The Nervous System Myth Keeping Women Stuck in Avoidance

What does it really mean to be trauma-informed, and how has nervous system language started to get misused in women's circles and group spaces? In this powerful episode, Tanya Lynn explores the difference between activation and harm, regulation and avoidance, and why discomfort in group spaces is not only normal, it's often where the deepest healing and capacity-building happens. Through a real story from one of her programs, Tanya shares how her own journey into becoming trauma trained (not just trauma informed) radically changed how she understands safety, nervous system responses, and leadership in circle. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who: Participates in women's circles or group containers Facilitates groups, retreats, or transformational work Uses nervous system language and wants to use it responsibly Has ever wanted to leave a group because it felt "unsafe" In This Episode, You'll Learn: The difference between trauma informed vs. trauma trained (and why it matters) Why activation is not the same as harm, and how the nervous system actually works How "safety language" can unconsciously become a tool for avoidance and control What regulation really is (hint: it's not being zen or untriggered) Why capacity, not comfort, is the true purpose of circle How orienting and tracking sensation builds resilience in real time What facilitators are not responsible for in group spaces How staying with activation can repair relational and sisterhood wounds Key Insight: Health is not calm. Health is movement. Life happens in waves ... activation and settling, expansion and contraction. When women learn to stay present through activation instead of avoiding it, we build real resilience, deeper intimacy, and authentic sisterhood. Get your free Nervous System download here: http://sistershipcircle.com/NS

Ritual has been part of human history for eons, and yet modern women are often crossing life's biggest thresholds silently and alone. In this episode of the Brave Woman Podcast, Tanya dives deep into what ritual really is (and what it is not), why ritual is essential for embodiment and integration, and how ritual creates safety, belonging, and true transformation especially inside women's circles, retreats, and sacred spaces. Drawing from her own lived experience, years of facilitating women's circles, and somatic trauma-informed wisdom, Tanya explains why ritual is not about performance, intensity, or spiritual theatrics, but about grounding transformation into the body. ✨ In This Episode, You'll Learn: What ritual actually is and why repetition creates safety and belonging Why ritual is not about performance, reenactment, or catharsis How ritual helps the body cross thresholds and complete transitions The role of ritual in rites of passage for women (birth, first blood, marriage, motherhood, elderhood, loss, and death) Why modern women experience burnout, overgiving, and exhaustion as a result of being uninitiated How ritual supports trauma-informed healing without re-traumatization How to tell if a ritual "worked" (and why intensity is not the measure) How ritual heals the sister wound, mother wound, and witch wound The sacred balance of masculine structure and feminine flow in ritual design Why ritual is what makes circles, retreats, and transformational work actually land 🌿 Key Takeaway: Ritual is not the "pretty" part of the circle; it's the part that anchors transformation into the nervous system and the body. Without ritual, experiences stay conceptual. With ritual, they become embodied, integrated, and complete. 🔗 Resources Mentioned: Women's Circle Ritual Handbooks (Seasonal editions available): https://sistershipcircle.com/op/womens-circle-ritual-handbook Ritual Design Masterclass -- Learn how to design powerful solo and group rituals using themes, symbols, and sequencing: sistershipcircle.com/product/how-to-build-a-ritual

Welcome to Season 7 of the podcast — and welcome to 2026. After taking a full year off, Tanya returns with a powerful, heart-led episode that sets the tone for a new season rooted in bravery, visibility, and consistency. In this solo episode, Tanya reflects on a year of deep lessons, including raising over $200,000 for her retreat center, De La Diosa, and the mindset shifts required to keep showing up when it feels uncomfortable, repetitive, or vulnerable. This episode is an invitation for every woman who has ever thought: "I'm talking about this too much." "No one is really interested." "I don't want to be seen as too much." ✨ In This Episode, You'll Hear: Why consistency is queen (especially when the algorithm feels stacked against you) The truth about visibility and why it requires real bravery What fundraising taught Tanya about leadership, belief, and asking boldly Why people need to see your message 10–30 times before they take action How staying visible creates unexpected momentum and aligned investment The difference between being "too much" and being fully expressed This season of the podcast is devoted to heart-to-heart conversations, deeper truths, and activating women to step into bold leadership — even when it feels edgy. If you're building a business, leading a community, raising money, or simply learning how to stand more confidently in your voice, this episode will meet you right where you are. 🎧 Listen in and let this be the year you choose bravery over hiding.

