E229: Resentment: The Hidden Truth People Pleasers Need to Hear

What if resentment isn’t your enemy — but a signpost? Many of us carry resentment quietly — that slow burn that shows up as tension in our bodies and heaviness in our hearts. We tell ourselves it’s because of what someone else did or didn’t do. But the truth is, resentment doesn’t begin with them. It begins with us. In this episode, I explore how resentment is not your enemy, but your teacher — a sacred signal pointing you back to your unmet needs, forgotten boundaries, and the parts of you longing to be honored again. When you learn to listen to resentment instead of judging it, it reveals the exact places where you’ve been abandoning yourself in the name of peace, approval, or belonging. This isn’t about blame. It’s about freedom — the kind that comes from reclaiming your voice, your choices, and your truth. What we explore: The real root of resentment and why it’s never just about someone else How crossing your own boundaries leads to self-abandonment Why resentment is actually grief — not anger Compassionate practices for transforming resentment into self-honoring How to hold your boundaries even when guilt or fear arises   When resentment rises, it’s an invitation to pause, listen, and return to what’s true for you. You don’t need anyone else to change. You only need to stop betraying yourself. The freedom you’ve been seeking isn’t out there — it’s waiting within you.   Connect with me: Newsletternancylevin.comInstagramFacebook  

Have you ever checked all the boxes of success, only to feel restless, stuck, or quietly unfulfilled? If so, you’re not alone. So many high achievers and people-pleasers wake up one day realizing they’ve built a life that looks perfect on paper—but doesn’t feel aligned in their heart. In this solo episode, I share the truth about what happens when we ignore the whispers of our heart and settle for “good enough.” I’ll guide you through the hidden cost of overriding your inner knowing, and why those whispers aren’t distractions but sacred signals leading you back to yourself. Most importantly, I’ll offer practical ways to start listening again—without needing to have it all figured out. Reinvention isn’t about starting over. It’s about remembering who you truly are, and daring to honor that truth in your everyday life. What we explore: The difference between the life you’ve built and the one your heart is calling you toward How high achievers override their inner voice in the name of practicality or perfection The long-term cost of ignoring your own truth (and how it shows up in daily life) Why whispers of restlessness are actually signals of alignment Three simple ways to start listening to your heart today How reinvention is a return to your essence—not a leap into the unknown   I’d love to support you inside my nine-week Reinvention Coaching program, designed to help you dissolve resistance and live in alignment with your truest self. You can learn more and enroll at nancylevin.com/reinvention-coaching.   Connect with me: Newsletternancylevin.comInstagramFacebook

When we spend our lives hiding the parts of ourselves we fear others will reject, we unintentionally reject ourselves first. In this episode, I explore how the stories you’ve tried to bury — the ones you’re convinced make you unworthy — can actually become the most powerful catalysts for your freedom, fulfillment, and authentic self-expression. I share my own journey of carrying shame through my affair, abusive marriage, and divorce, and how living in secrecy only deepened my disconnection from myself. I want you to know: the very pieces you’ve worked so hard to conceal might be the keys to your wholeness and to leading, loving, and living with your full voice.   What we explore: Why shame feeds on secrecy and how to stop letting it silence you. The hidden cost of performing instead of living authentically. How to reframe shame as a source of empathy, resilience, and insight. Three steps to transform your story from a source of fear to a source of strength. The magnetic power of vulnerability and the liberation of speaking your truth.   If you’ve been considering joining this year’s cohort of Levin Life Coach Academy, the doors are open until midnight tonight. This is your chance to say yes to yourself and the life that’s been calling you from beneath the weight of shame. Visit nancylevin.com/yes to join us.   Connect with me: Newsletternancylevin.comInstagramFacebook

