E34: Distorted Thinking in Motherhood

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Join the conversation! Send us your thoughts to be included in an upcoming episode!What happens when love, faith, and family expectations collide at the doorstep of your womb? We open up about the relentless pressure women face to have children right after marriage, why blame so often lands on the bride, and how that pressure strains mental health and marriages. From the prayer chains that start before the wedding to the side‑eye at the one‑year mark, we examine how cultural norms in Senegalese communities shape timelines, raise the stakes of fertility, and silence private grief.Grounding the conversation is a beloved hadith on trusting God’s decree—an anchor for anyone navigating uncertainty, infertility, or simply a different plan for family life. We talk plainly about what support should look like: fewer interrogations, more compassion; fewer ultimatums, more practical help. Along the way, we share personal stories and reflect on TV plotlines that mirror real pressures—secret IVF to “save” a marriage, a woman choosing sterilization to avoid passing on a hereditary illness, and the myth that children can fix broken bonds. The throughline is autonomy with accountability: honoring religious principles while protecting privacy, dignity, and the day‑to‑day work of building a healthy home.You’ll leave with language for setting boundaries, clarity on why invasive questions cause harm, and a reminder that a family’s worth isn’t measured by speed or headcount. If you’ve ever been cornered by “When are the kids coming?” or you’re carrying the quiet weight of trying, this conversation offers validation and tools to breathe easier. Listen, share with a friend who needs backup, and if this resonated, subscribe, leave a review, and tell us the best boundary line you’ve used to protect your peace.Support the show Socials: Instagram: @aissatouxoxo__

Join the conversation! Send us your thoughts to be included in an upcoming episode!In this comeback episode, I launch Season 2 of the podcast with a reaction to videos and social media posts I’ve come across recently of women talking about the struggles of maintaining the home and chores during Ramadan. I share two examples by a YouTuber named Rima and motivational speaker, Mrs. Maryam Lemu. Rima’s Rules - How to Decenter Your Man: https://youtu.be/hY5OernGfXc?si=VRp0PLyxdFAuDY0EMrs. Maryam Lemu’s IG Page: Maryam Lemu maryamlemuofficialSupport the show Socials: Instagram: @aissatouxoxo__

Join the conversation! Send us your thoughts to be included in an upcoming episode!In this comeback episode, I talk about the long break I've taken from podcasting, struggling through motherhood, and how distorted thinking was/is stopping me from being the best version of myself. Enjoy!Support the show Socials: Instagram: @aissatouxoxo__

Join the conversation! Send us your thoughts to be included in an upcoming episode!Ndakhte Lo, Mia Guisse, Dieyla - what's the common thread?! Ooohh I was mad today. Seeing these stories of Senegalese artists really annoyed me because it highlights such a problem in our community where we underestimate the importance of marriage!!! SO many women go through this type of pressure and scrutiny in the background, and we never hear their stories. I implore everyone watching to think deeply about these topics and reflect on how we can be better going forward. We rush to be married sometimes so much that the divorce comes just as fast. We have to do better, and our society needs to stand up for these injustices. IDK what these ladies might have done wrong in their respective marriages (nobody is as white as snow) but nobody deserves to be mistreated in this manner. SMH.Support the show Socials: Instagram: @aissatouxoxo__

Join the conversation! Send us your thoughts to be included in an upcoming episode!In this episode, I discuss the show Bete Bete by EvenProd in Senegal with Bamba Rassoul, an commentator of shows, movies, and culture. We talk about the impact of the caste system in Senegal, how it shows up in the show, and how society at large can take many lessons away from this very shocking but important series.You can follow Bamba on Instagram @bambarassoul_cinema for more!Background song: Mbeuguel Dou Xeet by Rema DiopSupport the show Socials: Instagram: @aissatouxoxo__

Join the conversation! Send us your thoughts to be included in an upcoming episode!In light of Senegal's new and youngest African president, Bassirou Diomaye Diakhar Faye, I wanted to make this quick video to congratulate him and his team and also speak about my experience as someone living in the Diaspora. I ran into an Aba N Preach video where they were discussing the Gang Takeover in Haiti (see full video link below) and something Preach said really resonated with me. Tune in and let me know your thoughts down below!Aba N Preach video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wR9HeZhmeAY&t=900sSupport the show Socials: Instagram: @aissatouxoxo__

Join the conversation! Send us your thoughts to be included in an upcoming episode!In this video, I discuss various topics with my friend, Imam Diongue! We talk about relationships, parenting, self-discovery, and spiritual growth, especially in the youth today! Tune in for an interesting discussion!Learn with the best online language tutors - PreplySupport the show Socials: Instagram: @aissatouxoxo__

Join the conversation! Send us your thoughts to be included in an upcoming episode!In this episode, I delve into the various parenting styles that exist and explore their impact on children's development.Support the show Socials: Instagram: @aissatouxoxo__

Join the conversation! Send us your thoughts to be included in an upcoming episode!In this episode, I have my first in-person guest, my friend and sister, Tene Rahim Gueye! We talk about our breastfeeding chronicles and joyful journey through motherhood so far!Follow her on Instagram: @tene_rahim !Support the show Socials: Instagram: @aissatouxoxo__