Discover Your Communication Type with Jason VanRuler

Get Your Mother’s Journal TODAY -   Jason VanRuler is back on the show today, and we’re diving into something every relationship relies on, but most of us get wrong: communication. Because here’s the truth—so many of us think we’re communicating well when we’re really just talking. Jason breaks down five communication styles and why understanding yours (and your spouse’s) can completely shift the way you connect. I share what I’ve learned about my own style, what my husband’s looks like from the other side, and why I’m fully embracing my delightfully high‑maintenance era. If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, That’s not what I meant at all, this episode will give you the language, clarity, and tools you need for healthier communication and stronger relationships. It’s practical, eye‑opening, and a whole lot more hopeful than you might expect.   Timestamps: (03:30) - The 5 Communication Styles (And Which One You Are) (10:51) - On-Ramps & Off-Ramps: Why Conversations Go Wrong (16:25) - Why Intention Changes Everything (20:42) - The Real Secret to Hard Conversations (24:28) -  Learning to Recognize Your Needs and Give Yourself Permission to Honor Them   WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:    Discovering Your Communication Type PATHS Assessment Jason’s TV Show Recommendation - Train Dreams Jason’s Book Recommendation - Thinking in Systems Jason’s Product Recommendations - Moreless Protein Gummies Wise Woman Era The Uplift app is here! Try it free for 30 days. I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars—your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright!    xo, Alli  

Subscribe to Alli's  Substack - Wise Woman Method    Gratitude is a spiritual discipline, and it’s one of the clearest signs of real maturity. But sometimes—without meaning to—we use “being grateful” as a way to stay small. Not the deep, steady gratitude that roots you in God’s goodness. I’m talking about the polished, performative version. The one where you keep saying, “I’m so blessed,” while something inside you feels like it’s slowly running out of air. Today, we’re unpacking the difference between gratitude that strengthens your emotional and spiritual health and gratitude that quietly keeps you stuck. Because gratitude was never meant to shrink your life. It’s meant to fuel your growth. Staying small isn’t the same thing as staying faithful.   Timestamps: (03:20) - The Gratitude Tension: Is It Anchoring You or Quietly Chaining You in Place? (04:50) - The Striving Question That Reveals What’s Really Driving You (06:07) - The Parable of the Talents: What Happens When Fear Makes Us Do Nothing (07:35) - How to Recognize When Gratitude Has Quietly Become a Chain (08:45) - Practical Ways to Practice Gratitude Without Staying Stuck WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:    Alli’s Product Recommendation - Soft Kettlebell Join Alli’s Substack – Wise Woman Era Start your Free 30-day trial of Uplift! I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars—your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright!    xo, Alli

Apply for Coaching with Alli  - https://alliworthington.com/freecoaching   Some truths are just too good—and too important—to hear only once. That’s why I’m bringing back the standout moments from my most-loved solo episodes. Because real, lasting change doesn’t happen in a single spark of insight. It grows through repetition, reflection, and the small, faithful steps you take over time. We need truth on repeat until it stops feeling like inspiration and starts feeling like instinct. These aren’t fluffy pep talks. They’re practical, science-backed strategies to help you lower your stress, raise your joy, and reconnect with the woman you’re becoming. When your mind and body finally stop fighting each other and start working together, everything shifts. You don’t just get through your days—you lead, you create, and you live with intention. So take what serves you, leave what doesn’t, and come back anytime you need a reset or a reminder of what’s possible when you show up for yourself with courage and consistency.   Timestamps: (01:00) - Simple Action Steps to Build a Life You Actually Love (07:28) - Why a Physical Reset (and a Change of Scenery) Might Be Exactly What You Need (11:30) - How to Manage Stress Before It Manages You (15:52) - The 10-Minute Happiness Hack That Can Literally Rewire Your Brain (20:24) - Game-Changing Steps to Start Partnering With Your Body This Week   WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE Links to great things we discussed:    Wise Woman Era The Uplift app is here! Try it free for 30 days.   I hope you loved this episode! 🎉If you haven’t already, make sure you tap that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss an episode. And yes—we’re on YouTube now too! If the show has been a bright spot for you, leaving a review or a few stars is such a gift. It truly means the world to me. Take good care of yourself, and keep showing up with joy. Share this episode with a friend who might enjoy it too! xo, Alli

Apply for Coaching with Alli  - https://alliworthington.com/freecoaching Have you noticed how your spirit can be at a ten—full of vision and faith—while your body lags at a two? Maybe three on a good day. It’s not “I need a nap” tired. It’s “I know my calling, but I still can’t do it” tired. Because we’re human, we blame ourselves. We think it’s discipline, grit, or a flaw we should’ve fixed by now.   What if the gap between vision and action isn’t about your character, but your capacity? You have big dreams, but you’re running on limited energy. Today, let’s discuss how upgrading your nervous system can align your calling with your ability to act.   Timestamps: (00:58) - You’ve Got the Vision. So Why Isn’t Your Body Cooperating? (03:45) - Understanding Your “Window of Tolerance” (06:50) - The Honest Question: Does Staying Put Feel Safer? (08:22) - Simple Tools to Increase Your Capacity for the Calling   WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:    Wise Woman Era Start your Free 30-day trial of Uplift! I hope you loved this episode! 🎉If you haven’t already, make sure you tap that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss an episode. And yes—we’re on YouTube now too! If the show has been a bright spot for you, leaving a review or a few stars is such a gift. It truly means the world to me. Take good care of yourself, and keep showing up with joy. Share this episode with a friend who might enjoy it too! xo, Alli

