241 Attachment Wounds: When You Can't Work it out in the Moment

Attachment Wounds: OCD, Projection, Managing Dysregulation   Patricia candidly discusses her experiences with attachment wounds, OCD tendencies, projection and trauma responses with Jen, and how this is showing up in their relationship. Patricia shares what her OCD thoughts tend to look like. Through introspection and vulnerability, Patricia reflects on the impact of past traumas on her emotional well-being. Their dialogue underscores the importance of self-awareness, self-care, and resilience in healing from attachment-related struggles.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their current emotional states and the challenges they are facing. Patricia shares her struggles with attachment wounds, OCD, and trauma triggers, while Jen offers support and understanding. They explore the concept of projection and how it affects their interactions. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and creating space for emotions. Overall, the conversation highlights the complexities of relationships and the need for compassion and empathy. Takeaways: Understanding trauma responses and emotional regulation techniques. Exploring the impact of OCD on thought patterns and relationships. Navigating attachment wounds and their influence on behavior. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness in healing from past traumas. Addressing vulnerability and sensitivity in processing emotional challenges. Learning to set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships. Embracing authenticity and openness in communication. Coping with uncertainty and distress through emotional expression. Building resilience through self-reflection and self-compassion. Exploring the connection between somatic experiences and emotional well-being. Challenging cognitive distortions and negative self-talk. Cultivating empathy and understanding in interpersonal dynamics. Validating the full range of human emotions and experiences. Practicing mindfulness and conscious decision-making in relationships. Recognizing the role of shame and inner criticism in self-perception. Naming and addressing personal "gremlins" and self-doubt. Modeling emotional authenticity and self-care for others. Finding language for complex emotions and internal struggles. Embracing vulnerability as a pathway to healing and growth. Expressing gratitude for support and shared experiences in the journey towards emotional well-being. Understanding trauma responses and emotional regulation techniques. Exploring the impact of OCD on thought patterns and relationships. Navigating attachment wounds and their influence on behavior. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness in healing from past traumas. Addressing vulnerability and sensitivity in processing emotional challenges. Learning to set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships. Embracing authenticity and openness in communication. Coping with uncertainty and distress through emotional expression. Building resilience through self-reflection and self-compassion. Exploring the connection between somatic experiences and emotional well-being. Challenging cognitive distortions and negative self-talk. Cultivating empathy and understanding in interpersonal dynamics. Validating the full range of human emotions and experiences. Practicing mindfulness and conscious decision-making in relationships. Recognizing the role of shame and inner criticism in self-perception. Naming and addressing personal "gremlins" and self-doubt. Modeling emotional authenticity and self-care for others. Finding language for complex emotions and internal struggles. Embracing vulnerability as a pathway to healing and growth. Expressing gratitude for support and shared experiences in the journey towards emotional well-being. Chapters (please allow for addition of introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Emotional States 09:01 Exploring Attachment Wounds and Trauma Triggers 30:00 Building Stronger Relationships through Compassion and Empathy PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen’s Links   Email: [email protected]   Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia’s Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Attachment Wounds: A Follow Up Conversation   Jen and Patricia reflect on their recent challenge (see episode 241), and they discuss the importance of taking responsibility for their own needs and emotions. They explore the impact of attachment wounds and the challenges of navigating relationships. They talk about what trauma and reenactment looks like in a relationship. They also discuss the need for self-care and the importance of managing expectations. This is a very vulnerable and open conversation.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their recent experiences and the impact it had on their relationship. They explore the challenges of change and disruption, the importance of naming and validating emotions, and the process of healing from past trauma. They also touch on the dynamics of their friendship and the need for autonomy and understanding. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of holding space for each other and navigating through difficult emotions with patience and curiosity. In this conversation. Takeaways ·         Change and disruption can be challenging. ·         Naming and validating emotions is powerful and can help in moving forward. ·         Healing from past trauma requires self-awareness and taking responsibility for one's own healing process. ·         Navigating difficult emotions in relationships requires patience, understanding, and the ability to hold space for each other. Taking responsibility for our own needs and emotions is essential in relationships. ·         Attachment wounds can impact our expectations and behaviors in relationships. ·         Self-care and managing expectations are important for maintaining healthy relationships. ·         Open and honest communication can lead to growth and healing. Sound Bites ·         "Change and disruption are difficult for me" ·         "Letting it be okay to say it's annoying" ·         "The power of naming things and how validating it is" ·         "It's the openheartedness really." ·         "Adulthood in many ways is a myth except for taxes and stuff." Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction) 00:00 Introduction and Frustrations 08:03 Reenactment and Taking Responsibility 25:49 Openheartedness and Taking Responsibility 34:00 Accepting Unmet Needs 40:39 Managing Expectations PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen’s Links   Email: [email protected]   Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia’s Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Attachment Wounds: When You Can’t Work It Out In The Moment   Patricia reflects on her attachment wounds & something that happened with Jen. She emphasizes that the issue was not a rupture in her relationship, but rather her own trauma and wounding. She reassures listeners that they are doing fine & have navigated the situation with honesty & grace. Patricia also touches on the importance of doing personal work & finding others who are also committed to growth. She encourages listeners to embrace their sensitivity & prioritize their own needs and boundaries.   HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways ·         Attachment wounds can surface unexpectedly and it's important to seek consent before sharing personal experiences. ·         Healing from trauma and wounding requires individual work and support from others who are also committed to growth. ·         Embracing sensitivity means honoring one's own needs and setting boundaries. ·         Challenges in relationships are normal and can be navigated with honesty and grace. ·         Validation and reassurance are important in maintaining a sense of safety and regulation. PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Navigating Grief, Uncertainty & Travel Through the Lens of Attachment Patricia and Jen discuss navigating uncertainty and overwhelm, managing change and unexpected situations, balancing personal needs, the power of communication and validation, finding meaning and value in relationships, coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking, choosing to assume the best, managing energy and boundaries, secure attachment and autonomy, dealing with uncertainty and seeking information, taking care of yourself in travel. They also reflect on their friendship   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary Patricia and Jen discuss various topics including body image, grief, historical trauma, emotional support, communication, and family dynamics. Patricia shares her personal experiences and emotions surrounding her son leaving for boot camp, which triggers both current and historical grief. They explore the importance of emotional attunement and the impact of different processing styles on relationships. The conversation highlights the need for compassion, understanding, and open communication in navigating intense emotions and supporting one another. Takeaways ·         Body image concerns can impact self-perception and emotional well-being. ·         Grief can be triggered by current events and activate historical trauma. ·         Emotional support and attunement are crucial in navigating intense emotions. ·         Open communication and understanding of different processing styles can strengthen relationships. Navigating uncertainty and overwhelm can be challenging, but finding ways to manage change and unexpected situations can help. ·         Balancing personal needs and family expectations is important for maintaining well-being. ·         Effective communication and validation can strengthen relationships and provide support during difficult times. ·         Coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking requires self-awareness and the ability to assume the best in uncertain situations. ·         Taking care of oneself and setting boundaries is crucial for managing energy and maintaining emotional well-being. ·         Seeking information and being proactive can help reduce uncertainty and increase feelings of security. ·         Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy. ·         Taking care of oneself during travel, such as having snacks and staying hydrated, can help manage stress and anxiety. ·         Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy. ·         Reflecting on friendship and growth can bring appreciation and gratitude for the journey. Additional topics discussed: Exploring the complexities of loss, grief, and change in personal experiences. Normalizing and validating diverse ways of coping with sadness and