Dating in the Wild with Tori Swanson

Not all lubes are created equal and your vagina deserves better than guesswork. Erica, regulatory affairs expert and cosmetic chemist, joins Jordan to break down everything you never knew about personal lubricant. Osmolarity, pH, hyaluronic acid, parabens, FDA clearance, fertility-safe formulas, silicone vs. water-based vs. hybrid — all of it, no fluff. If you've ever grabbed a lube off the shelf without a second thought, this episode will change that.✨ Special Offers: ✨Splash Blanket! | Use code Jordan15ProDx Health | Use JordanDnelle to save 25%Thank you to our Sponsors: Splash Blanket, Prodx, PhexxJump to the Good Stuff:05:49 – Meet Erica: From regulatory nerd to Lube Queen07:00 – What's actually IN your lube?12:11 – Osmolarity explained - and why it matters more than you think17:31 – Hyaluronic acid in lube: the glow-up your vagina didn't know it needed23:57 – How to know if your lube has actually been FDA cleared25:18 – Animal testing, the EU vs. FDA divide, and the cruelty-free lube dilemma38:18 – Silicone vs. water-based vs. hybrid: which one is actually for you?41:34 – Lube for fertility: what kills sperm and what doesn't48:58 – The truth about parabens53:57 – How the Erica defines pleasurePleasure Highlights:Check for the condom claim.Osmolarity matters — especially if you're TTC or STI-aware.Silicone lube + silicone toys = a hard no.Hyaluronic acid is worth the hype.There's no one-size-fits-all lube.Connect with the Erica:Instagram @the_shecanter - Find The Cuterus Mood Mug! and the Shecanter HERE!Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your power through daily gratitude. Learn more HERE.Connect with Jordan D’Nelle:Facebook @‌jordandnelleInstagram @‌jordandnelleInstagram @‌TheVVVPodcastTikTok @‌jordandnelleYoutube @jordandnelleWebsite: Jordan D’Nelle⁠⁠Email: [email protected] this Episode? Join the Patreon: patreon.JordanDnelle.comLeave a review on iTunes.Subscribe & Follow on socials!Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast:Apple PodcastSpotify PodcastYoutube @jordandnelle*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.PhexxINDICATIONPhexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATIONRare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat www.phexx.com.Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch.EVFM-PHX-000068

What if your sex toy belonged on a doctor's shelf? Cynthia, founder of Luxxxe Toys, joins us for a conversation that's equal parts eye-opening and empowering. We dig into why pleasure and sexual wellness aren't just connected; they're inseparable. From the gaps in women's health research to why quality matters for what goes on and in your body, Cynthia keeps it refreshingly real. Plus: AVN, award-winning products, healing after trauma, and the conversation your doctor probably isn't having with you but should be.Use code JORDANDNELLE for a 30% listener discount. Expires July 31, 2026.✨ *Special Offers:* ✨*Splash Blanket!* Use code *Jordan15* to save 15%*ProDx Health* Use *JordanDnelle* to save 25%Thank you to our Sponsors: Splash Blanket, Prodx, PhexxJump to the Good Stuff:05:03 – From real estate to sexual wellness founder07:12 – Why pleasure and wellness are inseparable09:51 – The gaps in women's health research19:50 – AVN recap - what surprised Cynthia most25:15 – The award-winning Jaxon prostate massager30:34 – Luxury vs. budget toys - does it matter?34:10 – Surviving sexual abuse and healing through pleasure37:48 – First-time toy advice for the bedroom40:33 – What Cynthia wants to normalize next43:25 – How do you define pleasure?Pleasure Highlights:Pleasure is a health necessity, not a luxury.Women's bodies are understudied and we deserve better.The right products can support sexual healing.Toys enhance. They don't replace.Your body deserves clean, medical-grade quality.Connect with Cynthia:Instagram @luxx_toys  https://www.instagram.com/luxx_toys/ https://www.luxxxe.com/Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your power through daily gratitude. Learn more HERE. Connect with Jordan D’Nelle:Facebook @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌TheVVVPodcastTikTok @‌jordandnelleYoutube @jordandnellewww.jordandnelle.comEmail: [email protected] this Episode?Join the Patreon: patreon.JordanDnelle.comLeave a review on iTunes.Subscribe & Follow on socials!Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast:Apple PodcastsSpotify Podcasts:Youtube @jordandnelle*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators — normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.PhexxINDICATIONPhexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATIONRare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat www.phexx.com.Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch.EVFM-PHX-000068