Get a Free Coaching Call with Alli - https://alliworthington.com/freecoaching    Hearing God’s voice is a profound gift for believers. Yet, many of us wonder, "Why is this so complicated?" If you question whether you’re doing it wrong, take a deep breath. You’re not broken or missing God—more likely, you haven’t discovered your unique way of hearing Him. ​ This week, I’m joined by my friend Havilah Cunnington—Bible teacher, author, and passionate guide for those seeking God’s intent for their lives. She helps demystify hearing from God, making the process less intimidating and more understandable. ​ In her book Created to Hear God: 4 Unique and Proven Ways to Confidently Discern His Voice, Havilah explains how discovering your “prophetic personality”—the unique way God speaks to you—makes hearing His voice clear, personal, and natural.   Timestamps:  (11:00) - How to Discern God’s Voice from Your Own Thoughts (12:38) - The 3 Core Values That Create a Foundation for Hearing God Clearly (16:33) - You Were Designed to Hear God (20:15) - The 4 Prophetic Personalities and How to Discover Yours (23:52) - The Four Primary Ways God Speaks   WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:  Havilah’s Website Created to Hear God The Uplift app is here! Try it free for 30 days   I hope you loved this episode! 🎉If you haven’t already, make sure you tap that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss an episode. And yes—we’re on YouTube now too! If the show has been a bright spot for you, leaving a review or a few stars is such a gift. It truly means the world to me. Take good care of yourself, and keep showing up with joy. Share this episode with a friend who might enjoy it too! xo,   Alli

Get a Free Coaching Call with Alli - https://alliworthington.com/freecoaching    Let me start with a splash of cold water—in the best, wake‑you‑up way. Your life isn’t too full. It’s just poorly edited. No planner, color‑coded calendar, or shiny new system can fix a life overcrowded on purpose.   When I wrote Breaking Busy ten years ago, I said we wear busy like a badge of honor. We treat overwhelm like a scheduling problem, waiting for better time management. But, friend, you don’t have a time problem. You have a discernment problem.   You’re trying to squeeze 30 hours of yes into a 24‑hour day, and the one paying is you—your joy, health, and clarity. Today, we’re shifting from the chaos of “more” to the power of “meaningful”.   Timestamps:  (03:17) - Why We See a Packed Calendar and Decide the Only Option Is to Run Faster (05:16) - The Director’s Cut: Learning to Edit Your Life on Purpose (06:45) - The Fear Underneath the Busy That We Don’t Want to Admit (07:56) - Jesus as Our Model for a Well-Edited, Unhurried Life (09:05) - Practical Steps to Start Editing Your Life This Week   WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:    Wise Woman Era Alli’s Movie Recommendation - Hamnet Little Things Studio Start your Free 30-day trial of Uplift! I hope you loved this episode! 🎉If you haven’t already, make sure you tap that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss an episode. And yes—we’re on YouTube now too! If the show has been a bright spot for you, leaving a review or a few stars is such a gift. It truly means the world to me. Take good care of yourself, and keep showing up with joy. Share this episode with a friend who might enjoy it too! xo, Alli

Get A Free Coaching Call with Alli  -https://alliworthington.com/freecoaching    These episodes are favorites because I gather leading voices on a single topic to help you learn practical ways to set boundaries and find genuine, lasting rest. Today, we focus on both boundaries and soul-deep rest—essentials we all need but often neglect.   We’re talking about healthy boundaries, Sabbath rhythms, the invisible pressures women face, and practical ways to build rest into your life so you can experience greater renewal and resilience. These conversations share hard-won wisdom from those who have lived, studied, and practiced it.   If you’ve ever thought, “I need better boundaries,” or “I wish I could rest, but my life won’t let me,” this episode is for you. You have permission to rest. Choose one practical strategy from today’s episode and make space for rest this week. We’re not just talking about rest—we’re making room for it.   Timestamps:  (00:45) -The Hidden Cost of Busyness with John Mark Comer (08:20) - Rewriting the Story We’ve Been Told About Work and Rest in Christian Culture with Terra Mattson (14:08) - The Big Boundary Mistakes Women Make with Dr. Sasha Shillcutt (18:47) - Why Your Soul Needs Sabbath with John Mark Comer (22:32) - Practical, Real-Life Ways to Build Rest Into Your Week with Jess Connolly WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:    John Mark Comer’s Website Terra Mattson’s Website Dr. Sasha Shillcutt’s Website Jess Connolly’s Website The Uplift app is here! Try it free for 30 days   I hope you loved this episode! 🎉 Don't forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you’re always in the loop. And hey, while you're at it, why not pop over to our YouTube channel and check us out? If you're feeling the love, leave a review and sprinkle some stars—your support truly means the world to me! Take care, and keep shining bright!    xo, Alli

Join Alli’s Intern Program - https://alliworthington.com/interns  There's a big difference between being well‑informed and well‑positioned. You can listen to every podcast, stack leadership books on your nightstand, and still look up a year from now and realize nothing actually changed. Not because you didn’t care or try, but because information doesn’t move your life forward—action does.   We love learning because it feels safe and responsible. But today isn’t about adding more ideas; it’s about taking a step. You likely don’t need another expert opinion or framework. You need movement. Do the thing you already know how to do. Sometimes learning becomes polished procrastination. We call it “preparing,” but we’re really postponing, circling the same goal while waiting for a perfect plan or time—neither of which exists.   If you’ve been walking laps around the same dream, the same idea, the same nudge from God, treat this as your wake‑up call. Stop circling—right now, choose a single action that moves your goal forward. Send that email, make the call, or schedule the meeting immediately. Commit to one concrete step and do it within the next hour. What will it be? Move forward today.   Timestamps:  (02:58) - The Sneaky Signs You’re Stuck in “Collector Mode” (And Calling It Growth) (04:00) - The Real Cost of “Just One More Course” Before You Start (05:28) - Why Clarity Isn’t Showing Up (06:29) - What Taking Territory Actually Looks Like in Real Life (10:40) - Your Simple 7-Day Territory Plan to Build Real Momentum   WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:  Wise Woman Era Your Bones Are Disappearing (And Three Simple Things to Rebuild Them) Start your Free 30-day trial of Uplift! I hope you loved this episode! 🎉If you haven’t already, make sure you tap that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss an episode. And yes—we’re on YouTube now too! If the show has been a bright spot for you, leaving a review or a few stars is such a gift. It truly means the world to me. Take good care of yourself, and keep showing up with joy. Share this episode with a friend who might enjoy it too!   xo, Alli

Join Alli’s Intern Program - https://alliworthington.com/interns    Have you ever wondered if you can really hear God, or if that's only for the "super spiritual"? You're not alone. If you've ever questioned whether you're missing something, today's conversation will feel like a deep exhale. I’m talking with Pete Greig about hearing God in real life: why it feels hard, how to know if it’s truly Him, and sorting through confusion, delusion, or even deception—without spiraling. We dig into his book How to Hear God: A Simple Guide for Normal People. What I love—it's practical, grounded, and hopeful. If you’ve ever whispered, “God, are You speaking to me?” this episode is for you.   Timestamps:  (05:42) - Talking to God Is Natural—Why Does Listening Feel So Hard? (12:21) - The ABCs of Discernment: How to Recognize When God Is Speaking (17:50) - The Difference Between God’s Word and His Personal Whisper (21:10) - Why Dreams and Visions Mattered in Scripture (26:14) -  Lectio Divina: A Simple, Practical Way to Slow Down and Actually Hear God WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:    How to Hear God: A Simple Guide for Normal People Pete’s App Recommendation - Lectio 365 App Pete’s Song Recommendations - Red & The Land of the Living Pete’s Movie Recommendation - Belfast The Uplift app is here! Try it free for 30 days. I hope you loved this episode! 🎉If you haven’t already, make sure you tap that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts or Spotify so you never miss an episode. And yes—we’re on YouTube now too! If the show has been a bright spot for you, leaving a review or a few stars is such a gift. It truly means the world to me. Take good care of yourself, and keep showing up with joy. Share this episode with a friend who might enjoy it too! xo, Alli

Join Alli’s Intern Program - https://alliworthington.com/interns    When you set out to do something meaningful, distractions arise. Suddenly, reorganizing the junk drawer, researching new supplements, or learning about kangaroo development becomes urgent. The instant we prepare to stretch ourselves, productivity flares up everywhere except where it truly matters.   That’s resistance. And it’s sneaky. It doesn’t always show up as fear; sometimes it masquerades as productivity—color-coding your pantry before you open your laptop counts. Other times, it takes on a spiritual or strategic tone, suggesting that extra thought or planning is needed.   Resistance wants to block meaningful work. When you feel it, name it and act. Choose your next step and begin now.   Timestamps:  (03:22) - Why Resistance Almost Always Shows Up the Moment You Decide to Do Something That Actually Matters (04:31) - Your Brain Is Wired for Safety, Not Calling (06:56) - Why Resistance Gets Louder the Closer You Get to Breakthrough (08:34) - Even Jesus Felt the Weight of Resistance (09:15) - How to Move Forward When Resistance Is Trying to Take You Out   WATCH ALLI  ON YOUTUBE   Links to great things we discussed:    Wise Woman Era Alli’s Product Recommendation - Jigsaw Health Electrolyte Supreme Start your Free 30-day trial of Uplift!   I hope you loved this episode! 🎉Don’t forget to hit that subscribe button on Apple Podcasts and Spotify so you never miss a thing. And guess what? We're on YouTube! If you're loving the content, show us some love by leaving a review and giving us some stars—it means the world to me! Take care, and stay fabulous!    xo, Alli