Processing Pain

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Parent- Child relationships are undoubtedly one of the most treasured relationships we can experience in this life. I believe healthy attachment begins in the womb with both Mother and Father.  When this doesn’t happen, for whatever the reason may be, children suffer. Sometimes in silence and oftentimes unaddressed. Many assumptions are made about the health of the relationship simply because a parent is present. This week on the COUCH we are talking about Mommy Issues. What happens when that initial bond between a Mother and her child is never be formed? What’s a little girl to do when her mother is unable to Mommy? When the pain and trauma of our Mommy Issues go unchecked and unaddressed it has the potential to really shift the trajectory of our lives. But with some soul work girlies, and lots of GRACE. we can be healed and without a doubt, overcome Mommy Issues.

No two people’s experience with their parents is exactly the same. The attachment patterns formed during childhood can affect your attachment styles in your adult relationships. Attachment styles are categorized as being either secure or insecure, with several subtypes of insecure attachment styles, including: Anxious-preoccupied. People with this attachment type may be anxious, crave closeness, but feel insecure about their partner leaving them. Dismissive-avoidant. People with this type may have trouble trusting others for fear that they’ll be hurt. Fearful-avoidant. People with this type may feel unsure about intimacy and tend to run away from experiencing difficult feelings. Secure attachment styles result from having a caregiver who was responsive to your needs and emotionally available. Insecure attachment styles, on the other hand, result from having a caregiver who was unresponsive to your needs and emotionally unavailable.

First, you have to face yourself to realize who you are today and where you really stand. Admit your mistakes and weaknesses. In a sense, know your enemy! Stop being complacent: how further will you go if you delude yourself into thinking you have arrived already? Don’t be blinded by pride and ego. Accept that you can improve, understand that you can change; and in order to change, fight for it! Fight indolence, fight irresponsibility, fight the lack of discipline. Don’t let them take over the battlefield. Declare war on them and regain inner peace.

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