402. Killing Off Your Good Girl & Becoming a Grown Ass Woman with Kat

"When you make your partner your entire world, you slowly stop being YOU. And the very things that drew them to you in the first place, your energy, your passions, your independence, your joy, they all begin to dim." Today I'm giving you the tools you need to not just keep the spark alive in your relationship, but to keep the fire thriving - and it's not about the latest polarity trend.    CONNECT WITH EMILY Grown Ass Woman Era: Group details HERE Book a Connection Call With Emily To Work Together COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection

The next round of the Grown Ass Woman Era group is here! We start May 21st, 2025 - get the details HERE. Next steps: Book a call with me and we'll make sure it's a great fit! This is an intimate and curated group, and I personally chat with each person before joining so everyone has the best possible experience. ************************** I'm bringing you this powerful conversation with my best friend Kat, who is also the co-coach I bring in to work with me for my Grown Ass Woman Era coaching group. We're talking about: The power of being witnessed in your pain and celebrated in your joy Wounding many women carry around not trusting other women - and how it's standing in the way of some of the most powerful and healing relationships available to you Being safe within yourself to put the sword down and truly come home within yourself, rather than feeling a constant hypervigilance and need to be the strong independent woman 24/7 Killing off your good girl and FINALLY taking full responsibility for your life and relationships by having your grown woman take the wheel Stepping into your full power, unapologetically. Welcome to your Grown Ass Woman Era.    CONNECT WITH EMILY Grown Ass Woman Era: Group details HERE Book a Connection Call With Emily To Work Together COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection   CONNECT WITH KAT I Am Love Healing Centre   EPISODES REFERENCED Episode #337 - Touch Starvation, Cuddle Therapy & the Power of Healing the Masculine with Kat

Are you familiar with the ways (both conscious and more often subconscious) you source your value in relationships? In the past, I often fell into the trap of thinking it’s about what I could do for another person, or what they could do for me in terms of meeting my needs and filling some sort of void. Instead, start asking yourself different questions about the person or people you have relationships with. How do they inspire you? Light you up? Shift your perspective? Challenge you? Help you to grow and evolve? Open more to love? Make you feel more alive? How do they add to your life in indescribable ways? Perhaps most importantly, if you fully believed you were enough as you are, how would that change your energy, behaviour and demeanour in relationship? In this episode, we're getting into: How to spot the stories you're telling yourself  - and the ways those stories will dictate the quality of your life and relationships Sharing some very personal struggles that have come with finding new ways of valuing myself as I settle into being married and having kids How to handle insecurities when they arise The unexpected ways getting married changed the way I felt with my partner And so much more that will shift how you're showing up in your relationships If you liked this episode, I recommend checking out ep. 393: Why Being is So Much More Attractive Than Doing.   CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily’s email list here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection

There has been a lot going on behind the scenes over here the past 6 months, and I've remained quiet about most of it. So many beautiful manifestations coming to fruition along with some major challenges. I'm excited that I'm finally giving a MAJOR life update today, along with how to embody being bold in 2025. In this episode, we're talking about: -Choosing a word (or words) to use as an anchor point to come back to throughout the year -The ways grief and joy get to co-exist -Embodying and stepping into your highest self, because you already have everything you need right now -How to cultivate a nervous system that can hold the very full life you've been begging the Universe to deliver I can't wait to hear your thoughts.  My new book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast) is available now! It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram. CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily’s email list here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection

I certainly never expected to be coming to you with an episode about living through a devastating natural disaster and yet, here we are. Joining me is my beloved partner Kelly Gardner, a relationship coach and men's work facilitator, as we come to you recording from Kelly's childhood bedroom after evacuating from Asheville, North Carolina in the wake of Hurricane Helene. As we've witnessed events unfold that have shaken our foundation, we're having a raw, real and honest conversation about how these kinds of experiences can strengthen our relationships - particularly as a couple. This one is quite emotional as we are quite literally procesing our grief in real-time with you as the adrenaline has worn off, while also feeling so incredibly fortunate for everything that we have, including each other. In this episode, we cover: -The impact of crises on personal relationships -Navigating emotions and the importance of checking in with each other -How to maintain communication when disaster strikes -Trusting your partner during turbulent times -Strategies for asking for and offering support -Discovering the silver linings amidst chaos -The value of shared experiences in building resilience -How to transform challenges into opportunities for growth Join us as we explore how conflict and adversity can ultimately lead to greater intimacy and understanding within our relationships.   CONNECT WITH KELLY GARDNER Website: https://www.kellygardner.com  Instagram @iamkellygardner FB: https://www.facebook.com/connectwithkellygardner    CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily’s email list here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection

It’s often said that fear is simply “the unknown.” But the unknown is a void - it hasn’t happened yet, therefore, we can’t fear what doesn’t exist. Instead, fear is us projecting past experiences or other people's stories of what we think might go wrong into the future. Today, I’m going to share a different way to approach the “the unknown” in a way that creates excitement and intrigue instead of fear and anxiety. This episode includes a series of questions that will help prevent you from carrying those stories and experiences into the unknown, and instead carry much more awareness and self trust. With this simple reframe, you can stop acting out of fear, and begin acting from the place of ‘what if it actually all works out?’ In this episode, wer’e talking about: -Learning to trust yourself -Overcoming fear -Eliminating self judgement -Fearing judgement of others -Questions to ask yourself to help overcome fear My new book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast) is available now! It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram. CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily’s email list here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection REFERENCES Four Liberating Questions by Byron Katie  

If we don’t properly heal wounds of our past, they can easily get carried into our future relationships and show up, unprovoked. These can be traumas from childhood, school, past relationships etc., that activate our inner defences and, inadvertently, shield us from opening up to the love, joy and happiness of our new relationships - both with our partners and ourselves. Today, we’re talking with Master Empowerment Coach, Ali Olivier, about releasing past wounds and reclaiming our inner radiance. Here, she shares how she helps women and men unpack the layers of their past that get in the way of their present and future by getting back to the core of who we are, beyond the barriers. She also provides examples of daily practices for nervous system regulation and exercises for inner child work. In this episode, we’re talking about: -Inner child work and healing -Creating safety in our bodies -Expanding our window of tolerance -The role of anger in emotional health -The power of group healing -Balancing and honouring past and future versions of yourself -Healing from trauma -Carrying old pain into new relationships -Learning to trust yourself -Connecting to your body -How to distinguish intuition from anxiety -Re-parenting: becoming the parent you didn’t have -Creating boundaries with your parents -How trauma gets stored in our bodies -Exercises for releasing negative energy -Practices for nervous system regulation -Recognizing and releasing suppressed anger My new book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast) is available now! It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram. CONNECT WITH ALI Ali’s Website & Retreats  Ali Olivier on Instagram  CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily’s email list here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection”

After a very unintentional break, this is the first new podcast episode I’ve released in four months. And I want to give some insight into why. Firstly, I want to let you know that we are back with weekly episodes moving forward, and I'm very excited about it! I love the podcast so much. There is a very healing quality to it for me personally, just being able to speak things out loud. And here, I’ll update you on some massive life-changing transitions and beautiful manifestations coming to fruition in my life.  In this episode, we’re talking about: -Why I’ve been away from the podcast for four months -Navigating major life changes -Liminal space -Being overwhelmed by choice -Manifestation -Navigating uncertainty -The difference between anxiety and excitement -Being open to receiving -Building self trust -Getting over playing small And thanks to some of the beautiful humans who have reached out and asked about the podcast and shared with me how much it touches your heart, and that you've been missing it. I always appreciate your kind words via email [email protected] or DM on Instagram @emilygoughcoach  CONNECT WITH EMILY COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily’s email list here Follow Emily on Instagram: @emilygoughcoach Website: https://emilygoughcoaching.com/  BOOK: “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” REFERENCES: Episode 304. The Sacred Liminal Space: Between the Familiar & Completely Unknown  

REGISTER NOW: “Your Grown A$& Woman Era” 12-week group program (starts May 15, 2024) I’ve never released an episode like this before. Today, you’re going to hear the first-hand story of one of my private coaching clients, Melissa. Melissa has generously agreed to talk intimately about our six months working together as she worked to overcome the shame, heartbreak and pain of being the “other woman” in a man’s affair for almost 30 years. Here, she details her remarkable healing and transformation during our time working together. I don’t use the word “transformation” often…but Melissa has undergone a complete energetic and physical shift...you’ll hear it in her voice. I’m so excited for you to hear Melissa’s story, and to inspire you that this inner work is for anyone ready to rediscover your true, powerful self. If you’d like to work with me one-on-one, apply here and let’s get started! In this episode, Melissa and I talk about: -Why Melissa contacted me about coaching -Being the “other” in a cheating relationship -Melissa’s breaking point -How to heal from infidelity -Jealousy in a cheating relationship -Wanting to be chosen in a relationship -Choosing yourself before choosing them -Overcoming shame and guilt -Embodying personal development and integrating what you’ve learned -Nervous system regulation My new book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast) is available now! It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram.   CONNECT WITH EMILY WOMEN’S GROUP (begins May 15, 2024): “Your Grown A$& Woman Era” apply here  COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily’s email list here Email: [email protected] Emily Gough on Instagram  

The balance of personal growth and contributing to a thriving romantic relationship is all about being comfortable in your own skin, without seeking external validation, yet embracing our innate need for connection. It’s independence and interdependence…but not co-dependence.  I’m such a believer in this that I co-wrote an entire book about it called “You Grow Me” (link to buy below).  This episode is a cross-podcast with Lisa Carpenter’s “Full Frontal Living” podcast (find it here). Lisa is a remarkable coach who helped me through one of the most challenging periods of my life (I tell that story in this episode). Here, we focus on creating safety within oneself -  reconnecting with the body, nervous system regulation and the massive importance of personal responsibility within a relationship. In this episode, Lisa and I talk about: Creating safety within: the foundation of self-connection Self-discovery and healing from trauma The impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships Navigating jealousy and building trust The gender gap in personal development Detachment  Why a healthy relationship can be as confronting as a traumatic one Learning to listen to your intuition The presence of exes in a new relationship The grief of finally getting what you want Jealousy in a relationship Taking personal responsibility for everything in your relationship   My new book “You Grow Me: The Next Level Human Philosophy of Love, Sex and Romantic Connection” co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (Next Level Human podcast) is available now! It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me on Amazon here. Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram (contacts below).   CONNECT WITH EMILY WOMEN’S GROUP (begins May 1, 2024): “Your Grown A$& Woman Era” apply here  COUPLES COACHING with Emily & Kelly Gardner (apply here) Book A Private Coaching Call With Emily To Work Together Get Your FREE Guide “The Four Tools Missing From Your Relationship” here Join Emily’s email list here   CONNECT WITH LISA Website: https://lisacarpenter.ca Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisacarpenterinc/ Podcast: Full Frontal Living   REFERENCES Episode 389 | LIFE IS FULL OF UNCERTAINTY, BUT YOU’RE GONNA BE OK WITH LISA CARPENTER Kelly Gardner on Instagram