Episode 603: Kerra and Andrea on Anxious Attachment Styles

Hunter Clarke-Fields, a mindful parenting expert, joins me to explore the nuanced journey of parenting, mindfulness, and self-care. Hunter hosts the Mindful Parenting Podcast and is a global speaker and bestselling author of "Raising Good Humans" and "Raising Good Humans Every Day." Together, we talk about her personal experiences and insights on integrating mindfulness practices into daily life. In this episode, we also discuss strategies for parents struggling with overwhelm and the broader applications of reparenting and mindfulness for all adults. Whether you are a parent or not, this episode promises to be insightful and transformative. You’ll hear: How Hunter began integrating mindfulness practices into her life. (8:00) Ways to practice self-awareness and mindfulness. (10:36) Hunter’s take on whether we focus on our children too much or overparent. (18:27) How exploring our history and upbringing can help us understand and reparent ourselves. (28:25) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Subscribe for free to my Therapy Journey podcast series Hunter’s website Hunter on Instagram @mindfulmamamentor Mindful Parenting Podcast Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/604 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we're diving into attachment styles and how they impact our lives professionally and personally. Kerra Bolten joins me for this conversation about shit that matters. For those new to this type of episode, it’s a conversation I have with friends or associates who aren’t necessarily experts on the topic but wish to share thoughts and insights. Kerra and I connected on LinkedIn and bonded over the topic of anxious attachment styles after I shared a post about it. Now you get to enjoy the conversation that culminated from our connection! In this episode, we dive into the complexities of anxious attachment styles and share our personal stories, the dynamics of anxious versus avoidant attachment, and how cultural and familial influences shape our relationship patterns. We also discuss the journey of self-awareness, personal growth beyond codependency, and strategies for fostering healthier relationships.  You’ll hear: Anxious Attachment - what is it anyway? (5:22) We both share some of our experiences being someone who’s “anxiously attached.” (7:34) Relationships and attachment styles - what kind of partner do you tend to be attracted to? (17:10) We explore some personal strategies or solutions for overcoming attachment styles that might be outside of what you actually want. (51:22) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Subscribe for free to my Therapy Journey podcast series The Science Behind Unhealthy Attraction (medium article Kerra mentioned) Episode 418: Transforming fear and pain into purpose with Kerra Bolton Attached, Amir Levine, Rachel Heller Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, Harville Hendrix Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Kerra Bolton is a creative entrepreneur. She sees a problem and then builds a business to fix it. Over the past 30 years, Kerra has been a journalist, television and film producer, creative director, essayist, political operative, director, and foodie. Kerra recently launched Woodbine Ventures, helping individuals and companies navigate career transitions and employee downsizing with clarity and grace. Underneath Kerra's "ventures" is her core purpose to help others live soulfully, disrupt generational patterns, and embrace joy. Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/603 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A friend and I recently were having a back and forth about love and relationships and our quest to learn and grow from them. I said to him, “All the men I’ve loved and cared about in my life have disappointed me and left me in some way or another. Family members included. Every one.”  My friend pushed back and said, “You may not like what I’m about to say, but I think that’s a limiting belief.”  Ugh.  And recently, I stumbled upon a listener question…Colleen M. asks, “How do we actually get rid of limiting beliefs? I know you have covered this before but dig deeper to not just recognize them but banishing them.” In this short minisode, you’ll hear my reaction to my friend's opinion of my own limiting belief and my answer to Colleen’s question.  Resources from this episode:  My psychedelic therapy journey Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/602 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we are exploring the fascinating realm of brain science and behavior patterns with our special guest, Kyra Bobinet, MD, MPH. Dr. Bobinet has dedicated a significant portion of her career to studying the intricacies of the human brain and how it influences our behavior.  