Ep135: Why Don’t I Feel Fireworks?

Join Michaela as she discusses how to make the most of the honeymoon phase, what to do when the spark fades, and how to know when it’s time to leave. 00:00 - Phases of relationship 00:48 - First exciting phase of relationship 03:26 - Building a life together 04:36 - When the spark fades 05:49 - Is it all going down hill? 08:36 - When your partner starts acting differently 10:31 - Michaela’s advice to reignite the spark 11:50 - The real danger for your relationship 12:20 - Cheating and bad coping mechanisms 13:57 - How do I know my relationship should end? Buy Michaela’s Flavors of the Feminine Deck: https://www.templeofthebodyintheworld.com/ For workshops, teacher training and courses: https://www.michaelaboehm.com To order Michaela's book "The Wild Woman's Way" : https://amzn.to/2BQ5WpY Music ‘Deva Dasi’ by Steve James at https://www.guruviking.com

Join Michaela as she discusses how to offer high quality attention to your partner, how to find time in a busy schedule, and where to direct your efforts when cultivating deep intimacy. 00:00 - Leaking time 03:11 - Relational attention 03:32 - How to give your partner quality attention 05:06 - Ongoing relationship takes skill and practice Buy Michaela’s Flavors of the Feminine Deck: https://www.templeofthebodyintheworld.com/ For workshops, teacher training and courses: https://www.michaelaboehm.com To order Michaela's book "The Wild Woman's Way" : https://amzn.to/2BQ5WpY Music ‘Deva Dasi’ by Steve James at https://www.guruviking.com

Michaela Boehm answers questions in a recent in-person Relationship Bootcamp workshop about the #1 mistake people make when giving and receiving compliments, how to make space for connection, how to shift your partner’s bad mood, and how to salvage goodness from dirty fighting. Register for the next Relationship Bootcamp: https://www.michaelaboehm.com/product/the-relationship-bootcampa-3-day-intensive-feb-2025/ 00:00 - How to create an intentional space for connection 03:48 - How to give your partner what they want 04:54 - Cultivate curiosity in your partner’s interests 06:57 - #1 mistake when giving and receiving compliments 09:37 - Getting out of transactional dynamics 10:41 - Fighting dirty in relationship 12:39 - Assume goodness 15:00 - Using praise and humour to break a mood Buy Michaela’s Flavors of the Feminine Deck: https://www.templeofthebodyintheworld.com/ For workshops, teacher training and courses: https://www.michaelaboehm.com To order Michaela's book "The Wild Woman's Way" : https://amzn.to/2BQ5WpY Music ‘Deva Dasi’ by Steve James at https://www.guruviking.com

Join Michaela as she discusses anger including two types of anger, common mistakes when working with anger, how to learn from anger, and the dangers of spiritual bypass and rage circles. 00:00 - How to work with anger 01:12 - Two types of anger 02:33 - Working with anger in one’s practice 03:13 - Anger is an important part of being human 04:58 - Anger vs sadness 06:14 - Anger in relationship 08:23 - How to handle anger 10:38 - Passion or violence? 11:04 - What can anger teach us? 12:04 - Old vs fresh anger 18:23 - Primary vs secondary emotion 19:54 - 70s encounter groups and strategies of catharsis 26:04 - Spiritual bypass 27:20 - How to work with strong emotion to cleanse your system Buy Michaela’s Flavors of the Feminine Deck: https://www.templeofthebodyintheworld.com/ For workshops, teacher training and courses: https://www.michaelaboehm.com To order Michaela's book "The Wild Woman's Way" : https://amzn.to/2BQ5WpY Music ‘Deva Dasi’ by Steve James at https://www.guruviking.com

Join Michaela as she answers a viewer question about the struggles to find a man in one’s 30s and 40s, how to find and align your values, and whether or not the desire for a relationship betrays feminist ideals. 00:00 - Struggling to find a partner in my 30s and 40s 02:05 - Isabel Angélica Allende and intimacy in later life 03:22 - Pros and cons of dating in your 30s and 40s 04:18 - Am I bad feminist for wanting a relationship? 07:28 - Who do you want to attract? 07:56 - Yearning vs neediness? 15:34 - Vulnerability and the risk of relationship 20:39 - Aligning values 22:12 - Defining your core values and not selling out 7:22 - Self-assessment and becoming more dateable 28:10 - Relationship toolkit Buy Michaela’s Flavors of the Feminine Deck: https://www.templeofthebodyintheworld.com/ For workshops, teacher training and courses: https://www.michaelaboehm.com To order Michaela's book "The Wild Woman's Way" : https://amzn.to/2BQ5WpY Music ‘Deva Dasi’ by Steve James at https://www.guruviking.com

