What We Push Away Pushes Back

And what to do when it shows up Here's the sequence: Unmet needs lead to disappointment. Disappointment gives rise to grief. Unresolved grief turns into resentment. Holding onto resentment creates anger. Welcome to Earth. Welcome to being a human. There is a 100% likelihood that to varying degrees, we will all feel unseen, unheard, or not loved in ways that we want to be loved. When we're children, we aren't able to fully process not having our needs met. The implicit grief registers in our energy field and we haul it around until we're mature enough to process it on our own or until we can afford therapy, whichever comes first. If we don't treat our grief with compassion, it thickens into resentment over time. Resentment is one of the root causes of cynicism and doubt. Resentment often causes us to hoard resources out of fear. Resentment is a huge obstacle to abundance. Holding onto our unmet needs perpetuates not having our needs met in the present. It becomes this vicious cycle of chasing and not receiving. If you fight your anger, it will fight you right back. Your anger is looking to be seen, to be heard, to be loved. Bless it, and it will stop acting out. What we embrace transforms and makes us more loving. Listen in. Then we're doing the Centering Practice together. We'll work with the full spectrum of colour. This is you being the energy healer. With Love, Danielle As mentioned in this episode: Join The Colours Class — a LIVE class with Danielle on working with the healing frequencies of colour. This Sunday, March 15 at 10am PT | 1pm ET. Use code POD220 for $7 off. Expires at class time: daniellelaporte.com/class Order Bless & Release and get early access to chapters dropped weekly: daniellelaporte.com/bless Join us on Sundays at 9am PT | 12noon ET for Bless Club. A free weekly LIVE practice with Danielle LaPorte. 15 minutes. Every Sunday. Save your seat: daniellelaporte.com/blessclub

What you push away pushes back Here's the physics principle: What you push away pushes back. And while it's pushing back, it's building its own muscle. What we push away grows stronger. We have to be in relationship with our fears, not in opposition to them. Most fear is based on past experience that we project into the future. The catch? Fighting our fear creates this inner battle. That inner battle is such an energy burn. So draining. So hard on the nervous system. The irony is that we created the fear. Every single one of our fears comes from the unconscious mind. Each one is a mind baby. You are the mother, the father, the parent of all of your fears. Your job? It's to lovingly parent them. Not to deny them. Not to abandon them. (That would make you a very bad parent.) Relax your grip on your fear. You bring your fear into your heart. You have a conversation with it. You say, I hear you. I've got you. And the Divine has me. As long as we are running away from fear, we don't look at it. The moment we stop and look at fear, it begins to dissolve. In this episode of With Love, Danielle, I'm breaking down how to have a healthy relationship with your fear. With content from my new book Bless & Release. Then we're doing the Centering Practice together—focusing on one of your fears. We'll work with the full spectrum of light and colour frequencies. Pinks, peach tones, golds, minty greens, sky blues, violet. You're rainbow-healing your fear. This is you being the energy worker. You're doing the healing. With Love, Danielle   As mentioned in this episode: Order Bless & Release and get early access to chapters dropped weekly: daniellelaporte.com/bless Join us on Sundays at 9am PT | 12noon ET for Bless Club. A free weekly LIVE practice with Danielle LaPorte. 15 minutes. Every Sunday. Starting March 1st. Save your seat: daniellelaporte.com/blessclub

This is physics. This is metaphysics. This is the power move. A sneak peek from my new book, Bless & Release… We need a new relationship with our emotions and ambitions. Because clearly, the current one is not working. Here's a radical idea: Instead of repressing, rejecting, or ignoring our suffering, we bring it even closer. Within. Gently. As if we were blessing it. As if we were alchemists and energy workers. Because we are. Listen in for the 21 principles of blessing and releasing. The philosophical ground everything is built upon.  This is physics. And this is metaphysics. And this is the power move that will change everything.   As mentioned in this episode: Order Bless & Release and get early access to chapters dropped weekly: daniellelaporte.com/bless Join us on Sundays at 9am PT | 12noon ET for Bless Club. A free weekly LIVE practice with Danielle LaPorte. 15 minutes. Every Sunday. Starting March 1st. Save your seat: daniellelaporte.com/blessclub

