These Things Reveal if an Avoidant is Healing

Discover the keys to overcoming pain, apply post-traumatic growth principles, and reprogram your subconscious with the "How to Heal From a Breakup" course. Free Black Friday Trial: 14 Days of All-Access to personal growth & relationship courses! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/black-friday?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=black-friday&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-11-23-24&el=podcast Become a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-11-23-24&el=podcast In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, Thais and her co-host, Mike Di Zio dive into the healing journey of avoidant attachment styles, focusing on how to recognize if a dismissive or fearful avoidant is making progress in their emotional growth. Join Thais and Mike as they break down the key signs of healing, such as the avoidant's gradual reconnection with their emotions and body. They discuss practical tools and strategies for avoidants, like journaling, meditation, and mindfulness practices, to help them process suppressed feelings and reduce their instinct to avoid vulnerability. The episode also explores the common misconception that avoidants are emotionless, revealing how they often numb themselves rather than confront their inner experiences. The hosts share personal stories and provide real-life examples, including a powerful analogy comparing emotions to a "check engine light," signaling unmet needs. They offer insights on how avoidants can begin to recognize these signals and respond with self-care rather than avoidance. The conversation highlights the importance of routines, physical activity, and reducing technology use to help avoidants stay grounded and connected with their emotions. Listeners will gain actionable advice on how to support a partner with avoidant tendencies, including how to create a safe space for open communication and ways to encourage vulnerability without pressure. This episode is essential for anyone looking to better understand avoidant attachment patterns and support loved ones on their path to healing. Timestamps: 00:00:00 – Introduction: Healing Dismissive Avoidant Attachment 00:01:00 – Why Discomfort Leads to Growth 00:02:15 – Core Wounds and Rewiring Negative Beliefs 00:04:00 – Meditation and Emotional Awareness 00:06:00 – Emotional Feedback and Recognizing Needs 00:08:30 – Self-Soothing vs. Self-Numbing Explained 00:11:00 – Setting Boundaries: Survival vs. Nuanced Approaches 00:13:15 – The Six Pillars of Secure Attachment 00:15:30 – How to Rewire Negative Patterns Through Practice 00:18:00 – Communicating Needs Effectively in Relationships 00:20:15 – Building Emotional Resilience and Vulnerability 00:23:00 – Key Triggers for Dismissive Avoidants in Relationships 00:26:00 – Importance of Emotional Safety and Trust 00:29:30 – Understanding Loneliness and Quality Connections 00:33:00 – Rewiring Beliefs About Independence and Dependence 00:36:30 – Responding to Feedback Without Defensive Behaviors 00:40:00 – Shifting from Avoidant to Secure Attachment Dynamics 00:45:00 – Developing Deeper Emotional Awareness Over Time 00:50:00 – Practical Tools for Breaking Avoidant Patterns 00:55:00 – Final Steps for Healing and Building Secure Relationships Get Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike: https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/ Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Find Mike Online: https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices