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Life can be a slippery slope and when you fall, because we all do from time to time, you can either lay there or get back up. I hope you choose to stand tall with me! Literally one of my favorite parts of our trip was renting bikes and riding around the resort. This was the perfect option for me as I try to be as efficient as possible and last time we were there my leg with the rod hurt terribly bad from 15k+/day walking. #rentthebikes There was this beautiful curvy pathway at the edge of the property where you could really pick up speed and let the warm ocean air blow through you. It was magnificent, until it wasn't... The bikes had to be returned by 4:40 and we were taking one last lap before getting ready for our farewell beach party. Jesse was jacked up on espresso shots (see previous post ) hitting speed bumps as if they were jumps and way far ahead of me. I always try and keep up with my guys and picked up speed on that last stretch. The sprinklers had recently turned off which was evident by the large pool of water on the pavement. It was 85 degrees so naturally I wanted the refreshing water to splash on me as it had on many other rides that week. I went right through the puddle and as I turned left... I friggin' fell. Again! I was so angry with myself and the sprinklers and couldn't figure out why my apple watch was pinging an emergency sos because "It looks like you took a hard fall". You're darn right I did. The worker was next to me asking if I needed a medic before I could even figure out what had actually happened. One of my worst fears is having to go to the hospital in a foreign country. My Stanley had flown off the handle bars and spilled my ice water all over the pavement. I picked up my hat and regained my composure, slightly grateful that he was the only one that witnessed it. My adrenaline was at 110, my knee was building fluid and my shoulder didn't feel right. Son of a... I wanted to cry but was more filled with rage than anything. I hopped back on the back and pedaled towards Jesse who asked "where'd you go?" "I freakin' fell!", which he was certainly confused as to why I went through the water on pavement. #lessonlearned Fortunately I have a high pain tolerance and was able to make it to the party AND was well enough to not have to go to the hospital. The nurse at the ortho center said, "let's see how broken you are" and I couldn't feel seen any more than that, lol. I'm grateful there aren't any broken bones and that the "rod and screws are still all intact" in my leg. Oh good. As far as my shoulder, I'll know more after an MRI and am hoping for no partial or full tears. I started at home recovery workouts to keep myself mobile and avoid any long term damage. If you have rotator cuff injury tips and tricks, please do share them! Oh and good vibes/prayers, send those too because this better not be as long and drawn out as my open fracture.

Today's episode is all about the greatest love story of all time! It's my own and I share the beginning and current phase of our relationship that I hope helps you find your own joy and love. We dive into these 5 tips below to help you navigate the challenges of being in a committed relationship. Remember, resentment ruins relationships! So let's take the steps now to show up better for ourselves and the ones we love! Want to work with me one on one to help you show up in your relationships differently? Click here: ⁠https://itsjesswilkin.mykajabi.com/offers/jttTecHk⁠ Effective Communication: Communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Encourage open and honest communication with your partner. Listen actively, express your thoughts and feelings clearly, and be receptive to your partner's perspective. Effective communication helps in resolving conflicts, understanding each other's needs, and building a strong emotional connection. Quality Time Together: Make time for each other regularly, even in the midst of busy schedules. Whether it's a weekly date night, a weekend getaway, or simply spending quiet evenings together at home, prioritize quality time with your spouse. Engage in activities you both enjoy, share experiences, and create lasting memories. Quality time fosters intimacy, strengthens bonds, and reinforces the foundation of your relationship. Mutual Respect and Support: Show respect for your partner's opinions, choices, and boundaries. Value their individuality and appreciate their strengths and weaknesses. Offer support in both good times and bad, and be there for each other through life's ups and downs. Celebrate each other's achievements, provide encouragement during challenges, and stand by your partner as a trusted ally. Mutual respect and support nurture trust, loyalty, and a sense of security in the relationship. Conflict Resolution Skills: Conflicts are inevitable in any relationship, but it's how you handle them that matters. Learn to address disagreements constructively, without resorting to hostility or resentment. Practice active listening, empathy, and compromise to find mutually satisfactory solutions. Focus on resolving issues rather than assigning blame, and be willing to apologize and forgive. Developing healthy conflict resolution skills strengthens the resilience of your marriage and deepens your understanding of each other. Maintain Individual Identities: While marriage involves merging lives, it's essential to maintain a sense of individuality. Pursue your own interests, hobbies, and goals, and encourage your partner to do the same. Allow each other space for personal growth and self-expression. By nurturing your individual identities within the relationship, you can prevent feelings of suffocation or resentment and promote a sense of fulfillment and autonomy. By incorporating these tips into your marriage, you can cultivate a relationship characterized by love, trust, and mutual happiness. Remember that every marriage is unique, so adapt these suggestions to suit your specific circumstances and preferences. Resources: Want to work with me one on one to help you show up better? Click here: https://itsjesswilkin.mykajabi.com/offers/jttTecHk The 5 Love Languages Quiz

Show Notes: Books I Love You are a Badass Atomic Habits You are a Badass at Making Money The 5 Second Rule Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies Mastering Your Mean Girl Budgeting I "love" - LOL Every Dollar App One on one Coaching with Me! Work with me Survey to see if we fit Follow me on social: Facebook - Jess Wilkin Facebook - Benefitness with Jess Instagram - ItsJessWilkin Instagram - Benefitness Babes Description Welcome to Digging the Well Before You're Thirsty, the podcast where we explore the power of proactive preparation for personal and professional success. In today's episode, we'll dive into the concept of "digging the well before you're thirsty" and why it's crucial in navigating life's challenges. Join us as we uncover the wisdom behind this timeless principle and learn how it can transform our lives. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you wished you had prepared better? Perhaps you missed out on a job opportunity because you didn't network enough, or you struggled to handle a financial emergency because you didn't save for the future. These are the consequences of not "digging the well"—of failing to anticipate and prepare for the challenges that lie ahead. Segment 1: Understanding the Metaphor In this segment, we'll explore the origins and meaning of the phrase "dig the well before you're thirsty." We'll discuss why proactive preparation is essential in various aspects of life and share examples of situations where this principle applies. From personal relationships to professional endeavors, we'll uncover the significance of being prepared for whatever life throws our way. Segment 2: Personal Development Join us as we delve into the importance of continuous learning and skill development. We'll highlight practical strategies for investing in personal growth and share inspiring anecdotes of individuals who have embraced the principle of "digging the well" to achieve success in their lives. Segment 3: Career and Professional Growth In this segment, we'll explore the relevance of preparation in the context of career advancement. From networking to building a strong professional reputation, we'll discuss the benefits of proactive preparation and offer actionable tips for advancing your career. Segment 4: Financial Planning Financial preparedness is crucial for long-term success. We'll discuss the importance of budgeting, investing, and building financial stability, sharing insights from experts and success stories of individuals who have prioritized financial preparedness in their lives. Segment 5: Mental and Emotional Well-being Maintaining mental and emotional well-being is essential for navigating life's challenges. Join us as we explore the role of mindfulness, resilience, and self-care practices in staying mentally and emotionally prepared for whatever life throws our way. Segment 6: Conclusion As we wrap up today's episode, we'll recap key points and encourage you to reflect on areas of your life where you can apply the principle of "digging the well before you're thirsty." Stay tuned for our next episode, where we'll continue to explore strategies for proactive preparation and success. Closing: Thank you for tuning in to Digging the Well Before You're Thirsty. If you enjoyed today's episode, don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast. We'd love to hear your feedback and suggestions for future episodes. Until next time, remember to dig your well deep and wide, so you're always prepared for whatever life brings your way.

This episode shares the goals to never stop improving in life. How to build your plate, and a secret to overeating.

Beverly and Jessica are two stalks in the bunch... this episode will make you laugh, but you'll also learn the do's and don'ts when it comes to celery juice, why you should be drinking it, how to prepare it, and the vast benefits it will bring when you do. Let us know when you try it and how it makes you feel because every body is different. Learn more about Bev and Jess here: IG: https://www.instagram.com/bevschlag/ https://www.instagram.com/jess_wilkin/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/beverlyschlag https://www.facebook.com/jessicaiwilkin

This week's podcast topic is all about how I’ve been making it at the bars and wineries, sober! If you're interested in switching things up and cutting out the alcohol, this episode is for you. And whatever path you choose, just know you are not a bad person. We are all at different phases in our lives and for me, I needed to take a break from it to clear my head. Literally.  And the truth is, I love going out and meeting new people or running into old friends! Listen in on how I've learned to juggle the shots, late nights, and being around the drunky drunks ;)  ACTION:  I'd love to support you on your sober (or not) journey. Whether it's a temporary thing or long-term. Let me know when you decide to put the pause on the drinks so I can cheer you on... no not cheers you on, lol! 

Actionable steps: Get curious instead of jealous. If you find yourself feeling jealous, ask yourself why. I found that my jealousy wasn't because of the other person, it was my own insecurities coming out in negative ways Ask yourself those what-if questions. Reflect on them and think about, where can I be better. Be future-focused. What happens if you don't eat right and exercise today? Probably nothing, but      10 years from now what will it look like if you put your excuses aside and did it anyway? Start tracking 3 positive each day. These can be wins, positive interactions, compliments, etc. Share this with someone you love and care about! 

Grab a cup of positive it-tea and sit back and enjoy the show. This topic is going to take a bit to unpack because mindset isn't something you can buy and it's not like you can flip a switch and things change. It takes consistent habits to get to where you want and need to be. I want to also be mindful of trigger warnings and that this may stir up some unwanted shit for you. But in order to move past the darkness, we have to shine light on it. You are like the 5 people you hang around. Take an objective view on those people. Be an outsider for a second. Do you really want to be like that? We are all wired differently and that's ok. There's no right or wrong way, but if you're listening to this right now, my guess is that you would like to have more of a positive outlook on things. Let's first unpack a bit of your history… think back to a time when you were younger that had a significant impact on you. Can you think of something negative about the situation? What happened? How did you feel? How did you react? Use my boss as an example. Now, this is the piece that often goes missed…. what's a positive that came out of it? The first key is awareness. Awareness that you're negative. That can be draining to people around you, but to some people who like that can be fueled. My mom always takes these panicking breaths. You know the ones where you go HUHHHH! You just sucked in all that negative energy and often have never released it. Let the shit go! Blow it out!!!! Every situation you come across happens for you, not to you. Meaning that person that cut you off on the way to work making you stop on the side of the road and take a break. May have saved you from an accident. Actionable steps: Over the next week be aware of your thoughts and how you speak. Are they negative? Do you play into self-deprecating humor like I did? Start tracking 3 positives each day. These can be wins, positive interactions, compliments, etc. Every situation you come up against where you have a negative reaction or a response you wish you would have reacted better too, reflect on it. What's a positive that came out of the situation? How could you have reacted differently? Share this with someone you love and care about