In this episode of The Nancy Levin Show, I’m exploring one of the most seductive traps we can fall into: waiting for certainty before we take action. We tell ourselves we need the perfect plan, the right timing, or complete clarity before stepping forward—but what we’re really doing is postponing our truth. If you’ve been feeling the call to live in greater alignment, to serve others, and to step into the life you long for, this is the moment to listen closely. The life you want isn’t waiting for perfection—it’s waiting for you. And if becoming a life coach has been tugging at your heart, I’ll share how Levin Life Coach Academy can be your path to making that dream real.   What we explore: Why certainty is an illusion that keeps us stuck The difference between the life you show the world and the life you secretly long for How one moment of honesty can become the first domino toward alignment Three simple practices to move forward without a perfect plan Why courage, not certainty, is what unlocks the possibilities waiting for you How LLCA can support you in taking the next step toward the life you desire If you’ve been waiting for the right time, this is it. Enrollment for Levin Life Coach Academy is now open—your dream of becoming a certified coach doesn’t require perfection, only your willingness to take the first step. Learn more at nancylevin.com/coaching-academy   Connect with me: Newsletternancylevin.comInstagramFacebook

So many of us tell ourselves we’re waiting for the right moment—the perfect plan, the perfect clarity—before we take the next step. But the truth is, that moment never arrives. And every day we delay, we quietly send ourselves the message that our dreams can wait, that we can wait. In this special bonus episode, I’m uncovering the subtle ways inaction shows up, why it takes such a strong hold on us, and how to begin dissolving its grip. More importantly, I’m sharing how we can shift from hesitation into aligned action that builds lasting confidence and impact. What we explore: How inaction disguises itself as busyness, perfectionism or endless research The hidden fears—of failure, success, and uncertainty—that keep us stuck Why inaction isn’t laziness, but a way our nervous system tries to protect us How to meet yourself with compassion instead of judgment when fear arises Why the antidote to inaction is presence, not perfection How small, simple steps compound into trust, confidence, and transformation The ripple effect that happens when you choose growth over fear   If you’re ready to rebuild self-trust, claim your expertise, and begin taking powerful, aligned action, I invite you to join me for my free masterclass: The Confident Coach Blueprint. Together we’ll walk through three practical steps to help you move from hesitation into impact.  Sign up at nancyLevin.com/masterclass.   Connect with me: Newsletternancylevin.comInstagramFacebook  

From the outside, you may look like you have it all together — the career, the accomplishments, the ability to handle everything with ease. But inside, you may feel hollow, disconnected, and like you’re simply going through the motions. This isn’t traditional burnout. It’s something deeper. It’s what I call flatlining: the hidden collapse that happens when high-achieving women push too hard for too long without tending to their own humanity. In this episode, I explore the psychological forces that drive achievement into emptiness — perfectionism, hyper-independence, and unprocessed emotions — and how to break free from their grip. You’ll learn how to recognize the signs of flatlining, release the belief that your worth is tied to performance, and begin reclaiming your energy and vitality from the inside out. What we explore: The difference between burnout and flatlining — and why it matters How perfectionism keeps moving the goalpost and fuels emptiness The hidden costs of hyper-independence on your emotional wellbeing Why unprocessed feelings disconnect you from yourself How to reclaim your vitality through self-worth, boundaries, and coaching If this episode speaks to you, I invite you to take the next step with me inside my coaching programs and resources, where you’ll find the tools and support to truly end the cycle of achievement and emptiness.   Connect with me: Newsletter nancylevin.comInstagramFacebook

What happens when you give yourself full permission to say yes to you? In this episode of The Nancy Levin Show, I’m joined by seven extraordinary certified Levin Life Coaches who share the profound shifts they’ve experienced through LLCA and the ripple effect of this work in their lives, careers, and communities. From seasoned professionals to women reinventing themselves later in life, their stories illuminate the courage to pivot, the power of community, and the freedom that comes from reclaiming self-worth. Each journey is a reminder that transformation is possible at any age or stage — and that the tools of LLCA create not just thriving coaching practices, but lives of greater authenticity, boundaries, and joy.   What we explore: The turning points that led each woman to join LLCA How embodying boundaries, worthiness, and reinvention changed their relationships, careers, and confidence What it feels like to finally stop apologizing and start living aligned with truth The unexpected ways coaching tools ripple into families, universities, and communities Why investing in yourself is always the most powerful first step   If you’ve ever wondered whether coaching — or being coached — could create a new possibility for you, this episode will inspire you to trust your curiosity and take the leap. I would love nothing more than to welcome you into the next LLCA cohort, where you’ll discover what becomes possible when you say yes to yourself.   Connect with me: Newsletter nancylevin.comInstagramFacebook