Is modern dating broken or are we just playing it too safe? Sexologist and soon-to-be sex therapist, Tori, joins us for a refreshingly honest conversation about why dating feels so exhausting right now. We cover the swipe-culture trap, why women keep settling for bare minimum, and the very real problem with using ChatGPT to write your texts. Tori breaks down what a real red flag looks like, why inconsistency is the number one relationship killer, and why dating yourself might be your best move yet. Plus, compliments, eye contact, and why your gym is the dating app you're not using.✨ Special Offers: ✨Splash Blanket! | Use code Jordan15ProDx Health | Use JordanDnelle to save 25%Thank you to our Sponsors: Splash Blanket, Prodx, PhexxJump to the Good Stuff:05:23 – Meet Tori, sexologist, sex therapist, & former exotic dancer06:17 – What even IS modern dating? The dopamine swipe trap explained07:32 – Why women are swearing off men08:59 – The best places to meet people IRL; apps aren't it17:27 – How to date yourself & be available while doing it19:59 – The ChatGPT dating problem24:04 – Red flags: what's real vs. what's noise24:57 – Inconsistency as the #1 relationship dealbreaker27:22 – Calling someone out without blowing it up34:05 – How Tori defines pleasurePleasure Highlights:Swipe culture kills depth, be intentionalIRL presence beats any dating appChatGPT can't fake real vulnerabilityInconsistency is the #1 red flagPleasure isn't always sexual, reclaim itConnect with Tori:Instagram @torirthesexcoachWebsite: Tori the Sex CoachEnhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your power through daily gratitude. Learn more HERE. Connect with Jordan D’Nelle:Facebook @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌TheVVVPodcastTikTok @‌jordandnelleYoutube @jordandnelleWebsite: jordandnelle.comEmail: [email protected] this Episode?Join Patreon for bonus content: patreon.JordanDnelle.comLeave a review on iTunes.Subscribe & Follow on socials!Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast:Apple PodcastSpotify PodcastYoutube @jordandnelle*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.PhexxINDICATIONPhexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATIONRare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat www.phexx.com.Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch. EVFM-PHX-000068

Tia Lynn, aka Sexy Biz Babe, is back, and we're going there. In this episode, Tia joins us to explore the real world of sex parties and play spaces (spoiler: it's not what you think), how confidence in life directly mirrors confidence in the bedroom, the power of knowing your "no" before you need it, and why your intuition is the most underrated safety tool you have. Plus: Skirt Club, vetted events, and finding your community.✨ Special Offers: ✨Splash Blanket! | Use code Jordan15ProDx Health | Use JordanDnelle to save 25%Thank you to our Sponsors: Splash Blanket, Prodx, PhexxJump to the Good Stuff:05:53 – Intro & Meet Tia06:46 – Defining YOUR edge08:00 – Breaking shame & building confidence12:21 – Confidence in the bedroom14:21 – How Tia discovered play parties16:05 – Finding your community18:04 – Skirt Club 10121:57 – What actually happens at a sex party31:07 – Vetted vs. unvetted parties32:27 – Red flags & green flags34:46 – Confidence & practicing your "no"36:51 – Tia's consent story42:05 – Defining pleasure42:42 – Where to find TiaPleasure Highlights:Taboo is your edge, no one else'sBedroom confidence = life confidencePlay parties are community-firstNo expectations = better experienceVetted parties prioritize consentPractice your "no" before you need itEven confident people freeze, trust your bodySpeaking up protects the everyoneSex-positive friendships are realPleasure is joy in your bodyConnect with Tia Lynn:Instagram @SexyBizBabeInstagram @SexyBizBabePodcastPodcast: Sexy Biz Babe TED Talk: “Break Out of Shame, Own Your Confidence”Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your power through daily gratitude. Learn more HERE.Connect with Jordan D’Nelle:Facebook @‌jordandnelleInstagram @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌TheVVVPodcastTikTok @‌jordandnelleYoutube @jordandnellejordandnelle.comEmail: [email protected] this Episode? Join Patreon: patreon.JordanDnelle.comLeave a review on iTunes.Subscribe & Follow on socials!Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast:Apple PodcastSpotify PodcastYoutube @jordandnelle*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.PHEXXINDICATIONPhexx® is an on-demand prescription birth control used to prevent pregnancy. Phexx is not effective when used after sex.IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATIONRare cases (0.36%) of bladder and kidney infection have been reported. If you have a history of urinary tract problems that keep coming back, you should not use Phexx.Contact your healthcare provider if you are experiencing genitourinary side effects such as vaginal burning, itching, discharge, genital discomfort (including in male partners), yeast infection, urinary tract infection or bacterial vaginosis.Phexx does not protect against any sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Avoid using Phexx with a vaginal ring.Avoid Phexx if you or your sexual partner is allergic to lactic acid, citric acid, potassium bitartrate, or any of the Ingredients in Phexx. Stop using Phexx If you develop an allergic reaction.For more information about Phexx, talk to your healthcare provider and see full Product Informationat www.phexx.com.Please report side effects by contacting Evofem Biosciences® toll-free at 1-833-EVFMBIO or contact FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088 or www.fda.gov/medwatch.EVFM-PHX-000068

Pleasure, power, and dating without apology.In this episode, Corithina (Papiiii Chulaaa), sex educator, youth empowerment leader, and self-proclaimed career dom, joins Jordan D’Nelle to explore holistic sex education, pleasure-centered learning, and radical self-ownership.They dive into dating dynamics, communication, kink, and why pleasure, not just prevention, belongs in sex education. Corinthia shares her journey through intentional “messy” dating, redefining relationships, and embracing autonomy in love and desire. You’ll also hear powerful insights on emotional availability, cultural narratives around relationships, and how to create connections that actually align with your values.Jump to the Good Stuff:02:24 – Origin story + sex ed activism06:20 – Why pleasure belongs in sex education07:37 – Confidence & communication through sex ed08:00 – Teaching men + menstrual cycle awareness10:06 – Menopause, generational gaps, and lifelong sex education13:51 – Dating sabbatical: lovers vs relationships16:45 – Communication styles in modern dating: voice notes over texting19:50 – Monogamy myths + cultural conditioning28:26 – Friendship as a core relationship model29:15 – Choosing partners who align with your work + identity31:27 – Kink, BDSM, and finding compatible partners39.17 – Dating culture, apps, and why men aren’t showing up45:20 – The “male loneliness epidemic” + relationship skill gaps46:41 – Pleasure, dominance, and evolving sexual exploration48:00 – Defining pleasure + where to find Papiii ChulaaaPleasure Highlights:Pleasure belongs in sex educationCommunication > dating gamesMonogamy isn’t the only modelFriendship as core relationshipEmotional availability gapPleasure = self-ownershipConnect with Papiii Chulaaa:Instagram @papiiichulaaaInstagram @corysmileyfaceSubstack  @corysmileyfaceEnhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more HERE. Connect with Jordan D’Nelle:Facebook @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌TheVVVPodcastTikTok @‌jordandnelleYoutube @jordandnelleEmail: [email protected] you loved this Episode, please support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast!Join the Patreon community: patreon.JordanDnelle.comLeave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives!Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already!Follow Jordan D’Nelle on social media for teasers and extras!Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast:Apple PodcastSpotify PodcastYoutube @jordandnelle*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.Website Links:jordandnelle.comVaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Watch or listen on YouTube + all major podcast platforms!What if “good sex” has nothing to do with orgasms?In this episode, Amber, a social behavior research scientist, joins us to explore women’s sexual pleasure and why pleasure has been left out of sexual health conversations. We dive into the science and stigma around STI prevention, the role of communication and self-exploration, and how societal expectations shape our experiences in the bedroom.Amber shares insights from her research and her “Pleasure Class” workshops, unpacking why so many women struggle to identify what they actually want and how to start reclaiming