234 Self Sabotage 101: When you know exactly what to do…but still don’t do it

You’re already trying to make self care a priority - the magnesium, the meditation, the phone-free wind down. And yet your brain still feels like an overthinking engine.So maybe you start looking for more self care strategies, a better morning routine, or telling yourself consistency will finally solve the problem. But in this episode I’m getting super clear on why the self care you’re already doing isn’t giving you the calm you’re craving - and won’t do until you make what you’re already doing work better. Yep - we’re flipping the script and looking at what’s really happening beneath the overthinking, the perfectionist tendencies and why even the best self care habits in the world won’t work at their best until you tackle that.I’ll show you how to shift from self care as control, to self care as connection - the kind that finally calms the noise and helps you feel safer in your own body again.So if you’ve ever wondered why bubble baths and meditation aren’t doing the trick…this one’s for you. We’ll cover:Why you don’t need MORE self care, you need to understand why what you’re already doing isn’t landing.Why self care which chases control is going to backfire.The underlying beliefs which block the benefits of any ritualJOIN ME INSIDE DONE WITH DIETS HERENEXT STEPS:Share this episode with a friendFollow me on instagram

You already know exactly what you “should” be doing. You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, written the plans, and promised yourself this time will be different… and yet you still find yourself struggling with making habits stick, falling into all-or-nothing patterns, and wondering why procrastination and emotional eating keep creeping in.The worst thing? It feels like if it’s not a knowledge problem, it must be a YOU problem. But in this episode, I’m breaking down why that simply isn’t true, and what’s really going on beneath the “failed” behaviour change.We’ll dig into why the “bad habits” you’re desperate to get rid of are often just your system trying to keep you regulated. And how shame and self-blame shut down the curiosity you need for real habit change.If you’re tired of thinking, “I know what to do, why am I not doing it?”, this conversation will help you build self awareness, shift your mindset, and finally start changing the behaviours that are holding you back—so your new habits can actually stick.Key takeaways:Why striving for more motivation isn’t helping you right now.How procrastination, emotional eating, and skipping workouts often function as coping mechanisms, not character flaws.The role of dopamine in keeping you stuck in familiar habit loops.How to use curiosity (not control) to understand what your habits are really doing for you.A simple way to create space between trigger and response so you can choose new, more supportive behaviours.RESOURCES:Work with me: www.lifeeditcoaching.comInstagram: @lifeeditwithalix 

I work with lots of women who want to lose weight - even though I talk about diet culture and the damage I believe it’s done to our relationship with food and our bodies.And my job is not to talk you out of that goal - but to help you create the right conditions to pursue it without burning out, resorting to emotional eating and ending up at square one yet again.In this episode, I’m sharing how to regulate your nervous system for weight loss - and why this (and not the meal plan you choose) will be the biggest predictor of whether your weight loss efforts will actually pay off…and be sustainable.We dive into what really happens when you’re already overwhelmed and then stack a restrictive plan on top of that, how stress affects weight loss, and how to optimise your nervous system to escape the binge restrict cycle. Key takeaways:Why your struggle with weight loss is not about willpower, but nervous system dysregulation.How low-grade stress keeps you stuck in the binge restrict, on–off diet cycle.The difference between your lower “survival” brain and your higher “reasoning” brain when it comes to food choices.How to identify the areas of your life that keep you chronically activated and drain your capacity for change.How to widen your window of tolerance to make sustainable weight loss truly possible.NEXT STEPS:Share this episode with a friendListen to next: Episode 232 - Diet free weight loss: When you can’t face your next diet (but still want to lose weight)RESOURCES:Work with me: www.lifeeditcoaching.comInstagram: @lifeeditwithalix

The noise around weight loss in January can be deafening. But what if you’re asking “can I lose weight without going on a diet?” Because the truth is that you’re done. You’ve realised that on the surface, quick weight loss looks and feels like the ultimate life upgrade…but your body is screaming “I CANNOT do another diet”.So in this episode I’m talking directly to that crossroads - the space where you’re done with the restriction and misery, you’re ready to find food freedom, AND you also want to feel good in your own skin. I’ll walk you through why diets may have “worked” on paper but have cost you your peace and self trust - and what to do instead.We’ll look at how to create diet free weight loss, how to build healthy eating habits more effortlessly and how to stop the binge restrict cycle that you’ve been trapped in. So you can feel more confident in your body AND have the food freedom that you desire.Key Takeaways:Why you can be “good at dieting” and still feel trapped, unhappy, and obsessed with food.The real cost of chronic dieting on your body image, self-esteem and nervous system.Three core foundations for wanting weight loss without going back to restrictive diets.How to start rebuilding trust with your body and relating to it as a teammate, not an enemy.The connection between nervous system and weight loss - and how to use that to create sustainable habit change. RESOURCES:Work with me: www.lifeeditcoaching.comInstagram: @lifeeditwithalix 

If you’re thinking about your 2026 goals right now - instead of diving straight into the temptation of hustle, restriction and unrealistic expectations…we’re going to get intentional! That means sustainable goal setting, sustainable habits and starting to live with more intention. In other words - creating your 2026 goals in a way that honours your energy, works with your nervous system, and finally stops the cycle of huge January overhauls that burn you out by February.I’ll share how to choose your “north star” and how to lean into identity based goal setting, as well as talking you through my very own EDIT Goal Setting Method. So we can create the life upgrades that finally banish all or nothing thinking and lead to long term change.Your key takeaways:Why traditional New Year goals have failed you and what to do differently.How to choose a “North Star” feeling to anchor every decision you make this year.The power of identity-led behaviour change (and why discipline isn’t the missing piece).How to use the EDIT Goal Method to simplify your life and create sustainable NEXT STEPS:Share this episode with a friendListen to next: Episode 230 - A New Way To Step Into 2026: Choosing Your North StarRESOURCES:Work with me: www.lifeeditcoaching.comInstagram: @lifeeditwithalix