challenges. Reflecting on the interplay between present circumstances and past narratives. Nurturing compassion and gentleness in relationships to facilitate healing. Recognizing the value of secure attachments in both personal and life contexts. Strategies for dealing with uncertainty and finding resources for support. Cultivating wisdom in distinguishing between controllable and uncontrollable aspects of life. The power of communication in addressing needs within relationships. Overcoming codependency and setting healthy boundaries in interactions. Embracing vulnerability and authenticity in sharing personal experiences. Balancing self-expression with consideration for others in relationships. Addressing feelings of inadequacy and the need for self-affirmation. Seeking empowerment through information and planning in uncertain situations. Building resilience through shared experiences and mutual support. Fostering a sense of autonomy and self-assurance amidst societal pressures. Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction) 00:00 Introduction and Checking In 00:28 Body Image and Self-Perception 07:09 Intense Grief and Emotional Support 08:02 Communication and Emotional Boundaries 12:09 Processing Grief and Emotional Reactions 14:58 Capacity for Emotional Support 20:06 Last Moments and Emotional Vulnerability 21:05 Navigating Uncertainty and Overwhelm 22:01 Managing Change and Unexpected Situations 23:24 Balancing Personal Needs and Family Expectations 25:17 The Power of Communication and Validation 26:15 Finding Meaning and Value in Relationships 27:09 Coping with Anxiety and Catastrophic Thinking 28:03 Choosing to Assume the Best 29:00 Managing Energy and Boundaries 29:26 Secure Attachment and Autonomy 30:18 Dealing with Uncertainty and Seeking Information 32:35 Taking Care of Yourself in Travel 38:33 Finding Security in Relationships and Life 40:18 Reflecting on Friendship and Growth PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen’s Links   Email: [email protected]   Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia’s Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Being “Too Much” is a Narrative that needs to be Re-examined   Summary   Patricia discusses the wound of too much and how it can impact relationships. Too much is about BOTH people and the capacity of the other person. This is a narrative that needs to be reexamined, and the context of both people needs to be addressed. She explores the intersection of neurodivergence, trauma, and socialization. Patricia also explores the concept of rules, and how through an autistic lens, this can create some challenges.   HIGHLIGHTS   Takeaways The wound of feeling like you're too much can stem from trauma and socialization of neurotypical norms. Understanding and respecting one's own capacity and the capacity of others is crucial in communication. Navigating relationships as a neurodivergent individual requires open and honest conversations. Embracing sensitivity and accepting oneself is essential for personal well-being. Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction) Points made in this episode: Exploring the concept of the "wound of too much" in relationships and self-perception. Addressing the impact of past traumas and relationship experiences on feeling "too much." Discussing the importance of understanding and respecting personal and others' capacities. Emphasizing the need for setting healthy boundaries to overcome the "wound of too much." Highlighting the dynamics of communication and capacity in relationships. Encouraging empathy and consideration for others' limits in interactions. Recognizing the interconnectedness of personal wounds of "too much" and "not enough." Offering strategies for balancing enthusiasm and respecting others' capacities. Challenging the narrative that focuses solely on one person being "too much." Advocating for a shift towards understanding and honoring both individuals' capacities. Discussing the challenges faced in relationships between neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals. Providing insights on communication, boundaries, and self-awareness in relationships. Emphasizing the importance of mutual understanding and communication in addressing capacity issues. Exploring the nuances of being perceived as "too much" and the impact on self-esteem. Encouraging self-acceptance, setting boundaries, and fostering healthy connections. 00:00 Introduction and Setting the Topic 01:36 The Wound of Too Much 06:21 PDA Profile and Autonomy 07:52 Socialization and Autistic Females 10:16 Stimming and Accommodations 11:34 Navigating Communication and Social Cues 13:17 The Fear of Being Too Much 14:07 The Influence of Others' Opinions 18:22 Shifting the Narrative: Capacity of Both Parties 20:11 Navigating Relationships with Limited Insight 21:10 Personal Examples and Communication 23:35 Finding Balance in Showing Interest 24:05 Conclusion and Encouragement PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Learning to Trust Yourself and Finding Peace in Your Own Rhythm   Patricia discusses her experience when her husband is away. She shares her journey of managing attachment wounds, and the challenges of household responsibilities. Patricia also explores the impact of autistic burnout and ADHD on her ability to stay on top of things. She emphasizes the importance of honoring autonomy and considering others while maintaining a sense of self. Patricia concludes by encouraging listeners to trust themselves and find comfort in their own needs and wiring.   HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways   Learning to trust yourself and find peace in your own rhythm. Managing attachment wounds and fear of being alone. Balancing household responsibilities and find ways to stay on top of things. Honoring autonomy and consider others while maintaining a sense of self.   Additional takeaways: Recognize the evolution of coping strategies over the years. Understand the impact of attachment wounds on relationships. Explore ways to manage feelings of fear and insecurity. Discover the importance of staying connected during separations. Learn how to anchor oneself to a support system. Reflect on the challenges of maintaining responsibilities solo. Identify the role of communication in long-distance relationships. Explore personal growth through periods of solitude. Acknowledge the significance of self-care during partner's absence. Reflect on the journey of building trust and resilience. Consider the balance between independence and interdependence. Explore strategies for regulating emotions during separations. Understand the dynamics of individual growth within a relationship. Reflect on personal boundaries and self-compassion. Discover the power of vulnerability in relationships. Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Background 00:56 Attachment Wounds and Fear of Being Alone 03:04 Trusting the Process 04:24 Autistic Burnout and ADHD 05:19 Autonomy and Consideration of Others 06:47 Guilt and Honoring Autonomy 07:36 Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) 09:13 Taking Care of Pets 11:08 Autonomy and Space in Relationships 13:03 Trusting Yourself and Letting Go of Tension 16:29 Transitioning and Adjusting 22:30 Processing and Communication 24:43 Non-Traditional Relationships and Balance 26:09 Trusting Yourself and Finding Peace 28:47 Honoring Your Needs and Wired PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships   Patricia and Jen discuss the challenges of unmasking and being authentic in relationships including the role of PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). They explore the narratives we have about ourselves and how they can impact our interactions with others. They also delve into the differences in communication styles and perspectives, and the importance of embracing who we are. The conversation highlights the need to navigate personal dynamics and self-reflection in order to foster understanding and growth.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Takeaways   ·         Unmasking involves recognizing and embracing our authentic selves, even if it brings up discomfort or challenges in relationships. ·         Differences in communication styles and perspectives can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, but it's important to approach these differences with curiosity and compassion. ·         Challenging the narratives we have about ourselves and others can help us break free from limiting beliefs and foster healthier relationships. ·         Navigating personal dynamics requires open communication, self-reflection, and a willingness to honor our own needs while respecting the autonomy of others. More about unmasking Unmasking involves revealing one's authentic self and needs in relationships. It can bring up feelings of selfishness or discomfort when prioritizing personal authenticity. The author discusses the challenge of balancing personal needs with making others feel comfortable. Self-awareness plays a role in navigating the discomfort that may arise from unmasking. The author highlights the importance of authenticity in fostering genuine connections in relationships. Embracing one's true self involves acknowledging and communicating personal preferences and boundaries.   Chapters (please adjust time for the addition of the introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage 08:03 Unmasking and Authenticity 12:05 Differences in Perspectives and Communication Styles 26:13 Struggles with Identity and Unmasking 30:05 Levels of Experience and Narrative 35:26 Navigating Personal Dynamics and Self-Reflection 36:06 Closing Remarks PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen’s Links   Email: [email protected]   Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia’s Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Exploring Neurodivergence in Relationships: Understanding Unique Perspectives In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their struggles with linear content and their values of focusing on relational topics. They explore the challenges of staying true to their authentic selves while creating content. The conversation also delves into the dynamics of their relationship and the growth they have experienced in building trust and security, and things they sometimes find difficult to discuss.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS   Takeaways   Staying true to your authentic self is important when creating content. Building trust and security in relationships takes time and vulnerability. The value of a podcast is not solely determined by download numbers. Interdependence allows for mutual support and growth in relationships.   Understanding the importance of emotional vulnerability. Exploring newfound perspectives and insights. Recognizing and embracing feelings of exposure. Reflecting on personal trauma and its impact on self-awareness. Acknowledging the significance of maintaining authenticity in self-expression. Navigating the balance between showcasing autism identity and personal growth. Exploring the process of redefining podcast branding and content focus. Embracing the journey of self-discovery and acceptance. Recognizing the value of open-hearted communication. Reflecting on personal growth and aspirations for authenticity in content creation. Discussing the impact of external validation on podcast metrics and audience engagement. Emphasizing the importance of sharing valuable content. Reflecting on personal struggles with content creation and self-expression. Recognizing the significance of relational content in podcast episodes. Embracing the challenges and rewards of discussing personal relationships openly. Exploring the impact of neurodivergence on relational dynamics and communication. Navigating shifts in podcast content focus and listener engagement. Reflecting on the journey of self-acceptance and authenticity. Embracing the diversity of perspectives and experiences in relationships. Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage 02:44 Struggles with Linear Content and Personal Experience 08:04 Shifting Focus to Relational Content 13:26 Building Trust and Security in the Relationship 21:18 Navigating Attachment Insecurities 25:24 Interdependence and Holding Space for Each Other 28:08 Communication and Vulnerability in the Relationship 31:20 Planning Visits and Considering Context 34:08 Conclusion and Gratitude PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen’s Links   Email: [email protected]   Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia’s Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

Red & Green Flags in Relationships   Patricia discusses red flags and ideal qualities in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of honoring rhythms and self-care, as well as effective communication and conflict resolution. Patricia also addresses gaslighting, setting boundaries, and the significance of trust, honesty, and similar values in a relationship. She explores the impact of political differences and attachment wounds on a partnership. The episode concludes with a reminder to embrace sensitivity and prioritize self-care.   HIGHLIGHTS   Takeaways   Honor your rhythms and practice self-care in relationships. Pay attention to red flags such as controlling behavior, lack of respect, and constant fighting. Look for qualities like kindness, respect, trust, and effective communication in a partner. Set boundaries and be aware of gaslighting in relationships. Consider the impact of political differences and attachment wounds on a partnership. Spend quality time together and ensure compatibility with each other's friends.   Red Flags: Lack of respect and kindness towards service providers Moving too quickly in the relationship without respecting boundaries Negative and derogatory descriptions of past relationships and partners Jealousy and controlling behavior Attempting to change or control the other person’s appearance and behavior Putting the other person down, even in a teasing manner Inability to provide comfort and support during difficult times Not being responsive or available when the other person asks for support or help Constantly pushing boundaries without respecting the other person’s limits Constant fighting or high emotional conflicts Lack of active listening and attunement to the other person’s needs Disrespect towards others and themselves Lack of emotional awareness and intelligence Poor communication skills and inability or unwillingness to engage in difficult conversations  Green Flags Good communication skills (or willing to improve them) Mutual trust and respect. Supporting each other’s goals even if it brings up feelings for you You can have fun together. Demonstrating empathy and tenderness during difficult times Being willing to pitch in and help when it is needed without needing to be asked (or having a willing spirit). You can be independent and enjoy your own friends and interests. There is interdependence: you need each other and can depend on the other person. You make decisions together and consider both people and how they will be affected. Conflict isn’t seen as threatening or dangerous. You value rupture and repair and know it’s part of any healthy relationship. You both can compromise and consider the other person’s needs/feelings without sacrificing or giving in You can count on the other person to show up or do what they say will do. There is a sense of equality and both people matter. There is reciprocity (financial, emotional, respect, compromise). The other person “gets” you, or tries to understand when they don’t. Having similar values and goals, despite political differences. Ability to work through differences and agree to disagree. Being reliable and having a group-minded approach. Showing kindness, generosity, and emotional attunement. Respecting boundaries and moving at a comfortable pace in the relationship. Treating service industry workers with respect and kindness. Providing comfort, support, and responsiveness during challenging times. Demonstrating high emotional awareness, intelligence, and effective communication. Chapters (please allow for addition of introduction) 00:00 Introduction and Update 01:03 The Importance of Honoring Rhythms and Self-Care 04:00 Qualities to Look for in a Relationship 06:05 Communication and Conflict Resolution 09:33 Gaslighting and Boundaries 13:38 Equality, Support, and Independence 16:09 Trust, Honesty, and Similar Values 18:24 Attachment Wounds and Conflict Resolution 21:44 Spending Quality Time and Friend Compatibility 22:28 Conclusion   PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you LINKS   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Navigating Miscommunication and Misunderstanding   Jen helps me process through a communication blip I had with my son. My husband & I have very different styles when talking to our boys, & I felt inadequate, and I sometimes struggle to attune. We talk about context when communicating, projection, who is a safe person to get angry at, & I talk about my own reactivity and confusion at my reaction. Jen reminds me that my family sticks with hard conversations. We also talk about having neuro-normative standards, & how that constantly leads to disappointment.   CO-HOST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC   HIGHLIGHTS Summary   In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their experiences with burnout and the importance of leaning into rest. They explore the challenges of pushing boundaries, asking for what you want, and allowing others to say no. They also discuss the impact of neuro-normative standards and the power of dropping expectations and starting from zero. The conversation delves into the dynamics of communication within families and the difficulties of attuning to different perspectives. They emphasize the importance of staying connected and working through bumps in relationships, while also acknowledging the need for space and the reality of being imperfect humans. The conversation concludes with a reminder to have grace and humility in relationships and to express love and appreciation for one another.   Takeaways   Leaning into rest and embracing the new norm during burnout can be a powerful tool for recovery. Recognizing and respecting boundaries, both for oneself and others, is essential for maintaining healthy relationships. Challenging neuro-normative standards and embracing individual differences can lead to greater understanding and acceptance. Taking space and allowing for imperfection in relationships can foster growth, connection, and grace.   Additional points discussed: Challenges in attuning to one's child compared to a spouse. Contextual factors influencing communication breakdowns. Impact of burnout on family dynamics. Struggles of young adults balancing independence and parental support. Importance of preparation in family communication. Patterns of miscommunication and receptivity. Emotional release and support in times of conflict. Feeling disempowered in communication dynamics. Need for open dialogue and understanding in relationships. Misinterpretation of messages leading to conflict. Defensive reactions in communication breakdowns. Family dynamics during conflict resolution. Neurodivergence and emotional dysregulation. Rupture and repair work in relationships. Acceptance of human imperfections in communication. Parenting challenges and self-awareness. Generational differences in perspectives on communication. Emotional availability and its impact on relationships. Perfectionism and its hindrance to authentic communication. Importance of self-care and emotional readiness in conflict resolution.   Chapters (please adjust time for addition of introduction)   00:00 Introduction and Checking In 00:48 Coming Out of Burnout and Leaning Into Rest 02:06 Pushing Boundaries and Asking for What You Want 03:27 Navigating Setbacks and Embracing Patience 04:02 Valuing Autonomy and Allowing Others to Say No 05:22 Challenging Neuro-Normative Standards 06:05 Dropping Expectations and Starting from Zero 07:19 Powering Down and Restoring the Brain 08:26 Communication Challenges with Children 09:17 Recognizing Different Perspectives and Values 11:21 Navigating Family Dynamics and Emotional Activation 14:10 Miscommunication and Misunderstandings 15:41 The Impact of Words and Different Perspectives 18:08 Feeling Inadequate and Wounded 19:20 Staying Connected and Working Through Bumps 22:24 Empathic Communication and Paving the Way 25:01 Taking Space and Being Imperfect Humans 26:27 Staying in Relationship Through Messiness 30:20 Having Grace and Humility in Relationships 32:01 Accepting Imperfection and Being Present 35:15 Wrapping Up and Expressing Love PODCAST HOST Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller.  Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion.  She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges.  Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you   CO-HOST BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.   LINKS   Jen’s Links   Email: [email protected]   Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/   Patricia’s Links   Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/   Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6   Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “listen on Apple Podcasts” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Closed/Private Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv e-mail-- [email protected] Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com