it. From toys and turn-ons to boundaries and body awareness, this conversation challenges what you thought you knew about pleasure.Because great sex isn’t about performance - it’s about connection.Jump to the Good Stuff:03:29 - Why pleasure is missing from sexual health conversations07:55 - Why orgasms don’t equal good sex10:41 - The pressure to perform vs. actually enjoying sex13:07 - Why most women don’t know what they want14:03 - Self-pleasure: the foundation for better partnered sex16:55 - Toys: why what you like solo ≠ what you like with a partner18:31 - How to communicate desires during sex without killing the vibe18:49 - The “pleasure menu” concept35:26 - Why negotiating condoms can sabotage pleasure30:58 - Sexual pleasure as political (especially for Black women)41:08 - Final reflectionsPleasure Highlights:Pleasure has historically been excluded from sexual health, especially for womenGood sex is about the entire experience, not just the orgasmMany women know what they don’t want, but struggle to name what they do wantSelf-exploration is essential for confident communication with partnersPreferences vary widely and can change over timeTrying something once isn’t enough; exploration takes repetitionSolo vs. partnered pleasure can feel completely differentCommunication during sex is a skill and a game changer“Negotiating” needs (like condom use) can disconnect you from pleasureBeing in your head = being out of your body - and your pleasureSexual pleasure is deeply tied to identity, culture, and politicsPleasure extends beyond sex - mental, emotional, and physical well-being all play a roleYou don’t need permission to want pleasure but many people still feel like they doConnect with Dr. Amber Sophus:⁠Instagram⁠ @Dr.AmberSophusEnhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more ⁠HERE⁠. Connect with Jordan D’Nelle:⁠Facebook⁠ @‌jordandnelle ⁠Instagram⁠ @‌jordandnelle ⁠Instagram⁠ @‌TheVVVPodcast⁠TikTok⁠ @‌jordandnelle⁠Youtube⁠ @jordandnelleEmail: [email protected] you loved this Episode, please support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast!Join the Patreon community:⁠ patreon.JordanDnelle.com⁠Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives!Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already!Follow Jordan D’Nelle on social media for teasers and extras!Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast:⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠Spotify Podcasts⁠⁠Youtube @jordandnelle⁠*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.Website Links:⁠jordandnelle.com⁠Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Watch or listen on YouTube + all major podcast platforms!Write your hottest fantasies into existence! In this episode, Carly, creator of Aurore, joins Jordan D’Nelle to explore the power of smart, sexy erotica for women. Carly shares why women often crave erotica over visual porn, how it fuels imagination, celebrates real bodies, and helps expand your personal “sex bucket list.” Together they dive into the power of writing your own erotica, from reliving hot memories and healing past encounters to straight-up manifesting the sex you want. Along the way, they explore how this practice not only boosts creativity and sexual confidence, but also makes communicating your desires feel easier, more natural, and a lot more fun.Jump to the Good Stuff:03:47 – Why Women Love Erotica More Than Porn06:05 – Healing Through Erotica08:20 – Writing & Manifesting Sex Stories12:15 – Plane Hookups, Gym Pick-Ups & DM Sliding Done Right22:41 – Toxic Situationships vs. Clear Communication25:38 – Erotica in the Bedroom33:15 – Solo Pleasure & Slowing Down37:30 – Defining PleasurePleasure Highlights:Erotica is powerful because it’s customizable. You control the fantasy, insert real bodies, and stay fully in your imagination without visual porn’s limitations or insecurities.Writing your own sex stories is both arousing and healing. Relive the good, rewrite the disappointing, and even manifest future encounters.Manifestation through writing works. Jordan’s spicy stories have literally come true; putting desires on paper (or sharing them) gives clear permission and builds consent.Good sex fuels creativity. When you’re having satisfying sex or feeling desired, your creative energy skyrockets.Communication is everything. Whether negotiating desires, setting expectations in dating, or introducing new moves inspired by erotica, be upfront about what you want (and what you don’t).Everyday pleasure matters. Slowing down and eroticizing routine moments (coffee, skincare, walking) deepens overall