Have you ever had to turn a tough situation into something that works for you? In this episode, I'm sitting down with Kayla Logue, a Personal Development Expert, Keynote Speaker, Bestselling Author, and Founder of Move Into Words, to chat about how she's done just that—turning life's lemons into big wins.  We talk about the ups and downs of building businesses, the importance of celebrating even the small victories, and the challenges (and joys) of working with a partner. Kayla also opens up about how embracing a healthy lifestyle and being intentional with her choices has shaped her as a visionary woman. If you've ever found yourself struggling with patience, balancing everything, or defining success on your own terms, this conversation is for you!   Birthing Your Vision: Creating a Life Beyond Limits (eBook): https://sistershipcircle.com/product/birthing-your-vision-creating-a-life-beyond-limits-ebook/  

What if the key to better relationships isn't having the perfect response—but asking the right questions? In this episode, I'm getting into the magic of curiosity and how it can transform the way we connect.  When we trade assumptions for genuine interest, something shifts—we listen more, judge less, and open the door to deeper understanding. I'll share how choosing curiosity over defensiveness can create safer, more authentic conversations and even change the way we see ourselves. Let's explore how a little curiosity can go a long way.   Reclaiming Your Yes and No: Empowering Boundaries (eBook): https://sistershipcircle.com/product/reclaiming-your-yes-and-no-empowering-boundaries-ebook/

Have you ever waited to feel "ready"—only to realize that moment never really comes? In this episode, I'm getting real about the myth of readiness and why willingness is where the magic happens.  Growth isn't about having it all figured out—it's about stepping forward, even when it's messy, scary, or uncertain. I'll share personal stories and insights on how shifting from waiting to willing can open doors you never imagined. Let's talk about resilience, self-trust, and the kind of courage that comes from simply saying yes to what's next.   Stepping Into Your Calling: Aligning with Your Soul's Purpose (eBook): https://sistershipcircle.com/product/stepping-into-your-calling-aligning-with-your-souls-purpose-ebook/  

Life can feel like a constant whirlwind, leaving us in survival mode. In this episode, I'm exploring courage, trust, and the power of sisterhood. I'll talk about how societal conditioning keeps us in fight or flight, and why it's time to let go of emotional defenses. We'll explore the magic of real connections with the women around us and how faith can transform our challenges into opportunities for growth. Ultimately, it's all about trusting ourselves and each other to build a sisterhood that lifts us up.   Healing the Sister Wound: Building Trust in Women's Circles (eBook): https://sistershipcircle.com/product/healing-the-sister-wound-building-trust-in-womens-circles-ebook/

You know how sometimes life feels like it's moving a mile a minute, and you can barely catch your breath? Well, in this episode, I'm sharing how our breath can be a game-changer for finding calm, healing, and staying present. I'll share some personal stories about how conscious breathing has helped me navigate stress and emotional ups and downs. It's one of the simplest, most powerful tools we have to shift from chaos to calm. I'll also walk you through a few easy techniques to bring more awareness and connection into your daily life. Let's breathe and reset together!   Coming Home to Yourself: Cultivating Radical Self-Love (eBook): https://sistershipcircle.com/product/coming-home-to-yourself-cultivating-radical-self-love-ebook/  

Healing isn't about fixing what's broken—it's about uncovering the wholeness already within us. In this episode, I talk about the powerful connection between consciousness and healing, exploring how awareness helps us reconnect with the energy and love already flowing through us. I explore how the ego creates a sense of separation and why leaning into discomfort can lead to the most transformative breakthroughs. True healing isn't about chasing something external—it's about rediscovering what's been inside you all along. Let's dig into this together!   Women's Circle Ritual Handbook: Winter Edition (eBook): https://sistershipcircle.com/product/womens-circle-ritual-handbook-winter-edition-ebook-1/

There's something powerful about embracing vulnerability and finding balance in our lives, especially as women. In this episode, I sit down with Tessa Arnold, Co-Founder of Snapback Energy and Founder of Balance of You, about how holistic wellness can transform the way we show up in the world. Tessa shares her journey from a successful banking career to embracing Ayurveda and wellness practices that promote true balance and resilience. We talk about the importance of feeling our emotions fully, carving out time for self-care, and how to navigate life's challenges with strength and grace. Tune in to discover how to tap into your inner power and build the resilience you need to thrive. Trust me, you won't want to miss it!   Healing the Sister Wound: Building Trust in Women's Circles (eBook): https://sistershipcircle.com/product/healing-the-sister-wound-building-trust-in-womens-circles-ebook/