Hair 3: When a Haircut Goes Wrong

The only downside to consistently challenging the things that scare you is that your track record isn't going to be perfect. Sometimes it can turn out worse than you could've imagined. But you can get through that, too, just like everything else. Private chef and viral TikTok sensation Bree returns to discuss roadblocks and speedbumps, and the best thing in the world! BREE IG: https://www.instagram.com/laser.breems Threads: https://www.threads.com/@laser.breems TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@laser.breems Website: https://transvoicewithbree.mayhem.my/ TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/09/22/hair-3-when-a-haircut-goes-wrong/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at https://TillysTransTuesdays.com ) Hair, Hair 2: First Haircut, Transition Setbacks, Trans Trauma 1: That Old Dysphoric Feeling, Trans Trauma 2: Societal Gaslighting, Gender Dysphoria, Implicit Queerphobia, Internalized Transphobia, Body Hacking, Pushback Overkill, 6 Years Out and On HRT Retrospective, Photos and Reflections, Photos 2: The Selfie Apocalypse Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

Getting my first haircut was more anxiety-inducting than you might expect, because at the time my hair was the only part of me that caused no dysphoria. But I went through with it, afraid it would make my dysphoria worse... while hoping it might make things better than I could have even imagined. Private chef and viral TikTok sensation Bree returns to discuss running away from dysphoria and feeling connections through food. Let's learn about curries! Wear your masks! BREE IG: https://www.instagram.com/laser.breems Threads: https://www.threads.com/@laser.breems TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@laser.breems Website: https://transvoicewithbree.mayhem.my/ TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/hair-2-my-first-haircut/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at https://TillysTransTuesdays.com ) Hair, Coming Out, A Pandemic Transition, 1-3 Years Out and On HRT Retrospectives, Gender Dysphoria, Boymode/Girlmode, Trans Courage REFERENCE MATERIAL Hairology, from Lifeline Comics - https://lifelinecomics.com/collections/hairology Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

My hair has played a huge part in my transition, and believe it or not, played a huge part in my denial of the truth of my transness pre-transition. Let's talk about all the ways it can help us find ourselves and reflect who we really are... if we let it. Private chef and viral TikTok sensation Bree joins us to discuss saying it out loud, and having a weightless soul. Be done with the wizard boy! Grab the Cholula! BREE IG: https://www.instagram.com/laser.breems Threads: https://www.threads.com/@laser.breems TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@laser.breems Website: https://transvoicewithbree.mayhem.my/ TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2024/08/19/hair/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at https://TillysTransTuesdays.com ) Body Hacking, Halloween (and the fear of embracing your true self), Heavily Gendered Clothes and Trans People, Finding Our Trans Style, Giving Yourself Permission (to explore gender), Trans Courage, Coming Out as Trans, Gender Euphoria Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

Let's wrap up our talk about the trans allegory of KPop Demon Hunters, where we see that conditional love is not love, and you cannot fix broken systems by replacing them with the exact same thing. We'll talk about where and why the allegory breaks down and becomes "imperfect," and how that's okay, actually! But it's important to note, because truth matters. Jeremy Holt returns to discuss remixing the terribleness and calling it something new! The cis-tem wants us closeted, but we can open the door whenever we're ready to. JEREMY HOLT IG: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyholtbooks Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/jeremyholtbooks.com Website: https://www.jeremyholtbooks.com TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/09/01/the-imperfect-trans-allegory-of-kpop-demon-hunters-part-4/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at https://TillysTransTuesdays.com ) The False Dichotomy, Trans Kids 1: Facts and Dangers, Trans Kids 2: The Intake Exam and Trans Flight REFERENCE MATERIAL KPop Demon Hunters Writer Says Creating Movie Helped Her Come Out as Bisexual - https://www.them.us/story/kpop-demon-hunters-writer-hannah-mcmechan-says-creating-movie-helped-her-come-out-as-bisexual Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