sexual pleasure and life satisfaction.Real, relatable stories hit hardest. Unrequited desire, yearning, and messy human connections often feel hotter than perfect fairy-tale romance.Supportive partners exist. Men who celebrate your sexual openness and even draw inspiration from your work are out there.Connect with Carly Pifer:Instagram @readauroreSubstack @readauroreEnhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more HERE. Connect with Jordan D’Nelle:Facebook @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌TheVVVPodcastTikTok @‌jordandnelleYoutube @jordandnelleEmail: [email protected] you loved this Episode, please support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast!Join the Patreon community: patreon.JordanDnelle.comLeave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives!Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already!Follow Jordan D’Nelle on social media for teasers and extras!Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast:Apple PodcastsSpotify PodcastsYoutube @jordandnelle*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.Website Links:jordandnelle.comreadaurore.comVaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Discovering Your Pleasure with Hannah, The Libido FairyWatch or listen on YouTube + all major podcast platforms!Struggling with “What do I want in bed?” or feeling like sex has become routine? In this episode of Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, host Jordan D’Nelle and Hannah, The Libido Fairy, drop raw, hilarious truth bombs on reigniting desire and boosting libido in long-term relationships.They reframe sex as adult playtime: ditch porn pressure, embrace sex exploration, and treat new kinks like the floppy first pancake - try anything twice for real calibration.Listen for practical, shame-free tools for better communication, boundaries, and erotic connection.Jump to the Good Stuff:00:00 – Intro & Meet The Libido Fairy04:24 – Sex as Adult Playtime06:24 – The Floppy Pancake Rule: Try Anything Twice09:55 – Tuning Into Your Body’s Yes/No13:05 – The Likes + Limits Checklist Magic14:37 – Navigating Mismatched Desires18:59 – King & Queen Nights23:29 – Daily Rituals for Lasting Connection43:45 – What Hannah’s Exploring Now45:46 – Defining PleasurePleasure Highlights:​Treat sex like pancakes: Try things, notice your body’s yes/no signals (tingling, squirmy), and try anything twice—first try is just calibration.​Embrace playful exploration: Separate maintenance sex from no-pressure sex exploration sessions—fail, experiment, build desire in long-term relationships.​Use Hannah’s free Likes + Limits Checklist (500+ items) to map desires, find overlaps, and avoid resentment.​Unlock King/Queen Nights for focused pleasure, plus daily 6-second kisses and eye contact for sustained heat.​Pleasure = anything that brings you more alive: sustainable joy through communication, boundaries, and prioritizing your relationship.Connect with Hannah :​Instagram @thelibidofairy​TikTok @thelibidofairy​Facebook @thelibidofairy​YouTube @thelibidofairy​Podcast: The Libido FairyEnhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more ⁠HERE⁠. Connect with Jordan D’Nelle:​Facebook @‌jordandnelle ​Instagram @‌jordandnelle ​Instagram @‌TheVVVPodcast​TikTok @‌jordandnelle​Youtube @jordandnelleEmail: [email protected] you loved this Episode, please support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast!​Join the Patreon community: patreon.JordanDnelle.com​Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives!​Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already!​Follow Jordan D’Nelle on social media for teasers and extras!Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast:Apple PodcastsSpotify PodcastsYoutube @jordandnelle*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.Website Links:​Jordan D’Nelle⁠⁠​⁠⁠Hannah’s Likes and Limits Checklist (Menu)⁠⁠ ​⁠⁠The Libido Fairy Webite⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.thelibidofairy.com/⁠⁠ ​⁠⁠The Relationship Ritual Guide⁠⁠ - includes the King and Queen Night resourceVaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

The Pleasure Evolution with Kim AirsWatch or listen on YouTube + all major podcast platforms!We're back baby!! And we’re kicking things off with an absolute legend: Kim Airs, the trailblazing sex toy pioneer who ditched her Harvard job in 1993 to open one of the first women-friendly sex shops and has been myth-busting, innovating, and celebrating pleasure ever since.In this juicy return episode, Kim spills the wild history of sex toys – from bathtub-caulk dildos to today's mind-blowing robot strokers and app-controlled vibes – while sharing hands-free orgasm secrets, breathwork magic, lazy toy-cleaning hacks, and why really letting go unlocks next-level fun.Jump to the Good Stuff: 02:40 – Welcome back after 19 months! Introducing legend Kim Airs03:30 – From boring marriage to smut hound: Kim’s wild origin story04:30 – Writing for On Our Backs & the spark to open Grand Opening!05:48 – Quitting Harvard to sell “rubber dicks to girls”11:28 – The surprising bathtub-caulk origin of silicone dildos15:15 – Busting the silicone lube on silicone dildo myth - test it overnight!16:48 – Lazy cleaning hacks: Baby wipes & why most “toy cleaners” are overkill20:18 – Evolution of toys: From jelly rubber to app-controlled & discreet designs23:05 – Penis pleasure explosion: Robot strokers, spinning, thrusting & beyond Fleshlight27:00 – Sex dolls & AI companions - fascinating or concerning?39:03 – Hands-free orgasms: Kim’s fMRI-proven breath & energy magic41:32 – Letting go = animal-level pleasure - scream, grab sheets!44:34 – Beginner tips: Pick what visually turns you on + check measurements48:42 – Final thoughts + where to find KimPleasure Highlights:Silicone's surprising origin: Bathtub caulk saved a marriage!Busting myths: Silicone lube + silicone toys? Test it—it's usually fine now.Hands-free Os are real (and learnable via breath/energy work).Modern penis toys are exploding—way beyond Fleshlight.Let go of control for animal-level pleasure (scream, grab sheets—it's hot!).Connect with Kim Airs:Instagram: @KimAirsTikTok: @TheKimAirsFacebook: @Kim.AirsPodcast: SexChat with Kim AirsCameo:  @Naughty GrandmaEnhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more HERE. Connect with Jordan D’Nelle:Facebook @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌jordandnelle Instagram @‌TheVVVPodcastTikTok @‌jordandnelleYoutube @jordandnelleEmail: [email protected] you loved this Episode, please support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast!Join the Patreon community: patreon.JordanDnelle.comLeave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives!Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already!Follow Jordan D’Nelle on social media for teasers and extras!Listen and Subscribe to the Podcast:Apple PodcastsSpotify PodcastsYoutube @jordandnelleWebsite Links:jordandnelle.comKim Airs LinkTreehttps://grandopening.com/ SEXchat with Kim Aires | Spotify Podcasts*Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views and opinions expressed are my own, or those of my guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of any organizations or institutions with which I am affiliated.Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators, the unapologetic women’s sexual wellness podcast, normalizing pleasure, bodies, and sexual health through expert, shame-free conversations.

Humans have a deep need for connection, and emotional intimacy fulfills this by allowing us to truly be seen by others. In this episode, Jodie Milton joins us to explore emotional intimacy and its impact on partnered relationships. We discuss practical ways to cultivate intimacy, address common barriers, and discuss the importance of nurturing these connections in friendships. Jodie also shares valuable advice for men on building emotional intelligence, helping listeners strengthen their ability to connect deeply and authentically with others. You can find Jodie Milton on Instagram and Facebook @practicalintimacy. Enhance your self-awareness by acknowledging and understanding your behavior patterns, and foster a deeper connection with your inner self. Get the Unleashing My Power: A Women's Empowerment and Gratitude Journal to reclaim your personal power through the practice of daily gratitude and reflection. Learn more HERE. Follow Jordan D'Nelle on Facebook and Instagram @jordandnelle and @TheVVVPodcast. Email: [email protected] Support the Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators podcast! Join the Patreon community: patreon.JordanDnelle.com Leave an honest review on iTunes. Your ratings and reviews help this podcast impact more lives! Subscribe to Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators on iTunes if you haven't already! *Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and/or entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. jordandnelle.com practicalintimacy.com Free intimacy quiz: https://practicalintimacy.com/intimacy-quiz-for-couples/ Online intimacy course for couples: https://practicalintimacy.com/online-connection-intimacy-course-for-couples