Communicate Your Sexual Needs

When it comes to sex, a lot of us find ourselves getting in our head about the way it “should” go down. “I should look a certain way.” “They should kiss me a certain way.” “We’ll both orgasm at the same time.” In other words, we expect things to be straight out of a movie… But here’s the real deal: you’re going to orgasm way easier – and more intensely – if you get out of your head, and into your body. So on today’s throwback show, I’m helping you have fully embodied sex using your senses. If you're not turned on or inspired to have sex, I’ve got sensory tools you can use to remove mental blocks and seduce yourself or your partner…and feel all the electric sensations leading up to the big O.   In this episode you’ll learn: Why you’re dissociating during sex and how to stop Ways to talk dirty without swearing How to bring back an MIA orgasm Show Notes: Just Thrive (use this link to automatically get 20% off sitewide or use code SEXWITHEMILY at checkout!) Come As You Are - Dr. Emily Nagoski SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Listen in on my conversation with my friend Matthew Hussey. You may know him as the inspirational YouTube personality, author, and public speaker who has revolutionized the world of dating advice with his amazing methods. We chat about emotional journeys, what Matthew has learned in his experience as a relationship coach, and ways to take charge of your love life. If you've been in a dating slump, this is the episode for you. In this episode you’ll learn:  How to take charge of your love life Why reflecting on your instincts is a game changer The value of valuing yourself first Show Notes: Matthew’s New Book: Love Life More Matthew Hussey: Website | Instagram | Youtube SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today, I continue my candid convo with my friend Falguni, answering all your hottest and most personal sex questions. From my experiences in threesomes to my favorite positions, no question goes unanswered. If you’ve ever wondered what the mile high club is like or how to tell your partner they could step up their sex game, tune in. Trust me, this is an episode you won’t wanna miss.   In this episode you’ll learn:  Why penetration alone might not always give you an orgasm    How to take control of your orgasm  Why communication is the most important part of your threesome Show Notes: SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure LELO DOT Travel (Use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Happy 4/20! While direct research is still in development, there's no denying the potential benefits of cannabis for enhancing your sexual experiences. Researchers theorize that the plant can unlock a world of heightened eroticism, tranquil minds, and pain-free sex. On today’s show, I chat about ways cannabis might light up your sex life, my favorite products and delivery methods for the occasion (I’m a huge edible fan!), and how to figure out if cannabis is right for you.  In this episode you’ll learn:   How cannabis can affect sexual performance   How to decide if you should bring cannabis into the bedroom My fave product recommendations for 4/20 fun Show Notes: 6 Ways to Use Cannabis for Sex: A Guide The Journal of Cannabis Research Study SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY420 for 40% sitewide until 4/30/24) For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE   Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Buckle up: Today’s show is one you’ve all been waiting for…and spoiler alert, it’s all about me! I sat down with my good friend Falguni to flip the script and spill the tea on what sex with Emily is actually like (pun intended)! Tune in to hear me get up close and personal about my sexual journey, why I faked my orgasms until my 30s, and sex trends that I see making a comeback in the near future.  In this episode you’ll learn:   How I stopped having performative sex  How to push past the pleasure thieves for fulfilling sex  My go-to positions and products for the best orgasms Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

In today’s gut-busting episode I dive deep into the tango between your belly's bacteria and your sexual wellness. And who better to guide us through this intestinal intrigue than Tina Anderson, the gut guru and CEO of Just Thrive, the brand whose mission is to reboot your microbiome. Prepare to have your life changed as Tina spills the beans on how bacteria in your gut really calls the shots, influencing everything from your mood swings to your mojo.  Buckle up, lovers and health hackers, as we explore the steamy science that'll have you rethinking your next date night dinner.  In this episode you’ll learn: What low libido, keeping the spark alive, erectile challenges, and gut issues all have in common How hormones and the gut biome each affect each other in a bi-directional system Why the 3 pleasure thieves (stress, trauma, and shame) also impact our general health and wellness Show Notes: Just Thrive (use this link to automatically get 20% off sitewide at checkout!) Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

It’s 2024, and there’s no denying that everybody has sexual needs. However, it can be really difficult to articulate them and share them with your partner. On today’s throwback Ask Emily show, I’m here to help you take that vital next step and get your needs fulfilled. From those who’ve never had an orgasm before to those who just want to communicate with their partners better, I’ve got you!  Just remember: for every sex problem, there is a path forward.  In this episode you’ll learn: How to communicate your sexual needs (even if your partner shuts down sex convos) Techniques to give your partner a crazy orgasm What to do if your partner desires things you might not be sure about like swinging Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! Promescent.com/Emily (Use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout!) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Today I revisit my conversation with Dolly Josette, the PleasureMuse who turned the world of breathwork into the ultimate erotic adventure! Imagine unlocking a treasure chest of sensations and full-body orgasms you never knew you had with the work of meditation.. Dolly isn't just any guide on this journey; she's the Gandalf of sexual enlightenment, hailed by the high councils of Cosmopolitan and Hustler Magazines as a pioneering Sexological Bodyworker. But what truly sets her apart isn't the accolades; it's her magical ability to awaken the dormant erotic energy within women and couples, guiding them from numbness to dizzying heights of orgasmic bliss. So, if the idea of exploring the vast, uncharted territories of pleasure sounds good to you, Dolly Josette is ready to lead the way! In this episode you’ll learn:  How to hack your nervous system for better sex Why so many vulva owners are trained to numb from the waist down (and how to fix it!) How to become a great masturbator Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! More Dolly Josette - The Pleasure Muse  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY420 for 40% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

Mental health and sexual desire – do you have to choose between one or the other? It's a conundrum that's more common than you think, and it's a topic that's sure to get you thinking! Antidepressants like Lexapro can be lifesavers for many, but they can also leave you feeling a little, well, deflated in the bedroom department. On the other hand, if your depression goes untreated, it can be tough to get in the mood. So, how do you navigate this predicament? Today, we're diving into the nitty-gritty of this struggle, and you'll hear from some of our listeners who've been there.  In this episode you’ll learn: How to understand the effects your mental health has on your sex drive Sexy strategies to manage the side effects of antidepressants Alternative treatments and lifestyle changes to maximize your pleasure Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness (36 Questions) SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure LELO (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all other products) LELO DOT Travel Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.

It's commonly said that the brain is the most significant sexual organ in the human body. But is it possible to manipulate our brains to enhance happiness or even improve our sexual experiences? Dr. Daniel Amen, a psychiatrist and acclaimed author, has compiled the most extensive collection of brain scans globally. Through analyzing this data, he has uncovered intriguing insights: by adopting habits grounded in neuroscience, we can significantly enhance our mental well-being, elevate our mood, and indeed – enrich our sexual lives. Tune in now to discover how to take control of your mind and enjoy the benefits. In this episode you’ll learn:  The way stress hormones can interfere with our sexual hormones Techniques to shield yourself from mental "noise" The reasons why individuals who are happier generally enjoy longer lives, maintain healthier relationships, achieve greater success professionally, and experience more fulfilling sex lives Show Notes: Get your tickets HERE for Sex with Emily LIVE! Order Dr. Daniel Amen's New Book, Raising Mentally Strong Kids SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample) Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok  Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com.