188. Managing Up with Melody Wilding

In popular culture, there was a time where views of workplace relationships, between employees and managers, were seen through the lens of the likes of Emily and her over the top demanding boss, Miranda Priestly, in the 2006 movie, the Devil Wears Prada.  Fast forward to 2025, workplace culture has evolved and terms like, managing up, the focus of today’s conversation, have become normalized and encouraged.  Today’s guest is Melody Wilding, therapist, professor, executive coach and author of, Managing Up: How to Get What You Need from the People in Charge, released in March.  In her conversation with Kristy, Melody shares insights from her book on navigating workplace relationships through strategic conversations, they discuss key workplace communication strategies, and practical techniques. Guest’s Website: Managing Up | Leadership Keynote Speaker | Melody Wilding Guest’s book via our affiliate link: Managing Up: How to Get What You Need from the People in Charge: Wilding, Melody: 9780593444658: Amazon.com: Books TALK BIG QUESTIONS Use these prompts to have the opposite of small talk in real life. Have you had a managing up situation in your workplace?  How did you handle it and would you handle it differently following this episode? Did you identify as one of the four C’s discussed in the conversation?  What is one of the techniques that most resonated with you? Work with Danielle: If you are ready to start working with a life coach or just want to learn more about the impact that coaching can have in your life, visit Danielle's website at www.daniellemccombs.com and schedule a complimentary exploratory session.  Work with Kristy: You can work with Kristy one-on-one or hire her to speak with your team to improve workplace communication. Visit Kristy’s website at www.kristyolinger.com  and find her work journal at Work Journal — Kristy Olinger.  

Have you ever dealt with a negative voice inside your head that is constantly discouraging you, second guessing you, or telling you that you aren’t good enough? Even if you don’t self-identify as a perfectionist, this episode explores those tendencies we all have to chase perfection in our everyday life. Our guest, Tara Cousineau, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist; meditation teacher; life learner on resilience, self-compassion and healing; author of “The Perfectionist’s Dilemma: Learn the Art of Self-Compassion and Become a Happy Achiever,” and yes, a recovering perfectionist. During our discussion, Dr. Cousineau shares strategies and helpful techniques for managing inner critics and provides insights into recognizing and reframing perfectionistic tendencies to create more joy and balance in life.  Guest’s Website: Tara Cousineau, PhD, Psychologist, Author: The Perfectionist's Dilemma Guest’s book via our affiliate link: The Perfectionist's Dilemma: Learn the Art of Self-Compassion and Become a Happy Achiever: Cousineau, Tara: 9781639109463: Amazon.com: Books   TALK BIG QUESTIONS Use these prompts to have the opposite of small talk in real life. Did you identify with some of the perfectionist tendencies in this episode?   Do you find that you show much more compassion for others than you do for yourself?  If so, why? What was one technique shared by Dr. Cousineau, in this episode, which you’d be interested to try? Work with Danielle: If you are ready to start working with a life coach or just want to learn more about the impact that coaching can have in your life, visit Danielle's website at www.daniellemccombs.com and schedule a complimentary exploratory session.  Work with Kristy: You can work with Kristy one-on-one or hire her to speak with your team to improve workplace communication. Visit Kristy’s website at www.kristyolinger.com  and find her work journal at Work Journal — Kristy Olinger.

When you use too many fillers it makes your message unclear and causes people to think you don’t have confidence in what you are saying. In this episode we are FINALLY talking filler words; why you use them, how to identify your unique fillers, and what to do about it.    Get the free worksheet that goes along with this episode: The Um Worksheet    🌱 Tap here to work with Kristy: kristyolinger.com   Follow on Instagram for more communication tips: @ko.communication    

Many professionals have likely encountered mentorship at one time or another, but may be less familiar with a different type of networking known as sponsorship and its many unique benefits.  Today’s guest shares her deep insight into the key differences between mentorship and sponsorship, how sponsorship can open doors to stronger inclusivity in the workplace, and how you can take on this important role of sponsorship in your own workplace.  Our guest, Rosalind Chow, Ph.D. is a professor of Organizational Behavior and Theory, researcher, and author of the new book , “The Doors You Can Open: A New Way to Network, Build Trust, and Use Your Influence to Create a More Inclusive Workplace,” available now. Guest’s Website: Rosalind M. Chow Guest’s New Book (affiliate link):  The Doors You Can Open: A New Way to Network, Build Trust, and Use Your Influence to Create a More Inclusive Workplace: Chow, Rosalind: 9781541702752: Amazon.com: Books   TALK BIG QUESTIONS Use these prompts to have the opposite of small talk in real life. Have you ever been mentored by or mentored someone else professionally?  How about sponsored? Do you find networking challenging?  Why or why not? Following the episode are you more likely to consider being a sponsor for someone else?   Work with Danielle: If you are ready to start working with a life coach or just want to learn more about the impact that coaching can have in your life, visit Danielle's website at www.daniellemccombs.com and schedule a complimentary exploratory session.  Work with Kristy: You can work with Kristy one-on-one or hire her to speak with your team to improve workplace communication. Visit Kristy’s website at www.kristyolinger.com  and find her work journal at Work Journal — Kristy Olinger.  

As we officially welcome spring, many rites of passage including graduation season are almost upon us.  If you are a member of the Class of 2025 or know someone who is graduating or has recently graduated, this episode includes an insightful discussion on real life skills that aren’t always taught in the classroom, but can prove extremely beneficial.  Our guest, Raffi Grinberg is an educator, business leader, and author of the new book (released March 25th!), “How to Be a Grown Up: The 14 Essential Skills You Didn’t Know You Needed (Until Just Now).”  

Have you ever winced at the thought that someone else might label you as weird, selfish, or wreckless?  Today’s guest Jenny Wood, a former Google Executive, career coach, and author of the new book (released today!), “Wild Courage: Go After What You Want and Get It,” wants you to be courageous and run towards these labels rather than away from them.  We discuss details of her new book including the 9 traits, three mentioned above, which can act as a deterrent to going after what we want as well as some useful tips on how we can flip the script and make them a positive instead of a negative. Guest’s Website: Jenny Wood | Home Purchase Jenny’s new book via our affiliate link: Amazon.com: Wild Courage: Go After What You Want and Get It: 9780593717646: Wood, Jenny: Books TALK BIG QUESTIONS Use these prompts to have the opposite of small talk in real life. Have you ever felt weird?  Did it stop you from taking action? Which of the words discussed most resonates with making you feel uncomfortable?  Following the episode do you look at that particular connotation differently? What is something you really want, but haven’t had the wild courage to go after yet?   Work with Danielle: If you are ready to start working with a life coach or just want to learn more about the impact that coaching can have in your life, visit Danielle's website at www.daniellemccombs.com and schedule a complimentary exploratory session.    Work with Kristy: You can work with Kristy one-on-one or hire her to speak with your team to improve workplace communication. Visit Kristy’s website at www.kristyolinger.com  and find her work journal at Work Journal — Kristy Olinger.  

In the latest installment of Coaches Corner, guest coach Suzanne Campi, a life transition coach and community builder, sits down with Danielle for a discussion on the topic of Retirement. Guest’s Website: Suzanne Campi Coaching Work with Danielle: If you are ready to start working with a life coach or just want to learn more about the impact that coaching can have in your life, visit Danielle's website at www.daniellemccombs.com and schedule a complimentary exploratory session.     

