When Control Becomes the Compulsion

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com Coach Robert James explores how the search for certainty fuels OCD and why trying harder only strengthens compulsions. He explains that letting go of control isn’t giving up but stepping out of an unwinnable battle, and that acceptance — not elimination of anxiety — helps the nervous system settle. Through metaphor and practical insight, Robert encourages allowing uncertainty, opening your hand on painful thoughts, and creating space for life to flow. He also mentions a 12-week program with coaching, videos, and tools for those seeking more support Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.    

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com Robert James discusses practical strategies to manage and reduce intrusive thoughts — a common and distressing part of OCD. He explains why fighting thoughts can make them worse, how to allow uncertainty without being overwhelmed, and ways to redirect attention to meaningful life activities. The episode also mentions a 12-week coaching program for those seeking extra help Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.  

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com In episode 570, Robert James explains relationship OCD — how caring about your partner becomes fuel for doubt, rumination, and confusion, and why that confusion isn't proof the relationship is wrong. He shares personal experience and practical advice: stop trying to think your way to certainty, practice presence, suspend judgment for a set time, and focus on living the relationship rather than solving it Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.  

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com In this episode Robert James explains how OCD pushes us into black-and-white thinking, amplifying anxiety and driving compulsions by convincing us we must have 100% certainty before feeling okay. He offers practical guidance to notice and cultivate a sense of safety in the body, use grounding practices to tolerate uncertainty, and discusses a 12-week program to help break the OCD cycle Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.    

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com In this episode Robert James explores how to regain control from OCD by reclaiming your agency, proving you have choice, and using small daily steps like postponing compulsions, exposure, and values-driven attention to build lasting change. He also briefly describes a 12-week coaching program for OCD and anxiety based on his own experience and practical tools to help you break free Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.  

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com This episode is a guided meditation led by Robert James designed to help you let go of OCD intrusive thoughts using a sushi conveyor belt metaphor. It teaches you to observe thoughts without reacting, stay grounded in your body, and practice being the watcher rather than the participant. Robert also mentions a 12-week program and a free discovery call on his website for those seeking further support Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com This episode explains why setbacks in OCD are normal and not a return to square one — the progress you make is embedded in your nervous system. Robert James outlines how exposure, acceptance, and a growth mindset help you learn to lean into discomfort and build resilience. He offers practical steps: pause without panicking, reflect without ruminating, use compassion, take one small value-driven step, and follow a “comeback protocol” to regain momentum and keep moving forward Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.    

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com In this episode Robert James explains how recovery from OCD comes from learning to bring difficult emotions into the light, sit with discomfort, and build resilience. He shares practical approaches like exposure work, leaning into uncertainty, and small challenges — from difficult conversations to improv or cold exposure — that help you practice tolerance for uncomfortable feelings. Robert outlines how gradually facing fears with a step-by-step ladder and support can prove your inner strength and lead to a more meaningful, creative life. He also mentions a 12-week program based on his personal experience and clinical principles to help people break free from OCD. If you want to learn more or apply for the program you can book a free discovery call at robertjamescoaching.com. Please subscribe to the podcast for more episodes Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.  

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com Robert James explains why acceptance for OCD and anxiety isn’t an all-or-nothing goal but a spectrum of skills — tolerating uncertainty, leaning into discomfort, and practising exposure, ACT, and mindfulness to build acceptance over time. He shares practical steps to practice acceptance, how it reduces the intensity of distress, and highlights his 12-week program with videos, worksheets, meditations, and weekly coaching; visit robertjamescoaching.com to apply or book a free discovery call Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.      

Book your free discovery call directly, visit: www.robertjamescoaching.com In this episode Robert James explains how long-term recovery from OCD comes from learning to "hold the paradox" — accepting uncomfortable fears while consciously connecting with present-moment peace and your values. He describes practical shifts: tolerate uncertainty, lean into discomfort, focus on the present, and outlines a 12-week program with coaching, meditations and worksheets to support that process Disclaimer: Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.