I'm announcing CENTERED—my new spiritual wellness app launching April 2026. This is 10 years in the making. And it feels like holding onto a rocket right now. Think Spotify for spiritual wellness. A place to design your day based on devotion. Wake up to the energetics of the day. Build playlists with prayers, mantras, meditations—all the things. The existing wellness apps are for coping and calming down. You press play. You stay passive. Spiritually neutral. But CENTERED is built for depth, not dopamine. I'm partnering with Aligned, a Silicon Valley software company led by an early Spotify exec. Launching April 17th with my new audiobook, Bless & Release. Here's what shocked me: Only 1.1% of global venture capital goes to female-led startups. I'm changing that. CENTERED is open to investment from $100 to $1.5 million. The goal? A women-majority investor base. We're putting the feminine in fem tech. Listen in for all the details. With Love, Danielle As mentioned in this episode: Learn more about investing in the CENTERED App at centeredapp.com. We'll send you the pitch deck, and access to our WeFunder campaign where you can become a founding investor with as little as $100. Pre-order my new audiobook and I'll send you BTS content and early access to chapters. Bless & Release: The physics of letting go…and wanting what's meant for you – get yours at daniellelaporte.com/bless.

The physics of letting go… and wanting what's meant for you. For a decade, I thought letting go of my worldly desires would bring me peace. I was wrong. I used spiritual perfectionism to hurt myself. I guilt-tripped myself for having "unspiritual" feelings. I romanticized renunciation while still wanting to host dinner parties at the monastery. Then I figured it out… What we push away pushes back and gets stronger. What we embrace transforms and strengthens us. This is the introduction to my forthcoming book, Bless and Release: The physics of letting go—and wanting what's meant for you. With love, Danielle     In this episode: Why people who let go with ease are more joyful (they don't avoid pain—they bless it) The spiritually romanticized torture I put myself through How I stopped criticizing myself for having "unspiritual" feelings The Bless Practice: heart-centered energy work you can do in 90 seconds What happens when you stop pushing away the pain and chasing the desires Why we're turning to AI for spiritual direction (please stop) The radical truth: instead of repressing suffering, bring it in closer—and bless it Pre-order the audiobook and get early access to BTS content, audio excerpts, and the Bless Practice at: daniellelaporte.com/bless

This episode originally aired as Episode 160 on February 7, 2025. Lean in, pay attention. This episode of With Love, Danielle is our favourite kind—raw girlfriend honesty with deep spiritual wisdom (hello Krishnamurti)! Danielle focuses on identifying the behaviours that signify someone is 'not your person' and encourages you to cultivate discernment. But what next? Distancing ourselves, Forgiving, Compassion, healing, setting boundaries. How do you do this with Love? Danielle shares a favourite nourishing thought to help us. I love myself so deeply, I have the courage to see things as is. She explains how to become a more Loving being for yourself and everybody else. You can see everything with Love. You'll elevate your vibration, embrace deeper self love, and seek healthier connections. You'll turn to your inner wisdom and magnetize nurturing and supportive relationships. You'll experience the joy of finding your true community.

This episode originally aired as Episode 152 on January 8, 2025. You know… I've felt like an outsider most of my life. Lil' bit on the outside. And of course I've had my share of hard No's and reeejection. And… but… each rebuff and snub is taking us closer to our shadow territory, to the beautiful, unhealed stuff that's waiting to be healed. I recently taught a class on rejection in our CENTERED Collective, and it was a tender one. We've strung the diamonds for you: In this episode of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE I'm teaching on: The meta-function of rejection. Every spurn, every rebuff points to our inability to accept all parts of ourselves Exactly why rejection is an advanced class in self-acceptance How we stand in our power to heal from rejection, without bypassing or bravado How to choose responsiveness and consciousness over numbing out and running away. This is the work. This is how we transform our repetitive pain into deep esteem. With Love, Danielle