The trans allegory of KPop Demon Hunters continues, again! This week we look at how transphobia becomes transphobes' entire personality, internalized transphobia, and the hypocrisy of those who claimed to love us but reject us once we come out to them. Jeremy Holt returns to discuss art school conversations and gross future heartbreakers! Do white people like pizza? JEREMY HOLT IG: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyholtbooks Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/jeremyholtbooks.com Website: https://www.jeremyholtbooks.com TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/08/25/the-imperfect-trans-allegory-of-kpop-demon-hunters-part-3/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at https://TillysTransTuesdays.com ) Internalized Transphobia, Trans Parents (and Mother's Day), Trans Trauma 2: Societal Gaslighting, Cis Spousal and Partner Support, Cis Grief, Transmedicalism (and WPATH version 1), The 2022 US Trans Survey Report parts 1-4, Coming Out as Trans Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

The trans allegory of KPop Demon Hunters continues! This week we deal with denial of our truth, and see how our first encounter with the trans community can truly change things for us... even as we fear losing the status society "gifted" us with when it declared we were cis. Comic writer Jeremy Holt returns to discuss needing to be creative and a single bag of cashews! JEREMY HOLT IG: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyholtbooks Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/jeremyholtbooks.com Website: https://www.jeremyholtbooks.com TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/08/18/the-imperfect-trans-allegory-of-kpop-demon-hunters-part-2/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at https://TillysTransTuesdays.com ) Photos and Reflections, Gender Dysphoria, Boymode/Girlmode, Trans Politics 1: Stop Tolerating Transphobia, Internalized Transphobia, Tucking and Binding, The Trans Allegory of Barbie, Coming Out as Trans Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

Kpop Demon Hunters has taken the world by storm, and settled itself deep in the hearts of many trans people, myself included. Is it a trans allegory? Let's take a look and see what this remarkable animated film has to say about transness. We discuss context, names, and dive in by timestamps! And yes, we talk about "Golden". Comic writer Jeremy Holt joins us to discuss the difference between gender and sexuality, and how it's never too late to reshape yourself if you just add water. Are you aggressively hetero? JEREMY HOLT IG: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyholtbooks Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/jeremyholtbooks.com Website: https://www.jeremyholtbooks.com TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/08/11/the-imperfect-trans-allegory-of-kpop-demon-hunters-part-1/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at https://TillysTransTuesdays.com ) Sexuality is Not Gender, 2022 Trans Rep in Media, 2023 Trans Rep in Media, 2024 Trans Rep in Media, 2025 Trans Rep in Media, The Trans Allegory of Star Trek: Strange New Worlds' Ad Astra Per Aspera, The Trans Allegory of Silo, Internalized Transphobia, Implicit Queerphobia, Bodily Autonomy (and my tattoo), Gender Dysphoria, Trans Trauma 2: Societal Gaslighting, Gendered Childhoods, Trans History 1: How and Why We Name Trans People in History, The Constant Fight, Cis Grief, Cis Spousal and Partner Support, The Signs Were Always There Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

Here's our full schedules for this year's San Diego Comic-con! Come see us, get our books and comics, and see our short film!

I came out publicly six years ago today! And that means it's time for my annual check in on all things transition-related. Let's see where everything's at, and what changed since year five. We'll be off the rest of July for SDCC (stay tuned for our appearance schedules!), but Tilly's Trans Tuesdays will return on August 4... with my next trans allegory deep-dive! TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/07/07/six-years-out-and-on-hrt-check-in/ FURTHER READING (topics discussed with essays available at https://TillysTransTuesdays.com ) One Year Out and on HRT Retrospective, Two Years Out and on HRT Retrospective, Three Years Out and on HRT Retrospective, Four Years Out and on HRT Retrospective, Five Years Out and on HRT Retrospective, Confidence 3: Embracing Your True Self, Gender Dysphoria, Body Hair, A Pandemic Transition, Photos and Reflections, Trans Voices 1-3, Trans Body Hacking, Radical Trans Acceptance (roller derby), Hair 1-2, Bodily Autonomy (and my tattoo), Hormone Replacement Therapy, Internalized Transphobia, Heavily Gendered Clothes REFERENCE MATERIAL Just Another Summer, a queer trans YA graphic novel - https://maverickgraphicnovels.com/product/just-another-summer-vol-1/ Star Trek Voyager: Homecoming, a second finale for the show (with reunions!), full five-issue series collected in on volume - https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/815846/star-trek-voyager--homecoming-by-susan-bridges-tilly-bridges-angel-hernandez/ Princesses of the DC Universe, a middle-grade/all ages teen girl space adventure comedy - https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/830701/princesses-of-the-dc-universe-by-susan-bridges/ The effects of hormone replacement therapy (HRT) on the human eye - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11944225/ Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬

Rainbow Capitalism is terrible. Flat-out awful, even though trans and queer customers SHOULD be catered to as part of any company's customer base. But it's got to be legit, without them donating to people who want to strip our rights away. But when those same bad people get into power, it's amazing how quickly Pride merch evaporated... or came back without any trans options. Author Mia V. Moss returns to discuss finding your hidden guardrails and having your Alice in Wonderland moment! Where's my Pride Pizza?! MIA V. MOSS Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/magicrobotcarnival.com Website: https://www.magicrobotcarnival.com TEXT VERSION https://www.tillystranstuesdays.com/2026/06/30/rainbow-capitalism-2-from-bad-to-worse/ REFERENCE MATERIAL 2023 Target Pride Month merchandise backlash - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2023_Target_Pride_Month_merchandise_backlash Target scales back on its LGBTQ+ merchandise ahead of Pride Month 2024 - https://www.npr.org/2024/05/15/1251355534/target-scales-back-pride-month-merchandise-2024 Target says Pride collection will appear in 'select' stores, cuts LGBTQ apparel for kids - https://www.nbcnews.com/business/consumer/target-says-pride-collection-will-appear-select-stores-cuts-lgbtq-appa-rcna151628 Several of the GOP’s Most Fiercely Anti-Trans Candidates Lost Their Elections - https://truthout.org/articles/several-of-the-gops-most-fiercely-anti-trans-candidates-lost-their-elections/ Target Moves Pride Merchandise Aside To Spotlight Father’s Day And July 4th Holidays - https://www.forbes.com/sites/pamdanziger/2025/06/07/target-moves-pride-merchandise-aside-to-spotlight-fathers-day-and-july-4th-holidays/ Here Are All The Companies Rolling Back DEI Programs - https://www.forbes.com/sites/conormurray/2025/04/11/ibm-reportedly-walks-back-diversity-policies-citing-inherent-tensions-here-are-all-the-companies-rolling-back-dei-programs/ Big Brands Are Pulling Back on Pride Merchandise and Events This Year - https://www.outsmartmagazine.com/2025/06/big-brands-pull-pride-support/ Shop Star Trek Pride - https://shop.startrek.com/collections/pride IKEA Canada celebrates stories of love and representation with custom Love Seats inspired by 2SLGBTQ+ Pride flags - https://www.newswire.ca/news-releases/ikea-canada-and-2slgbtq-designers-celebrate-stories-of-love-and-representation-with-love-seats-inspired-by-pride-flags-855485302.html Black consumers are boycotting corporations retreating from DEI - https://www.cnn.com/2025/02/27/us/black-consumers-boycotts-dei-target/ These 25 major companies still have DEI practices - https://www.advocate.com/news/companies-keeping-dei Costco Smashes Comparable Sales Expectations, Outpaces Big Box Peers - https://seekingalpha.com/news/4598105-costco-smashes-comparable-sales-expectations-outpaces-big-box-peers Target deals fall flat as consumers shop elsewhere - https://www.thestreet.com/retail/target-deals-fall-flat-as-consumers-shop-elsewhere Costco tops sales views but earnings, membership numbers fall short - https://www.msn.com/en-us/money/topstocks/costco-sales-accelerate-analysts-lift-targets-with-earnings-due/ar-AA24ijdF Costco is looking like the big winner after Target's DEI rollback - https://www.businessinsider.com/shoppers-ditching-target-choosing-costco-after-dei-shift-2025-3 Most Americans support brands that back Pride and politicians who oppose anti-LGBTQ+ attacks - https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2026/06/most-americans-support-brands-that-back-pride-politicians-who-oppose-anti-lgbtq-attacks/ Special thanks to Daisy and Jane for the use of "Sorry Not Sorry" as our show's theme music. Please stop by and show your support at https://daisyandjane.bandcamp.com and https://soundcloud.com/daisyandjane --Please leave us a rating on Apple Podcasts/iTunes!-- Website: pendantaudio.com Bluesky: @pendantaudio.bsky.social‬