We’ve spent the last few weeks looking back at your year, celebrating what worked, learning from what didn’t, and creating space so your nervous system can actually support you as you step into something new.Now, in this final episode of 2025, it’s time to shift into possibility.Today we’re talking about why "new year, new you" culture completely misses the point - and why trying to fix yourself, overhaul your life, or force rigid resolutions is the exact thing that keeps derailing your progress. Instead, I’m showing you how to enter 2026 with a fresh approach rooted in self-trust, alignment, and the feeling you want to build your year around.This is about choosing a North Star for how you want to feel next year, and letting that guide your decisions, your rhythms, your routines, and your goals. It’s the simplest shift with the biggest impact.In this episode we explore:The unconscious “you’re not enough” messaging behind New Year cultureHow to create goals without pressure, perfectionism, or fix-it energyThe power of choosing a feeling as the foundation of your yearWhat alignment really looks like in daily lifeHow to build a year that reflects who you want to be, not who you think you should beFollow me on instagram or explore more on the website.

Last week, we took a gentle but honest look back at the year you’ve just lived - what worked, what didn’t, and what you’re proud of. This week, before you rush into planning 2026, I want to guide you into something far more powerful (and wildly underrated): the pause.In the busy season where life is loud, routines are disrupted, and your nervous system is probably crying out for rest, creating intentional space becomes the difference between goals that feel aligned and goals that feel like pressure. This episode is all about helping you breathe, soften the noise, switch off autopilot, and give yourself the clarity that only stillness can bring.Practical reflection prompts from the episode:Where can I intentionally create space—physical, mental, or emotional—over the next two weeks?What helps my nervous system soften? (A bath, a walk, lying on the bed for 10 minutes, sitting in silence…)Where do I need to slow down so that my plans for next year come from desire, not pressure?What would feel good—not productive, not worthy, not impressive—good?Space creates clarity. Before you choose your 2026 goals, give yourself room to digest this year and reconnect with what you actually want—not what you think you should want.Follow me on instagram or explore more on the website.

This week we’re kicking off a short pre-Christmas series designed to help you ease into 2026 feeling clearer, lighter, and far more aligned.And before you even think about setting goals for the new year, there’s so much power in pausing and looking back. So today, I’m guiding you through a simple end-of-year reflection that helps you recognise what worked, what didn’t, and what your year has been trying to teach you.We'll be noticing the patterns you’ve been repeating, the things that drained you, the things that energised you, and the moments you’re genuinely proud of - because these are the very things that will shape an easier, more intentional 2026. Reflection questions from the episode:What didn’t go so well this year—and what can I learn from it?What am I genuinely proud of? (Including the things I gave myself, not just the things I achieved.)What drained me—and what energised me?What am I ready to stop carrying into 2026? (Habits, beliefs, relationships, expectations… anything.)The more clearly you understand the stories, patterns, energy, and choices that shaped this year, the more powerfully you get to shape next year.Follow me on instagram or explore more on the website.

This week, we’re continuing the Christmas eating miniseries with a conversation that so many women need right now: how to create more food freedom without feeling like you’re destined for huge Christmas weight gain. If last week was about understanding why the Christmas overeating happens, this week is all about what you can actually do to change the pattern — not through restriction, discipline, or force… but through awareness, trust, and nervous system regulation.We’ll also talk about how food freedom doesn’t mean you need to dump all structure, and that when we combine the best bits of both you can head into the new year with more confidence, more calm, and a whole lot less food guilt.Your key takeaways:Why Christmas overeating isn’t about willpower but a reflection of your deeper patterns with food.How “food freedom” can coexist with structure and support (it’s not all-or-nothing).The role your nervous system plays in overeating, and how to give it the break it’s craving.Three simple questions to interrupt your usual December patterns and build trust.How to use this month as a learning phase so January feels different for the first time in years.NEXT STEPS:Share this episode with a friendSign up to The Body You’ll Love Living In - and claim your exclusive Mindful Christmas Eating BonusFollow me on Instagram: @lifeeditwithalix 

Every year we swear we’re not going overboard and we’ll focus instead on eating mindfully at Christmas…then suddenly we’re knee-deep in mince pies, food guilt, and that familiar December “sod it” spiral that leaves us bloated and already dreading January. In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on what’s really going on when Christmas eating feels out of control - and why Christmas isn’t creating the chaos, but magnifying the cracks in your relationship with food and your body.I’m sharing my own past patterns and helping you see why this cycle is so common for busy women. More importantly, I’ll walk you through three simple steps you can start right now to create more mindfulness with food and stop over eating at Christmas time.Here’s what we’ll cover:Why Christmas overeating is not about lack of discipline — but a nervous system responding to months (or years) of restriction.How festive eating becomes a magnified version of your everyday patterns.The real reason “pre-Christmas restriction” always backfires — and how it sets up the binge–guilt cycle.Three simple, practical habits you can begin today to create a calmer, more mindful Christmas.NEXT STEPS:Share this episode with a friendListen to next: Episode 225 - How to Practice Mindfulness (When It Feels Like It’s Not Working Like It Should)  RESOURCES:Sign up to The Body You’ll Love Living In - and claim your exclusive Mindful Christmas Eating Bonus: Instagram: @lifeeditwithalix