This episode originally aired as Episode 107 on April 3, 2024. I'm never contrarian for the sake of it. I'm good to go with the conventional flow. But not today, friends, not today! We have higher realms of consciousness to traverse. And those higher states are not in our guts. or lower chakras, or low vibe stories from our past. Old adage: "Trust your gut." New way: Nah.  Pay attention to your gut, but don't let it make your plans. There's both spiritual and scientific sense to this.  I'm talking about decisions, intuition, direction, and how to figure out your next best move....and it's NOT about "following your gut." With Love, Danielle MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: GetHeartCentered.com—Download the FREE Astro + Events calendar and sync your plans with the planets Follow + Subscribe to With Love, Danielle on Substack for weekly essays + more Join the CENTERED Collective

A note from Danielle: My loves, for the month of November, we are featuring the best of my business episodes from 2025. Today's run has some extra divine timing because, as you're listening to this, if you're listening to it on our drop week, we are in Mercury Retrograde. Mercury Retrograde is all about review, rewinding, cleaning things up with intention before they pile up, and you've got to set something on fire. Today's conversation is about the things that, as a team, we decided to let go of this year—in terms of policies, behaviours, things we did to get the bottom line up, and ways of doing things that felt outmoded and not expansive anymore. This will hopefully be inspiration for your creativity, for your prosperity, and for your kitchen cupboards. I'm so glad you're here. Always with love, Danielle. *This episode originally aired as Episode 186 on May 30, 2025.  What happens when you pause, sunset, phase out, bless + release everything that's draining your life force? More joy. More prosperity. More clarity.  This episode is a full download of Danielle's Stop Doing List—two years of deep renovation inside her business and life—and how those decisions brought in more success and alignment than ever.  From saying goodbye to platforms, programs and partnerships that didn't vibe… To completely overhauling the editorial process to bring in more creativity and collaboration… To scrubbing a 220,000 person email list down to 65,000 loving, active subscribers… To shifting from hustle-mode launches to always-open invitations… And so much more. This is the companion episode to "I Stopped Obsessing Over Rapid Financial Growth. Here's Why…"  It's not about doing more. It's about doing what matters—and having the courage to stop what doesn't. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Inner Circle Business Accelerator—only 5 spots left (get in before Sunday!) GetHeartCentered.com—Download the FREE Astro + Events calendar and sync your plans with the planets Follow + Subscribe to With Love, Danielle on Substack for weekly essays + more Join the CENTERED Collective

A note from Danielle: My loves, for the month of November, we are focused on the topic of business—which so very often can extend into being more creative and lucid and heart centered in relationships and creativity in general.  Today, I'm talking about my "Be Well Business" formula, where I break down our approach—a more heart centered approach to the whole concept of 10xing.  If you don't know what 10xing is, stick around. I'm about to break it down. *This episode originally aired as Episode 185 on May 23, 2025.  Danielle loves bold goals and quantum leaps. But not at the expense of wellness—or sanity.  In this week's episode, she's sharing the reason she hit pause on chasing rapid financial growth—and how she rebuilt her business around calm, clarity, and a new definition of prosperity.  She introduces her Be Well Business Number—a formula that balances revenue goals with nervous system regulation—and explains why weekends, joy, and purpose are more valuable metrics than just the bottom line.  This is heart centered 10x'ing—business strategy through the lens of Love. In this episode: Why "10x" isn't just about money  What Danielle's Be Well Business formula is—and how to calculate yours How nervous system regulation saved her business (and lifestyle) Why her team chose NOT to chase rapid revenue growth this year The emotional benefits of right-sized goals How to create a business that supports your wellness MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Inner Circle Business Accelerator—limited to 20 spots this round (and they go fast!) GetHeartCentered.com—Download the FREE Astro + Events calendar and sync your plans with the planets Follow + Subscribe to With Love, Danielle on Substack for weekly essays + more Join the CENTERED Collective