Have you ever looked around at the life you’ve built—career, relationships, accomplishments—and thought, is this it? For decades, I mastered the art of achievement. From the outside, everything looked perfect, yet inside I was quietly enduring instead of truly living. In this episode, I share the hidden cost of high achievement, the moment my illusion shattered, and the practical steps you can take to shift from survival mode into a life that feels fully alive. What we explore: The subtle ways high achievers endure life instead of living it How strength can become a prison when built only on being needed The role of vulnerability in creating true connection The scarcity mindset that keeps us hustling and saying yes when we mean no Simple practices to move from lack to abundance How to redefine strength, honor your truth, and choose differently every day   No matter how long you’ve been performing, people-pleasing, or staying in survival mode, every single day is an invitation to begin again. Sign up to my new 4-day virtual experience for high-achievers and take the first steps toward your reinvention: 👉  nancylevin.com/reinvent   Connect with me: Newsletter nancylevin.com Instagram Facebook  

We spend so much of our lives shaping ourselves to be who others want us to be—only to wake up one day and realize we’ve lost touch with who we really are. In this solo episode, I’m exploring what it takes to peel back those layers and reclaim your true identity—not the job title, not the role, but the essence of who you’ve always been. I share how your “mess” is often the very message that sets you apart. And how shedding outdated career roles isn’t just about reinvention—it’s about coming home to yourself. Whether you're at the edge of a big leap or stuck wondering what your next chapter even looks like, this episode offers the truth and encouragement you need to step forward.   What we explore: Why your most painful experiences are actually your greatest assets
 The trap of over-identifying with roles and titles
 The fear that keeps us hidden—and what it’s costing us
 What personal branding really means (and what it doesn’t)
 How to know when it’s time to shed an old identity
 A question to ask yourself if you feel stuck or invisible   Your voice and your story matter. And someone is waiting to hear them. The process starts with a single choice: to stop hiding.  👉 nancylevin.com/rewrite   Connect with me: Newsletter nancylevin.comInstagramFacebook  

Have you been ignoring the quiet whispers urging you to make a change? Sometimes, life gently nudges us in a new direction… and we refuse to listen. We cling to the familiar, soften our discomfort, and convince ourselves we can make it work. But the truth is: those whispers never go away. They grow louder until we reach a breaking point—a moment when the pain of staying becomes greater than the fear of change. In this solo episode, I open up about the whispers I ignored and the moment I finally reached my point of no return. I share the truth behind the story that changed the trajectory of my life—not when my journals were discovered, but what happened nearly two years later. And I invite you to reflect on your own moments of hesitation, bargaining, and self-betrayal. You don't have to wait until everything falls apart. You can make a choice now, before the whispers become screams.   What we explore: Why we ignore our intuition and minimize our pain The truth about my own point of no return—and what finally broke the cycle How excuses, rationalizations, and fear keep us stuck in the in-between The toll that lingering in “not that bad” takes on your energy and self-worth Why choosing yourself doesn’t require a crisis—it starts with one symbolic step   If this episode speaks to you, I invite you to honor your own whispers and consider: what is your point of no return? And what single step will you take to claim your freedom?    If you’re ready to take the next step toward becoming a successful life coach, I invite you to download my free workbook: Rewrite the Story Keeping You Stuck: Become the Life Coach You’re Meant to Be 👉 nancy levin.com/rewrite   Connect with me: Newsletter nancylevin.comInstagramFacebook