Teaching Series: I Changed My Relationship with Money and the Money Changed

Joe tells the story of his whole life with money: where it started, what he turned it into, and the shifts that took him from debt to plenty. → The key insights from this episode - and the practices to try them yourself - on a single page: https://yt.artofaccomplishment.com/transform-your-money → The shifts in this story aren't something you think your way into - it's something you practice. That's what the Connection Course is for: https://yt.artofaccomplishment.com/transform-money-cc It's less a money story than a story about what we make money stand in for, and what's left when we stop. Where it ends might not be where you'd expect. And hopefully, watching it, will help you transform your relationship to money for the better. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Why do so many of us self-sabotage right when we're on the verge of success? Bands break up right after getting signed. Entrepreneurs burn out the moment they hit their goal. Athletes choke when they realize they're winning. In this episode, Joe and Brett explore the surprising mechanics behind the fear of success — and why it turns out to be nearly identical to the fear of failure. Brett opens with a personal story from a base jumping world championship where he realized mid-competition he was winning — and immediately couldn't hit the target again. From there, they unpack what's actually happening in the head, heart, and nervous system when we get close to what we want, and why expanding your capacity to feel is the real key to sustainable success. Together, they explore: Why bands often break up right after getting signed The identity crisis that gets triggered by winning Why success and failure are both states of nervous system arousal The window of tolerance — and why too much pleasure can feel as threatening as too much pain How the same emotional avoidance shows up on both sides of a decision Why billionaires often burn out and can't get out of their pajamas Letting success obliterate identity (instead of inflating it) "Don't let success go to your head" vs. fully feeling success in your body Clean fuel vs. dirty fuel — letting in the reinforcement loop of why you do the work Why fear of success is really fear of life The difference between humility as smallness and humility as a deep bow Concrete practices: visualizing both complete failure and complete success, emotional inquiry on the avoided feeling, expanding your nervous system's capacity for pleasurable arousal, and deconstructing who you think you'll be on the other side Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

7 patterns. Almost everyone I've ever coached. For about six months, Joe wrote down the stuck point he saw at the end of every coaching session, then sorted them. Thousands of sessions collapsed into seven categories. In this video he walks through each one in order. The order matters. Each pattern comes with a story from Joe's own life — the friend who taught him the difference between dirty fuel and clean fuel, the day at 24 he went out into the woods and learned to cry again, the list he wrote of everything he didn't like about himself and what changed eight months later, the friend who wouldn't let him defend himself. How Connection Can Change Your Life (Joe Hudson & Ali Abdaal) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

