The SECRET To Making Anyone Like You | Vanessa Van Edwards

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1860"Happiness is a moral obligation. There was nowhere in my childhood that happiness was a moral obligation. It was more about long suffering." - Dr. Daniel AmenDr. Daniel Amen grew up Catholic, an altar boy taught that faith meant long suffering, not happiness. He was scared of God more than he was connected to Him. Then a cute Army company clerk asked him to take her to church, which turned out to be a wild Pentecostal healing service with speaking in tongues and dancing. That unexpected detour led him to Teen Challenge, working with drug addicts who found staggering success rates when they stopped making recovery about themselves and started making it about their relationship with God. Years later, after becoming one of the world's leading brain scientists, he walked into his own church past tables of donuts being sold to fund ministry. He got angry. Really angry. So he prayed what felt like the stupidest prayer of his life: that God would use him to change the food culture at churches. Two weeks later, Rick Warren, pastor of one of the largest churches in the world, called him out of nowhere and said, "I'm fat. My church is fat. Will you help me?" Fifteen thousand people signed up the first week. They lost a quarter of a million pounds the first year.The conversation reveals something most people don't know: there's hard science behind why faith works. Researchers at Duke have documented that people who attend religious services regularly get better faster when they're sick. They have lower rates of mental health issues. It's not just the community, though that helps. It's the belief itself. Believing you're here for a purpose, that your body is sacred, that you're wonderfully made. Those beliefs create actual neurotransmitter benefits in your brain. Dr. Amen's purpose is to make a dent in the universe by getting people to love and care for their brains, and he's discovered that faith and brain health aren't separate paths. Your health will reflect the health of your ten closest friends. You get better together or you get sick together. This is a conversation about finding purpose in what you thought was your dumbest moment, about how anger at church donuts can become a movement, and about why happiness isn't just a nice idea but a moral obligation.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1058Rich Diviney emphasizes the significance of setting clear goals and establishing a routine that aligns with those objectives. He emphasizes the power of small, incremental steps in overcoming laziness and building momentum towards success. By breaking down tasks into manageable chunks and consistently taking action, individuals can develop a habit of discipline and productivity.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1529"I think the biggest psychological crime is people fear running outta money instead of fear of wasting their life." - Bill PerkinsBill Perkins watched busloads of senior citizens arrive in St. Petersburg, Russia. Not a single person climbed the 115 steps to see the breathtaking view from the church balcony. They had the money for the trip, the time to travel, but their bodies wouldn't cooperate anymore. That moment crystallized everything he'd been thinking about how we get life backwards. We treat money like it's the goal when it's actually just a tool, one that loses effectiveness as our bodies and minds decline. Your body peaks at 33. After that, it's plateau and decline. Those hiking trips, those physical adventures, those experiences that require energy and health—they have expiration dates we refuse to acknowledge. We tell ourselves we'll do them later, when we're more financially secure, but later means weaker knees, less stamina, different limitations.Perkins talks about life in buckets, periods you'll never get back. Your twenties happen once. The years with small children happen once. Each phase has experiences designed for it, and if you miss them, they interfere with each other or disappear entirely. He uses a Tetris metaphor: imagine standing in heaven with God, throwing every experience you want into a bucket. Hiking, building businesses, raising kids, traveling to places that require climbing, all of it. God says you can have everything, you just have to get the order right. That's the game. That's what most people get catastrophically wrong. They're so afraid of judgment, so terrified of running out of money that they waste the periods of life when those experiences would mean the most, when their bodies could actually do them. This isn't about reckless spending. It's about understanding that your ability to convert money into fulfilling experiences decays over time, and no amount of savings can buy back the body you had at 33.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1859"The number one question I get at my talks is, what do you do when the people closest to you don't support your growth? The main reason they don't support it is because you're killing off the person they love." - Jen SinceroJen Sincero sat in the driver's seat of an Audi she couldn't imagine owning, convinced the salesman would recognize her as an imposter and kick her out. She said "I can't afford it" so automatically it became a reflex, spoken a hundred times a day like a prayer to poverty. But those three words weren't just describing her reality—they were building it, brick by brick. Every time she said them, she pulled in more proof: the terrible car, the alley apartment, the bank account that never grew. She was trapped at what she calls the "kid table financially," watching real adults with real money from a distance, like they belonged to a different species. The shift didn't come from budgeting tips or side hustles. It came from understanding something most people never grasp: comfort zones aren't comfortable at all. They're familiarity zones, and breaking out of them requires something violent and necessary—killing off your old identity completely.This conversation cuts through every sugar-coated personal development cliché about money mindset. Jen talks about the WASP household where money was dirty, the rock-and-roller identity where wanting wealth meant selling out, and the brutal realization that to make real money, you have to obliterate the version of yourself that can't. Lewis and Jen dig into why this transformation is so lonely, why the people who love you often resist your growth hardest (you're literally killing off the person they know), and what it actually takes to shift from someone who can't afford things to someone who can. If you've ever felt stuck financially while watching others succeed, if "I can't afford it" comes out of your mouth more than you'd like, or if you're trying to grow and finding your closest relationships straining under the weight, this one will shake something loose.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1231Vanessa Van Edwards delves into the science of likability, exploring concepts such as body language, nonverbal cues, and communication styles. Listeners are introduced to strategies for enhancing their own likability and developing a genuine and charismatic presence.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1858"These kids, these difficult temperaments, actually have this relationship with the world that's pretty unpleasant. Everyone's like, sit down, stop that, don't do that. And there's even this vibe these kids get, like nobody really wants to spend time with them." - Dr. Ramani DurvasulaDr. Ramani Durvasula walks through something most parents never want to hear: some kids are just born difficult. High energy, low frustration tolerance, constantly getting into trouble at school, and nobody wants to be around them. She's spent her career working with narcissistic adults, and without exception, every single one had a difficult temperament as a child. But here's where it gets interesting. That difficult temperament isn't a life sentence. The difference between a difficult kid who becomes a confident adult and one who becomes a narcissist comes down to how their parents respond. Lewis shares the story of Kobe Bryant, who went an entire summer without scoring a single point in basketball at age 13. His father told him, "I'm gonna love you no matter what. Whether you score zero points or you're the highest scorer, I'm gonna love you no matter what you do." That conversation gave Kobe the confidence to keep going. Dr. Ramani explains how rare that kind of support is, where a kid feels loved unconditionally, has their energy channeled into athletics or building things, and experiences boundaries without rejection.The conversation takes a sharp turn into modern parenting's biggest trap. Parents are celebrating their kids for nothing, telling them they're special just for existing, but nobody's actually sitting with these kids' emotions. Dr. Ramani calls it being "overindulged for their outsides" while their emotional world goes completely unnourished. Narcissistic parents need their kids to be great because it reflects on them, so they heap praise on everything while never teaching their kids to handle disappointment or sit with sadness. The result? Adults who get blindsided by life's inevitable difficulties and can't handle it. She breaks down exactly what great actually means (it's about excelling, not just being), how to love a child while still calling out bad behavior, and why the most dangerous thing you can do is protect a kid from struggle while telling them they're amazing. If you've got a difficult kid or you're trying to figure out where confidence ends and narcissism begins, this conversation draws the lines with surgical precision.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1436Sheleana Aiyana emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and self-reflection in order to understand one's own role in perpetuating unhealthy patterns. By examining past experiences, traumas, and beliefs, readers can gain clarity about the subconscious patterns that drive their choices in relationships.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1857"In an age of information, ignorance is a choice. Health and wellness can be as infectious as disease." - Dr. Joe DispenzaLewis opens by sharing how he mentally rehearsed his future reality for years, watching game film of world record holders every night before sleep, then practicing physically the next day. He was living in what Dr. Joe Dispenza calls the quantum field, rehearsing moments that wouldn't happen for another decade. That vulnerability sets the stage for Dr. Joe to reveal something extraordinary happening in his events. Two people with stage 4 cancer walked away completely reversed. A woman with an unnamed neurological disorder arrived on crutches and left without them. These aren't celebrities or exceptional cases. They're ordinary people who reached the end of what traditional medicine could offer and decided to change everything about themselves. Twenty years ago, if a doctor gave you a diagnosis, you signed the dotted line and got the surgery. Today, people are researching, getting multiple opinions, and discovering they don't need an authority figure to access information that could save their lives.Dr. Joe explains that this work isn't for everyone because you can't be a little bit committed, just like you can't be a little bit pregnant. But when a normal person shares their healing story in front of a thousand people, something shifts. Everyone watching thinks the same thing: if she can do it, so can I. That's when healing becomes infectious, spreading through communities the same way disease does. The conversation moves beyond individual transformation into something bigger. Success, Dr. Joe admits, is just a side effect of who you become. The real work is about pushing the envelope on what's possible, helping people understand they can self-correct health conditions and change their genetic future before symptoms ever appear. The question evolving now isn't just whether people can heal themselves, but whether someone who's healed can turn around and heal another person. The implications are staggering.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1141Stevenson discusses the power of positive thinking and how cultivating a positive mindset can lead to improved physical health. He explains how negative thoughts and stress can create a cascade of physiological responses, increasing the risk of chronic diseases, such as cardiovascular conditions and autoimmune disorders.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1170"The way to visualize properly is to visualize the bridge between where you are and where you need to go... and particularly the horrible stuff." - Mel RobbinsMel Robbins drops a truth bomb that flips everything you know about manifesting upside down. Picture this: you're sitting in your studio apartment, cat box hasn't been changed in two weeks, no food in the fridge, and you're staring at a vision board covered with mansions and dream cars. That massive gap between where you are and where you want to be? It's not inspiring you. It's making you feel like a loser. Research shows that when you only visualize the endgame, it's actually demotivating. Your brain sees that distance and starts the negative self-talk spiral. Mel gets brutally specific here, breaking down exactly why that gorgeous collage you made after a bottle of wine isn't doing what you thought it would.Here's where it gets good. Mel teaches you to visualize the bridge, not the destination. And not the pretty parts of the bridge either. The horrible stuff. What's it like at mile 13 of your marathon when it's sleeting rain and you're asking yourself why you're doing this? What happens when your earbuds die at mile 12 or your shoelace breaks at mile 17 and you've got a blood blister forming? If you're building a business, visualize making those cold calls and hearing no. Visualize staying home on Saturday night while your friends are out, because you're putting in the work. Visualize your first course failing. When you train your mind and nervous system for the actual hard work, you're not blindsided when it shows up. You've already mentally pushed through it. You're building resilience like a muscle, preparing your body so you're not resistant when difficulty comes. That's how you actually do the work instead of just dreaming about the results.Sign up for the Greatness newsletter: http://www.greatness.com/newsletter Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.