If you are a woman or have a woman you love or care for in your life, then this episode is for you.  Whether that person has or will someday experience the three stages of menopause while navigating personal and professional life, today’s guest assures that they are not alone.  Dr. Susan Miele, who holds a PhD in Human and Organizational Systems and is a transformational leader and workplace well-being advocate dedicated to redefining the narrative around menopause, shares her personal story as well as incredibly insightful and thought provoking information on this important topic that often goes undiscussed at home and in the workplace. Guest’s Website: Susan Miele Guest Mentions/Resources:   Estrogen Matters Menopause Manifesto – Dr. Jen Gunter Let's Talk Menopause | Symptoms | Education | Advocacy TALK BIG QUESTIONS Use these prompts to have the opposite of small talk in real life. Were you aware there were 34 potential symptoms in perimenopause?   Following this episode what are some takeaways you now know about the topic of menopause that you didn’t know before?  Are you more likely now to discuss menopause more openly personally or professionally? Work with Danielle: If you are ready to start working with a life coach or just want to learn more about the impact that coaching can have in your life, visit Danielle's website at www.daniellemccombs.com and schedule a complimentary exploratory session.  Work with Kristy: You can work with Kristy one-on-one or hire her to speak with your team to improve workplace communication. Visit Kristy’s website at www.kristyolinger.com  and find her work journal at Work Journal — Kristy Olinger.  

The next time you’re shopping the aisles of your local pharmacy or supermarket you might just notice the price difference between products marketed towards women vs. men, if so, you are seeing the “pink tax” in action.  Today’s guest, Janine Rogan, a keynote and TEDx speaker, author, entrepreneur, and founder of The Wealth Building Academy Inc. is on a mission to close the wage gap.  In our conversation with Janine, we discuss the “Pink Tax” as well as the overall wage gap in society today; some ways to start the important step of wealth building; and how employers and administrators can work towards closing this gap.  Guest’s Website: The Wealth Building Academy, Inc. | Financial Equality Educator Guest Mentions:  Wealth Building Checklist  TALK BIG QUESTIONS Use these prompts to have the opposite of small talk in real life. Had you heard of the “pink tax” and its concept prior to this episode? Did this episode upset you, motivate you, or a bit of both?        What are some ways you or a loved one have in the past experienced the “pink tax” effect?  Work with Danielle: If you are ready to start working with a life coach or just want to learn more about the impact that coaching can have in your life, visit Danielle's website at www.daniellemccombs.com and schedule a complimentary exploratory session.  Work with Kristy: You can work with Kristy one-on-one or hire her to speak with your team to improve workplace communication. Visit Kristy’s website at www.kristyolinger.com  and find her work journal at Work Journal — Kristy Olinger.  

In 2025, the landscape of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) work is rapidly evolving and facing well documented challenges, but these challenges also offer new opportunities and growth. Today’s guest, Elena Joy Thurston, an HR consultant, discusses the evolution and challenges facing DEI; shares her personal journey of deconstructing internalized biases and how that informs her approach; and she closes out this insightful conversation by highlighting the important work that needs to be done moving forward. Throughout the conversation, Elena emphasizes the need to move away from an "us vs. them" mentality and instead focus on universal themes that bring people together. Guest’s Website: latitude Guest Mentions:  Joyful Office Hours - Zoom Burnout Prevention Starter Kit — latitude Dr. Russell A. Barkley - Dedicated to Education and Research on ADHD Taking Charge of Adult ADHD a book by Russell A Barkley PhD Abpp Abcn and Christine M Benton - Bookshop.org US Attention-Deficit Neuropsychology (ADHD) Part 1 with Dr. Russell Barkley — alie ward TALK BIG QUESTIONS Use these prompts to have the opposite of small talk in real life. What was your definition or understanding of DEI prior to this episode?  Has it changed? Have you felt burnout personally or professionally?      Prior to this episode were you aware of the nuances of the Gen Z professional? Work with Danielle: If you are ready to start working with a life coach or just want to learn more about the impact that coaching can have in your life, visit Danielle's website at www.daniellemccombs.com and schedule a complimentary exploratory session.  Work with Kristy: You can work with Kristy one-on-one or hire her to speak with your team to improve workplace communication. Visit Kristy’s website at www.kristyolinger.com  and find her work journal at Work Journal — Kristy Olinger.