Breakup Bootcamp with Amy Chan

In this episode we explore the intricacies of building fulfilling long-term partnerships. We delve into what truly matters in lasting relationships while learning the art of making better choices in partners, guided by the 4 pillars of partnership. Discover the balance in giving and receiving, while also gaining insights into how to prevent overcompensating for someone's lack of effort. Finally, the episode touches on the journey of opening up your heart again, offering invaluable wisdom for those seeking genuine and enduring connections in the realm of love.• Beware of ‘The dangle’• Green flags, throwing out the list, what matters in long term partnerships• How to choose better• 4 pillars of partnership: connection, compatibility, timing and mutuality• Giving and receiving and how to stop overcompensating for someone’s lack of effort• Opening up your heart againThis episode is brought to you by:Boll & Branch makes the softest, most luxurious sheets without any toxins or harsh chemicals. Sleep better at night with Boll & Branch sheets. Get 25% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at bollandbranch.comOlive & June gives you salon-worthy nails...at home. Get 20% off you first Olive & June System at oliveandjune.com/breakupBetterHelp makes your brain your friend. Spend less time in post-breakup depression with help from BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month when you sign up using betterhelp.com/breakupControl Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code BREAKUP at lumepodcast.com! #lumepodJenni Kayne makes getting dressed easier than it's ever been before. Get 15% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at jennikayne.com/BREAKUPSakara delivers science-backed, plant-rich nutrition programs and wellness essentials right to your door. Get 20% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at sakara.com/breakup.Prose makes your post-breakup hair care routine easy.  Keep your hair smooth and strong and indulge in some well-deserved self-care. Take a FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order at prose.com/breakupSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we delve into essential topics such as understanding emotional addiction and the yearning for homeostasis, challenging the concept of a 'soul mate' to foster personal growth, narcissistic tendencies, crafting a powerful 'Letting Go' letter as an act of liberation, and the transformative power of forgiveness in the process of healing. This episode offers a comprehensive guide to navigate the path towards self-accountability and emotional recovery post-breakup.• Homeostasis and emotional addiction• Bursting the soul mate bubble• Narcissist proof yourself (are you a narcissist) • Stop future trippin’• The plan that was never yours• Letting go letter• ForgivenessThis episode is brought to you by:Sakara delivers science-backed, plant-rich nutrition programs and wellness essentials right to your door. Get 20% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at sakara.com/breakup.Boll & Branch makes the softest, most luxurious sheets without any toxins or harsh chemicals. Sleep better at night with Boll & Branch sheets. Get 20% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at bollandbranch.comBetterHelp makes your brain your friend. Spend less time in post-breakup depression with help from BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month when you sign up using betterhelp.com/breakupJenni Kayne makes getting dressed easier than it's ever been before. Get 15% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at jennikayne.com/BREAKUPOlive & June gives you salon-worthy nails...at home. Get 20% off you first Olive & June System at oliveandjune.com/breakupProse makes your post-breakup hair care routine easy.  Keep your hair smooth and strong and indulge in some well-deserved self-care. Take a FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order at prose.com/breakupControl Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code BREAKUP at lumepodcast.com! #lumepodSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, learn how unique attachment styles shape the way individuals process breakups. Understand why relapse happens and what to do when it does. The episode also addresses the challenging decision of whether or not to reunite with an ex, and how to handle the feelings of injustice when an ex moves on.• How we handle breakups differently, according to our attachment style• Relapse and how change happens• Cultivating resilience• Should I take my ex back? The only time you should get back together• Uh oh - my ex moved on• Attractions of Deprivation• Broken Chemistry Compass• Intermittent reinforcementThis episode is brought to you by:Sakara delivers science-backed, plant-rich nutrition programs and wellness essentials right to your door. Get 20% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at sakara.com/breakup.Boll & Branch makes the softest, most luxurious sheets without any toxins or harsh chemicals. Sleep better at night with Boll & Branch sheets. Get 20% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at bollandbranch.comOlive & June gives you salon-worthy nails...at home. Get 20% off you first Olive & June System at oliveandjune.com/breakupControl Body Odor ANYWHERE with @lumedeodorant and get $5 off off your Starter Pack (that’s over 40% off) with promo code BREAKUP at lumepodcast.com! #lumepodJenni Kayne makes getting dressed easier than it's ever been before. Get 15% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at jennikayne.com/BREAKUPProse makes your post-breakup hair care routine easy.  Keep your hair smooth and strong and indulge in some well-deserved self-care. Take a FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order at prose.com/breakupSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we'll explore the dynamics of anger as a moving energy and why it's crucial to understand and release it properly. Dive into the emotional aftermath of feeling like "it’s not fair" and discover how vilifying your ex can paradoxically keep you more attached. Learn the importance of recognizing red flags and establishing non-negotiables in relationships, and the transformative power of surrounding yourself with high safety individuals – because sometimes, it truly takes a village.