"Should I stay or should I go?" is one of the most common questions people bring to coaching, whether about a relationship, a job, or any major commitment. What if the hang-up is in the question itself? In this episode, Joe and Brett explore what's really being asked underneath the surface and why the path forward rarely lies in pros and cons lists. Together, they unpack two distinct versions of this question, the deeper fear that drives it, and what it actually looks like to commit to something without losing yourself in the process. Together, they explore: The two types of people asking this question: chronic askers vs. those facing it for the first time Why this question is really about enmeshment vs. self-abandonment How childhood experiences of being asked to please a parent create fear of commitment Doubt as the surface emotion "Will I get more growth if I stay or if I leave?" when this is wisdom and when it's avoidance Why idealizing the future (staying or leaving) keeps you stuck in the present The Buckminster Fuller move: showing up uncompromisingly as yourself The trap of "being yourself" with a chip on your shoulder What real commitment actually means — and what it doesn't Drawing boundaries without closing your heart Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Most of us say we want love. So why do we push it away the moment it arrives? In this episode, Joe and Brett explore the surprisingly complex reasons we sabotage the very thing we say we want most; and why love, more than almost any other emotion, requires a nervous system that can tolerate it. Together, they unpack five core patterns that get in the way of receiving love, and offer concrete practices for expanding your capacity to give and receive it. Together, they explore: The stone-faced baby experiments and how attachment becomes attention-seeking Why "love" in adulthood is often just the attention strategies that worked in childhood Jealousy as the perfect example of pushing love away while demanding it Wired together, fired together: how love gets fused with criticism, abuse, or engulfment Why receiving adoration you don't feel worthy of makes you physically uncomfortable The identity-level confirmation bias that keeps us seeing rejection over love How love can dissolve the sense of self and why that's terrifying Why positive emotions are often harder to feel than negative ones "Love is a light shined into a dark ocean". Why everything unloved surfaces when love arrives Self-compassion as a better predictor of healthy relationships than self-esteem Practical experiments: emotional inquiry, opening your heart in reps, identifying what's wired with love, and noticing care you've been missing Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode, Joe and Brett unpack the fear of being seen. They examine why this pattern is so often rooted in shame, how it quietly erodes intimacy and careers, and what to actually do when you find yourself frozen, hiding, or performing. Together, they explore: The two flavors of fear of being seen: acute avoidance and the universal existential version How childhood and culture teach us that being seen isn't safe Why this pattern is devastating in romantic relationships The "golden algorithm" — how hiding creates the very rejection you fear How fear of being seen shows up in the head, heart, and nervous system The internal "eye of Sauron" and why self-criticism amplifies the freeze Soul dysmorphia: why we can't see ourselves clearly Asking "what do I need?" as an antidote to worrying what others think Why opening your heart to the other person dissolves the fear of their judgment Shifting from outcome-focus to "how do I want to show up?" Exposure, sharing shame, and the cure for loneliness What to do in the moment when you feel yourself freezing or disappearing Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Most leaders think delegation is about telling people what to do. But what if the real bottleneck isn't your team's capacity but your relationship with control, perfectionism, and hard conversations? In this episode, Brett shares his own struggle with delegation across multiple growing businesses, and Joe offers a framework for moving from vision to execution without falling into the traps of micromanagement or hands-off abandonment. Together, they explore: Why the leader's job is not to take care of everybody Distilling strategy and vision into the "one thing" that makes everything else easier or irrelevant Solution criteria: how to delegate without dictating or abandoning Why alignment comes from handling objections, not convincing Making it safe (and expected) for your team to say no Why "management" is often a symptom of missing trust Holding people accountable without making it about "trouble" Scheduling hard conversations on your calendar (literally) Institutionalizing appreciation without making it cheesy Why your company is a reflection of your own consciousness Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode, Joe and Brett break down a simple but powerful method for turning recognition into lasting behavior change. Joe walks through a real example from his own company, where he caught himself being "too helpful" in a way that was actually disempowering everyone around him, and explains how he used the Four A's to shift the pattern quickly and cleanly. Along the way, they explore why most behavior change fails, what makes this approach different, and why you have to feel a whole lot of stuff to do it right. They discuss: The Four A's: Announce, Apologize, Ask, Act What makes an apology upright rather than shame-driven How asking for help breaks the isolation that holds patterns in place Why you need five contrary actions, not just one The difference between recognition and "should" Where this method works, and where it doesn't Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community!  Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson Brett on X: @airkistler AOA on X: @artofaccomp Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.com We invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

As intelligence becomes something we can outsource, what becomes of us? In this episode, Joe and Brett explore what it means to thrive in an era where machines can handle knowledge work, and why the skills that matter most are becoming deeply human. From raising AI to being raised by it, they discuss how this technological shift is also an invitation to reclaim connection, purpose, and wisdom. They discuss: Why wisdom is the new competitive advantage The difference between knowledge and being good at being human How small teams with strong relationships are replacing large bureaucracies What happens when society loses its sense of purpose Signs that your AI use is helping or hurting you How to use AI for personal development without losing yourself Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community!  Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson Brett on X: @airkistler AOA on X: @artofaccomp Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.com We invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this episode, Joe and Brett analyze a rapid coaching session with an 18-year-old who says he hasn't felt good in years. Despite doing mindfulness, reading Eckhart Tolle, and preparing meticulously for the session, he can't seem to access the peace he's looking for. As Joe works with him to slow down and actually feel what's happening in his body, Brett and Joe unpack the self-reliance pattern: how it forms, how it shows up in relationships, and why the mind moves so fast that it convinces us we're not feeling when we clearly are. They discuss: The self-reliance pattern and its roots in early caregiving Why worry is actually a sign of devotion The difference between mindfulness and loving yourself Attention-seeking as an unmet need for care How breakthroughs change your life, even when they seem to fade Why there's no rush in the work of self-love Send us your questions on Twitter, through our website, or in our Circle community!  Joe on X: @FU_JoeHudson  Brett on X: @airkistler  AOA on X: @artofaccomp Visit Us: www.artofaccomplishment.com  We invite you to experience our work. Reserve your spot at www.view.life/explore Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.