At the heart of our discussion lies the habenula, a crucial brain region implicated in fear, motivation, and behavior control. Dr. Bobinet sheds light on how tapping into the power of the habenula can help us neutralize failure and unleash our inner wisdom and strength. You’ll hear: The habenula (a part of the brain) and its connection to fear, motivation, and the most powerful behavior controller that we face. (6:10) The solution to chronic anxiety of failing and negativity bias (16:08) How standard methods like tracking, dieting, and goal-setting often backfire by triggering the habenula’s “failure detection” (28:22) Iteration is the solution. “Everything is performative; we need to make it iteration.” (32:16) Resources: Private Coaching with Andrea Subscribe for free to my Therapy Journey podcast series Dr. Kyra Bodinet’s website Unstoppable Brain: The New Neuroscience That Frees Us from Failure, Eases Our Stress, and Creates Lasting Change  Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/601 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Before we get into today’s episode, I have a private podcast feed for anyone interested in my journey through psychedelic therapy. I’m starting with Ketamine therapy and then moving into Psilocybin. It’s free and just like the regular podcast, but you do need to sign up to be notified.  Is Ketamine Therapy right for you? And what does it actually feel like during a session? Joining me to discuss its workings, sensations, and post-session integration is Kristin Arden, Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, and Lead Clinician at Mindbloom. Previously on the podcast, we heard from my friend Brendan Fitzgibbons about his Ketamine Therapy experience. This time, I'm thrilled to introduce you to Kristin, a healthcare professional working directly in the field of Ketamine Therapy. Kristin addresses key questions like when to consider this therapy, detailing what a session entails and its effects. You’ll hear: What is ketamine therapy, and how it works (7:27) Kristin answers, “Is ketamine therapy for everyone? When should one consider it?” (14:11) What a typical session looks like and what it feels like (18:48) The integration and therapy after a ketamine therapy session; it’s not a passive process (22:31) Dispelling misconceptions or myths about ketamine therapy (30:03) Advice for someone considering ketamine therapy as part of their mental health or personal growth treatment plan (38:40) Resources: Subscribe for free to my Therapy Journey podcast series Mindbloom.com/andrea0100 Episode 595: The Psychedelic Therapy Experience with Brendan Fitzgibbons Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/600 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s been a long time since I got divorced the first time in 2006. It was also a much different situation and we didn’t have kids. Kids throw a whole different level of complication and sadness to it.  In this minisode, I talk about the process of getting separated and then divorced, and the things that are taking me OUT while doing so.  Things like packing up…looking at my bathroom drawers empty.  Finding old pictures and cards while packing up of the years passed.  And more.  I end the episode talking about how multiple feelings and experiences can be true…you can feel grief and sadness for what’s ending to the nth degree, and also hope, excitement and optimism for what’s to come. That, we’re at choice about.  Resources from this episode:  Write Your Way Through It is open for registration  Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/599 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Female friendships are meaningful, yet we still tend to put them on the back burner. That is why I invited guest Danielle Jackson back to the show. Previously, we talked about how to make friends, and in this episode, we talk about how to make deeper connections with women in friendship. Danielle Bayard Jackson is a certified friendship coach and national speaker dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain meaningful female friendships. We can never have enough episodes about female friendships; I really hope you enjoy this episode! You’ll hear: The three "affinities" that bring women together (and tear them apart) (6:39) What’s the deal around gossip? Is it good or not? (8:24) The nine most challenging "friend types" (11:25) How to have hard conversations with a friend (13:46) The way female friendships are depicted in today’s media, specifically on reality tv (18:53) How to know if a friendship is worth saving (27:55) Resources:  Write Your Way Through It Registration is Open! Subscribe for free to my Therapy Journey podcast series Danielle’s website, Better Female Friendships Maintaining Meaningful Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/598 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we have a repeat guest as Dr. John Duffy returns to the show! We explore mental health and the difference between young men and women. Dr. Duffy also shares insights from his work and book Rescuing Our Sons: 8 Solutions to Our Crisis of Disaffected Teen Boys (A Psychologist's Roadmap). But wait - this episode is not just for parents. For non-parent listeners, we also talk about the effects of anxiety and how to manage it as well as what to say (and not say) when it comes to grief and interacting with those who are grieving.  Dr. John Duffy is a Chicago-based clinical psychologist, best-selling author, keynote speaker, and national media expert. He has been in vigorous private practice for 25 years, specializing in work with adolescents, young adults, and their parents.  