131. How Do I Get Their Trust Back?

I recently shared a post on Instagram where I said “my husband comes before my kids” and in this episode I explain exactly what I mean, slide by slide.It's not choosing my husband over my kids, it's choosing my marriage so my kids don't grow up thinking love is always a struggle. Learn how when I put my husband before my kids, my kids benefit from that.Click the link to listen, and let me know what you think - I’d love to hear from you!If this episode hits home and you’re ready to work with me, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠book a call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so we can chat. On the call, you’ll share what’s going on, what you’ve tried, and I’ll share how I can help. Can’t wait to connect!P.S. This podcast is sponsored by ⁠⁠⁠BetterHelp®⁠⁠⁠. Get professional support at a fraction of the cost of in-person therapy. ⁠⁠⁠Sign up today and get 10% off your first month - click the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠link⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠to get started!BetterHelp:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/karinafdaves/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Personal Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.karinafdaves.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqltTvx_7zO5PqgwPle13Gw⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/karinafdaves

If you are at a place in your relationship where you feel like no matter how much you apologize your partner still looks at you like they don't trust you anymore, this episode is for you.I walk you through the HEAL Framework that I use with couples to repair the trust in their marriages.Rebuilding trust is possible, but rebuilding trust takes time. It's extremely intentional and it's based on actions and consistency of those actions.Click the link to listen, and let me know what you think - I’d love to hear from you!If this episode hits home and you’re ready to work with me, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠book a call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so we can chat. On the call, you’ll share what’s going on, what you’ve tried, and I’ll share how I can help. Can’t wait to connect!P.S. This podcast is sponsored by ⁠⁠⁠BetterHelp®⁠⁠⁠. Get professional support at a fraction of the cost of in-person therapy. ⁠⁠⁠Sign up today and get 10% off your first month - click the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠link⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠to get started!BetterHelp:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/karinafdaves/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Personal Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.karinafdaves.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqltTvx_7zO5PqgwPle13Gw⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/karinafdaves

Three months of premarital counseling just isn't enough for the lifetime of your marriage. And in this episode, I'm going to take you through what most premarital counseling entails, why it doesn't work, and what you actually need for a healthy marriage.I share 5 tools and strategies you need to have set up before you get married, that go beyond traditional premarital counseling.I want you to be fully prepared and equipped for a successful marriage.Click the link to listen, and let me know what you think - I’d love to hear from you!If this episode hits home and you’re ready to work with me, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠book a call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so we can chat. On the call, you’ll share what’s going on, what you’ve tried, and I’ll share how I can help. Can’t wait to connect!P.S. This podcast is sponsored by ⁠⁠⁠BetterHelp®⁠⁠⁠. Get professional support at a fraction of the cost of in-person therapy. ⁠⁠⁠Sign up today and get 10% off your first month - click the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠link⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠to get started!BetterHelp:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/karinafdaves/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Personal Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.karinafdaves.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqltTvx_7zO5PqgwPle13Gw⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/karinafdaves

We all have sore subjects in our marriages and topics where one partner gets defensive. Defensiveness is so common in any type of betrayal.In this episode, I share 3 tools you can use right now to get past the defensiveness in these conversations.If every single conversation feels difficult and leads to defensiveness, you are keeping your marriage in survival mode.I want you to be able to have important conversations with your partner, without the defensiveness, so you can get through the tough stuff and start to rebuild the connection and intimacy.Click the link to listen, and let me know what you think - I’d love to hear from you!If this episode hits home and you’re ready to work with me, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠book a call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so we can chat. On the call, you’ll share what’s going on, what you’ve tried, and I’ll share how I can help. Can’t wait to connect!P.S. This podcast is sponsored by ⁠⁠⁠BetterHelp®⁠⁠⁠. Get professional support at a fraction of the cost of in-person therapy. ⁠⁠⁠Sign up today and get 10% off your first month - click the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠link⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠to get started!BetterHelp:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/karinafdaves/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Personal Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.karinafdaves.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqltTvx_7zO5PqgwPle13Gw⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/karinafdaves

Are you asking yourself…Why do I need to remind my husband to do something a hundred times? Why am I the only one carrying the weight of the house, the schedule, the appointments, the plans, and the kids? How do I get my husband to do what I want?In this episode I talk about why this happens, how it impacts your relationship, and I coach you through 3 practical ways to stop over-functioning in your marriage while still getting your needs met.This isn't just about getting tasks done. This is about both of you feeling seen, supported, and valued. I want to help you create a marriage where both partners feel super present and highly engaged.Click the link to listen, and let me know what you think - I’d love to hear from you!If this episode hits home and you’re ready to work with me, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠book a call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so we can chat. On the call, you’ll share what’s going on, what you’ve tried, and I’ll share how I can help. Can’t wait to connect!P.S. This podcast is sponsored by ⁠⁠⁠BetterHelp®⁠⁠⁠. Get professional support at a fraction of the cost of in-person therapy. ⁠⁠⁠Sign up today and get 10% off your first month - click the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠link⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠to get started!BetterHelp:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/karinafdaves/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Personal Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.karinafdaves.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqltTvx_7zO5PqgwPle13Gw⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/karinafdaves

Are you ready to be close again with your partner? You and your partner have drifted apart and you’re at a phase in your marriage where you miss your partner, and the closeness you once had.If you’re trying things that aren’t working, it is probably because you're forcing a type of pressure that is unnecessary in your marriage. To get the closeness back, you need to start small so everyone feels safe.In this episode, I outline 3 things you can do to work on the emotional and physical intimacy in your marriage. This work is so important for a healthy marriage and a close relationship with your partner.Click the link to listen, and let me know what you think - I’d love to hear from you!If this episode hits home and you’re ready to work with me, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠book a call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so we can chat. On the call, you’ll share what’s going on, what you’ve tried, and I’ll share how I can help. Can’t wait to connect!P.S. This podcast is sponsored by ⁠⁠⁠BetterHelp®⁠⁠⁠. Get professional support at a fraction of the cost of in-person therapy. ⁠⁠⁠Sign up today and get 10% off your first month - click the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠link⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠to get started!BetterHelp:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/karinafdaves/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Personal Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.karinafdaves.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqltTvx_7zO5PqgwPle13Gw⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/karinafdaves

This episode is for couples who decided to take a physical break from one another, and are now back together. The break could have been for a few hours, or for a few months, but now that you’re back in the same house, it still feels cold.The thing is, you can’t just hit the reset button on your relationship and time isn’t going to heal unresolved pain. You have to be intentional about repairing your relationship.I share 3 steps to take for intentional reconnection. These are very practical steps anyone can take to start rebuilding the emotional closeness with your partner.Click the link to listen, and let me know what you think - I’d love to hear from you!If this episode hits home and you’re ready to work with me, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠book a call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so we can chat. On the call, you’ll share what’s going on, what you’ve tried, and I’ll share how I can help. Can’t wait to connect!P.S. This podcast is sponsored by ⁠⁠⁠BetterHelp®⁠⁠⁠. Get professional support at a fraction of the cost of in-person therapy. ⁠⁠⁠Sign up today and get 10% off your first month - click the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠link⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠to get started!BetterHelp:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/karinafdaves/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Personal Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.karinafdaves.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqltTvx_7zO5PqgwPle13Gw⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/karinafdaves

You might blame yourself when betrayal happens, or something shifts in your relationship. When you turn the betrayal inward, you ask yourself questions like ‘how could I have been so dumb?’ or ‘how could I have not seen the signs?’The problem with this is that it will destroy your self-trust, which will affect so many areas of your life.If this is your current situation, and you just want to know it’s not all your fault, I share three things you can do to start to heal. This exercise will help you stop second guessing yourself and reclaim your confidence.Click the link to listen, and let me know what you think - I’d love to hear from you!If this episode hits home and you’re ready to work with me, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠book a call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ so we can chat. On the call, you’ll share what’s going on, what you’ve tried, and I’ll share how I can help. Can’t wait to connect!P.S. This podcast is sponsored by ⁠⁠⁠BetterHelp®⁠⁠⁠. Get professional support at a fraction of the cost of in-person therapy. ⁠⁠⁠Sign up today and get 10% off your first month - click the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠link⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠to get started!BetterHelp:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/karinafdaves/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Personal Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.karinafdaves.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqltTvx_7zO5PqgwPle13Gw⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/karinafdaves

If you feel like you’re the only one doing all of the emotional work in your relationship, your resentment is probably building. You can start to feel like the marriage therapist of your own marriage.You feel unseen and unappreciated, because you’re the only one holding space for your relationship. You’re the only one initiating serious talks or remembering special celebrations.If this is the case for you, I have three things I want you to do. These three things will help you and your partner understand each other better and work towards a stronger, more balanced relationship.Click the link to listen, and let me know what you think - I’d love to hear from you!If this episode hits home and you’re ready to work with me, ⁠⁠⁠⁠book a call⁠⁠⁠⁠ so we can chat. On the call, you’ll share what’s going on, what you’ve tried, and I’ll share how I can help. Can’t wait to connect!P.S. This podcast is sponsored by ⁠⁠⁠BetterHelp®⁠⁠⁠. Get professional support at a fraction of the cost of in-person therapy. ⁠⁠⁠Sign up today and get 10% off your first month - click the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠link⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠to get started!BetterHelp:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/karinafdaves/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Personal Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.karinafdaves.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqltTvx_7zO5PqgwPle13Gw⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/karinafdaves

If you have been betrayed by your partner, and you are going crazy because you don’t have the entire story, this episode is for you.I explain the reasons why this is driving you crazy, and how you can reframe the situation to move forward.Learn why rehashing the details of the betrayal won’t fix your relationship, and what you need to do to heal you both as partners instead.Click the link to listen, and let me know what you think - I’d love to hear from you!If this episode hits home and you’re ready to work with me, ⁠⁠⁠book a call⁠⁠⁠ so we can chat. On the call, you’ll share what’s going on, what you’ve tried, and I’ll share how I can help. Can’t wait to connect!P.S. This podcast is sponsored by ⁠⁠⁠BetterHelp®⁠⁠⁠. Get professional support at a fraction of the cost of in-person therapy. ⁠⁠⁠Sign up today and get 10% off your first month - click the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠link⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠to get started!BetterHelp:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://betterhelp.com/karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/karinafdaves/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@karinafdaves⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Personal Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.karinafdaves.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqltTvx_7zO5PqgwPle13Gw⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Storefront: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/shop/karinafdaves