Ep 102) The Self Inflicted Dry Spells

The time will come in your relationship where your sex life hits a dry spell. Sometimes this is caused by the normal hustle and demands of daily life, however, sometimes that dry spell is self-inflicted. The self-inflicted dry spell happened recently with my Wife as a result of getting addicted to a show on Netflix. When this happens, you need to talk about it with your partner and agree on how you're going to overcome this and prevent this self-inflicted dry spell from happening again.

In the first half of this episode, I ramble on a bit about in-laws. These dynamics are complicated especially for men. The relationship with a father-in-law can be difficult and that's before you consider how men communicate and bond. If there is no common ground or interest, men will spend their time with in-laws in complete silence. In the second half of the episode, I answer more relationship questions.

In this episode, I read and respond to women seeking answers to their relationship questions. Question 1: Plan to get married next summer, boyfriend stops in the middle of sex to answer a daily phone call with his parents. Is it wrong for me to be upset? Question 2: Found out my boyfriend posted on social media about a year ago that I was terrible at BJs, I only recently found out, since so much time has passed should I confront him or just let it go? Question 3: My Husband has cheated on me for the third time, is it worth continuing to fight to stay together or leave the marriage?

If given the choice, most men will choose making a lot of money doing something they have than making just enough doing something they like. Usually, this mentality has to deal with financial insecurity much like workaholism. There are ways to deal with this. Men have the need to dominate in their life. Feeling helpless or as if they are not in control is just not an option for most. Domination can be good or bad. Domination in one's career can lead to success, domination in the bedroom can be a healthy fetish if your partner loves to be dominated (submissive). Domination in the overall relationship can be toxic.

A man's birthday is a special day. For one, it's the one day of the year in which a man can take a day off of work and not have a to-do list of work needing to be done around the house. It's also a day in which he can just relax and do the things he enjoys or simply watch TV without having to pause the show dozens of times because of interruptions. Another reason why a man's birthday is a special day is the special birthday request. A day in which he can request trying something new in the bedroom from his wife. The old sitcom joke was that a man's two favorite days of the year were his birthday and Christmas because those were the only two days he would get a blowjob. Maybe that's an over-exaggeration, but that may not be too far off. His birthday is a day he can request trying something new in the bedroom that his wife would not be willing to try any other day of the year. Some she will find out she likes, some not so much. With the focus being only on his pleasure, it leaves his birthday as the only day of the year in which he has guilt-free permission to be selfish in bed holding nothing back, not having to be concerned about his wife's sexual pleasure that day. The lessons I have learned reflection back on my birthdays over the years has provided some revelations that I share in this episode.

Communicate what you're thinking. It's unreasonable for you to expect that your man should be able to telepathically read your mind.

Women, you have the natural advantage in a relationship, this is especially true when it comes to flirting. Confidence and motivation are more important than technique.

Having sex outside can be exciting. The thrill of possibly getting caught might be just what you need to feel the excitement you use to get about having sex when you first started getting laid.

You may not intend to do so, you may not realize you're doing it but if you're not careful you may be self-inflicting wounds into your relatioship.

Women, you can't be lazy in bed yourself and expect him to stay motivated enough to care about your orgasm.