul-Care Circle. Click here to register on ZoomShare your story! What are you shedding this season? Tag @browngirlselfcare on social after listening today and let me know.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this episode, I'm getting honest about the moments when your spirit is no longer whispering, but instead she’s tapping you on the shoulder, side-eyeing you, and begging you to just sit down somewhere.As Black women, we’re praised for pushing through, carrying everything, and keeping it all together. But this season is about something different: honoring your humanity, choosing ease, and learning to pause before life forces you to.We’ll explore the 5 signs that show up when you’re out of alignment: when you’re scattered instead of centered drained instead of nourished ✨eactive instead of peaceful doubting instead of grounded and disconnected instead of intuitiveSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy