Episode 169 | "I Will Break You!!"

The crew returns from the holiday break with a full plate of stories, starting with Thanksgiving hangovers and Aaron’s crockpot rebuttal that finally closes the loop from the last episode. The team moves into this week’s Do Better, covering everything from the need for a computer access POAM for CMCs to Damon’s latest run-in with the high-school system. They break down a recent article on the USS Truman and the importance of realistic observations in after-action reports before Damo steps in to double down on the FaceTime conversation. The guys discuss what it is, what it isn’t, and why some people get it all the way wrong. From there, the crew shifts into real life: friendships as adults, Damo gives his thoughts on ‘The Bump Serum’, and they discuss how the Netflix acquisition of Warner Bros. could change the entire streaming landscape. They close the first half of the show by comparing their Apple and Spotify Wrapped lists and debating who really had the top artists of the year. Damo wraps with his Pick of the Week before the episode transitions into a deeper, more personal segment—Damon sitting down to interview Damo in one of the most honest conversations the show has ever had. These and more topics are covered in this episode.       Do you have a “Do Better” that you want us to review on a future episode? Reach out at [email protected]       Stay connected with the PTSF Podcast: https://linktr.ee/Ptsfpodcast       PTSF Theme Music: Produced by Lim0

Fresh off Thanksgiving, the episode opens with a full holiday recap as Country Living releases its Top 10 Thanksgiving foods list. The team compares those dishes to what actually hit the table this year, talks about holiday routines, family visits, and what everyone watched over the break. The conversation expands into Thanksgiving vs. Christmas, holiday phone etiquette, and moments from the past year in the Navy that inspired gratitude. The hosts also share their “Win for the Week.” The episode transitions into major headlines: an Airman indicted for plotting to take over an island in Haiti and enslave its population, a Fort Hood OBGYN under investigation for more than 3,000 cases of sexual assault, and the dismissal of the Commandant of Midshipmen at the U.S. Naval Academy after only a few months in the position. This leads to a broader discussion on whether the public should be told why commanding officers are relieved. Another Stolen Valor case also comes up, involving an individual who earned significant money by fabricating military service. The conversation continues with a tribute to Sarah Beckstrom and a discussion regarding the recent attack on a National Guardsman in Washington, D.C. “Hero of the Week” highlights Army Warrant Officer Hugh Thompson Jr. The team then examines what it means to “chase rank,” how those motivations show up across the force, and several historical examples tied to the concept of “just following orders.” This connects to a conversation about navigating negativity on social media, prompted by a recent incident. To close, the episode covers rules and expectations that many unknowingly break, followed by the long-awaited “Top 5 GOATs.” Additional topics include changes across the Navy over the years, commentary on literacy in the digital era, and a Senior Enlisted Marketplace issue before wrapping with each host’s “Do Better” points for the week. These and more topics are covered in this episode.       Do you have a “Do Better” that you want us to review on a future episode? Reach out at [email protected]     Links and more from this episode: Top 10 foods (according to country living.com), which of these items weren’t on your table, how do you mix it up?  - https://www.countryliving.com/food-drinks/g41755692/top-10-thanksgiving-foods/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=mgu_ga_clv_md_pmx_hybd_mix_us_18605172856&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=18608362460&gbraid=0AAAAACq-IrvooE5U_Tqxh_n5x0_NZ0sL1&gclid=CjwKCAiAraXJBhBJEiwAjz7MZfihmFQO05VVeQLcPzA447MsqI-x_N1EDEtE_wqatHtJ8ymxESillxoCs7cQAvD_BwE Airman plotted to take over Haitian Island/Enslave population - https://taskandpurpose.com/news/airman-texas-haiti-coup-plot/?fbclid=IwZnRzaAOPNrRleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZAo2NjI4NTY4Mzc5AAEenOaTX0XnSzYh_u_2ayBmkpuYZJk1ArxKiInSM6cISgrwJKY7Q7oD8xBdNPc_aem__JO3njVTGJ3ISQ84mPe-Tg Army Ob/Gyn Investigation - https://www.stripes.com/branches/army/2025-11-21/army-ob-gyn-investigation-tripler-medical-center-19843528.html Commandant Midshipmen Fired - https://www.stripes.com/branches/navy/2025-11-25/naval-academy-clark-fired-midshipmen-commandant-19881129.html Fake Marine Stolen Valor - https://taskandpurpose.com/military-life/fake-marine-stolen-valor-wicker-convicted/?utm_social_post_id=599264490&utm_social_handle_id=628773943837250&fbclid=IwZnRzaAOUnfVleHRuA2FlbQIxMQBzcnRjBmFwcF9pZAo2NjI4NTY4Mzc5AAEeIXbtdRKEa2Cacvl8628grXeqQoKFm3RWa6oMTQTlPRsAXtWrQAQvLb5WXdg_aem_YhqliTPmG6DeG4TxTDFT9g Two National Guardsman killed - https://www.militarytimes.com/news/your-military/2025/11/27/national-guard-shooting-victims-identified/       Hero of the Week: Chief Warrant Officer Hugh Thompson Jr. - https://www.zinnedproject.org/news/tdih/hugh-thompson-lai-massacre/     Stay connected with the PTSF Podcast: https://linktr.ee/Ptsfpodcast       PTSF Theme Music: Produced by Lim0

Damon, Damo, and Aaron are joined by AOCM (Ret.) Tyese ‘Ty’ Pressley, founder of the ‘Goat Locker Hall of Fame’ and ‘At Ease Podcast.’ The conversation starts with a follow-up to a listener regarding “elevating problems.” After Ty breaks down his history of assignments, the guys don’t hesitate to get into Ty’s organization, the ‘Goat Locker Hall of Fame,’ and some of the drama that has surrounded it as it gets more popular. Ty discusses the early days of the GLHOF and his inspiration behind the idea. What has been done to make the GLHOF a legitimate organization, and is there an interest in collaboration with other Chief Mess organizations? Damo asks Ty if he thinks there is a disconnect between active duty servicemembers and vets? Ty discusses the ‘At Ease’ Podcast and his inspiration behind starting it. Damon questions whether the element of “teaching” has changed throughout the years. Ty lists his “Top 5 Goats.” Taking a page from the ‘At Ease Podcast,’ Damo asks Ty for his “legendary moment.” Damo highlights this week’s Hero of the Week: John William Finn. You know, Damo wasn’t gonna let Ty pass through without a question about Philly. Ty contributes to our “Do Better” segment of the week. The guys discuss trying to authentically grow your podcast without trying to rage-bait people into paying attention. These topics and more are covered in this episode.       Do you have a “Do Better” that you want us to review on a future episode? Reach out at [email protected]   To keep up with Tyese and ‘At Ease Podcast’   Tyese’s Social Media: LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/tyese-pressley-b3b56bb4/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/tyese.pressley Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/ese_215/   At Ease Podcast: Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@ateasepodcast Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/at_ease_podcast/ Facebook -  https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090148276014&mibextid=LQQJ4d&utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio       Hero of the Week: Lt. John William Finn - https://www.cmohs.org/recipients/john-w-finn       Picks of the Week: At Ease Podcast - Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@ateasepodcast       Stay connected with the PTSF Podcast: https://linktr.ee/Ptsfpodcast       PTSF Theme Music: Produced by Lim0

The guys open by clearing up a discrepancy from the last show before getting into the recent Brooks Brothers cancellation and catching up on what’s been happening in their lives. They recognize the Marine Corps Birthday, welcome back a government employee returning after the shutdown, and show love for Damon’s birthday. The conversation shifts into how people battle personal demons and what leaders often miss when they only look at the surface. The team discusses whether commands should “roll out the red carpet” for inspectors and what people misunderstand about what a Command Master Chief actually does. Damo states that leadership can’t be treated like a task. Aaron brings back a concept from Relentless involving toxic perfection, leading into a discussion about sacrifice and success. Damon touches on the Navy’s reported 99% retention rate for FY25. Aaron’s “Do Better” of the week is Be More Informed, which sets up a deeper debate between Damo and Aaron about whether everyone needs to care about politics. What does it mean to be “apolitical”? The guys discuss. The topics and more are covered in this episode.       Do you have a “Do Better” that you want us to review on a future episode? Reach out at [email protected]       Picks of the Week: • Damo: Pluribus (Apple TV+) • Damon: Landman (Paramount+) • Aaron: Huberman Lab – Overcome Inner Resistance (YouTube)       Stay connected with the PTSF Podcast: https://linktr.ee/Ptsfpodcast       PTSF Theme Music: Produced by Lim0

The crew is back and covering everything from government shutdown rumors to backlash about the bump serum. Damo gives his two-week review of Charles Johnson’s “The Bump Serum,” and the team unveils their “Don’t Come to the All Hands” lists. The hosts catch up on life since the last episode and recognize Veterans Day before diving into the latest news on USS Nimitz and the questions surrounding extended deployments—including whether Sailors should get liberty back after standing holiday duty. They discuss the sudden retirement of another 3-Star General, the rumor that 168 commissaries may be closing, and Damo introduces a new segment: “Win for the Week.” The guys also react to the passing of former Vice President Dick Cheney, debate whether MCPON Honea received his due flowers, and unpack retired FLTCM Paul Kingsbury’s launch of the National Chief Petty Officer Association. Other topics include counseling Sailors over social media conduct, Damon’s Hero of the Week—Staff Sergeant Jared C. Monti, Aaron’s perspective on Warrior Ethos, and celebrating five years of Permission to Speak Freely. Damo shows love for Damon and Aaron’s picks in the No Limit vs. Cash Money Verzuz, reflects on a couple of movies he watched, and reacts to someone asking whether he uses ChatGPT. The topics and more are covered in this episode.         Do you have a “Do Better” that you want us to review on a future episode? Reach out at [email protected]       Picks of the Week:   The Culture Code (Daniel Coyle) -  https://danielcoyle.com/the-culture-code/       Stay connected with the PTSF Podcast: https://linktr.ee/Ptsfpodcast       PTSF Theme Music: Produced by Lim0

As I was prepping these episode notes, I got a call about a matter concerning my Sailors that I needed to address. With that said, enjoy these ChatGPT-generated notes and enjoy this episode. You'll see very early in the episode that we put our hearts into it. - Damo   Episode Description:   This episode kicks off with weather talk and Halloween banter before shifting into reflection as Damo asks, “When’s the last time you were let down?” The conversation evolves into leadership mode as he introduces The Vibe Check—a new way to bridge influencers and skeptics across the command. From there, Damo and Damon explore what it means to “zero out at the pursuit of excellence,” setting the tone for an unfiltered discussion on accountability and consistency. The guys dive deep into the RSCA evaluation system and question whether it rewards authenticity or compliance. Damon reminds listeners that leadership happens at your pace, not at the world’s. The conversation then pivots to Sailor 360, execution mistakes, and how leaders can avoid burnout by doing the basics well. In this week’s Do Better segment, the focus is on poor meetings and the people who just “know they wrong.” Damo and Damon also unpack the viral DoorDash story and tie it to accountability in and out of uniform. The episode closes with a look at the Barracks Task Force, why leaders are afraid to lead in the IG era, and how to professionally address both seniors and subordinates when they make mistakes. Damon and Damo break down the latest NAVADMIN, and Damo closes with his Pick of the Week—Tim Grover’s Relentless—a book that ties every message together: discipline, mentality, and excellence. These and more topics are discussed in this episode.       Do you have a “Do Better” that you want us to review on a future episode? Reach out at [email protected]       Picks of the Week:   Relentless (Tim S. Grover) -  https://timgrover.com/relentless/       Stay connected with the PTSF Podcast: https://linktr.ee/Ptsfpodcast       PTSF Theme Music: Produced by Lim0

This episode starts with the epitome of locker room talk, as Damo questions whether his latest decision at the gym means he’s getting old. Damon recaps his experience listening to Episode 163, and the guys catch up on their weeks. Admiral Alvin Holsey recently announced his retirement in a story that swept across military social media circles. A recent dispute between Marc Lamont Hill and Queenzflip of the Joe Budden Podcast leads to a conversation about who “should” and “shouldn’t” be in certain spaces. Damo responds to a comment regarding understanding our roles as leaders, which morphs into a discussion about emotional intelligence and old-school terms that are now considered offensive. The guys say their last goodbyes to R&B pioneer and legend D’Angelo. Aaron highlights Sergeant Major Janina Simmons as our Hero of the Week, and Damon reviews the movie One Battle After Another. The furlough is still underway—when will it end, and how is it affecting the working-class citizen? Charles Johnson, creator of The Bump Serum, stops by to talk about pseudofolliculitis barbae (PFB), how smarter grooming solutions can keep Sailors in regs without wrecking their skin, and why his product may be the solution we’ve been missing. Later in the episode, the guys discuss how to decompress when you’re at a demanding command. No Limit vs. Cash Money Records in a Verzuz—who you got? Damon and Aaron exchange their Picks of the Week, and the guys share their Do Better topics for the week, with Damon remembering Kyren Lacy. These and more topics are discussed in this episode.       Do you have a “Do Better” that you want us to review on a future episode? Reach out at [email protected]   Keep up with Charles Johnson and ’The Bump Serum’: Official Website: https://thebumpserum.com/ (All PTSF listeners will receive a 10% discount on their first order!) LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/charlesreneejohnson/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebumpserum/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61580074397631     Picks of the Week:   Aaron - Warrior (HBO): https://www.hbomax.com/shows/warrior/da36cb5e-3528-4354-a31c-c84610de672b   Damon - ChatGPT: https://chatgpt.com/       Stay connected with the PTSF Podcast: https://linktr.ee/Ptsfpodcast       PTSF Theme Music: Produced by Lim0

About Our Guest — Courtney A. Barber   Courtney A. Barber is a retired U.S. Navy Master Chief Petty Officer, motivational speaker, three-time published author, and certified life purpose coach with over 25 years of military leadership experience. A Fayetteville, North Carolina native, Courtney is the founder of Sapphire Veteran HR, a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping women veterans in Hampton Roads transition from service to civilian life with confidence and community. After a decorated Navy career, Courtney transformed her journey of adversity, faith, and resilience into a personal mission to empower others through her brand, Unapologetically Favored—a movement and mindset that encourages people to walk boldly in their truth. She has authored multiple books including Unapologetically Favored, Wake Up. Turn Up. Bless Up., and Never Be Afraid to Eat Alone, each blending leadership, spirituality, and personal growth. In December 2023, she served as part of the MyNavy Coaching Team, leading a five-day Coaching Master Course in San Diego to develop the next generation of Navy leaders. Today, Courtney continues to mentor, teach, and inspire through her speaking engagements, coaching programs, and advocacy for authenticity, representation, and emotional intelligence in leadership. Learn more about her work at UnapologeticallyFavored.net or follow her on social media at @unapologeticallyfavored.   About This Episode:   In this episode, Damo and Aaron sit down with retired Master Chief and author Courtney Barber—North Carolina native and writer of Unapologetically Favored—for a raw, funny, and deeply human conversation about faith, identity, leadership, and redemption inside the U.S. Navy. The guys open with barbershop energy, debating Dave Chappelle vs. Eddie Murphy, fresh off Damo catching Chappelle live, before pivoting into Courtney’s early life in the South, her family dynamics, and how her upbringing shaped the way she learned to love, trust, and lead. She opens up about her father figures, teenage pregnancy, abortion, and the boundaries she had to build to protect her peace. Courtney reflects on her early Navy journey—boot camp, A-school, and those unforgettable early days in uniform—sharing stories of laughter, adversity, and lessons learned. Aaron delivers a hilarious breakdown of “honch monsters,” and the crew swaps memories of Great Lakes and the RDC grind. Courtney discusses the mentors who taught her the value of training your reliefs, the importance of accountability, and what ultimately inspired her to write Unapologetically Favored after a viral post questioning empty “thank-you for your service” gestures. Listener questions about leadership spark a powerful exchange on the role of First Class Petty Officers and why leaders must trust their people enough to let them lead, fail, and grow. From being married against her nature and struggling with instinct to finally embracing her truth and telling her mom, Courtney walks listeners through the courage it took to live authentically under Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. She shares the impact of good mentorship, the value of grace after mistakes, and how faith and resilience helped her rise through adversity. Damo introduces the idea of giving Sailors “scarlet letters” for their failures, which leads to a discussion about forgiveness, perception, and leadership growth. Courtney also reflects on what she learned from a failed BCA. It’s three hours of honesty, humor, and hard-earned wisdom—laughter, confession, mentorship, and faith woven into one conversation. From barbershop debates to leadership lessons to spiritual redemption, this episode captures everything Permission to Speak Freely stands for: real people, real leadership, and real conversations that matter.       Do you have a “Do Better” that you want us to review on a future episode? Reach out at [email protected]       Stay connected with the PTSF Podcast: https://linktr.ee/Ptsfpodcast       Keep up with Courtney Barber, AZCM (Retired):   Website: https://www.unapologeticallyfavored.net/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallycak?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/unapologeticallyfavored       PTSF Theme Music: Produced by Lim0

Damon and Damo catch up as Damon highlights his first week as a CMC. Damo had to shave his mustache and did not like it one bit. The guys discuss the impact of the current furlough on servicemembers and civilian teammates, along with available resources for anyone in need. Diddy was sentenced to four years in prison after a guilty verdict in a prostitution case, and Damon makes a plea against political violence and mass shootings. Earlier this week, Secretary of Defense Pete Hegseth and President Trump called top military generals and admirals to Quantico for a brief, summit, conference, or “All Call.” At the same time, the SecDef dropped a load of memos focused on refocusing the fleet and putting the warrior spirit at the forefront. This week’s hero is Pfc. Jacklyn Harold Lucas, and last week’s “Do Better” segment gets a much-needed follow-up with a shout-out to Freddy Whisner. A new listener-submitted “Do Better” sparks a conversation about how DRB can be handled more privately. The guys also debate whether the Super Bowl music choices alienate two-thirds of the NFL’s fanbase as Damo praises PTA and Leo’s latest movie, One Battle After Another, and much more.     Do you have a “Do Better” that you want us to review on a future episode? Reach out at [email protected]       Stay connected with the PTSF Podcast: https://linktr.ee/Ptsfpodcast       Links and more from this episode:   FY26 Government Shutdown Resources - https://stjececmsdusgva001.blob.core.usgovcloudapi.net/public/documents/2025_Guide_to_Fleet_for_Government_Shutdown.pdf   Hero of the Week: Private First Class Jacklyn Harold Lucas https://www.cmohs.org/recipients/jacklyn-h-lucas   Picks of the Week: Damo: Chance The Rapper - Starline https://chancestuff.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorWA02aAprglTEVCypj5YxOlRdh4TGV531SgdcqPPUpNrTYIoBT   Damon: BMW       PTSF Theme Music: Produced by Lim0

The guys open this episode with heartfelt farewells, showing love to Tisha and Denisse as they step away for personal reasons. Both sisters received flowers and well-wishes from the team. Congratulations go out to Captain Desmond K. Walker, honored with the FY26 Vice Admiral James Bond Stockdale Leadership Award, along with all other recipients. The crew also sends condolences to CMSAF David A. Flosi and family on the passing of his wife, Katy. Damon reflects on his experiences in Newport, Rhode Island and Millington, Tennessee during the CMC/COB course, while Aaron raises the question—is Memphis BBQ overrated? Damo shares a personal story about the Philadelphia Police Department entering his mother’s home. The team acknowledges that social media clip production may slow due to their new command responsibilities, sparking a larger discussion: how can leaders realistically balance social media and deckplate leadership? The conversation ties into the Navy’s updated social media policy and handbook, as well as CNO’s latest “C-Note,” where he defines The Foundry. Hero of the Week returns with a spotlight on Private First Class Charles Ralph Johnson. Updates on the Angelina Resendiz case lead to a debate about the limits of invasive leadership. The crew tackles listener questions about rank privileges and a troubling report of a new mother being excluded from the CPO Initiation and Pinning Ceremony. Other hot topics include an Army dining hall with an “F” rating still serving meals, strategies to shift command culture in the face of widespread disciplinary issues, and Damon’s surprise at the “Pick of the Week” segment. The episode closes with Aaron’s Do Better: Attend a Military Ball.       Do you have a “Do Better” that you want us to review on a future episode? Reach out at [email protected]       Stay connected with the PTSF Podcast: https://linktr.ee/Ptsfpodcast   Picks of the Week:   Damo - Military Culture Shift (Book) (Corie Weathers) https://www.corieweathers.com/militarycultureshift/ Damon - CMC/COB School https://www.netc.navy.mil/Commands/Senior-Enlisted-Academy/Program-Overview/ Aaron - Unapologetically Favored (Book) (Courtney Kittrell-Barber) https://www.unapologeticallyfavored.net/unapologetically-favored.html       PTSF Theme Music: Produced by Lim0   Additional credits:   Music Credit “How Do I Say Goodbye” Written by Babyface (Kenneth Edmonds) and Daryl Simmons Performed by Boyz II Men ℗ 1994 Motown Records, a division of UMG Recordings, Inc.