Join Michaela as she shares the surprising power of an evening routine, reveals her own evening routine, and offers tips about how to construct your own. 00:00 - On routine 01:16 - Why have an evening routine? 01:41 - Your evening starts in the morning 03:08 - The miracle of the human design 03:35 - Evening sunlight and avoiding bluelight 04:58 - Ancient energy 06:15 - Mental health considerations 06:37 - What makes a good evening routine? 07:01 - Optimising body temperature 08:03 - Hot bath or cold dip? 08:49 - Michaela’s evening routine 11:44 - Michaela’s evening practices and rituals Buy Michaela’s Flavors of the Feminine Deck: https://www.templeofthebodyintheworld.com/ For workshops, teacher training and courses: https://www.michaelaboehm.com To order Michaela's book "The Wild Woman's Way" : https://amzn.to/2BQ5WpY Music ‘Deva Dasi’ by Steve James at https://www.guruviking.com

Join Michaela for an exploration of attachment theory including secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganised styles. Michaela explains each style and answers a viewer question about how to work with avoidant tendencies in otherwise positive long-term relationship. 00:00 - Trends in psychology 02:30 - What is attachment theory? 03:59 - 4 attachment styles 04:31 - Anxious attachment 06:18 - Avoidant attachment 08:22 - Disorganised attachment 09:38 - Secure attachment 13:00 - Truly avoidant? 14:18 - Anxious and avoidant in relationship 15:12 - A lens not a disorder 18:15 - How to work with your attachment style? 26:13 - Fight or flight and regulating the nervous system 32:27 - Lens capture 34:00 - Using NonLinear Movement Method® Buy Michaela’s Flavors of the Feminine Deck: https://www.templeofthebodyintheworld.com/ For workshops, teacher training and courses: https://www.michaelaboehm.com To order Michaela's book "The Wild Woman's Way" : https://amzn.to/2BQ5WpY Music ‘Deva Dasi’ by Steve James at https://www.guruviking.com

Join Michaela and Steve for a Summer catchup as Michaela discusses her own morning routine and Summer practice regime, how to design a personal practice, how to use journalling and other techniques, upcoming creative and teaching projects, and productivity tips. 00:00 - Summer catch-up 02:13 - Michaela’s Summer personal practice 03:30 - What makes a good daily practice? 04:58 - Michaela’s morning routine 08:57 - Extended Summer sequence 10:00 - Morning pages vs journalling 13:31 - How to choose a deity or archetype 16:01 - Creating a masculine flavour deck 19:49 - Unique retreat in Portugal, October 2024 24:34 - Michaela’s muscle building routine 27:52 - How to optimise your schedule 30:28 - Time blocking 31:51 - Freedom App and social media Buy Michaela’s Flavors of the Feminine Deck: https://www.templeofthebodyintheworld.com/ For workshops, teacher training and courses: https://www.michaelaboehm.com To order Michaela's book "The Wild Woman's Way" : https://amzn.to/2BQ5WpY Music ‘Deva Dasi’ by Steve James at https://www.guruviking.com

Michaela Boehm answers questions in a recent live workshop about the pros and cons of dating successful men who find other women attractive. 00:00 - Why does my man still find other women attractive? 02:19 - Pros and cons of dating successful men 06:11 - Using the Coolidge effect to keep the spark alive Buy Michaela’s Flavors of the Feminine Deck: https://www.templeofthebodyintheworld.com/ For workshops, teacher training and courses: https://www.michaelaboehm.com To order Michaela's book "The Wild Woman's Way" : https://amzn.to/2BQ5WpY Music ‘Deva Dasi’ by Steve James at https://www.guruviking.com

Michaela Boehm answers questions in a recent live workshop about dating strategies to find a partner, dating multiple men, and how to regulate fight or flight in relationship. 00:00 - Is it too late for me to find love? 00:44 - Dating strategies to find a partner 03:19 - Dating divorced men 05:06 - Streamlining your dating mission statement 05:44 - Dating multiple men 06:29 - Regulating fight or flight in relationship Buy Michaela’s Flavors of the Feminine Deck: https://www.templeofthebodyintheworld.com/ For workshops, teacher training and courses: https://www.michaelaboehm.com To order Michaela's book "The Wild Woman's Way" : https://amzn.to/2BQ5WpY Music ‘Deva Dasi’ by Steve James at https://www.guruviking.com