• Anger is energy moving, why you need it and how to release• It’s not fair - dealing with the injustice• How vilifying your ex keeps you hooked• Red flags, non-negotiables and what I don’t want  • It takes a village - increasing exposure to high safety peopleThis episode is brought to you by:Sakara delivers science-backed, plant-rich nutrition programs and wellness essentials right to your door. Get 20% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at sakara.com/breakup.Prose makes your post-breakup hair care routine easy.  Keep your hair smooth and strong and indulge in some well-deserved self-care. Take a FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order at prose.com/breakupBoll & Branch makes the softest, most luxurious sheets without any toxins or harsh chemicals. Sleep better at night with Boll & Branch sheets. Get 15% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at bollandbranch.comBetterHelp makes your brain your friend. Spend less time in post-breakup depression with help from BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month when you sign up using betterhelp.com/breakupOlive & June gives you salon-worthy nails...at home. Get 20% off you first Olive & June System at oliveandjune.com/breakupJenni Kayne makes getting dressed easier than it's ever been before. Get 15% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at jennikayne.com/BREAKUPSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we delve deep into the complex world of cognitive distortions and the challenge of separating fact from fiction in our emotional lives. Discover the transformative power of a 2-minute exercise to rewire your brain, and understand why concepts like "closure" might be myths that keep us tethered to dead-end relationships. Finally, get acquainted with the region-beta paradox, a dangerous relationship quandary where it feels too bad to stay, yet not quite bad enough to leave.• Don’t feed the emotional monster• Gratitude practice and how it changes the brain  • Do not retraumatize yourself• Cognitive distortions, separating fact from fiction  • How this simple 2 minute gratitude exercise will rewire your brain• Closure is a myth• Why you stay in dead-end relationships and sunk fallacy• The region-beta paradox - The most dangerous kind of relationship - when it’s too bad to stay but not bad enough to leave This episode is brought to you by:Sakara delivers science-backed, plant-rich nutrition programs and wellness essentials right to your door. Get 20% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at sakara.com/breakup.Boll & Branch makes the softest, most luxurious sheets without any toxins or harsh chemicals. Sleep better at night with Boll & Branch sheets. Get 15% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at bollandbranch.comBetterHelp makes your brain your friend. Spend less time in post-breakup depression with help from BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month when you sign up using betterhelp.com/breakupJenni Kayne makes getting dressed easier than it's ever been before. Get 15% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at jennikayne.com/BREAKUPSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode you’ll uncover the bias that makes you conveniently forget the negative aspects of your ex, plus how to knock them off the pedestal. Learn valuable insights on how to close mental loops, manage withdrawal, and boost dopamine  in a healthy way. Amy will also live coach Millionaire Matchmaker, Patti Stanger as she heals from a breakup with her recent ex. • Denial is a rejection of reality that it’s over. It’s the holding on to hope. The sooner you accept, the sooner you start the process of healing. • Your enemy - “should” - this cognitive distortion will prolong your pain• Fading Effect Bias that causes you to forget the negative• Knock your ex off the pedestal• When you go into detective mode to close an open loop• Dealing with anxiety (shake it out, breath technique)• How to stop rumination • How to deal with withdrawal • How to boost dopamine (in a healthy way)• Action items: remove physical reminders, block This episode of Breakup Bootcamp is brought to you by:Jenni Kayne makes getting dressed easier than it's ever been before. Get 15% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at jennikayne.com/BREAKUPBoll & Branch makes the softest, most luxurious sheets without any toxins or harsh chemicals. Sleep better at night with Boll & Branch sheets. Get 15% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at bollandbranch.comSakara delivers science-backed, plant-rich nutrition programs and wellness essentials right to your door. Get 20% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at sakara.com/breakup.BetterHelp makes your brain your friend. Get 10% off your first month when you sign up using betterhelp.com/breakupSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode you’ll learn about the different stages of healing from a breakup -  starting with shock. You’ll learn what happens to your brain and body that causes that out of control feeling after heartbreak. By the end, you’ll have actionable steps to help you survive the primal panic that occurs immediately after a split.  • My story  • I’m going crazy - the common thought many people have after a breakup. Here’s what’s actually happening in your brain and body that makes you literally feel like you’re a drug addict feening for a fix• The goal is to not to be rid of the pain. The goal is to not deepen the wound and add unnecessary suffering.• You’re in a state of shock - what you need to do during this stage (no contact and how that impacts the brain, high safety people, suggestions to release and process in a healthy way)• Get your support team assembled. You don’t need advice, you need a safe space to talk, cry and release. How to set your friends up for success in supporting you. This episode of Breakup Bootcamp is brought to you by:Sakara delivers science-backed, plant-rich nutrition programs and wellness essentials right to your door. Get 20% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at sakara.com/breakup.Boll & Branch makes the softest, most luxurious sheets without any toxins or harsh chemicals. Sleep better at night with Boll & Branch sheets. Get 15% off your first order when you use promo code BREAKUP at bollandbranch.comBetterHelp makes your brain your friend. Get 10% off your first month when you sign up using betterhelp.com/breakup  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Amy Chan has 7 rules for getting through a breakup, and she is sharing them with you on her new podcast "Breakup Bootcamp".  Her book was a national bestseller and is currently being developed into a Netflix series. Join her on your journey to self-healing.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.