You’ll hear: Exploring the nuances of therapy sessions between young women and young men, plus factors contributing to these disparities (5:19) What Dr. Duffy means when he says we are experiencing a "crisis of disaffected boys" (13:35) Talking about, with anyone, the complexities of grief (26:20) How anxiety manifests and how to manage it when it does (33:06) Resources:  Write Your Way Through It Registration is Open! Dr. John Duffy’s website Episode 246: An Important Conversation about Depression with Dr. John Duffy Rescuing Our Sons: 8 Solutions to Our Crisis of Disaffected Teen Boys (A Psychologist's Roadmap) Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety: Raising Happy, Healthy Humans Ages 8 to 24 Dr. John Duffy is a Chicago-based clinical psychologist, best-selling author, keynote speaker and national media expert. He has been in vigorous private practice for 25 years, specializing in work with adolescents, young adults and their parents. He has consistently provided the tools young people need to thrive through his empathy, knowledge, experience and practice. He has written three books intended to provide parents with the tools to help their teens and young adults thrive in this persistent age of anxiety. For more than a decade, Dr. Duffy has also spoken to thousands of parents internationally through PTA’s, Fortune 500 corporate programs, and other parenting networks. On radio, Dr. Duffy is a regularly appearing expert on WGN, WLS and NPR. He has appeared as an expert guest on countless podcasts and has been the host of two popular podcasts himself. Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/597 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You’ve probably heard me mention here and there on various podcast episodes about psychedelic therapy. I’ve had a few experts who talk about its benefits (episodes 551 with Dr. Ellen Vora and 560 with Dr. Tanmeet Sethi).  It’s been an incredibly interesting topic to me, but as someone in long-term recovery, I assumed it wasn’t for me.  However, after doing extensive research and finding out that a) There is a community of people in recovery who support each other in their journey towards using psychedelics for addiction and recovery, b) the research shows psychedelics are not addictive, and 3) psychedelics when used properly have been shown to help people who struggle with anxiety, addiction, depression, ADHD and other mental health challenges, I decided to take the plunge.  If you’d like to follow along in my journey, I’m making a private podcast feed to chronicle it all. I’ll go more in depth as to why I’ve chosen to do this, talk about the different options, tell you how my experience was with each one, and how it’s helped me in terms of my mental health. If you decide to sign up, please keep in mind, this is just my experience, psychedelics are not for everyone, and this type of therapy is subjective.  That being said, tune into this week’s minisode where I talk about the above, why this is an extra-personal endeavor for me, which psychedelic therapy I chose to start with and why.  Resources from this episode:  Follow along on my psychedelic therapy journey Episode 551 with Dr. Ellen Vora Episode 560 with Dr. Tanmeet Sethi Mindbloom (make sure to use code andreao100 to get $100 off your treatment!) Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/596 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brendan Fitzgibbons returns to the podcast this week as we explore his transformative experience with psychedelic therapy. Brendan shares his personal journey as to why he chose to take the psychedelic therapy route and how it has profoundly impacted him. Brendan is the host of the popular podcast, “Spiritual Asshole,” writer, and actor.  If you are a frequent listener, you are familiar with my endless curiosity about psychedelic therapy. My conversation with Brendan was truly enlightening. Tune in as we chat about psychedelics and their potential as a catalyst for healing and personal growth. And you’ll hear about my decision to start this myself and take you on my journey!  You’ll hear: Why Brendan chose to take the psychedelic therapy route (7:30) The importance of experiencing psychedelic therapy in a safe and supportive environment (16:00) How has Mushrooms, and Ketamine Therapy helped Brendan with rumination and worry? What has integration looked like? (30:19) Resources:  Write Your Way Through It Follow me on her Therapy Journey and subscribe to the private podcast feed! Brendan on Instagram Episode 551 with Dr. Ellen Vora Episode 560 with Dr. Tanmeet Sethi MushyGirls Mindbloom Brendan Fitzgibbons is a Los Angeles writer, actor and podcast host. He's written for Comedy Central, ComedyCentral.com, and the Onion. He's been on Full Frontal with Samantha Bee, MTV, and Comedy Central. His acting work has also been featured in South by Southwest and the Tribeca Film Festival. In 2021, he was the voice of the Samsung Galaxy phone and his podcast, "Spiritual Asshole" was named "Top Indie Podcast" by Stitcher in 2020 and 2021. He just recorded an album at the Ice House with Comedy Dynamics that will be out Feb 2024. Book recommendations: I love a good personal development book, and you do too, right? I’ve compiled a list of book recommendations, as mentioned in past episodes. Check out these amazing book recommendations here. Happy reading!   MSN is supported by: We love the sponsors that make our show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: andreaowen.com/sponsors/ Episode link: http://andreaowen.com/595 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices