#47 - The Negatives of Wedding Planning! Perfectionism, People Pleasing, Financing & so much more...

Sometimes Wedding Planning can really take a toll on you but you never hear anyone else talk about it. This episode is all about our experience with Perfectionism while planning our Wedding. We talk about how to have the best day possible whilst realising it could never be our dream day due to finncial constraints. Plus what about People Pleasing. Who are we trying to impress with our Weddings? There is always some aspect of wanting to impress your friends and family so we dive into how we managed that during our wedding planning process. I hope this is a super helpful episode and can help you start a conversation with your partner to put the right practices in place a long time before your Wedding Day! If you enjoyed this episode please consider sharing this episode with friends or family members who you think would also enjoy it! Another way you can support our show is by leaving a rating or review on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This really helps us get our show out to a new audience of people planning their wedding just like yourself! Be sure to follow us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@tobewed_ podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all the inside Goss, extra tips and tricks and to vote on what episode you think we should do next. We would like to pay our respects to the Darug People whose land on which this podcast is recorded. We acknowledge that their custodianship of this land was never ceded and we pay our respects to Elders past and present of the Darug Nation.

On this weeks episode we open a can of worms and discuss having children at your wedding. We dive into the challenges of having kids at your wedding and some things to consider if you are having kids at your wedding. If you are on the fence about having kids at your wedding , definitely want kids at you wedding or don't want kids at your wedding at all- then this is the episode for you!  If you enjoyed this episode please consider sharing this episode with friends or family members who you think would also enjoy it! Another way you can support our show is by leaving a rating or review on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This really helps us get our show out to a new audience of people planning their wedding just like yourself! Be sure to follow us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@tobewed_ podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all the inside Goss, extra tips and tricks and to vote on what episode you think we should do next. We would like to pay our respects to the Darug People whose land on which this podcast is recorded. We acknowledge that their custodianship of this land was never ceded and we pay our respects to Elders past and present of the Darug Nation.

This short and sharp episode is all about how to create the best atmosphere for the Dancefloor at your Wedding. From what songs to play, how to arrange the room and even the perfect length of time. We go through everything we learned from our Wedding Dancefloor and tips we have seen from other peoples Weddings. Plus we give you a list of things to avoid that could make your Wedding Dancefloor flop! Hope you guys love this one :) If you enjoyed this episode please consider sharing this episode with friends or family members who you think would also enjoy it! Another way you can support our show is by leaving a rating or review on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠. This really helps us get our show out to a new audience of people planning their wedding just like yourself! Be sure to follow us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠@tobewed_ podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠ for all the inside Goss, extra tips and tricks and to vote on what episode you think we should do next. We would like to pay our respects to the Darug People whose land on which this podcast is recorded. We acknowledge that their custodianship of this land was never ceded and we pay our respects to Elders past and present of the Darug Nation.

This week we expose the hidden side of Pinterest & Instagram's impact on Weddings, specifically how they promote fake wedding photos and distort the expectations of newly-engaged couples. Have you ever heard of Styled Shoots? They are elaborately planned and carefully orchestrated 'Fake Weddings' run by industry professionals designed to capture awe-inspiring wedding imagery. Well we recently created our own Styled Photoshoot and thought this was a great chance to discuss the pros & cons of such a Photoshoot. Like we love the opportunity for couples to express their creativity, discover unique ideas, and collaborate with talented professionals. However, we also fear the potential for heightened expectations, the pressure to replicate the styled look in real-life weddings, and the risk of losing sight of authenticity when almost all the photos on Pinterest these days use models and not a real couples. We finish off the episode with some practical advice on navigating Pinterest's influence, managing expectations, and embracing the uniqueness of each couple's love story. By shedding light on the Pinterest paradox, we hope to empower couples to prioritise their happiness and authenticity over unattainable perfection. So join us as we dive into the world of picture-perfect Wedding Photos/Make-up and the detrimental effects they can have on your expectations. If you enjoyed this episode please consider sharing this episode with friends or family members who you think would also enjoy it! Another way you can support our show is by leaving a rating or review on ⁠⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠. This really helps us get our show out to a new audience of people planning their wedding just like yourself! Be sure to follow us on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠@tobewed_ podcast⁠⁠⁠ for all the inside Goss, extra tips and tricks and to vote on what episode you think we should do next. We would like to pay our respects to the Darug People whose land on which this podcast is recorded. We acknowledge that their custodianship of this land was never ceded and we pay our respects to Elders past and present of the Darug Nation.

This week we explore the ups and downs of needing a spark when dating. On one hand, that initial attraction and chemistry can be incredibly exciting and lead to a powerful connection with someone. It can create a sense of excitement and anticipation that keeps the relationship fresh and interesting. However, relying solely on a spark can also be problematic. It can lead to dismissing potential partners who may not initially light that fire, but who could be wonderful matches in the long run. Join us as we dive into the pros and cons of needing a spark when dating, and explore strategies for finding balance and building meaningful relationships. Whether you're single and searching, or in a committed relationship, this episode will provide valuable insights into the role of attraction in finding and maintaining love. In addition to discussing the initial spark in dating, we'll also dive into ways to keep that spark alive during a relationship. It's common for the excitement and intensity of a new relationship to fade over time, but there are strategies that can help maintain that connection. We'll explore the importance of communication, both in expressing appreciation and addressing challenges. We'll also talk about ways to keep the romance and intimacy alive, such as date nights and trying new activities together. Join us as we discuss practical tips for reigniting the flame and creating a lasting, fulfilling relationship. If you enjoyed this episode please consider sharing this episode with friends or family members who you think would also enjoy it! Another way you can support our show is by leaving a rating or review on ⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠. This really helps us get our show out to a new audience of people planning their wedding just like yourself! Be sure to follow us on Instagram ⁠⁠@tobewed_ podcast⁠⁠ for all the inside Goss, extra tips and tricks and to vote on what episode you think we should do next. We would like to pay our respects to the Darug People whose land on which this podcast is recorded. We acknowledge that their custodianship of this land was never ceded and we pay our respects to Elders past and present of the Darug Nation.

Spoiler: It was the one thing that didn't go so well with our Wedding... On this week's episode we tell the story that we have been gatekeeping about our wedding. We discuss our Wedding Photographer. What we loved, what we didn't and what we could have done better. From finding your Wedding Photographer to getting your photos back, we let you in on some of the lessons we learnt and what we would do differently.  If you enjoyed this episode please consider sharing this episode with friends or family members who you think would also enjoy it! Another way you can support our show is by leaving a rating or review on ⁠⁠Spotify⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠. This really helps us get our show out to a new audience of people planning their wedding just like yourself! Be sure to follow us on Instagram ⁠⁠@tobewed_ podcast⁠⁠ for all the inside Goss, extra tips and tricks and to vote on what episode you think we should do next. We would like to pay our respects to the Darug People whose land on which this podcast is recorded. We acknowledge that their custodianship of this land was never ceded and we pay our respects to Elders past and present of the Darug Nation.

Wedding Planners, Wedding Day of Coordinators, Venue Coordinators - What's the difference and do you need one for your Wedding? Hint, the answer is yes but maybe you can just give this job to a friend or family member. In this episode we are going through the roles and responsibilities of a Wedding Day Coordinator and help you decide whether you need to hire a specific vendor to do the job or if you can just ask a friend. There are so many things to consider with this and like most things we talk about, if you haven't planned a wedding day before it is so hard to know what it all means. This is the type of episode we wish we had of listened to before we got married because trust me there are a few big things we would change to make our day less stressful! We also talk about Wedding Proposals in this episode and give our take on whether proposals are going to far and becoming more about the spectacle than the couple themselves! If you enjoyed this episode please consider sharing this episode with friends or family members who you think would also enjoy it! Another way you can support our show is by leaving a rating or review on ⁠Spotify⁠ or ⁠Apple Podcasts⁠. This really helps us get our show out to a new audience of people planning their wedding just like yourself! Be sure to follow us on Instagram ⁠@tobewed_ podcast⁠ for all the inside Goss, extra tips and tricks and to vote on what episode you think we should do next. We would like to pay our respects to the Darug People whose land on which this podcast is recorded. We acknowledge that their custodianship of this land was never ceded and we pay our respects to Elders past and present of the Darug Nation.

Mike interviews Emily about her New Career move into Make-up Artistry. Emily worked as a Make-up Artist at her first ever Wedding over the past weekend and we speak about that experience and what her plans are into the future. We talk about how she got into make-up as well as how she is starting her business in 2023. Emily is undertaking professional training for make-up so we dive into the Pros and Cons of learning a creative skill in a classroom verses online through YouTube videos and tutorials. We hope you guys love this interview style of episode and that it's a great insight for anyone wanting to start a business in the Wedding Industry! Follow Emily's Make-Up journey on Instagram @emilyjeffrey_makeup If you enjoyed this episode please consider sharing this episode with friends or family members who you think would also enjoy it! Another way you can support our show is by leaving a rating or review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. This really helps us get our show out to a new audience of people planning their wedding just like yourself! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @tobewed_ podcast for all the inside Goss, extra tips and tricks and to vote on what episode you think we should do next. We would like to pay our respects to the Darug People whose land on which this podcast is recorded. We acknowledge that their custodianship of this land was never ceded and we pay our respects to Elders past and present of the Darug Nation.

One of the most challenging things when it comes to planning your Wedding is knowing how your Wedding Day Timeline will run. It is super important to have a detailed plan from Sunrise to Sunset on your Wedding Day but how do you know what that looks like if you've never been to a Wedding before. Every Wedding is different but in this episode we are trying to go through some of the nuances when it comes to your big day because these unspoken things are often the things people forget to plan and will catch them out on their day. We don't want that stress for you guys so hopefully this helps :) Also check out Episode #10 - The Ultimate Wedding Day Timeline for more helpful tips!!! If you enjoyed this episode please consider sharing this episode with friends or family members who you think would also enjoy it! Another way you can support our show is by leaving a rating or review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. This really helps us get our show out to a new audience of people planning their wedding just like yourself! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @tobewed_ podcast for all the inside Goss, extra tips and tricks and to vote on what episode you think we should do next. We would like to pay our respects to the Darug People whose land on which this podcast is recorded. We acknowledge that their custodianship of this land was never ceded and we pay our respects to Elders past and present of the Darug Nation.

With every relationship there are growing pains and in this episode we go through some of ours. As a married couple you can easily forget how important it is to reflect on days gone by and look back at where you've come from. In that spirit, we are going right back to the start and letting you in on how we got together, when and why we moved in together and how things progressed. Spoiler alert, it wasn't all sunshine and rainbows but we made it work and are here to share some helpful tips we learnt along the way. This is the first of our "Relationship" based episodes so we hope you guys can enjoy it, have a laugh and maybe gain some new insights into our marriage!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @tobewed_ podcast for all the inside Goss, extra tips and tricks and to vote on what episode you think we should do next. If you enjoyed this episode please consider sharing this episode with friends or family members who you think would also enjoy it! Another way you can support our show is by leaving a rating or review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. This really helps us get our show out to a new audience of people planning their wedding just like yourself! We would like to pay our respects to the Darug People whose land on which this podcast is recorded. We acknowledge that their custodianship of this land was never ceded and we pay our respects to Elders past and present of the Darug Nation.